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My boyfriend is ignore me intimately
My boyfriend and I have been together a few months and I really do enjoy him, I met his family and his little girl and we're really happy, we've always had a healthy sexual relationship and never had problems, about a month ago his lease was up, he moved in with his friend and they're looking for a new place together now. However they share a room so I don't get a lot of intimate time with my boyfriend anymore.
Whenever we do get the chance he just gets it over with and doesn't really put any spice into it. On our average night we spend time with our friends which are just 4 guys we both happen to be friends with. I don't mind them. But my boyfriend likes to play video games with them and completely blocks me out, I don't pester him while he plays because I know it would bug him. However he completely ignores me, regardless of what they are doing, videogames, tv, just talking, Whenever we're alone and everyone is gone or at work I try to kiss him and just rub his back and occasionally touch him, he usually brushes me off of him and when he doesn't we have sex and he gets it over and done with, doesn't touch me or anything, I just feel like when we do have sex he feels obligated. Whenever I try to send him a dirty text or just tells him dirty things in general he never say anything back he just says "Oh that sounds great." He never really tries to be intimate with me or anything. The only way I get him to pay attention to me is if I don't touch him or anything. After I ignore him for a few days he comes around but then always goes back to the way it was before hand. I just want to know how to fix this, it's really taking it's toll and I just want him to give me a bit more attention, I don't want all his attention, but he hardly gives me any and it makes me feel bad about myself..
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Yeah I myself had been through this once with my ex I not sure what made me feel that way I think it was because we spent so much time together and things felt like they were always the same over and over again I needed time to myself to do my own thing it didn't mean I wasn't in love with my x because I was but I just felt as if I was bored at times . I always showed her attention but when she wanted to be interment with me I would brush her off or change the subject because I didn't feel like I wanted to like the mood just wasn't there . But when we took time apart I found myself wanting her more and really appreciating her . We worked together lived together did everything together , I guess what I am trying to say is that having a little time out is good and it makes you see how much you miss the one your with . Just give him some time to himself and see if that helps .but also talk to him about this and be honest with him tell him how you feel .
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You have to talk to him. Tell him how his actions make you feel and try to make some compromises. Maybe he needs to go on a guy's night every few weeks, but he should also take just you out sometimes. If you don't tell him he's hurting you, he'll never know.
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