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Q: Hi. Iam 15 and i have a lump on my boob. I just noticed it today.. I'm pretty sure it just appeared today. I don't know what it could be. I mean, girls my age don't usually get breast cancer. I know it's possible, but i guess it could also be beningn. My mom told me that she had a benign lump about 12 years ago. Hm, maybe it's that? I haven't told her about it, though.
Please help, what do you think it is? What should i do?
thanks

if your mother had it, it might be hereditary

Q: i got a probably wit my hermones and the doctor told me that my problem is that they produce too much many eggs at a time.. this problem make me break out all the time more each time.. but my question is since i produce a lot of eggs does that mean i can get pregnant faster and that i have to use MORE protection then usually??

no it's just means that you have irreglar ormonial dispatch but douse more protecion!!!

Q: Okay, so ... I'm a month and 7 days late for my period, but I'm NOT sexually active, anyone have an idea of what might be going wrong?

if you are a person who has just gotten her period your period will e irregular fo the first few moths but if it's been atleast a year wait another few days if it hasn't arrived i advise you to consult someone ex:parnt/guardian,or doctor

Q: Okay I want to be gothic and my mom wont buy me anything gothic ... or let me be who I am !!

I am only 13 so therefore I cant buy anything because I dont have a job .. and me and my parents dont get along so please quit saying the same advice you give to everyone else

"talk to your parents .. hope I helped"

NO YOU DIDNT HELP

so please think about it

In my opinion i think theyare going through a hard time realizing your a teenager and you see things ur own way and want to be ore independent and tha teens want to be themselves so i advise you to write a letter or talk to her in person saying that you are not going to change the way you act towards her or your friends or the way you are in school justyour apearance and act on it. Just keep in mind that if she nelects you or doesn't approve that she doesn't realize your evolving from always going to her to keeping a distance from her. if you dont think she this is the reason the alternative is that she doent to be seen with the way you dress in front of other people.
hop i helped, Chitch

Q: i need to find a job fast! im so boredd at home

does any one have any advice on how and what i should do?

if you're walking by stores that you'd really like to work at i suggest you ask if they need any extra help or anything and if that doesn't work out i reccomend you go to stores that pay high or stores where you can work with your friends

Q: okay im 13/f and ive kissed a few guys but i've never made out but i want to but i dont know how.. please help

well what i think you should do is get some tips from someone who you think is the most advanced at it or you could watch a movie that has alot of kissing involved or something like that

Q: i wear glasses and i dont want to take them off when i make out
what do i do is it possible to make out with him if you wear glasses?

yeh tons of people do it i even bet tons of people are making out with their glasses on right now it's nothing to be ashamed of or anything and if it feels uncomfortable the first time you do it i reccomend that you wear contacts or you just take off your glasses

Q: ok for the second half of my summer i want to keep summer going good..any ideas on what me and my friends can do to make this summer memorable?
thanks!
16/f

go on a rip together but you migh need parental supervision

Q: Ok, my hair is very thick and naturally wavy/curly. It takes two to three hours for me to straighten it and I need some other ideas for some hair styles. I tried using one type of gel that said if i scrunch my hair while blow-drying (with this gel in), it would make my hair look curly. But it didn't work. Is there any porduct you recommend? and if you could give me a website or tell me some ideas for my hair that would be great!!! Please respond!! Thanks!

try getting your hair permanently straight and sure your hair migh get frizzy in the morning so all you have to do is straightten it every morning and i gurantee it'll take 15 mins at the most

Q: it hurts when i take my tampon out, is this normal?

in my opinion i think it hurts because you're not leaving it in there long enough to absorb or you are using a tampon that has too high absobency level so might want bump down one

Q: Do you know how to stop deoderant from getting stuck in clumps beetween the folds of your underarms? Im afraid to lift my hands above my head because of all the white clumps of this so called "invisible deoderant" next, when I shave its smooth and there is no hair, yet its all dark, because I have black hair. Do you know any way to stop all the darkness and clumpyness under my arms? And plz, no waxing, cuz im terrified. I rate high

please try using arid dry those deodarants are ally good and useful and if it that doesn't work i reccomend using men's deodarants they absorc more and you can't see the deodrant

Q: Hey. Im 11 years old . and im a girl. Im scared about getting my period.. in 5 grade.. that just ended some girls starting getting there periods. And im scard!
I heard it hurts and stuff
and i dont want to use tampons what if the string came off.. and i have to use tampons to go swimming the pad would come apart..
Help

your perod will not hurt or anything all you'll get is cramps and bloating and sometimes you might get food cravings dn't worry about the tampon and all the the tampons string is sewn into the tampon so it won't detach or anything and if you're still scared i reccomend you not go wimming at all!

Q: Can you change you name on Advicenators with out having to make a new accout and without having to pay?

yes
all you have to do is update your advice coulmn

Q: Ok, well Im 13 female and I haven't gotten my period. But I've been discharging ALOT lately, its Kinda gross. When I wake up There will be so much discharge down there, and like if im climbin over the couch or somethin and it accidently hits "down there" I'll start discharging like crazy. Whats goin on and how long will it last?

you might be close to your period thats what happened to me and after a week or two my period arrived

Q: how long does it usually take for symptoms of STDs to show up?

immediately or it might take time

Q: I'm girl thats 14 and going into 9th grade, but I'm dating a guy thats almost 17 and going into 11th grade. A couple days ago he told me that before he met me, he made out with pretty much all his friends that are girls, and he misses that because he doesn't see me everyday so hes tempted to do things with them. He asked me if it would be ok if he did stuff with them. and still did things with me too, in other words, have friends with bennefits instead of a relationship. I said no because I didnt want to be his piece of ass, so I told him it was over. Now hes asking me to take him back, and I know I shouldnt but deep down I really want to be with him. what do I do!?

no you shouldnt because hes going to make out with other girls without you knowing deep down you might want him because your avoidng the fact he might ask again

Q: so i got this new deoderant at cvs called arid extra dry and it worked! all of the other 100's of deoderents i have and tryed never worked. i use to get all sweaty and my shitrs would get all wet and ew. anyway why does this one work and not the other one?

because some people sweat more than others and those people need extratime

Q: my puppy keeps biting people! he's a two year old doberman pincher, and he's absolutely adorable! but he has this problem with biting. he's made all my friends terrified of him, and the elderly lady across the street had to have stitches (which i had to pay for) when brownie bit her face. (just her cheek) i love him to death, and he hasn't bitten me since he was 6 months old, but i don't know if i should keep him if he's going to attack everyone he meets!

you should if you cantake him to a trainer or tran hi yourself

Q: I need to lose a few pounds!!! Is there any way to lose about 5 or 6 pounds in a week or two? Health tips, Fitness tips, even Beauty tips... I need them all! Please help! Thanks

bally total

Q: Latelty I've put on a bit of weight.
And too much weight for my liking.

I think I'm becoming somewhat obsessed with the way I look, I've started dressing in dark clothes and baggy jeans to hide what I've put on although I know that you can see it anyway.

It's too hot to wear what I'm wearing when walking home from school and I sometimes feel faint from the heat but if I wear something else, it feels like people are staring at me.

I have thought about not eating but I've heard it can just make matters worse so I just kept excersizing and dieting but it's not working! I've been at it at a month and it isn't working!
I don't want to go to a doctor because they'll send me home saying I'm not overweight which I'm not but I don't like the way I look.

I want to skip meals but then I'm scared it's accidently going to get into my head and it's going to become a regular thing and I don't want that. I'm trying hard not to make myself sick after every meal and I'm trying even harder to actually eat.

I just need advice on how to cope.
I don't want to tell my mom, so please don't suggest it. I honestly don't want to tell anyone I just know I need some help.

-- I am NOT doing this to get attention, the only reason I'm asking on advicenators is because it's the only place I know that lets me stay anonymous so it is not for attention and please, if you have nothing helpfull to say please do not say it.

well theres a chemical in your stoach that is very stuborn and will not let your "figure" go skinny it was on commercials and stuff but there is a pill that lets that stubborn chemical budge by taking one pill a day and eating right plus excercising also lets it buge baggy clothes aren't the right way to go just here normal clothes and it'll be alright if you where black but not too much black it'll appear to people you have lost weight