I'm on the JV girl high school basketball team & we have a summer camp for boys & girls. We have practice basketball practice everyday and we have to exercise in the morning. After that we go into the locker room and take showers, get dressed. I was the last one there and after showering I was standing naked in front of the mirror (this was in the girls locker room, obviously) brushing my hair (otherwise I get really bad knots, but anyway, its not important). My male gym teacher was locking up the locker rooms and he came in to see if anyone was still in the girls room. So....I was totally naked, without a towel or anything and I spun around to face him when I heard someone come in. I didn't even cover myself up with my hands and I'm pretty developed (I'm 17). I just kept apoligzing for like, a minute, I don't even know why and he said it was fine, don't worry, but he didn't look away and I ran into a stall. My friend told me to act like nothing happened. So, we had gym and I tried not to act weird but when I saw my teacher he winked at me and looked my up and down. He kind of gave me this look, like he liked what he saw? I also caught him staring at my chest while running. I don't know, but I'm absolutely mortified and embarrassed. I feel kind of nervous and ashamed, I honestly feel like crying I don't know what to do! Can anyone, please please give me some advice, because I'm so confused right now and I don't now how to face him again!
okay123 answered Monday June 18 2012, 2:26 am: i'd tell a guidance counselor. tell them you want it to stay a private matter and that while it may have been an accident, his actions following the incident have made you uncomfortable. even if this flirtatious behavior is innocent - he should know better. [ okay123's advice column | Ask okay123 A Question ]
Xui answered Sunday June 17 2012, 11:10 pm: Did he knock or shout to see if anyone was in the girls locker room? Either or his behavior is completely unacceptable and inappropriate. Your friend is wrong, You should and need to let someone know about his actions. You did nothing wrong and have nothing to be ashamed of. Your coach has crossed the line.
Why was this man in the women locker room to begin with? This right here raises a concern whether this was his first and only attempt to walk into the ladies room. You need to let someone know, You tell an adult exactly what you've just told us. In the meantime I would keep your distance until this is all resolved. [ Xui's advice column | Ask Xui A Question ]
carayotie answered Sunday June 17 2012, 6:26 pm: What happened was not your fault at all, so do not feel ashamed or embarrassed. After all it is a girls locker room, you have every right to feel comfortable. If anything he should feel embarrassed. He should have knocked or called out for anyone before entering. If he is making you feel uncomfortable because of what happened and he is being inappropriate with winking and staring, you should approach another teacher or a parent about it. Or, you can approach him and tell him to stop. He can lose his job for treating you this way.
Don't let him make you feel this way, it's not your fault.
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