My boyfriend and i were together 11months, we were in love and everything just seemed perfect. We were best friends before we started going together and then we did, things just started to slow down kind of, i think we wanted to see what else was out there as 11 months is a long time. Since then he's kissed other girls n tht at clubs but i've not. Thing is when we're out we still act like what we did when we were together just without the sexual part of it. At his 18th when i said goodbye to him he told me he loved me and naturally i said it back.I hate it becuase i feel like we're in love and want to be together but we're only 17 so have like live our lives. But i really do feel we're meant to be and when we are out together we just act like normal with no awkwardness.
However i don't no if its just me that feels this way or even reli what i'm feeling. I'm too scared to ask him incase he doesn't feel the same or if he does i don't want to get my hopes up about getting back together.
Any ideas what i'm thinking or whether i should talk to him and what i should find out about him?
If you are feeling like you want him back, you need to talk to him. It is true that you have the rest of your life to meet other people; all the more reason to enjoy your time with him now.
What you need to weed out is how much he wants to be with you, and how much he was just looking around for something better with the security of having you there, waiting for him, if his life dating others didn't work out. For openers, introduce the idea that you may have missed him, and see how he feels. Try to figure out if he wants to be in a relationship at the present moment (from your post, it sounds like this is what you want), or is actually just wanting to date around.
Debateist answered Tuesday May 12 2009, 9:26 pm: Aww Hon,
Thats a real crap situation your in!! Okay well I think that the only thing that you can do in this situation is talk to him, this will help you realise how he really feels!! If you both sit down and perhaps discuss exactly what you feel for each other then hopefully from this you can also work out how you feel!! However it might also be an idea 2 find out if he's dating anyone else before you go in there and ask how he feels!!
Also just because of your age doesn't mean that you cant be in love, love is ageless so if he isn't dating anyone else, do what your heart tells you and don't b ruled by your head alone!!
He has told you that he loves you so this is positive!!
Give it chance if he does love you and you never no you guys could live happily ever after!!
Good Luck either way!!
Hope I helped!!
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shelbz7077 answered Tuesday May 12 2009, 9:23 pm: I think first you should ask him if he is seeing somebody. If so, then wait awhile and see what happens between the two of them.
If he isn't seeing anyone, I think it'd be best if you just talked to him about it. Tell him exactly how you feel and see if he feels the same way. If he does then try for it again.
If he doesn't want to then maybe you should try moving on. If he isn't going to give you a chance again there is really nothing you can do about. If you really love him though you shouldn't give up. Show him what he is missing but don't keep asking him out because that will annoy him.
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