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my roommate is getting on my nerves
I'm a 19 female. I just got married 2 months ago and recently my husband and I rented an apartment. I love it here and things are going great..except for one thing. I invited a friend of mine to come live with us because he is leaving for a year in Iraq so I wanted another person in the house. Me and my husband smoke...alot. Two days ago she turned to me and told me she didn't want me or cook to smoke in the house anymore. I told her I would talk to him and discuss it with him. It's getting cold and it's my house I don't want to go outside. He told me to compromise with her and tell her we'll only smoke in the bedroom with the window open. I told her this and she said that she didn't want us to do that either because it goes into her room and she gets sick. We are trying to compromise but she wants it her way or she said she was gonna leave. It would be fine except that I have seen her smoke before and been around people that smoke. I am too the point that I want her gone. I can't stand being in the same room as her. Please someone help me so I don't kill my roommate...
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I can see why she doesnt want you guys smoking in the house because im just like her. I cant stand smoke. But its not right for her to give u guys attitude and it seems like she's being really ungreatful. I dont see the problem with you guys just smoking in your room. And if it botheres her that much then why cant she open her window and let the smoke out. If she wants to act like that then maybe she doesnt need to be staying with you guys.
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Alright then, she needs to leave.
A lot of smokers don't smoke in thier own home and don't want to live surrounded by it. Frankly, I don't know any smokers who do smoke in thier own home... but that might be a canadian thing. Most renters agreements have 'no smoking except outside' built right into them here.
Legally, what she did when she requested a smoke-free enviroment, was perfectly fine. She has a right to expect that. Doesn't matter if she smokes like a chimney herself, so long as she does it outside.
If you and our husband wont stop smoking, and she can't live with it, then you needs to respectfully part ways. She has done nothing wrong. Tell her you are sorry but she will need to find somewhere else to live.
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In my honest opinion I think that you need to explain to her that shes your friend and that you love her however your room is your space as is hers hers therefor you have to explain this to her and also explain that although you love her as a friend you love your husband and need him and as this is your year with him before he moves to Iraq you want it to happy as you will be parted from him for a long period of time. This must be heartbreaking enough for you and you must tell her that you need her services as a friend now more than ever and ask her to understand. If she doesnt let her move out and then a week or so before your husband goes ask her or someone else to move in unless of course you need the financial help!!
hope I have helped and that you find a compromise for you and your friend.
good luk.
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Let her leave. Getting married and then having a friend move in with you just won't work. As you can see. Its your home and you shouldn't have to compromise for one thing. I'm sure she knew you smoked before she moved in.
It either truly bothers her or she is looking for a reason to get out. Let her go and preserve your friendship. Unless you need a roomie to help make ends meet, live on your own. It takes a bit but you will soon enjoy the time with yourself. :)
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