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I am 16 and I have a huge crush on my attractive female teachers who is like 28 I believe. I am flat out obsessed wit her I;d say, -I always walk by her room or try to go wherever she is and at the end of the day just to see her leave,.i 'm willing to buy any school related paper and yearbook just to see if any pictures of her are in it, I keep thinking she hates me or as a bad impression of me, I went searching for her Facebook account, and I found it and I find myself staring at a lot of pictures of her. I get mad just whenever I see another boy go up and talk to my teacher, but the worst thing of all is that she is married and I can't stand that she is. I have feelings of hate towards her husband just because she is married to him and want him to die and I sometimes like to rip papers up or something pretending it is him or taking a pencil and stabbing the paper with it. I am obsessed with this girl, and I will do anything to get her even it means I have to break up her marriage or something
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You've asked a variation of this question several times now and from my perspective this went from an innocent crush to something a little scary. Having a crush on your teacher is fine - almost everyone I know has fantacized about a teacher/professor at some point, but you are letting it take over your life. What about other girls your age? Also, I agree with the other responders - you might benefit from talking to someone. What about your school guidance counselor or maybe an older sibling? I really hope you are listening to this advice.
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My boyfriend and I took a lot of pictures for Valentines day, which all happen to be on his phone cuz my phone sucks and his is a lot better. So we were on our way to his soccer game and he had twenty minutes to warm up. I asked him if I could send myself some of the pictures from his phone and he said okay. So I was able to send myself one picture. I was basically attaching the rest of them all in one text. He is sitting right next to me putting his cletes about to go and warm up. He stops me and tells me he needs his phone im thinking uhm, you are about to warm up, you don't need your phone. So he says, it's my phone. I didn't even send the one I was attaching and gave it back. I was mad. he made me feel curious like what is he hiding? Then he tells me im wrong for being mad. Am I? (link)
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Whoa, you should deffinitely not do what the previous advice stated. If my boyfriend took my phone and locked himself in the bathroom to "test" me, I'd dump him.
Did you have any concerns about him being unfaithful before this? Also, if he really had something to hide - do you think he'd give you his phone in the first place? If you are really concerned, you should tell him that it made you feel uncomfortable and let him explain his side of the situation.
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I'm 10 and I don't have any friends can you help me and how do I get a girl to like me (link)
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Do NOT listen to the previous post, that is crazy bad advice. You are so young and have so much time to worry about girlfriends. Right now you should focus on finding friends (any gender) who like doing the things you do. You could try joining a club or sports, but if that isn't your thing just invite someone over to watch a movie. Just be open to meeting new people.
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I'm a college freshman- I got here a few weeks ago. It's been great except my roomates (im in a triple) are a bit crazy. They drink 5 days of the week, do drugs, and constantly hook up with random people at parties. One of them had sex with a random person the day she moved in. Anyway, I became really good friends with this guy and we ended up hooking up- then we turned into a "thing"- we were always together, talked about everything, and really cared about each other. I went away last weekend and when I came back i found out my roommate (the one who has sex with anything that moves) got drunk and slept with my friend that i almost freaking love! She lied and said they kissed but everyone on my floor knew, and I ended up finding out. He's pretty torn up about it and feels awful, and she doesn't seem to be affected. I cry all of the time and am so hurt and don't even want to look at her face- I can't stay away from him though, because I want to be his friend so bad. We keep having these really intense conversations about how im so devastated and hurt and he apologizes and we both just are so upset. And then he hangs out with my roommate and my friends right in front of me, and then goes into my room to chill just with my roommates. I don't know if he cares of if he doesnt- he only came to talk to me after one of his friends saw me crying and told him. He said to talk to him when I'm ready to "talk" but i keep saying everything i feel and nothing seems to help myself or the situation. I'm so mad at my roommate I can't even go into my room because i dont want to see her. I dont know how to cope or handle the situation. Please help? (link)
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Just because you're roomate sleeps around doesn't make her a bad person, she just has different standards. Did your roomate understand how serious you and this guy were? If she did, have a calm conversation with her tell her that her actions hurt you - because you say she doesn't seem affected, but maybe she really doesn't understand. If after the conversation is over and nothing is resolved ask to move into another dorm, colleges get these requests all the time and there's no sense living with someone you can't look in the face.
As far as this guy...he's not your boyfriend and you haven't known him that long...so my advice is to forget about him. He knew sleeping with your roomate would cross a line and he did it anyway. Also, he's still hanging out with her,could you ever trust him? They both decided to sleep together, he's at fault just as much as she is. So do yourself a favor, forget about him and try and smooth things over with your. You just got to college, have a good time!
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So I dont really know what to think or do and I'm hoping I can find some insight here.
Ill try to shorten it as much as possible. My boyfriend of two years who I am in love with and has already given me a ring has severe depression. We are both in our 20s and he realized he has very serious mental issues about 6 months ago that include anger (non violent) and he cannot enjoy anything anymore, including our relationship. While we talked about this and I know it is true, he admitted it to me, he also said that he still loves me and wants to be with me and only me, he just doesn't know where he is in his life or where his life is going.
He is getting professional help so he is on the track of getting better, but he is not very hopeful about it. We basically put our relationship on hold until he gets better. He doesn't really want to act like a couple but he does want us to still hang out and talk every day. Ive asked him clearly if he thinks its better to break up and he starts getting extremely sad and saying no, but then whenever I act like a girlfriend towards him he doesn't respond. I really don't know what to do, I am constantly thinking about him and worrying about him and wanting to spend time with him because we are technically still together, but I don't really feel like I have a partner anymore. I love him very much so even though I have considered multiple times leaving, just cutting him from my life to be able to move on, I break down every time I do, I want to be there for him, but its hard to be so detached when we were once so close. I don't know how much longer I should support him? I don't know how to be able to be there for him without needing him to be there for me... what can I do??? (link)
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Relationships are about comprimise. Clearly you love this man because you've comprimised A LOT. I think it is commendable that you are being so patient, but I worry about your needs and that it seems they are not being met. Whether you stay or go is your choice, but if I were you I'd ask myself - how long can I wait? Depression is a lifelong struggle and while your boyfriend might learn to deal with it better - he will always have it. Can you wait 5 years for him to feel better and treat you like a partner? Can you wait 10? If not - I'd say leave. If you feel you could wait that long, tell him so, but ask if he could work a little harder to support you and show you love.
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I'll be going into my Junior year here soon and I do pretty well in school, I'm just terrible in math. Ever since 3rd grade, and I've been tested to see if there was a reason why I do so badly in math, I tested low but not VERY badly. I've been tutored ever since 3rd grade in math..I pass but I took the OGT last year, and I didn't pass it, just that one. I'm SO frustrated, and I worry about it so much.
I take the integrated classes in math, and I haven't taken Geometry yet and I will this year. The counselor at my school says that's probably why I didn't pass. I got a 368 on the OGT I believe.
What do you think I should do? My brother says his math professor at his college is really good at math, and he wants her to tutor me. I'm not sure what to do, they will place me in a ogt class but I'm still SO worried. I WANT to go to college..I'd like to be a lawyer. ;/ (link)
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Let your brother's tutor help you! I also had trouble with math, but I found a wonderful patient tutor who really helped build my confidence. Also, if you are this stressed out about it...you might be developing test anxiety, that is, you stress out so much about the test you can't focus on the work no matter how much you've studied. If this is the case, maybe talk to your teacher to see if you can have extra time on the test or take it in the library so you aren't self aware that other students are finishing first.
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My boyfriend and I have been together a few months and I really do enjoy him, I met his family and his little girl and we're really happy, we've always had a healthy sexual relationship and never had problems, about a month ago his lease was up, he moved in with his friend and they're looking for a new place together now. However they share a room so I don't get a lot of intimate time with my boyfriend anymore.
Whenever we do get the chance he just gets it over with and doesn't really put any spice into it. On our average night we spend time with our friends which are just 4 guys we both happen to be friends with. I don't mind them. But my boyfriend likes to play video games with them and completely blocks me out, I don't pester him while he plays because I know it would bug him. However he completely ignores me, regardless of what they are doing, videogames, tv, just talking, Whenever we're alone and everyone is gone or at work I try to kiss him and just rub his back and occasionally touch him, he usually brushes me off of him and when he doesn't we have sex and he gets it over and done with, doesn't touch me or anything, I just feel like when we do have sex he feels obligated. Whenever I try to send him a dirty text or just tells him dirty things in general he never say anything back he just says "Oh that sounds great." He never really tries to be intimate with me or anything. The only way I get him to pay attention to me is if I don't touch him or anything. After I ignore him for a few days he comes around but then always goes back to the way it was before hand. I just want to know how to fix this, it's really taking it's toll and I just want him to give me a bit more attention, I don't want all his attention, but he hardly gives me any and it makes me feel bad about myself.. (link)
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You have to talk to him. Tell him how his actions make you feel and try to make some compromises. Maybe he needs to go on a guy's night every few weeks, but he should also take just you out sometimes. If you don't tell him he's hurting you, he'll never know.
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English IS my first language so dont worry haha, I'm from Dublin,Ireland :D Theres this guy called david ( just to add,hes polish)
we started talkin the day of his birthday because his cousin carolina (whos my good friend) was talking about him to me.. we were on facebook and she poked him off my page as a joke, he poked me back and added me. We started talking and we got a long great..(ive never seen him face to face)
we talked about EVERYTHING..then on july 1st he went to poland to visit his family till august 15th.. and im going on holidays to turkey on august 12th and wont be back till august 26th.. and he says he wants to see me straight away when i come back and that he really likes me and all.. he promised me he would talk to me all day but he hasnt been? hes been different, not being himself to be honest.. hes just not being himself at all... i dont know what to do cause i cant get him out of my head? rather not say my age, im a teen though :) i told my mam and dad about him and i never tell them anything about guys so :/ like should i just drop it and leave him or give him a chance when he comes back and see what hes like? (link)
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I'd say give him some space. It's hard to juggle friends and family sometimes. Maybe he just needs to focus on his family right now. You should go on vacation, have fun, and try not to worry about it too much. Keep in contact with him if you want, but just be more casual (ie. try not expecting to talk everyday, but every few days). When you come home, if you are still interested in him, go on a date. You'll be able to tell if he's still interested in person much easier than over the internet.
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I am 18, female. My brother is 20 and his best friend is 21. I am totally in "like" with my brother's best friend. I have reasons to believe his friend feels the same. I invited him to my graduation party. A few days before my party we were joking to he could give me my favorite wine for my party, he showed up to my party without it so I was messing with him that I wanted wine and he didn't get it for me, he left my party when he wasn't even there for 3 minutes, to go out and buy me the wine. He then proceeded to go into the kitchen, open the bottle (because I can never get the corks off) and pour me a cup of wine. A few days after, my brother's girlfriend was throwing a birthday party, my brother's friend doesn't drink so usually he is the only sober one at parties there to take care of everyone and drive everyone home. He has been asking me to go to her party for a while because he would really appreciate having a sober conversation at a party for once. My mom dropped me off at the party because my brother wanted her to get them food and she did on the way to dropping me off. I got out of the car with the food and my brother's friend said "hey, are you here to stay all night?" and after I told him yes, he smiled so big. We hung out all that night and he even drove me home around 2:30 am. Today, he came over to take my brother to the car shop because my brother got a flat tire. I was looking at some weird food we had in the fridge and he came into the kitchen and jokingly told me I shouldn't eat that, I told him I would decide that once I figure out what it is, he was almost out the door when I said this and he came back in saying that it did look weird, he came up behind me and looked over my shoulder to see the weird food, he was so close to me I could feel his breath on my back.
Now, many of you are probably thinking "that's your brother's best friend, how could you like him." See, I have a guilty conscience, I would feel bad for dating my brother's best friend IF my brother didn't date my best friend a few years ago.
So, in conclusion, I am just wondering if you think he likes me back or if I should just leave it alone. Don't tell me to leave it alone because he is my brother's best friend, I already know that and am aware of the possible consequences.
Thank you. (link)
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I'd say go for it. You're both young and if you never say anything you'll regret it.
But - prepare yourself - he may like you very much, but might not want to jepordize his relationship with your brother. Your brother will always forgive you - you're family, but he may never forgive his friend for dating his little sister.
So I say yes, tell him how you feel, but understand he might not feel comfortable with anything more than a flirty friendship.
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Well, I have a previous post about this same issue wondering if he was, It turned out he was cheating ;( He said that he only did it cause I argued with him everytime I saw him in the past few months...this is very true. I did do that A LOT. But most of our arguments stemmed from him not introducing me to his friends--I felt, even though he spent money on me and took me on dates, that he excluded me from his life--that I didn't feel like a part of it...that's where most of my upset stemmed from. I'm not perfect. There were times when I acted a little bipolar and wouldn't just get upset too often. But he said the cheating is "my fault" now I feel like it is:( I feel like if I didn't push him so much he wouldn't have done it....he said "when we fight it feels like I'm not with you." He said one girl, the one he cheated on me with, was a friend and the other was a girl at a bar he got when we broke up but I was always the girlfriend--he said he felt nothing for them and that he just mindlessly did it. That was his explanation for cheating.....I told him I never cheated on him....I even showed him texts of a guy I kissed when we were broken up who I said "You know I got back together with my bf right?" to prove how dedicated I was to him--that I was telling other guys to back off--that I love my bf. He just focused on the part that I kissed the guy when we were broken up...even tho he had sex once when we were broken up and supposedly had sex once recently with other girls during our relationship......I just feel like a fool...I pushed him away arguing so much....I just was so adamant about not playing games they tell you to in dating books like ignoring the phone and being distant if he upset, and instead I would always complain and tell him about problems--hoping that being authentic would work someday with some guy--even tho it hasn't yet, and once again, it got me nowhere. He said I didn't need to pester him--he would have immersed me in his personal life eventually and that he had to do it when he was ready--that because I was his first relationship in three years--he was just slower to incorporate me into friends and family, and that's why I didn't meet them, but I was going to eventually. He dumped me today, after I found out last night....the fool I am was going to stay with him because I thought if the cheating were for fights we could get along and prevent it...but if the cheating was purely physical reasons (which it wasn't) there would be nothing I could do. That was my rational. He said he thinks I am his soulmate and dreams of us marrying and living together, but at this time we can't be together and he needs to "explore other options" because he's drained....he says after our break up, anyone else it would be all physical and he loves me:(:(:( I feel just awful....I feel very much that I had a hand in this undoing....and I feel guilt and extreme sadness.......I don't want to date. I don't want anything physical with anyone else.....I just want to work, do my hobbies, and I hope eventually he'll come around. I feel like we can fix this--if the cheating was just due to emotional distance--and not a need for variety...I can fix it. Am I wrong for thinking that? Am I foolish? Stupid? What is wrong with me? Should I even bother hoping we'd be back again once more? Now I feel like, now that being honest about how i feel, and not playing games, and being a nice girlfriend who cooks and cleans and just wants a guy to introduce her to friends after maybe four months and expresses that never works...because I have showed the same behavior with all past bfs and they always in some way take advantage and run away.....or lose interest....even when they swear up and down that they love my honest and authenticity and my refusal to ignore, be distant, and play games.....I just feel like I need to be fake and play games if I am ever to find someone who loves me more than I love them for once... because it's always me loving more...me getting hurt.... (link)
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Dump him. He is the problem, but he won't ever change.
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He's 7, btw.
He occasionally plays on some virtual gaming site for kids, where people can create avatars of themselves, to roam the little "gaming world", with has other avatars. I noticed his character was white with blonde hair, while he is dark skinned with black/dark brown hair, as he comes from a West African family. We live in America, in a small town that's diverse, but predominantly white and asian (specifically, mostly indians and koreans).
Multiple times I'd suggested he make his avatar look like him, and he refused. Weeks later, I confronted him about it and kept pressing him about why he made his avatar look the way it does. He said that he made the avatar to be one of his closest friends, a white boy at school, and even named the character after him. But then I asked him why he couldn't let his friend make an avatar of himself, and he (my brother) make one of HIMself. Then he told me that he wouldn't fit in with the other avatars, who are apparently mostly white, because of him having a different color. He said that he wouldn't have the same friends if he made his character look like him. But I asked him why he thinks that, when in real life he has diverse friends (he tells me he's friends with all the boys in his class) and color isn't important to them, but he wouldn't give me an answer. I told him that he wouldn't want to be friends with anyone who thought skin color was important, but he still didn't budge.
So I have no idea where he's getting this from, because the website has a filter, so I doubt anything racist could have gotten through, and my family says no racist things (as we're not racist), which leads me to believe that he may have been negatively impacted by something at school, or possibly brainwashed by TV (which he watches too much) to feel insecure, somehow? I'm not sure.
After I talked to him he started to cry, but I'm not sure whether it's because I kept pestering him or if it was because I uncovered some hidden pain he felt about his skin color? I have no idea. I don't know whether I should tell my parents about this, either. I'm 18, and I just don't want my little brother to grow up feeling badly about his skin color, for no reason. I never even felt that way at his age. I liked looking different from most other kids, and appreciated all of our differences. I never even knew about any reason to not like my skin color at age 7, and even though I'm more aware of the world now, I still feel the same. I spent my formative years mostly in the Northeast (in a much bigger, and slightly more diverse town, of the same upper middle class socio-economic status), so I don't know if it makes a difference now that we're now in Texas.. I don't know what kids here have been taught at home. We even go to a diverse church, too, cause churches that are predominantly one race just aren't the most comfortable. I like church to be a reflection of the same people I see everyday, not for it to be some kind of escape from the real world, where there is a degree of diversity.
But I'm just worried for my brother. I just want him to have a good childhood and feel good about himself. I don't want him to believe any stereotypes and feel badly about something that has nothing to do with him, personally. He's only responsible for himself and his actions, and can do w/e he wants, regardless of how the media depicts "black boys". If he got this notion from TV, I don't even know how, when he just watches only kids programming. COuld the lack of diversity on a lot of kid shows be the blame? But I've watched my share of TV while growing up, but I don't feel like he does. Am I overreacting, or if not, what should I do? (link)
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I don't think you are overreacting. Obviously you care about your brother and want him to feel confident.
But he is probably too young to understand the questions that you are asking - maybe because he can't answer them he feels even more as if he's done something wrong? I'd give him some time to grow a little before you push the issue with him or your parents. But I think it's okay to keep an eye on him and help him feel good about himself.
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Last night my boyfriend took me out for dinner and as the table was full of things(saucers,silver wear,plates,glasses,wine,soda,etc)I decided to put my phone between my legs so it didn't get dirty,and it was reason enough for him to think that I was actually hidding it to text nobody knows who,we had a terrible argument and he ended up taking me back home,it was awful,what can I do or say to him? because I'm also really upset,thanks! (link)
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I sort of disagree with what the people before me have written.
I'm assuming you didn't have a bag to put your cell phone in, which is why you had it out? If your boyfriend thought you were being rude by texting someone during dinner - that's an easy fix because that is rude and you should say you're sorry. But if you didn't have anywhere else to put your cell phone and immediately he assumes you are cheating on him - well that's HIS issue. Let him cool off for a day or two and then sit him down and have a serious talk. The relationship will not work if he assumes you're cheating because you don't leave your cell phone in plain sight. Remind him you love him and would never do something to hurt him, but don't let him walk all over you either.
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I got my nose swollen after sqeezing a nasty pimple I had on it,it looks terrible now,and I don't know how to heal it,I'm wearing make up all the time but it seems to make it even worse,what can I do?:/ (link)
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wash your face in the morning and at night - try not wearing make up (even high quality make up clogs your pores). you could buy zit spot treatment at the pharmacy, something with benzol peroxide might help. most importantly though - do not pick it! this will make the area more red and irritated.
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I am 20 years old - female.
All my life I have had clear skin except maybe a zit on the nose occasionally that arrived around menstrual time. A couple of weeks ago, my skin has become oily and pimply. It doesn't feel like my face anymore. I use rubbing alcohol on the areas I'm breaking out and it helps. I have no idea why the change. I have had many compliments in my past on my perfect complection. I am no expert on zit-removing. What are some good ways to clear my face up? Any cheap products or home remedies that will do the trick? Thanks. (link)
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they sell benzol peroxide without an Rx now - it's what I use and it does the trick. though you have to make sure to wear sunscreen because it makes your skin sensitive to sunlight. also burt's bees makes an orange essence face wash if you want something more natural.
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People overlooked all the problems Amy Winehouse had as tragic, and still loved her, when she was alive. But when MJ was alive, despite him getting cleared of the legal issues, people mercilessly made fun of "wacko jacko", until his death. And then now, another British celebrity called Cheryl Cole assaulted a toilet attendant (a middle aged black woman) after she tried to stop her from stealing some candy. And yet people still give that the blind eye and then say to not focus on her past as it happened so long ago. But after Chris Brown assaulted Rihanna, people thought Chris Brown should be locked up forever. And now, after he's done his time for his crime, people still want him to never be successful again. What the hell? Only some people can be forgiven for their mistakes? Look at other celebrities who messed up in the past but people have forgiven. Robert Downey Jr, Lindsay Lohan, Britney Spears etc. People cheer on Lindsay Lohan and hope the best for her, despite all she's done, but when Chris Brown makes one mistake he should be condemned forever? Add in Whitney Houston to this mix, too. People went from joking at her drug issues when she was alive to saying they were big fans and everything after she died. And then again, people praise and laugh with Charlie Sheen, and praise his bad deeds.
What is wrong with people nowadays? Am I overreacting or is this really racism? Cause I can think of so many examples now. Like with the Trayvon Martin case, just because Trayvon Martin wasn't a saint, people tried to use that as justification for Zimmerman to kill him. You can't just go stalk and kill someone in the street. We have laws in this country for a reason. It's just frustrating to see how racism is still in this society. Like again, with Obama, I don't care if someone's against his policies and what not, but I don't understand why some people have to use racist things that have nothing to do with him as an insult. Like despite all the evidence, birthers still can't believe Obama could be born in America, for example.
Why is America still so racist? I've lived in various countries and literally don't have a racist bone in my body (I think it's illogical to be racist or stereotypical cause we're all individuals), but as I've grown I've learned to not be as sensitive and understand that there's still racist people, cause it's not worth it to spend all my life being sad that our world isn't as perfect as I want it to be. all I can do is just try to be a good person and be nice and nonjudgmental towards everyone.
sorry this is really long but it still does bother me, cause I just think it's pointless. I'm so tired of humans being mad at other humans for stupid reasons like color, having a different lifestyle, different religion, sexuality, etc. we could accomplish so much if we didn't waste so much time, money, and lives trying to hurt each other for having different qualities. we're all humans, dammit. it's like people know this, but they don't truly comprehend it. (link)
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chris brown harmed another person - many of these other people you've mentioned just had drug addictions.
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I'm on the JV girl high school basketball team & we have a summer camp for boys & girls. We have practice basketball practice everyday and we have to exercise in the morning. After that we go into the locker room and take showers, get dressed. I was the last one there and after showering I was standing naked in front of the mirror (this was in the girls locker room, obviously) brushing my hair (otherwise I get really bad knots, but anyway, its not important). My male gym teacher was locking up the locker rooms and he came in to see if anyone was still in the girls room. So....I was totally naked, without a towel or anything and I spun around to face him when I heard someone come in. I didn't even cover myself up with my hands and I'm pretty developed (I'm 17). I just kept apoligzing for like, a minute, I don't even know why and he said it was fine, don't worry, but he didn't look away and I ran into a stall. My friend told me to act like nothing happened. So, we had gym and I tried not to act weird but when I saw my teacher he winked at me and looked my up and down. He kind of gave me this look, like he liked what he saw? I also caught him staring at my chest while running. I don't know, but I'm absolutely mortified and embarrassed. I feel kind of nervous and ashamed, I honestly feel like crying I don't know what to do! Can anyone, please please give me some advice, because I'm so confused right now and I don't now how to face him again! (link)
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i'd tell a guidance counselor. tell them you want it to stay a private matter and that while it may have been an accident, his actions following the incident have made you uncomfortable. even if this flirtatious behavior is innocent - he should know better.
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Hi,
I am 18 years old.
I am planning to travel overseas for a few weeks this summer. I already bought the ticket, however, my parents do not want me to go. They are saying they can do something to prevent me from going. Is there a way that they can stop me from going?
*I do have OCD, and my sister is saying that because I am in therapy, she can stop me from going. Is this valid?
Thank you! (link)
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I agree that you should ask what their concerns are and then try to soothe these fears. Maybe they are nervous because of your OCD, worried you are too young to deal with your disorder alone in another country. Are you travelling with a friend? If so, have them meet the friend. Travelling is a life changing experience and if you've already bought the ticket, well I think you should go! But don't burn bridges with your family before you go.
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I am a current sophomore in highschool and I'm moving onto junior year pretty soon. I'm in all honors and one AP this year but so far my grades aren't the best. Last tear I took all honors and I received As and Bs except for one FAIL on the second semester of geometry out of 6 classes. This year in the first semester of 10th grade I received a D in Spanish a D in AP World history and an F in honors Chemistry.now in in the second semester and I have a FAIL in Spanish 2 the highest I can raise it at this rate is to a D. I feel like commiting suicide because I can't get into NYU or Columbia or UCBerkeley by the look of these grades. Ps first semester everyone cheated for the classes I did terrible in , so much for being honest. Idk what to do. Dying is my only option now. Is there any hope left for me? (link)
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Maybe you are taking classes that are too difficult for you? Maybe try taking regular classes rather than AP or Honors and see if you can bring your grades up. Also, have you considered getting a tutor and talking to your teachers? Your teachers do not want you to fail and will most likely be flexible if you have valid reasons for doing poorly and clearly want to do better. You are only a sophomore so you have two years to do better. Colleges are also interested in extra curricular activities so once you get your grades up maybe join a school club that is academically based. Hope this helps.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for four months. Whenever we go out he ''doesn't bring his wallet.'' So I have to pay for his stuff every time. He never asks how I'm feeling and I feel like he only likes talking about himself. I love him and I love being with him. But every little thing can annoy me. Like he cancelled two of our plans this week at last moment. That annoyed me so much since it left me with nothing to do both days. Ever since he sexually assaulted me I don't always trust him. He can text me how much I mean to him but doesn't do it in person. I guess I'm trying to ask is it normal for me to get annoyed with him about these things? 15/female (link)
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What do you like about this guy? Honestly, I would dump him and forget him...he sounds awful.
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So, within the last few months ive developed 2 new weird habits that make no sense. I peel off the nail polish on my fingers, as a nervous habit. And i dont know why. If i get started i end up pealing off all of the nail polish on all of my fingers.. no idea why. and the weirdest one is pulling out eyelashes D: not a lot, just like one.. or a few? idk. but sometimes, you get sore eyelashes? and they try to go in your eye and stuff..well when i find those i usually pull the eyelash out so it doesnt bother me anymore. so i find myself finding an eyelash thats bothering me..and pull it out. weird. and idk why.
how can i stop myself from doing these things? (link)
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Ignore the previous advice - it's ignorant and rude.
A lot of people have little habits they do when nervous, such a biting their fingernails or twirling their hair. There's nothing wrong with that, but if these habits make you feel self-conscious or if they feel obsessive that might be cause for concern. Maybe try other activities to help with stress like running or something physical. What happens if you don't wear nail polish for a week? Hope this helps!
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