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now im not sure what your bible says, but mine clearly states, that you need 2 things to get into heaven, repent of your sins, and be baptized in the name of jesus christ. not just one BUT BOTH. (link)
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Mark 16:15-16 "Then he told them: Go and preach the good news to everyone in the world. Anyone who believes me and is baptized will be saved. But anyone who refuses to believe me will be condemned." (CEV) In order to truly believe, repentance must take place, but baptism is not a requirement of salvation; belief is. This passage doesn't say "anyone who refuses to believe in me and is not baptized will be condemned". That's because belief (faith) IS the requirement for salvation. Baptism is the outward expression of the regenerated heart of the saved person.
Below are a few passages that back this up.
Acts 10:43-48 "To him all the prophets bear witness that everyone who believes in him receives forgiveness of sins through his name." While Peter was still saying these things, the Holy Spirit fell on all who heard the word. And the believers from among the circumcised who had come with Peter were amazed, because the gift of the Holy Spirit was poured out even on the Gentiles. For they were hearing them speaking in tongues and extolling God. Then Peter declared, "Can anyone withhold water for baptizing these people, who have received the Holy Spirit just as we have?" And he commanded them to be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ. Then they asked him to remain for some days." (ESV) The Holy Spirit could not have come on these people had they not first been made right with God through faith in Jesus. They were saved through faith in Jesus. Peter saw the presence of God on them so then they were baptized showing an outward expression of their faith.
Acts 15:11 But our Lord Jesus was kind to us, and we are saved by faith in him, just as the Gentiles are. (CEV) Saved by faith in Jesus.
Acts 16:30-31 Then he brought them out and said, "Sirs, what must I do to be saved?" And they said, "Believe in the Lord Jesus, and you will be saved, you and your household." (ESV) This one says it all. Saved by faith in Jesus.
Acts 18:8 "....and all the people who had faith in the Lord were baptized." (CEV) They were baptized as an expression of their faith in Jesus.
This one where Jesus appeared to Paul on the road to Damascus and spoke to him. Acts 26:18 ".....that they may turn from darkness to light and from the power of Satan to God, that they may receive forgiveness of sins and a place among those who are sanctified by faith in me." (ESV) We are sanctified (sanctified means separated or saved) by faith in Jesus.
Romans 4:5 "But you cannot make God accept you because of something you do. God accepts sinners only because they have faith in him." (CEV) Again, faith.
There are oodles of passages about Abraham being accepted by God because of his faith and Abraham was not baptized. I could go on, but I think the point has been made. May God bless you!
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In christianity, what is the purpose of baptism and the holy communion? (link)
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Repenting and choosing to have faith in Jesus is what saves a person from their sins. Baptism in and of itself does not save a person. Baptism is an outward expression of his or her inward faith in Jesus.
In Holy Communion, the cracker or bread does NOT turn into the body and blood of Jesus. It REPRESENTS the body and blood of Jesus. Taking Holy Communion causes the person who has chosen Jesus to remember how Jesus' shed blood on the cross gives spiritual life to those who believe.
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So, in my family, mainly everyone is Catholic.
I feel like an outsider because I just recently had an epiphany that the Christian faith, and religion in general, just isn't for me...
Well, I told my family that I still believed in God, but I didn't believe in religion because I believed in simplicity and don't really like fundamentalism.
I don't like how priests, popes, bishops, .etc speak for God. It just doesn't seem right. I also don't like it when we all come home from Church and my parents are talking about what the priest said during the homily, or something like that, but they never ever say what God said at Church.
I just feel really tied down and confused right now.
I told them about this and they totally flipped out. They gave me the whole, "While you live under this roof, you'll believe what we believe" lecture.
What should I do? I feel as though I should be given at least a little portion of freedom.
I'm just so confused right now. (link)
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I don't know your family personally, but I do recognize when a person (like you) is trying to seek out truth and feels tied down by all the man-made traditions of religion. Been there. Down that.
Being a Christian is having a personal relationship with God through Jesus. It's not a list of do's and don'ts. It's not going to church. It's not saying hail Marys. It's not saying meaningless redundant prayers. It's not religion; it's relationship.
I encourage you to seek out a RELATIONSHIP with God. Although your parents need to be honored for the fact that they are your parents, they have no control over your heart. That is where your freedom is. You can give your heart to God by accepting His free gift of grace through Jesus.
Read the Bible yourself and match everything you hear preached to what it says in the Bible. The Bible will ALWAYS be right.
Fundamental is simple. Fundamental means you base your beliefs on something. In the case of a TRUE Christian, the beliefs are based on the Bible. The thing is, so many people who call themselves Christians don't know what they believe because they don't know what the Bible says. Below is a link to an online Bible if you don't have one to read. Start in the book of John. This will give you the truth about Jesus. The book of James will give you a pattern of how to live the Christian life. And ask me anything you want; I'd love to help you understand.
http://www.godtube.com/virtualbible/?gclid=COuxyrPGkJECFQ6CPAod7FYdOA
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How do you convert from being catholic to christian? (link)
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All these answers you got are wrong and I think you know that because you obviously realized that being Catholic doesn't make you a Christian. So I applaud you for asking this question.
Being a Christian is having a personal relationship with God through Jesus. It's not a list of do's and don'ts. It's not going to church. It's not saying hail Marys. It's not saying meaningless redundant prayers. It's not religion; it's relationship.
Jesus Himself is our mediator. So the first thing you need is to realize there is absolutely nothing you can do to be right with God. Being a Christian is accepting God's free gift of Grace, which is Jesus. Repenting of your sins directly to Jesus and truly accepting Jesus as your personal Lord and Savior makes a person a Christian. Again it's relationship, not religion.
Going to church gets you around other believers and helps you learn more about Jesus. Just find a church that teaches biblical truth. You may ask, How do I know what biblical truth is? Read the bible yourself. Start with the book of John (fourth book in the new testament) Reading the Bible is the Word of God, so reading it will show you what God has to say and what pleases Him. Praying is the communication with God that builds the relationship with Him. Prayer is conversation with your friend. Just talk to Him the way you would talk to your best friend because if you know Jesus personally, that's what He is. He's your best friend.
I hope that helps you understand that your question was a very good question.
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I call myself a Christian but i dont go to church. I have been trying to get my mom to take me, but it seems we never have the time. I always feel guilty for this and i know im not agnostic. I really want to be a good Christian, and stay loyal to God. But i find myself always cursing, and always doubting him. Thanks for any advice! :] (link)
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First of all, being a Christian is something you ARE, NOT something you do. Being a Christian means you have a personal relationship with God through Jesus because you have repented and put your faith in Jesus for your salvation.
The first step in being loyal to God is realizing you can do nothing without Him. The Bible says no one can please God without faith. That's where Jesus comes in. Jesus died to pay for your sins in full; it's a free gift. But each of us needs to accept that gift by faith. Once you have repented and put your faith in Jesus and have that relationship, He helps you change the outside stuff like cursing and doubting.
It doesn't matter if you go to church or not, without asking Jesus to be Lord and Savior of your life, you will never know God.
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I would like to read the bible, I am christian , is there a place i can read it online? (link)
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Here ya go....
http://www.godtube.com/virtualbible/?gclid=COuxyrPGkJECFQ6CPAod7FYdOA
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who/what is god?
he who created the universe?
is "he" an unseen entity? bc why do i picture in my head like he looks like a man with long white hair and a long, flowing beard in white robes like zeus except not. hes not a man who created the universe but ppl put this image up of him? (link)
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Those other answers you got are wrong. There is only one true God and He is the one who created the world and everything in it. His most precious creation is human beings because out of all the things He created, humans are made in His image.
The first people were Adam and Eve. Adam and Eve were perfect in every way until the devil came to Eve in the form of a snake and she listened to the devil and sinned. Since then we are all born with what is called a sinful nature. (Just look at a little child. No one has to teach a child to be naughty. A child acts on his/her sinful nature.)
Anyway, That sin separated them from God. God is so holy and powerful that He can't look at sin, and because He loves us so much, He sent His son Jesus to die for us. Jesus is the sacrifice that paid for the sins of every person. Those who repent of their sins and accept Jesus' sacrifice get to be with Him when their body dies. Those that don't will spend eternity with the devil.
You can know God in a very personal way. He knows and loves you. God says in His bible that He wants to give you hope and a future. I encourage you to read the Holy Bible. The Bible is God's Word. You can learn about Jesus and God in this book. Here is a link to read the bible online:
http://www.godtube.com/virtualbible/?gclid=COuxyrPGkJECFQ6CPAod7FYdOA
What you will see at this link will start with the story of creation. Then if you want to read about Jesus, in the spot that says Genesis, scroll down to John, click go and you will read all about Jesus.
Click on link and read. You'll be glad you did.
My column is only a click away if you need to ask me questions.
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What does god want from me? I am 13 and been a christian for 7 years but last month I realized that I need to have a better relationship with god all help is valued. I will take all advice and try to use it..
Allie (link)
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Hello Allie,
It's wonderful you want to have a better... well, let's call it a deeper relationship with God. It sounds like God has laid on your heart that it's time to go to the next level of relationship with Him. This is a big deal, Allie. You are probably in for a spiritual growing time like you have never seen before. Think of it as a caterpillar that's about to be spun into a cocoon. and I'm sure you know what happens after a time of changing; A beautiful butterfly emerges.
A deeper relationship means letting God surround you with His cocoon of protection and letting Him change your life and make you stronger in Him. This may look different for each individual, but it's a matter of lining up your life and desires with what He personally has for you. God wants you. He loves you with a love you can't fathom.
So remember a few things while you're in the cocoon: diligently seek Him - God will reveal to you what lining up your life means and looks like. Prayer is conversation with your Daddy - We need to come before the Lord with respect as a Father, but He is also your Daddy, so climb up in His lap and talk to Him. Don't forget to listen too. Remember God will NEVER forsake you - Even if He "feels" far away, He's not. And finally, Find friends who love the Lord because bad company will ruin you. (1 Cor. 15:33).
Being 13, you are going to be faced with many temptations in the coming years, but with this desire to go deeper with the Lord, you are off to a terrific start.
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Im going through this weird "phase" and it could either be great or dangerous.. I just don't know where I stand or if this is something all christians go through.. the problem is.. I was writing in my diary about all the troubles of being a christian.. when it suddenly hit me that I have an option, instead of constantly wondering if its all in vain, instead of questioning it all, I could take a break from believing.. and figure out if I really want to be a born-again christian. You know - I figured I could either come out with a new joy and stronger belief in Jesus, or just stop believeing (which i doubt would happen!)
Now I guess some would say the devil put these thoughts in my head - but if I didnt believe - then there woudlnt even be a devil who could put them there.
I tried going back - taking back this thought of "going on a break" with my relationship with jesus, but its like its too late.. like I've opened Pandoras box - I have to do it now. Cause even when i try to go back, when I pray, read the bible - it feels like I'm lying - pretending to believe, cause I actually don't. Its like I have no option - I'm going through this phaze - Im on this break - and now I just wait and see what the outcome is.
Its been going on for about 2 weeeks. What do you think about all this? Is it normal? Is it the devil? Should I just stop and put all my might into getting back to the way it was before? Or see where this takes me? Could it have been Gods voice telling me to explore so when I came back I'd be more content?
Any thoughts are appreciated!! (link)
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It's dangerous. Period. You said, "Now I guess some would say the devil put these thoughts in my head - but if I didnt believe - then there woudlnt even be a devil who could put them there."
The truth is there is a devil and he put those thoughts in your mind. Whether you believe there's a devil or not doesn't change the fact that he exists.
Unbelief is one of the devil's weapons. The only thing "normal" about this is that it's a ploy the devil has been using since the beginning of time. If he can get us to doubt God's word, he gets a hold in our lives.
Look what happened to Eve. Gen 3:1 "Now the serpent was more crafty than any other beast of the field that the LORD God had made. He said to the woman, "Did God ACTUALLY say, 'You shall not eat of any tree in the garden'?"
The devil got Eve to doubt what God said.
God's word says in Mark 16:16 "Anyone who believes me and is baptized will be saved. But anyone who refuses to believe me will be condemned." (CEV)
Do you believe that? I hope so, because God's word is true. He doesn't change. He is the same yesterday, today and forever. (Hebrews 13:8)
The fact that you have stepped out of the relationship you have with Jesus means you have believed the same lie as Eve. You either love the Lord with all your heart, mind, soul, and strength and want to obey Him or you don't. There is no going on a break.
There is no greatness in unbelief and God did not tell you to not believe. How do I know this? The bible says in James 1:13 "Let no one say when he is tempted, "I am being tempted by God," for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one."
God may use this situation to show you it's better to be with Him, but God did not initiate this. The devil offered it and you chose to embrace it. The bible says in James 1:14&15 "But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death." (ESV) So, by embracing the thought, you put this pattern into motion.
You said "I tried going back - taking back this thought of "going on a break" with my relationship with jesus, but its like its too late."
It's not to late, but with every passing minute, the pattern you set in motion allows the devil to gain more and more strength making it tougher to go back to Jesus. You need to get on your face before God and repent now. Ask for His mercy and the strength to fight your way back to Him. He will meet you right where you are if you pursue Him with all your heart. Even if your "feelings" don't match your heart yet, don't allow the evil one to discourage you. God is more powerful than the devil. Keep saying no to the devil and yes to Jesus. I'll be praying for you.
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Simply put - it is said that God has a special plan for everyone, and that part of that plan is a bright future, we should trust him, and leave all our troubles with him and all that.. but then why is it that there are so many people, who once upon a time used to be just like me - a teenager, with dreams, and hopes for my future - some even christians who trust in God very much - who end up on the street? Why are there so many loyal christians (Like my mother for example) who end up with bad husbands? It doesnt seem right that they once used to be just like me.. with dreams and hopes, trusting that God would make it happen.. and then STILL end up.. well, miserable.
Should I really trust that He takes care of everything?? Or should I just study hard and try to pursue my dreams on my own? Doesnt that seem wiser?
(I'm falling apart here.. I want to trust Him, sometimes I do.. but from where I'm standing.. my future doesnt seem very bright).
Thank you. (link)
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Yes, you are right. God has a plan for every individual. That means we need to line up our dreams with what God has for us. Not pick our dreams and ask God to come along side and bless it. In other words, when you seek God, don't ask God to bless what you do; ask to do what God will bless.
The bible says in Psalm 37:4-5, "Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act." (ESV)
That means if you delight yourself in what God has for you, you will be fulfilled; you will find joy no matter what things look like in the world around you. I can speak from personal experience that once you seek out God's plan and He reveals it to you, you will look at your plans and thank God you listened to Him.
In our minds, it may SEEM wiser to rally our strength and go after our dreams if it appears God isn't cooperating, but God is much MUCH bigger than our dreams. God showed me a vision once that has stuck in my mind. The vision was this: He and I were in space. He was so big that all I could see was His hand. Off in a far distance was planet earth that looked like the size of a gulf ball. As I stood there in awe looking at His huge hand and then the earth, He said, "Which do you want?" I could've chose the world (my plans) but instead I climbed up into His hand. That vision showed me just how big my Daddy in heaven really was and always will be.
You see, God gave us all hopes and dreams, talents and abilities, but what people do is add what they think it should look like and if it doesn't look like what they thought it should, many dump God and go their own way. One can certainly do that, but that person will never truly know the joy of God's plan. God's thoughts are like a beach that goes on for miles 'n miles 'n miles. Our thoughts are like a single grain of sand. If a person is truly trusting God to guide them, they will conform to God's plan no matter what the circumstances in their life. I know that is easier said than done. And I know it's hard when the sinful nature (self desires) rises up in us and wants to win, but God is bigger, wiser, and Holy.
I don't know each circumstance of why people end up on the street, but I'll bet it's one of two things...either the Lord has made that their mission field (which would mean they are out there spreading the gospel and winning souls for Christ)or, more likely, it's from the bad choices they have made and they really weren't completely trusting God.
God did not promise a life with no troubles, but He did promise life more abundantly for those who have a relationship with Him through Jesus (John 10:10). We just need to grab hold of Him and hang on; especially through the hard times.
IN ADDITION TO: You're welcome. --smiley--
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Hello, since you said it would be alright if I asked you love life questions - here's my first.
After reading your column, I recomitted my life to Christ and prayed for a while. All of a sudden an idea to recontact someone who once hurt me popped into my head.
Its a long story, but I deleted my email account and broke all contact with this boy (who's one year older than me, I'm 16) who used me. He used the fact that I fell in love with him to get what he wanted (physically speaking) and it saddens me to admit; for a while - he turned into my God. I lived for him. So as I found my way back to Christ.. I ended all contact I had with him.
Now I KNOW I'm still not ready to reconnect with him because I still think about him; OFTEN! and I still dream about having agreed to having sex with him so he would have stayed with me. Its almost like I regret doing the right thing.
Now, would it be OK to send him an anonymous email, probably a christian one.. advising him to get closer to God, or should I stay away completely - even if I make sure never to let him know I sent it?
You see, I think I miss him. And I want to email him, to somehow be a part of his life even if he doesnt know that I am.
Would this be dangerous? If it is, of course I won't do it.. my relationship with God comes first.
What are your thoughts on this? How do I know if God himself wanted me to get closure or to approach this guy again; or if it is the devil trying to make me fall back into taht trap??
Sheeesh, you'd think it would be easier to tell the devils evil work and Gods holy work appart, huh?
Sorry it was long! I'll keep it short next time :) (link)
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The question isn't to long, so never worry about that. I am so glad to hear you recommitted your life to Jesus. God bless you little sister! I am so proud of you for truly seeking God's will.
Yes indeed, it can be difficult to discern the work of the devil and God's holy work. The devil loves to twist the truth as he APPEARS to be an angel of light. (2Cor.11:14) The more you seek the Lord in prayer and read the Word, the more you will understand and recognize the difference.
I can relate to the kind of hurt you described. The same thing happened to me, except I got pregnant. Talk about long stories...that's a long one. Unlike you, I didn't know the Lord in a personal way at the time and I ended up in a life of promiscuity. I desired to be loved so much that I was willing to do whatever it took. I never found the love I searched for until I got saved ten years later. The promiscuity thought process left me, praise the Lord, and I was given not only second birth, but second virginity.
The evil one wasted no time to jump right in there and offer my old life back. He figured it worked for so long...but I walked away from that temptation. Even after all that sexual sin, the Lord blessed me. I have been married 17 years to a man who loves me the same way Jesus loves the church. Of course he's not perfect like Jesus, but I wouldn't trade him for the world.
I would say what you described sounds like a dangerous situation to me. For one thing, you mentioned the idea of staying anonymous. I can't judge whether the voice was of God to find closure in this or not, but something that secretive is probably not of God. Now that you recommitted your life to Jesus, the evil one WILL try to lead you astray. If in fact you need closure from this relationship, the Lord will provide you the strength to face this boy. Doesn't seem like you are ready for that. I would advise you to concentrate on your relationship with the Lord right now.
Let me pray for you...Lord, I lift my little sister before you right now and ask you to reveal yourself to her in a way that she can understand; in a way that will give her assurance of YOUR love. I rebuke the evil one in the NAME OF JESUS from having any hold on her especially in this area of her life. I pray that you would take any residual shame, take the hurt and replace it with a strength and peace that can only be from You. And I pray that your Spirit would freely give her the discernment she seeks. Amen
There is peace in this and the more you say no to the devil, the weaker he will get in this area of your life. Hang in there, seek the Lord and if you get thoughts that seem to be pulling you in the wrong direction, repeat 2Cor. 10:5 a hundred times if that's what it takes.
Write me anytime.
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How come in the bible an angel comes to josef and tells him that mary will be giving birth to a son called Immanuel - but then he ended up being named Jesus?
Thanks, I'm just curious :) (link)
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Immanuel means "God with us". The angel was saying that the child was the promised messiah; God in the flesh.
IN ADDITION: I would be glad to give you a biblical perspective on any subject; especially love-life stuff. So ask me about anything at anytime.
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I am a Christian but my entire group of friends is not. I want to tell them about Jesus or my faith, but I constantly find myself afraid of their disapproval, but I need to because it won't be long before I become tempted to go against my beliefs. How do I make my stand? (link)
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First of all, the fear of man is a powerful tool the enemy uses, so God bless you for recognizing this and for realizing your need to witness. I hope you find the witnessing method below to be helpful. It's the best and most productive method of pointing people to Jesus that I have found.
If they become offended, just remember, 2Co 2:14-16 "But thanks be to God, who in Christ always leads us in triumphal procession, and through us spreads the fragrance of the knowledge of him everywhere. For we are the aroma of Christ to God among those who are being saved and among those who are perishing, to one a fragrance from death to death, to the other a fragrance from life to life."
So just do your part by introducing them to Jesus and the Holy Spirit will do His part of convicting their hearts.
Okay...In the natural, it would be correct to say that before someone goes to a doctor they need to know they are sick. It works that way in the spiritual too. Before someone can genuinely embrace Jesus, they need to know they are spiritually sick and actually need Jesus.
The best way I have found to witness is to point out why they need Jesus. I ask them if they think they are a good person. Most people will say yes. Then I ask them if they had ever lied. Again most will say yes. If they say no, that alone is a lie. I ask them if they ever stole something regardless of value. Most will say yes. And you can go through any of the ten commandments. Then you point out that by their own admission, they are a liar, a thief and whatever. Then point out that the Bible says lairs and thieves will go to hell. HOWEVER, there is a way for them to be forgiven...that's when you lay out the gospel. Below is a link with video clips of this method of witnessing. Give it a look and I pray the Holy Spirit to work mightily through you.
http://www.wayofthemaster.com/watchwitnessing.shtml
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i always feel like i am approaching death. like im 15 years old i dont have any real friends anymore. everything i try at, i can't succeed. ive never gotten along with my family at all. it might sound liek im complaining but honestly nohting can go right in my life no matter how hard i try. it just doesnt seem liek there is a place for me in the world at all, or like i dont know i dont feel like the purpose of me being alive is doing good for anyone or myself. i get very very depressed most of the time and i honestly just want to kill myself, liek there really isnt a point ofme staying alive. ive gone to a therapist for over a year but nothing really seems to help.
i guess i dont know what im asking but please help meee, and dont just reply with something like "hang in there it will get better" i want actual advice (link)
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Since you posted this in the spirituality category, I am going to give you an answer based on the Bible.
First of all, there is a purpose for your life. God has a purpose for everyone. Those who embrace God's purpose find life.
Jesus gives life to all who call upon Him. It says in the Bible, "I am the way, the truth, and the life!" Jesus answered. "Without me, no one can go to the Father." (John 14:6)
Jesus also says in the Bible, "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly." (John 10:10)
That thief He is talking about is Satan, the enemy of our souls. Jesus came to save us from the enemy and show each of us our purpose. The first thing you need to do is seek out Jesus. The Bible says, "Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you." (Matthew 7:7)
I encourage you to get a Bible or download one from the internet. Start reading in the book of John which is the fourth book of the New Testament. Pray for understanding. I promise you Jesus will meet you right where you are. He can penetrate the saddest soul and give you life.
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okay i like this guy and he likes me back and he knows that and we're not going out because my parents said i cant date till 18 and i told him to wait till 2 years and he said he will and stuff but then at the same time he said he cant wait because he likes me too much and i told him to wait till 2 years and stuff but then my friends said we're acting like we're bf and gf but then hes getting more clingy everyday and today when he was dropping me off to my class he gave me a hug and HE KISSED ME ON THE CHEEK and i didnt like it even though i like him why is that? and i dont know what to do anymore because he got more clingy and stuff help please?
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I am so proud of you! For one, you respect your parents and two, you respect yourself! That is to be commended!
To answer your situation, you didn't like it because he disrespected you. I'm willing to bet that he sees you as a challenge and is willing to push until he conquers. That's the way guys think. The sad thing is so many girls these days think by giving in to a boy's advances they will find love and that is such a lie.
It's up to you to say no, no, no. If you two are meant to be together, he will realize the diamond that he has in you. However, if he continues to make you uncomfortable, the best thing you can do is stay strong in your principles and walk away from the relationship.
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13, f
I just moved to Moore, OK a couple of months ago. Everything seemd to be okay. Except, Ive been deppressed lately. Not just like once and it goes away or my bf broke up with me deppressed, I mean deppressed on and off. I hide my true feelings, like I'm trying to shoot down my tears with other things. But I can't because either way, i feel way to deppressed to think. With personal problems, school drama, self-esteem issues. I mean Ive gotta a lot of problems. My friend, Rachel, thinks that I should go get some help for it. Like it's major. But I think all that's gonna do is make things worse. So should I just coop up all my stuff and stay deppressed and hide it? Or should I just go to my school counseler. Help me.... before I do someting really stupid. (link)
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There are physical things, like hormones, that can increase the feelings of depression, but overall, depression is a spiritual issue, so bless you for seeking help in this category.
Thirteen is a tough age. The body is going through changes. Kids are mean. Self worth and self image are vulnerable. These are all very real things. However, how a person deals with these things determines whether depression will rule that person's life or not.
Depression grows with a focus on "self". I challenge you to think about this...every time you are faced with a situation that causes the little voices in your head to say things like, "See, you are stupid." or "You are worthless." or "You are fat." or "They don't want me to be their friends." or whatever it is that the voice says, stop and realize where those thoughts are coming from. They are coming from the pit of hell. If the evil one can get you to accept those thoughts as true, he has succeeded at getting you to look at self instead of God.
When you say, "It's impossible." God says, "All things are possible." (Luke 16:27) When you think you can't go on, God says, "My grace is sufficient." (2Corinthians 9:8) When you say, "I'm afraid." God says, "I have not given you a spirit of fear." (2Timothy 1:7) When you feel alone, God says, "I will never leave you or forsake you." (Hebrews 13:5)When you are worried, God says, "Cast all your cares on Me." (1Peter 5:7) And thousands upon thousands of other promises in the bible.
I'm by no means telling you this is an easy ride, but rather offering you hope through this.
If you see a counselor, be sure it's someone who will encourage you in the Lord. And whatever you do, DO NOT take anti depressant drugs. They give a false sense of happiness and in the end make things worse.
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First off, this is pretty long so i appreciate your time in reading this. i received an e-mail today from a person i have never heard of or known, and it was very kind but i however can not tell if it is a real e-mail or just a fraud? here is the e-mail:
Dear Beloved in Christ,
It is by the grace of God that I received Christ, knowing the truth and the truth have set me free. Having known the truth, I had no choice than to do what is lawful and right in the sight of God for
eternal life and in the sight of man for witness of God´s mercy and glory upon my life.I have the pleasure to share my testimony with you, having seen your contact from the Internet. I am Barrister Duke Anslem, the legal adviser to late Mr. and Mrs. David Smith, a British couple they both died in the plane crash late last year. These couples were good Christians, they so dedicated to God
but they had no child till they died. they acquired a lot of properties like lands, house properties, etc.As their legal adviser, before their death, the husband Mr. David Smith instructed me to write his WILL.
Because they had no child, they dedicated their wealth to God.
According to the WILL, the properties have to be sold and the money be given out to a ministry for the work of God.
As their legal adviser, all the documents for the properties were in
my care. He gave me the authority to sell the properties and give out the fund to the Ministries for the work of God.
In short, after their death, I sold all the properties as instructed and I was able to realized $2,000,000.00 (TWO million
US dollars). Instead of giving the fund out for the work of God as instructed by the owner before his death, I converted the fund to myself with the intention of investing the fund abroad
for my personal use. I was afraid of putting the fund in the Bank, because I have to give account to the bank on
how I got the money. I then packaged the fund in consignments and deposited the consignments with a security company. I did not want the
management of the Security Company to know the content of the
consignments, therefore I registered the content of the consignments as
Gold Bars. Now, the security company believes that what I deposited with them was Gold Bars. I had encounter with Christ when
Pastor Benny Hinn was preaching on television concerning Ananias and
Saphira in Acts 5:1-11. After hearing the word of God, I gave my life to Christ and became a born again Christian. As a born again Christian, I started reading my bible and one day, the Lord opened my eyes to Ezekiel 33: 18 and 19 where the word of God says: "When the righteous truth from his righteousness, and committee iniquity, he shall even die thereby. But if the wicked turn from his wickedness, and do that which is lawful and right, he shall live thereby". From the scripture, I discovered that the only way I could have peace in my life is to do what is lawful and right by giving out the fund as instructed for the work of God by the owner before his death.I have asked God for forgiveness and I know that God have forgiven me. But I have to do what is lawful and right in the sight of God by giving out the fund to the chosen ministry for the purpose of God's wok as instructed by the owner before his death.After my fasting and prayers, I asked God to make his choice and direct me to a honest Christian or the chosen ministry that deserves this fund by his Grace. I then came across your address on the Internet as I was browsing through a Christian site, and as a matter of fact, it is not only you or your ministry that I picked on the Christian site initially, but after my fervent prayer over it, then you were nominated to me through divine revelation from God, so these are how I received such a divine revelation from the Lord, how I got your contact information, and I then decided to contact you for the fund to be used wisely for things that will glorify the name of God.I have notified the Security Company where I deposited the consignments that contained the fund, that I am moving the consignment abroad and the security company has since been waiting for my authority for the consignment to leave and move to abroad.So if you know that you will use this fund honestly for things that will glorify God's name, then do urgently contact me and the details will be given to you on how you will be able to receive the fund in your country through the security company.You should also forward to me your contact address, telephone and fax number for easy communication .Your prompt response will be highly appreciated.
Yours in Christ.
Barrister Duke Anslem.
thanks for any help you provide!
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I get this same email all the time. Many times it's the same wordage with different signatures. It's a fraud. Delete it.
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Im a girl & i am 13 years old. I really really like this guy. Im head over heals for him, and i feel so good when im around him. heres the problem: he's taken. I know i need to just wait my time, but I feel that if i wait any longer i will BURST! School starts in one week...and him & his gf both go to my school. I would just avoid him, but i go to a private school with only 10 kids in my class. I like him so much, but i know better than to tell him i like him when he is dating a differnt girl....but when hes with her & im there i pretty much dont exsist. please help me. :(
-heartbroken
i know this is kinda akward but please help me =]
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Oh sweetie...I know this is hard for you and what you are feeling is real, but you're only 13. If this boy is your soul-mate, God will bring you and him together in His perfect timing.
For now, you have to fight these feelings with everything you got and let him go. That may not be what you wanted to hear, but being with a boy at such a young age will get you in trouble.
Imagine if you had that much desire and affection for Jesus. Love Jesus as much as you love this boy and I promise you will grow strong in spirit and wisdom. If you have wisdom, everything else in life will fall into place.
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Why does God allow terrible things to happen to good people? My 14 year old cousin has a brain tumor and he is just the most amazing kid. So full of life, absolutley loves the Lord, and so active. His dad is a pastor and his mom is so wonderful. Doctors have said a few times that he could die soon, but he has defied the odds. But then there is still part of the tumor in his brain, and we have searched hard for doctors that will preform a surgery to take it out, but it is too dangerous and could leave him paralyzed, or worse, he could die. Our family has some strong believers and we believe he will be a walking miracle. But i still don't understand why God allows this to happen to such an innocent child. I know some of it is because he is testing our faith and wants us to believe and trust Him. But why????? (link)
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It's heartbreaking when tragedy, pain, or sickness strikes a person, especially one who loves the Lord and especially-especially when it's a young one.
The fact that your cousin has defied the odds speaks volumes about the Lord's great love and mercy. No one knows how that may be speaking to a doctor or nurse, another patient, unsaved family members and whoever else is watching.
You seem to understand that God allows things like this to be used for His glory and drawing us closer to Himself. This is good because so many people become angry, blame God, and end up bitter and hard-hearted.
However, the "why" question in general goes back to the fact that we live in a fallen world. The evil one is limited when it comes to those who are saved because those who are saved by the blood of Jesus live IN the fallen world, but are not OF it. Jesus said in John 16:33, "...In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world."
The "why" question for each individual case can only be answered by the Lord Himself. Sometimes He reveals it right away, sometimes it takes awhile; sometimes He doesn't reveal that answer at all. But no matter what, remember that God's sovereign hand is on each of His children and that is what we need to rest in.
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I recently allowed the Lord into my life, and i really want to do what pleases Him. However, i want to date. And i know it will be a little bit more difficult because my morals and values have definitely changed. I was wondering, what are some things i need to look for in a boy that won't allow me to turn away from God? Do i need to date a Christian as well? (link)
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First of all, WELCOME to the family of God! That is so cool that you chose the Lord!
This is a tough question to answer without knowing your personal situation and especially not knowing how old you are. But from what I've seen, right after a person gets saved, the devil LOVES to throw a love relationship at them. Why? Because it's a perfect way to get their focus off the love they just discovered in Jesus; no matter what age they are.
My advice is to focus on the Lord right now. The Lord will bring you and your future husband together in His perfect timing, but for now Jesus wants your attention. He wants to love on you as you seek Him. He wants to open a whole new world for you. You obviously are experiencing a little bit of this already since your morals and values have changed, but there is a whole bunch more to come.
However, I will give you some practical advice; don't "date", (especially if you are young and in high school) rather go places within a group situation as friends. Never find yourself alone with a boy; it's a tempting danger that will drag you away from Jesus. And absolutely never hook up with a boy who does not know Jesus. The bible says not to be yoked with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14).
I praise the Lord you asked me this so I can be praying for you. Peer pressure is tough, but find your strength in God, 'k?
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