it just doesnt seem like there is a place for me in the world at all
Question Posted Monday October 22 2007, 2:27 am
i always feel like i am approaching death. like im 15 years old i dont have any real friends anymore. everything i try at, i can't succeed. ive never gotten along with my family at all. it might sound liek im complaining but honestly nohting can go right in my life no matter how hard i try. it just doesnt seem liek there is a place for me in the world at all, or like i dont know i dont feel like the purpose of me being alive is doing good for anyone or myself. i get very very depressed most of the time and i honestly just want to kill myself, liek there really isnt a point ofme staying alive. ive gone to a therapist for over a year but nothing really seems to help.
i guess i dont know what im asking but please help meee, and dont just reply with something like "hang in there it will get better" i want actual advice
I agree with most of them saying this is common for teens to go through (as a teen I myself ended up having to see a therapist for having "passive thoughts of suicide") Someone mentioned finding something you are good at and go for it for all the strength you have. Art? Music? Building model cars? Fixing electronics? Interior decorating? I dont know but find something. Pray for the strength to keep it up.
If nothing else works... there is always a chance you could have an actual chemical imbalance in your brain that could be helped by getting put on an anti-depressant. The negative stigma of this is going by the wayside and I feel anyone who gets the mental help they need should be hugely proud of themselves. You took the first step. You admitted in the spirituality section of an advice column that you are depressed and need help. Good for you for recognizing it!!! Now try the next step. You are worth it. In a few years you can talk to a 15 year old going through the same thing and help them. Just remember, you are an extremely important person... God knows. [ familyfirst's advice column | Ask familyfirst A Question ]
skylalou_1 answered Tuesday October 23 2007, 11:06 pm: A lot of teens go through this.. trust me your not the only one.. well, you did put this under the spiritual section, so I'm gonna give you spiritual advice.. There's a lot of people who go through this kind of depression, I was going through some, but I knew Satan was trying to bring me down.. Same goes for you, Satan is trying to destroy you.. If you thought about suicide, then Satan tried to let you know that you aren't worth anything, and trust me, he'd luv it if you actually commited suicide.. The Bible says that Jesus came to give eternal life, but Satan came to kill, steal, and destroy and that's what he's trying to do with you. I'm not going to lie, it's hard getting out of depression. you should try to find you some Christian friends, and you might tell me that you've already tried that, but I'll pray that you find some true Christian friends, and you should pray that you find some as well. When I read this, it honestly made me cry.. It hurts me to hear when people say they feel like they're nothing in the world and they feel like sometimes suicide is the only way.. but honestly, the truth is if you kill yourself, then you'll just go to hell.. i'm not trying to be mean, but it's true. and even though i don't even know you, I would want to see you in Heaven though one day, so please never feel like you need to commit suicide, Jesus is the only way to life!!! maybe you should try to read the Bible alittle, if you have you, just start reading anywhere you want in the New Testament, it'll give you strength to deal with what your dealing with. I would really luv to just talk to you one on one, I'm also trying to get over depression, and sometimes you just need that extra shoulder to lean on... W/B if you wanna plzz.... Skyla [ skylalou_1's advice column | Ask skylalou_1 A Question ]
mylordwon answered Tuesday October 23 2007, 2:38 am: Since you posted this in the spirituality category, I am going to give you an answer based on the Bible.
First of all, there is a purpose for your life. God has a purpose for everyone. Those who embrace God's purpose find life.
Jesus gives life to all who call upon Him. It says in the Bible, "I am the way, the truth, and the life!" Jesus answered. "Without me, no one can go to the Father." (John 14:6)
Jesus also says in the Bible, "The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly." (John 10:10)
That thief He is talking about is Satan, the enemy of our souls. Jesus came to save us from the enemy and show each of us our purpose. The first thing you need to do is seek out Jesus. The Bible says, "Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you." (Matthew 7:7)
I encourage you to get a Bible or download one from the internet. Start reading in the book of John which is the fourth book of the New Testament. Pray for understanding. I promise you Jesus will meet you right where you are. He can penetrate the saddest soul and give you life. [ mylordwon's advice column | Ask mylordwon A Question ]
beckyboo5291 answered Monday October 22 2007, 10:46 pm: You know your not alone. A lot of people feel this way. I do. I don't feel at all close to my family and I have friends but if they ever moved away I don't think I'd bat an eye. But I'll just tell you what i tell myself....
"I'm only 16...in two years I can move out and go to college. Once there I can make friends and find a good guy to date. I'll graduate from college and get married. I'll find the perfect guy who will love me and be by my side so I am never lonely. I'll have children and be the greatest mom."
This is actually my dream. To be a mother with a loving husband. Sometimes I feel like it's a far-fetched dream but it really isn't. It might sound odd but I lie to myself. Telling myself that I have a purpose (even if I have no idea if I really do or not.)
You can't kill yourself. You have to get older and the pieces will start falling into place. That's what I believe. You don't know your purpose in life yet because your stuck at home. But once you get out into the world...then you'll see. [ beckyboo5291's advice column | Ask beckyboo5291 A Question ]
BEKAH answered Monday October 22 2007, 9:01 pm: I'm going to do what you told me not to do and say hang in there. -lol- I'm only 18 and I suffered the same thing not too long ago and it has stayed with me sence but I just push it off and not think about it. I tried to kill myself multiple times. Od'ing , cutting, etc. Maybe you should consider getting checked into a hospital. Thats what happened to me. I did that and got put on anti-depressants. They helped! It runs in the family so you know, well atleast mine did. I have had 13 aunts n uncles from each side of the family and all almost all 26 of em have been diagnosed w/ some sort of depression or bipolar. My moms side is alot worse for bipolar though. It helped me to interact with my family alot. Do you have brothers or sisters? All of my problems gave me a chance to get close to all 5 of mine. Also pick up some sort of thing you might find fun. Heck i used to always pick fights with preppy people then i found myself being on the cheer squad my senior year and i swam. I also got into movies, cooking, sewing, and my craziest obsesssions like serial killers and elvis. Learning about differnt things interested me like crazy and they got my mind off alot of other things. Maybe you should find a passion. Something your crazy about. Mine varies. maybe you should consider one of mine. and if you ever need anyone to talk to my yahoo is firstname.lastname@example.org i can help you through this if u need it. plus im not a therapist.. them ppl pissed me off like crazy when i went to see them. they asked me ever five minuts and how does that make you feel. See.. see the humor in others flaws.. it might make you giggle and realize your not alone.. hope i helped.. or gave you something to read for a good five minuts.. and hey thats 5 les minutes you didnt' think about killing yourself right? [ BEKAH's advice column | Ask BEKAH A Question ]
bobochobo answered Monday October 22 2007, 6:36 pm: Suicide is not the answer. find something you enjoy (sport ect) or join some kind of club and hope some one there is like you. With your like school, go get some books from a library on work and stuff, or look it up on the net.
Dont give up cause there r lots of things u can try! [ bobochobo's advice column | Ask bobochobo A Question ]
karenR answered Monday October 22 2007, 10:49 am: All teens go through times like you are. Most snap out of it quick enough but may have it off and on.
Others need to seek help, which you have. Just know you aren't alone.
As a teen you have so many hormones bombarding you all at one time. You are going through other changes too. You are thinking about boys, learning to drive, thinking about what you want to do in the future, Most are trying to keep up with all the latest fashions. being a teenager is a stressful time.
Trust your therapist. He/she will keep what you tell her to herself. So don't hold back. You might ask if she has a teen group meeting. It might be
helpful for you to talk to others going through the same things. :) [ karenR's advice column | Ask karenR A Question ]
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