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adviceman49
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Hi – what I really wanted to hear was “You are being paranoid, crazy, and jealous” which would have helped me to trust her more. After we had this talk, she does tell me if the two guys have text/messaged her. And she doesn’t really reply. But I’m still on edge, constantly asking who just text her. It’s stupid, because I really want to get over this. And bless her, she really is making an effort. She’s can’t do much else, except for not talk to them at all. Which I think would be unreasonable (however much I want that to happen).
In regards to us not being public. It’s complicated. We currently live together with other housemates, and when we first got together, she was already in the process of breaking a relationship off (long distance). We didn’t want to make everyone else that we live with feel awkward, even though I’m pretty sure they now know. She’s also worried about what people will think as it’s not been a great deal of time since she broke up with her ex. And finally now, she say’s she doesn’t want to go public because she feels her life isn’t in order. She doesn’t have a permanent job, and may have to move back home. We have to be out of the place we are living now, in a couple weeks and we are searching for somewhere short-term to live. I can slightly understand this, to be honest. Maybe I’m just being delusional though – what do you think?
Thanks for the advice though! :)
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I agree with the trust thing you mentioned and I actually just randomly met the second guy.. by luck I guess. I've never seeked attention cuz I try my best to make my relationships work.. but after taking a break, I know who I'd be happier with, despite the dfficulty. Thanks
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Thanks! Always good to hear from people with experience (:
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Thanks for the advice. I've considered suggesting she see a therapist to help her get through it, I think that would help her. I talked to her about how I have too much going on, and cannot be dragged into it. I did offer emotional support, but when she crosses my boundaries, I agree that I will have to make that clear to her somehow.
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He dumped me already...thank you. I'm starting to see that, he will never change:(
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