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Why is he still talking to me?
Ok...Me again..hah
In May I wrote this guy a letter pouring out every single feeling i have for him. We didn't talk for 2 weeks...and then talked again like nothing happened basically. And when I asked him what he thought about what I wrote, he say he was confused and I ask about what, nd he just say confused. (Hes never say anything about liking me, not liking me, or us just being friends ><)
And if you have read my other questions, we are really close...more close than we use to be ><;;
But i'm going to college out of state and i'm leaving in 2 weeks ><;;
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I'm not a guy so I can't tell you what guys think but I know a few that have acted like this.
Some guys are a little...how do I put it...thick and emotionally inept, only with women though (assuming you are female). Yes I know, there will be a flood of comments on how guys aren't and whatever but I've known enough guys to see that when it comes to females and emotions, it's an awkward subject and they never know how to deal with it.
With some guys you tend to spill out every emotion and they sort of sit there and don't really comprehend anything you've just said or how you feel. You might have just caught him off guard and scared him a little, so he backed away because it was too much to deal with.
Or, in a less positive light, he might have hoped that after a few weeks you maybe wouldn't be so crazy about him or that it was just a crush.
I don't know what this guys thinking though so I cant tell you.
My advice is, your leaving in two weeks and shouldn't be starting a long distance relationship at this time. You've waited a long time and it doesn't seem like he's ever going to make up his mind. Don't be upset by not being with him because your still young and you'll meet soo many new people soon. You can always keep in touch and stay friends but I really don't think it's a good idea to be starting a relationship when your just going to move away.
I hope all goes well with college and you can settle on something with this guy. Just do whatever makes you happy and what you think is best for you.
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He's probably still talking to you because he enjoys your friendship and company. If he liked you as more than a friend, he probably would have admitted that after he read your letter. It's possible that you went overboard in your letter and felt overwhelmed for a couple weeks. That could be why he felt 'just confused' about the whole thing. It's hard to get bombarded with someone confessing their innermost feelings; especially if he had no idea beforehand that you liked him as more than a friend.
If I were you, I would just leave it alone for now. First of all, you're going out of state to college in a couple weeks. That means it's an awful time for you to try to get involved in a relationship where you're living now. Also, because your friendship is so good right now, you don't want to mess anything up by pressing the issue more.
On the other hand, it's possible that he felt confused because he likes you, but you're about to go out of state for college and he would have to have a long-distance relationship with you. Long-distance relationships are hard enough without adding all the stress of college life on top of it. Either way, I'd say it's best to leave it alone for now. You'll be far away from him and you will be meeting new people all the time. It will be much easier to try to get over him now while you have a good opportunity to be away.
Darby(:
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