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Hi I'm 13 and I have never been very popular and I have never had many friends at school. I was always the straight A student and the goody goody and thats just how I was. But this year I decided to try to make friends. A lot of friends. I started to bend the rules a little bit. Once I found out that I could get away with anything because I was comsidered the good child I just couldn't stop. I became very popular and started not doing my homework. I figured whats wrong with that? I'm just like evryone else I'm not weird I'm cool. But now I'm rude and I don't care about my work at all. I ruined my straight A's and now I don't know what to do. I just want to go back and be able to control my self and not have the pressure to keep my so called frineds. What can I do?
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Ok, you may be popular now, but if you continue on like you are now you're not going to graduate, and basically you're going to be some broke whore living in a crappy one bedroom apartment. It's not that hard, don't go out on the weekends for awhile, get all your work done like you used to, don't do anything until it's done. And don't have sex, you're on a bad path, it'll make it worse, and no drugs. And if your friends arn't good for you, slowly start making more.
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you need to go back to being yourself. no offense but u are truly being fake. trying to be someone yer NOT.
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#1, set aside time for your hw.. before you go out and do ANYTHING else.. go do it. With the extra time you can do stuff with your friends. Popularity isn't everything in life because your grades are mostly what matter now, but friends are good to have there to back you up. You'll find out who your real friends are when you go back to being your real self.
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You have to decide what means more to you. DO you care more about your interaction with others or your future? You can't say one's either wrong or right. It all depends on what makes you happy.
Adults will say you should forget them and be a nerd. Well you can be a smart kid and a popular kid too, okay? Just know when to stop talking. Save weekends and Fridays for hanging out and going out. Try not to do anythng big on weekdays... try to study and if anyone accuses you of being a nerd or a goody good you can quickly recover your image without hurting yourself. For example, try fearlessly and mercilessly hurting that person.
I'm sure after that sort of move no one would mess with you again!!!
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i think youve got the high school fever where u change everything to be like someone else.if you wanna change you will have to try to bond with your old friends again and take a walk down memorylane.
best wishes=)
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It sounds like it is time for you to get your priorities straight. I noticed that you mentioned: <b><i>But now I'm rude and I don't care about my work at all.</b></i> That is your own fault. No one makes you rude but yourself. And you contradicted yourself when you said that you don't care about your work, because obviously you do. It sounds like you started acting out so you could get noticed more and have people pay attention to you, and now all of that is catching up to you and being a lot more pressure then what you thought it was. Try putting your main focus back onto your school work. Talk to your teachers and ask them if you can do some extra credit work to bring up your grades. If the friends that you made during your transformation supports you on getting your grades back up, then they are keepers. If not, then it is time for you to make some new friends.
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You just go back to your old ways! Being popular isn't everything. Once you get into the real world...it get's you nowhere. Straight A's might!
And you know what? One good friend to tell dreams with is more than plenty. Hard to have the same intimacy with a whole group of people around. Good luck to you, and get back to studying! :)
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You could have made friends without conforming to other people's expectations of you. Personally, I don't think it's cool to want to be like everybody else. Tell your evil friends that you hate them, and then do your homework.
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This is what you pay for trying to fall into those clicks in the world. Its pretty sad if you kept up your good grades you would have gotten a nice job.
Now when you apply for a job you cant say "i was a straight A student" and most surely saying "i was popular in highschool" isnt going to help you. You're just another idiot who fell for it. Cheers!
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Well start doing your homework for one. This isn't a complete loss because you actually want to fix it. Dedicate more time to school work, being popular isn't that important.
~Nokomis~
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