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shes always crying
ok so im f 19 living with my mum, my dads living overseas and comes to visit us twice a year..him and my mum are still together but my mum has been reaallly angry at him because he wont quit his job and come live with us..shes been soo sad and angry and grumpy that i cnt live with her when shes like this. she doesnt want me to go out anywhere because she wants me to be just as misrable as her.i dont know how to make her feel better because shes angry about how she hasnt properly lived with my dad for 13years but i cant go back in the past and make eveyrthing better.she cries at night and hasnt spoken to my dad in a week when she does speak to him shell b shouting at him and lecturing about how badly hes neglected her bla bla i know that a devorce is the last thing theyd want but how do i get myself out of this hell whole without moving out....
HELP!
thank you in adance
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Please, please, PLEASE try to understand what your mother is going through. Don't make it any harder on her by complaining.
I've been living on my own for 4 months now with my fiance away on military work. I'm working 60 hrs per week, taking care of the house and the dog. I don't have kids, or I'd be taking care of them too. I am worn out. It is so hard to do everything while you're lonely and missing the person that you love and care about!
Your mom isn't keeping you around to make you miserable. She's keeping you around because she's lonely.
You can't change your parents' relationship. What you can do is make things easier on your mom. Ask her how you can help. Maybe pick up a few extra chores, or spend a few nights a week with her doing fun things.
Try to be forgiving, because your mother is going through some tough stuff. It's not easy to go it alone.
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You should have a talk with them about it together. Maybe when he's there to visit. Make sure he knows to treat your mom with a lot of love when he returns. She seems to miss him very much and i can understand that. You have to let her know that you understand that she misses him but she shouldn't take the pain out on you. Maybe you can arrange a girls night out every once in awhile. Just make sure she knows that you care but don't let her take away your happiness. Hope this helps.
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