Hey everybody like I said I'm a beach girl! Born and bred in Seaside New Jersey, with about two generations of lineage going back!
I got passed away from home to home my entire life (Seaside, Toms River, Ortley) luckily always near Seaside but my life is utter turmoil. My parents bred young and thus poor, divorced when I was five; and my mother remarried.
I have lots of friends that I love and am grateful for, socially I am very outgoing, intellectually I'm an iron fist so ask me anything!
Hmmm... oh yeah one more thing- love my music and poetry and writing and reading and history and science and psychology ~pants~ philosophy... etc.. I Like smart people stuff, to be more "bite sized"
~cHiLL~
E-mail: cleanfreakfromhell@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Seaside New Jersey
Occupation: student/work as badge gurl in summer
Age: 15
AIM: beachbtch5
Yahoo: cleanfreakfromhell
Member Since: March 6, 2005
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Last Update: June 16, 2005
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I guess this would go under this catergory but anyway....
I always buy make-up well not always but its always the wrong kind, some look to dark or to light so which do i buy..
I have
-brown hair
-freckles (but i like them cuz i do)
-blue eyes but then sometimes grayish
-i have glasses but im gettin contacts this month not that it matters anyway
-im white
do you know any products i could use also...like be specific
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All right enchance your eyes by lining them with gray or blue or just plain black. Use the mascara. If your skin makes black mascara look too dark, go for a dark brown. Use blush. Try physicians formula for the flushed look, and try their bronze dome for days you want to look a little sunkissed. It's best to use bronzer in the apples of your cheeks and the bridge of your nose, then light puff across your forehead. Use colors for foundation that are just slightly lighter on the skin of your hand and that have pink or yellow undertones. Don't buy anything that looks mud-colored. When your done set your makeup w. powder. Try physicians formula multicolored loose to go. Yes... I love PF.
Lastly for your lips, try light apricrot shades with orange or light pink undertones. Avoid stark-red shades as they insult freckles. As for the freckles speaking of, don't try to hide them. Guys find girls with freckles innocent and cute looking. Which is always a good illusion to keep.
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if your are really athletic, are you less likely to get you period? or is it the exact opposite? (link)
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Hmm well if you have an estrogen disorder naturally or from muscle-builders or stimulants, than yeah.
But you know what? Don't let that stop you. Don't turn into a lazy fat ass. Stay strong. Be a strong female. And you know what? Who cares if you don't get it? It's nothing but pain and blood and mess. Until you need it, who cares? Be strong. Work out. Build yourself up so that you could kick a man's ass, if you want to. Unless you'd rather be some jiggly, helpless, bleeding mound of flesh.
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i really am so ready for sex and my bf and i already have it all planned out...the thing is, im not very self-confident when it comes to my body. my legs are slim, which all my friends envy, but i feel so wierd! my hands get clamy ALL the time...is there anything i can do about that? and finally, i am really self-consious about the hair on my body...like on my lower back, a tiny bit around my belly, and 'downstairs'. i dont want to shave these regions, but im just worried about what he'll think...and i dont want to be all high-maintenance about my body, but i dont know what im supposed to do! please help (link)
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lol You sound exactly like me... my hands get sweaty alot too. Don't worry it's okay he won't mind. And as for hair... try a brazilian wax.
guyz like that
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well, i like 2 guys. one is tall, and really cute and funny. He calls me hobbit because i am a foot shorter than him 5' to 6'. there's one problem tho, he has a gf. They never do anythin together and they talk like they are still friends but whenever we are talking he stops when she comes over. His gf is my friend too and she's really sweet but he doesnt pay as much attention to her as he does to me. But then there is this other guy is most of the time sweet and cute. He tries to make me laugh all the time. He is about the same height as me and lots of freckles. I always stares back at me during one of our classes where i sit behind him. Yesterday, he threw me up against the wall because we were playfighting. It was a joke tho. I don't know, they both flirt but i dont know what to do
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how can it possibly be so hard? Just pick one.
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I'm 13 and in my undies I find this sorta wet gooey sticky white stuff. I haven't had my first period yet. I feel this gross wetness going into my undies during the day, and i think i'm maybe getting my period. But when i go to the bathroom, its the same wet whitish stuff. What is this stuff and does it mean anything? why do i get it? help! (link)
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You're at the age when your body thinks that you're going to need vaginal lubrication because it thinks you're ready for sex. Basically. You will discharge the most, actually, before you're monthly period because it is high ferility time. I know it sucks but your estrogen really wants you to get knocked up. It will also come when you're horny.
Usually you'll get your first period anywhere from a month to a half a year at the most after this discharge begins.
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What should I do if I get bullied a lot by kids at school? I go to a catholic school, too and its still happening. Junior High can definitly be tough. I get picked on by 7th graders and kids my age. What should I do? My parents and I have tried and tried but nothing has worked! I've gotten nasty emails and instant messengers, and rude and harassing phone calls. can you help me?
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You should kick their ass.
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Hey does anyone know any good ways to lose about 5 pounds for the summer? My friend wants to go to the beach but i dont look right in a bathingsuit. Any tips would be REALLY helpful Thanx
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sure just eat all meat and drink all water. gradually eat less and less as u go along so ur body can adapt. Also lift weights, running, or going to the gym burn fat and make muscle.
girls would be suprised... guys like a girl when shes muscle-toned.
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Ok well here's my problem, my mom is like super christian and I think I wanna follow by the rules of buddah and I want to be boodist! but I still belive in god! I dunno what one to choose. And plus if I do decide to become budist I dont wanna tell my mom! I dont know what to Do! arg! help! (link)
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F'n idiot. You want to be a BUDDHIST not a a BOODIST. Moron.
How about this? Why don't you admit "I don't know" or question this life and the hereafter on your own before accpeting someone else's idea?
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ok i have a few very close friends and some not so.. But what i was wondering is... if i ended up on disney channel what do you think they would do? be jelouce? would they still want to be my friends? or just use me?
What would you think if you're friend suddenly out of the blue got excepted on a popular show?
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If they are truly your friends... they will not care... and they will be happy for you, not jealous. And some may be jealous, but just mature enough to handle all that like an adult.
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im a girl and Im not a lesbian or bisexual & i dont ever want to like make out with a girl/date one or anything..but i get reallyyyy turned on when i like think about girls being active w/ echother..is this NORMAL
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Well if you think of it it may be just a reflection of the pride you have within yourself for your own body. Women's bodies are a divinely beautiful thing. We bring passion to sex and other acts of love because of the form of ourselves, which is made to attract the eye.
Men can to a degree turn you on... I mean they have "the thing." If you know what I mean... but I mean when does anyone ever stare at his breasts, and when has there ever been a male beauty pageant?
Don't worry much- attraction for the female body is hardwired into all our brains. You don't like girls, but anyone must acknowledge the power of the female's body and its lure.
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Hi I'm 13 and I have never been very popular and I have never had many friends at school. I was always the straight A student and the goody goody and thats just how I was. But this year I decided to try to make friends. A lot of friends. I started to bend the rules a little bit. Once I found out that I could get away with anything because I was comsidered the good child I just couldn't stop. I became very popular and started not doing my homework. I figured whats wrong with that? I'm just like evryone else I'm not weird I'm cool. But now I'm rude and I don't care about my work at all. I ruined my straight A's and now I don't know what to do. I just want to go back and be able to control my self and not have the pressure to keep my so called frineds. What can I do? (link)
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You have to decide what means more to you. DO you care more about your interaction with others or your future? You can't say one's either wrong or right. It all depends on what makes you happy.
Adults will say you should forget them and be a nerd. Well you can be a smart kid and a popular kid too, okay? Just know when to stop talking. Save weekends and Fridays for hanging out and going out. Try not to do anythng big on weekdays... try to study and if anyone accuses you of being a nerd or a goody good you can quickly recover your image without hurting yourself. For example, try fearlessly and mercilessly hurting that person.
I'm sure after that sort of move no one would mess with you again!!!
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Ok, here goes. This might be a long one so please bear with me!
My friend Mike and I were at this school event called History Day (Science Fair except for history). I was bored, so I was hanging out with him and his friends. Then, his friend asked em if I like him and I said I don't know...and shrugged my shoulders. As I walked away, I looked back, and he was smiling at me. It's really obvious (though I haven't said it directly) that I really like him, but out fear of rejection, I semi-denied it. Do you think that I sent I like you vibes or I hate you vibes...and guys, what would you think of me now? Also, we flirt a LOT every day!! Thank you so much! (link)
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Go out with him.
Or him a kissy kissy.
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i'm 13 and i'm a Christian i'm really big on holding grudges and not forgiving people. i know i know its bad but i'm praying about it and working on it!! bible verses help me alot but lately i cant find any!! i need help on finding bible verses about forgiving..know any?? please help!! (link)
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Okay I'm sorry I just can't help much seeing that I hold grudges all the time and it doesn't phase me- it doesn't have to affect you to push people out of your life. Sometimes you just have to weed out the BS.
You have to decide what you have to gain by holding that grudge or how serious your reasons are for holding it. If you are to forgive someone they must be in the position in which they are far enough under your thumb to not repeat their error.
And besides all that don't mind all that Christian stuff. It's an unrealistic religion for hyper-sensitive Republic pussies, old people, and children. Any one with enough sens in their head just goes to church on holidays to shut the family up and then otherwise says F-IT to all that "forgive people" and do the right thing"" boring BS.
... Don't worry I still love you.
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I recently found out that one of my guy friends that I'm pretty close to likes me. He's a really cool guy but I don't feel the same way about him. And honestly, I'm quite uncomfortable around him now. It's gotten to the point to where I have to sign of my screen name if he signs on. He hasn't tried anything (I don't know if he will) but it's extremely weird. I know I should be more mature about the situation but I just can't help it. I have no idea what to do. I feel as if our friendship is ruined. Any advice?
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I have an idea- block the motherfucker. And if he keeps trying to bother you tell him- You used to be cool but now you've just been so annoying I don't even see you as a friend anymore.
And if he can calm his hormones and realize that he might lose a friend you might have him back that way. If he gets on your case again after that when you don't want him to, REPEAT. After about the third time kill him and throw his body off a bridge.
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Hey I was just wondering, because I have a Samsung Digimax 130 camera, and it was on the top shelf of my desk and fellow like 5 inches down to the next, and now it won't work! Yikes! My dad is gonna kill me =( It won't turn on or anything. Shoot I'm dead. Please help. I will leave you good feedback and rate you well. =) Thanks in advance a zillion! =/ (link)
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Haha you're dead....
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i have this problem, i wont sleep for days and when i do sleep its for a very short time. i also really like to play supersmash bros and other assorted videogames and they keep me up often, and when im not playing them im dreaming about them and wanting to play them. Why cant i sleep is it my videogame habits or am i sick like insomnia? can anyone explain?... IM NOT NORMAL!!!! (link)
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Yeah I have some advice. Get rid of the stupid video games, they're rotting your brain and are about zero percent constructive. Seriously. Think about this- how long are you going to live, any way? Do something that actually affects something or someone else instead of this ridiculous little virtual hamster wheel you have so selfishly and moronically lain yourself in.
Your brain is not meant to puzzle over these unreal problems and obstacles. They in the end affect nothing and will only A. make you stupid, or B. fuck you up. So here's an idea. Go throw all of your video games off a bridge and try picking up a book.
And if you're still too dumbfounded to read go do something else while your brain struggles to heal- volunteer at a nursing home or a pet shelter and help some people or animals, if people aren't your thing. (You seem quite the antisocial)
Do things that make a change for others and stop being such a video game loser.
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...I was just sitting here on my computer, and I get this dark feeling inside of me really randomly, and then I turn my head and I blink and while I blink the feeling gets even worse and I see something torn up when I close my eyes. (i dont know what it was but it made my brain feel like it was rattling) omfg its creeping me out..it makes me feel suicidal. It makes me want to rip my skin apart. I sound completely psycho but I dont fucking know whats wrong with me and why the fuck this is happening!
I have no clue why this just happened..and I dont know why Im thinking this but now I just want to cut the back of my neck and down the middle of my back...I didnt even think this on my own I just got the feeling..and its not going away and I still want tocut the back of my neck. I dont wanna kill myself..I just have an urge to hurt myself and I have no fucking clue why...ive done it before but nowhere besides my arms and legs..
Im really scared of myself its not like I WANTED TO HAVE THESE THOUGHTS!!!!!!!!!!
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Oh that's bizarre. Well you likely have very pent up feelings of agression. Get out of your house. Breathe fresh air. You mention you were at your computer. Get out of your house. The longer you stay the more trapped you'll feel...
As a high school student not allowed to ever leave my bedroom as my mother and stepfether continue their conquest of making me into a straight A drugless sexless student... I have been filled with helpless rage. As if I wanted to tear down the walls that confined my being and to rip apart my constraints. And I would hurt myself, I would scratch my self and slam my head against the wall. We seek to destruct ourselves for our bodies seem to be moreorless the prison for our true souls, which were never truly meant to be forced into these routine lives which we must lead.
The best thing you can possibly do for yourself is to get out there... breathe fresh air.. listen to the bird song. Get off the artificial lifeline of television or computer for just a few moments.
BTW this tension doesn't have to be released via self-destruction or morbid thoughts. Sex!
Take it out on someone else... just use protection of course...
And of course if this all still doesn't work... try calm music or meditation (which can be done by finding a quiet place in your home or outdoors and closing your eyes; and focusing nothing but breathing in and out. It works wonders.
.......good luck
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How come everyone thinks im mean? all i do is tell the truth. I gues they just cant handle the truth. Do you guys appreciate it when people tell you the truth or stupid lies? I would rather know the truth not stupid lies people tell me to feel better gosh.
Whats your opinion
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Hrrpmphh well yes people aren't used to the truth, the truth hurts sometimes. Yes there are times when you need to use extensions of the truth to get your way or to kiss up for that same reason mentioned, but when a friend truly needs advice it is most valuable to him or her if you can tell them like it is so they can get the honest facts and therefore be able to handle their situation more thoroughly and affectively. By downsizing a situation to make yourself feel better you only put off trying to take care of it. You know? You're not mean. in the world we live in honesty, even brutal honesty, is a rare and valuable thing... don't give it up!
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I have only been in one relationship before, and that was with a guy who was completely clueless about everything. That relationship really didn't last long.
But now there's another guy on the scene, and I am aware that he is a little more experienced.
I am very self-concious, I am not happy with my lower body (from the hips down really), and I'm not sure how comfortable I would be doing things with this guy. I really really like him, but I have never done anything beyond kissing before and I think this guy would want more.
What should I do? The relationship is in its early stages and I have made it clear that I want to wait, but for the time being it would be nice to have an idea of what I should do.
There is also the problem of me not knowing WHAT to do, which also contributes to the problem.
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No matter what he tries to make you do I will stress ALWAYS RESPECT YOURSELF FIRST. If you feel uncomfortable with your body as it is you will not feel comfortable with sex because sex is the gift of your body to someone you love and trust. You're only fourteen and have alot of time to wait until you're comfortable with a relationship that's advanced.
REMEMBER that to love another, we must first understand and love ourselves.
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well for the past couple months i have been really sad and drepressed! i dont know whats wronge with me....i like havent been feeling like doing anything but sitting around and i've been crying alot for no reason....i have also cut my self...i dont know if is drepression or what? please help!!! (link)
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...This is defenitely depression. You're in what's called a slump and it's a normal emotional phase which you'll get over if you jsut give yourself time. You need to clean house spiritually. Try to locate the problem that has made you so withdrawn and weary. So you have problems at home, or perhaps do you feel lonely?
Remember that no matter how bad it gets there IS A TOMORROW and it will be brighter than today-
thing yin and yang- there are two sides to everything. You have to live through this null patch right now, but there are better things yet to come. Things balance out.
Search out the people you love and who value you and take the time to remember how much they care. And besides, summer will be here soon. Get out in the sun, warm body and mind. The heat and the freedom of summer will get you happy again.
Oh poor baby... you'll be better, just think about tomorrow- and how the more you suffer today, the greater you will enjoy tomorrow.
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