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Dear Advicenators-
Well this school year is my first time in highscool. I have 6 best friends.. and it seems like i'm the prudest. I've always been so over protective and i havnt even kissed a guy yet! I mean I'm not ugly... i dont wanna be snobby but im pretty. All my friends are hooking up with these new kids... and i feel like out of place. haha. I dont know how to explain it. I mean I guess it's because there are no new hot kids in my classes; because when i go to parties and talk to guys there, they always flirt with me and stuff and they ask for my number and stuff. can anybody give me tips to be more flirtaciuos and open minded.. haha. Well, basically.. i just need advice : ( thanks (link)
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im the same way! with my group of friends i seem the most down to earth, they call me a prude and a goody goody all the time! and ive never kissed a guy either so dont worry about that part specifically because ALOT of girls havent. What i try to do is go along with guys quirks. like you know when guys flirt w/ you and they're sarchastic? go along with it and just joke around with them. when your friends with guys you become more comfortable around them and more confident. Then before you know it youll be walking up to guys and talking and flirting with them, and you wont even be aware of it! smiling when your listening to them talk is a good tip, and so is laughing. not laughing hysterically, but you know, like a giggle. Be interested in what theyre talking about and ask them questions. dont be afraid to approach a guy and ask them something. The calmer you are about it and the more you make it sound like its no big deal, the more confident you look. good luck!
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I'm so confused. I've liked this guy for about 2 years, and over the summer I didn't see him at all. He's not in any of my classes, but at lunch, I sometimes look over at him. I try not to though. I say I don't like him, but I don't even know if I do! My friend said that he was talking about me before (he was like, "remember when I made her cry last year" to his friends) I think he was doing that to "impress" his friends because he never acted like that in front of me.
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i know it can be really confusing, when you dont want to like someone you keep saying you dont, when the truth is, it takes a while to fully stop liking that person, and i know alot of guys i say i dont like anymore, i still have a tiny something for. chances are, like you said, your confused. the way i could always tell is right before i knew id see a guy i liked, my heart would race and my stomach would turn. if you get any strange feelings like that around him, you might still have something. but over time, it will pass. good luck!
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ok i'll try to make this short... I have a boyfriend he lives about 2 hours away from where i live and i never get to see him... then theres this guy at my school that I like alot. I want to brake up with my boyfriend but before we got together he was sucidul and i dont want him to kill himself because of me... I dont know what to say when we brake up... what do I do? (link)
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omg that happened to me!! my ex was suicidal and i wanted to dump him but i was afraid he would so something stupid! you just need to talk to him and tell him in the nicest possible way that you care sooo much about him and that it would be wrong for you to lead him on, that the distance is too much for you to handle and that you think its best if you both see different people. tell him you still want to be friends and talk, and reassure him that if he ever needs to talk to someone that your their for him. good luck!
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I've been with Mark for over 3 years, we've lived together for 2 1/2. Lately, I've been changing things in my life. I've applied for college, I'm getting a new job, its like a new chapter in my life after a year of being stuck at home, miserable and feeling like I'd lost myself. I've been questioning our relationship for awhile now, and we've talked about it. He's even agreed to go to therapy with me to figure it all out. He's wonderful. Great personality, makes me laugh. He's completely devoted to me. But we're both realizing that we don't really have anything in common, as far as hobbies, where we go out, etc. Maybe we're just not comprimising anymore. A normal weekend involves me going out to the clubs with my friends (I love to dance and yes, I'm a social drinker, he HATES both) and he goes out with his (to movies and book stores). We don't see each other. I love to go hiking and other outdoorsy things, he hates it. He'll try to make me happy and go anyway but its just OK because I can tell that he's not having fun. And I don't pretend to enjoy Toys R Us. Our sex life is non- existant. I feel like I'm not attracted to him physically anymore. Like maybe we're not sexually compatible anymore? Is that possible? Sex is very important to us and should be, I know we feel less close because of this. The thing that confuses me is, when we got together, this was a non issue. Don't get me wrong, he's NOT a beast, he's cute, but I guess you could say his personality is what got me. Thats how its always been with me, I'm much more about personality, which is why I can't figure out what my problem is.
I was happier then, we were happier 2 years ago. I think maybe I'm dependent on him, or comfortable and don't want to lose his huge part in my life. I have friends, but not good friends I can talk to about this, I don't know that I would if I did, things like this are so personal to us. He's the only person I share everything with and I get panicky when I think of not having him. He's my best friend and I love him, but don't know if I'm in love with him, as they say. He knows this, and I'm sure it tears him down, walking around wondering if I'm really in love with him. He wonders why I won't let him touch me. He thinks I think he's disgusting or something and this whole thing breaks my heart. I care about him so much and don't want to hurt him and turn our lives upside down. We've acheived so much together. We've got pets together, a car, a home...
I'm hurting him anyway I know. I'm afraid that I'll leave him and that that will be the biggest mistake of my life. Mark wouldn't take me back and I'll have lost him forever over something shallow like physical attractiveness or hobbies or because he's not the life of the party I wish he were. But he's not giving me ultimatums or getting upset with me. If we have a serious relationship discussion one night, the next day, he pretends like it didn't happen. Mark pretends a lot of whats going on isn't really. I don't know how to work on us, most of the time I don't know if I even want to. I think alot about being single, on my own again. When I think about working it out with him, I'm a little disappointed. But when I think of not being able to talk to him whenever, hug him, laugh with him, I cry and cry and get anxious and sick. I hate to think that he thinks he's done something wrong. This was too long a long time ago and I'm sorry. Please someone tell me, does this relationship sound like its over? Thank you. (link)
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wow that sounds horrible! i went through something similar my boyfriend for over a year and i had nothing in common and i was in love with him but i fell out of love and i just liked him as a friend. we broke up and i felt so lonely i wanted to be back with him. then i got closure and i felt so much better. i needed to tell him that i still loved him and cared about him but i wasnt in love with him anymore and it wasnt fair to him to have me lead him on like that. after i told him all of that i felt so much better. we dont talk much anymore but were still friends, i think thats what you should do.
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me and my b/f have been datin for almost 6 months. hes means so much to me but a lot of the time she doesnt treat me that well. im a freshman thie year and was considering breakin up wit him b/c i never see him and just felt too tired dwon.but then i chagned my mind and figuared i really loved him. but today this kid who knows him and me came up ot me and said that he wasnt breakin up wit me because he wanted to move on...i was feelin the same thing but i like him so much still. i sent him a text saying that we needed to talk and he said ill pass! and i said..were over.ur friend jeff told me everything..and he said..yull get far listenin ot him...i mean i ended a really long realtionship wit this guy and im not sure if i should beg for him back or just move on....help me pleeeease =).thanks so much (link)
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when your confused, as to whether making the choice of moving on or begging, its best to just wait a bit and let your head clear. that happened to me and i ended up back wit the guy, but it wasnt because i missed him, it was because i needed closure. that may be what you need. so wait like a week before you make any drastic decisions, as for now move on, but if your heart is saying get back w/ him then listen. even if it doesnt work out, you should atleast talk things out in a civil way. good luck!
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I want to success in school and try my hardest to get straight A's or at least 4 of them. I want to make my mom and dad proud of me and I'll feel really good in side.
My true question is, how do you increase your memory? I want to have a better memory so when I hear it, I learn it quicker.
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How do I remember things? I want to do really well in school. Should I read more books? Should I read at least 1 hour a day? Should I review old things over and over?
Teachers, parents, friends, you can help me!
Any advice will help a lot. (link)
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i dont know if this will help any, but this is some stuff ive learned...
if you eat a good breakfast, you will pay better attention in school because your not focused on hunger, your focused on the subject.
do your homework right when you get home, so you can get a good night sleep and look over it in the morning to review
dont wait until the last minute to study, dont cram everything in at once. read like one section a night
reading on a regular basis will make you a faster reader,so pick out some books your interested in and get reading!
if you listen to music it helps you retain knowledge better, atleast for me anyways. but dont put on like distracting music.soundtracks and older cds work best for me.
alot of stuff you learn in school is just built up off of the basics, like math, and a foreign language, so pay attention to reviews in chapters and end of section questions, and make a point to know vocabulary because chances are it will show up on a quiz or test
good luck!
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i feel so weird because im 15 and i havent had my first kiss yet. is this normal? (link)
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im 15 and ive never been kissed
i think its normal
and besides, when you get your first kiss it will probably be really special
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So, there's boy A and boy B. They're really good friends with eachother. Maybe best friends. So, B tells me he likes me [[you know, like like]] and I thought I liked him back, so I said I liked him too. Then I realized I didn't really like him and I told A. A told B, and now B is mad at me because I 'lied' and didn't tell him I didn't like him anymore. I feel so bad and I was going to tell him but we never saw eachother so I was waiting to tell him in person. I'm kind of mad at A for telling him, but I guess it had to come out somehow. I don't know what to tell B, he must hate me now. Help? (link)
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that happened to me once,only it was b/c i got back together with an ex and it just didnt work. i just explained that he honestly didnt do anything wrong, i just didnt feel anything for him and i was so sorry because i knew this had to have been hurting him. i told him that i still wanted to be his friend because he meant alot to me and i would understand if he was truly upset with me. you need to find a way to talk to "B" and explain things in the nicest possible way. im sure hes hurt but think of what he must be going through! i hope this helped some!
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Why don't most girls like it when guys say that they are hot. Isn't that a compliment? What's the big deal? (link)
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its not that we dont like it when guys call us hott, it just means more whenever they say beautiful or gorgeous! cute and pretty work too but usually when guys say it, it goes something like this "dude shes hott!" or "your like, really hott" its not that its not appreciated but if a guy were to say " i think your beautiful" it would make a girl feel special. its not a big deal but like one of my best friends is freaking gorgeous and the guys that usually call her "hott" just want to get in her pants, thats why it can be offensive. hope that cleared things up some!
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is four times around a football field a mile? (sorry i should know this but i dont lol)
thanks in advance! (link)
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at our middleschool and highschool it is, but yours may be different, im pretty sure 4 times around is a mile tho, thats what they made us run!
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I really like this girl but am to afrain to ask her out or talk to her from fear of rejection. I really like her and want a relationship but i dunno what to do. Any advice? (link)
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if you dont even try talking to her then youll never know! just approach her and talk. you dont have to ask her out right off the bat. make a point to get to know her. find out what she likes, what shes interested in, what you 2 have in common. that should build the ground for a solid relationship. show her that you are interested in getting to know her. once your comfortable around her it will be easier to ask her out. do it in a casual way, something like hanging out at the mall or the park or something. tell her your going and you think it would be cool if you 2 could go and hang out. good luck and dont be scared!
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well they say breakfast is the most important meal of the day. its always hard to make up my mind on what to eat before school.
and i'm asking if anyone knowns some quick healthy breakfasts that i could at least eat every other day. or what foods i could alternate with. thanx for the advice. (link)
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i eat scrambled eggs w/ baby spinach in them but that takes a bit of time, i use the egg beaters product because its healthier than regular eggs. nutri grain has some pretty good breakfast bars. theres another breakfast bar i like called luna bars and theyre really good b/c theyve got alot of vitamins in them. those dannon light and fit smoothies are really good too to grab on the go. special K is really good too. and a glass of milk, or orange juice, actually any kind of juice in the morning is good.if you like bagels they can be quick and easy if you buy the ones that are pre cut, but im not a big bagel fan. also there are like bags of frozen fruit in the grocery store and theyre good for breakfast, jut pour some into a bowl and eat it, and fresh fruit is even greater if you have it on hand.
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I have a problem with pimple on my arms. Well actually their like ingrown zits. I have no idea how to get rid of them. I already drink practically 4 bottles of water a day. But can you help me. (link)
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i have them too, its not pimples, its because you have dry skin on your arms. i use proactive on them and it works pretty well
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hey im supposed to write an essay on peoples fears, and i was thinking of doing it a bit differently.. like telling about their fears, and then telling how you got them (which should be a funny story) so do any of you have any?
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i have a crazy fear of cars
because i flew off the back of a golf cart when i was like 7
ive been afraid of "little bunny foo foo" from this creepy kids movie called the big rock candy mountain since i watched it when i was like 4
im afraid of being burried alive from watching this one episode of CSI
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there's this boy i've only seen once in person, more than a month ago. we talk on msn a lot and around a week ago he told me he liked me...so i said i did too, but i don't really know if i do, because i only started liking him after he told me he liked me, well i kind of liked him before, but not that much...so was i just falling in love with love? i'm also kind of embarassed to say that i think he won't like me anymore because i cut my hair since i saw him last and it's a fauxhawk type of thing...and i told him that, but he didn't seem to care. so i guess my questions are:
1. do i really like him?
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2. do you think he won't like me b/c i look different or should i think it's a good sign that he didn't say anything bad about it? (link)
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if he doesnt like you b/c you look different then he isnt worth your time, and you may like him but i understand the falling in love w/ love thing. Meet up with him agian and see how things go, if it all works out really well then go for it! and well, if it a bit awkward than maybe it just wasnt ment to be. you said he didnt seem to care about your hair so he probably does like you. i say you give him a chance because if you don't then you'll wonder what would have happened if you did! good luck!
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im not sure where this really belongs... i was told that i was anorexic... by a doc. so now i think it is time to face the facts... but i dont know what to do... people tell me that i should just eat .. but its so much harder than that... people keep telling me its all in my head... but idk... they are scaring me.. i dont know if im ready to get over this yet... or even where to start... and the worst thing is... i have no suport... family and friends... i already tryed... my nutricionist... all aginst me... and my counsolor.. she just acts like its a one step process... i really dont know what to do... can some one help me??
thanks bunches!
xoxoxoxo (link)
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it totally sux not having a support system! i really would like to help, i know that food just isnt apealing sometimes and i know what its like to be a certain way for a while and people just expect you to change over night, but sometimes your not ready for it mentally or emotionally you have to let it all sink in. IM me and tell me more so i can help!
bobodkh1
Email: bobodkh1@aol.com
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F/13
Sorry for the length and for it not being very well written...
I've been doing theater since 1st grade at school (and have gotten 8/10 leads). I'm changing to a different school where I hear the theater program is really serious and intense. The only problem is that my chest voice isn't too good.
My friends say that I am AMAZING at singing. That's with my "throat" voice. With my chest voice I have to sing really low, and I barely have any range at all. I want to get a good part, but how can I develop my chest voice to perform theater songs in a more intense and serious environment? Can I use my "throat" voice because it's much better and loud, but I'm not sure if it's loud enough.
PLEASE help!!
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alrite im in choir so first off theres your chest voice your mid voice(throat) and your head voice. if you cant sing low its not a biggie it just means your not an alto and chances are if the theatre program is that serious theyll have openings for alto and soprano leads. if you can sing in your throat and head voice it means your a soprano. but since your 13 your voice hasnt stopped developing yet and its still changing even if you are a girl, ours just change slower and over time. try doing warm up excersizes to get used to all ranges, if you need to sing in your chest voice make sure you take deep breaths, not quick whispy breaths. if you are working with your high range, you need to lift your soft pallet, its in the back of your mouth, the best way to do that is to raise your eyebrows and feel your mouth open wide even in the back which sounds weird but it makes sense. id advise getting a voice teacher, b/c they can work w/ you one on one w/ your specific voice type. good luck!
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i'm a 16 year old girl who has never done it or had even had a REAL boyfriend.
is this abnormal?
cause my friends are all off doing it and they think im such a nerd. (link)
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its not a big deal
im 15 and ive never even had a boyfriend
dont stress
and dont let them pressure you into doing anything
your not abnormal
your just not easy
and if they think your a "nerd" for not having sex
then you need to find some new friends
i know its frustrating not to have a boyfriend
but in the long run, i bet you will be glad everything happened to you later on in life
good luck!
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Ohhkay. To make a long story short..I am realy nice to about anyone.. exept if i hear you talk about me.. then i realy just talk to you about it. Anyways.. Well almost a year ago a girl started talking about to me so i asked her to stop/ asked what was up .. and i thuoght that was the end of it.. then she started saying nasty rummers. and one of them was that i had a hairy back.. of that of that the nickname "silverback" started.. now EVREY POPULAR kid and some non-popular ones call me it. .. well anyways. lately ive been told i was fat. and i dont want to eat now.. like ever again. and yea i can probaly stand to lose 20..30 pounds as you can tell from this - ( www.myspace.com/meg_92 ) but anyways.. i am about to go anteresic and idk wat to do .. like i REALY want to loose A LOT of weight and FAST and idk any othe way how.. dont tell me its not healthy to loose a lot of weight fast. i just want to do it.. no its not healthy but i NEED/WANT to! Please give me tips/ideas!
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first off, i looked at your pictures on myspace and you are not fat or over weight orw/e! dont go anorexic. i know what your thinking b/c im like 15 and im not a rail by any means. but if i were you id think about it this way. first off, your young! that means you have alot of time to lose weight, i know it may be important to you, but that means you have time to do it in a healthy way! work out like 3 times a week for an hour, it doesnt have to be like running but a quick paced walk for an hour is fine. eat healthy! my sister and i eat like 20 fat grams a day b/c were both on a "diet" or w/e but shes more into it than me b/c shes almost 20. pretzels are good for snacks so are animal crackers! grilled chicken is really good so is fish, and avacados. whole grain pasta and rice is better for you than regular b/c your body uses calories to break it down. eat fruit, low fat yogurt, and a bowl of cereal for breakfast (cheerios or w/e) to give your metabolism a jump start in the morning, and that way you will be more awake during the day. my sister has lost like 45 pounds in like 4 months so its totally effective. dont be afraid to splurge every now and then, especially if youve worked hard! and dont let this girl get to you, chances are shes just jealous of you b/c your pretty or something, and has nothing better to do than make fun of you. just ignore her, i know it sounds lame but if she thinks it doesnt bother you chances are, she will stop. good luck!
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How far do you think is too far when it comes to changing for your boyfriend? Is it the hair, the clothes, the attitude & friends?! I need to know. (link)
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you shouldnt have to change for him! thats soooo ridiculous! first off, dont change your friends, theyre always their for you and this relationship may not work out. i wouldnt change my hair or style b/c thats part of who i am and probably a part of you as well. as far as attitude goes, thats negotiable. like i can understand how guys dont like people who are really clingy or whiney and that may need to be changed. but if it something like, the way you think or respond to things, again thats part of who you are.
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