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Okay... Usually I'm one of those people who take advice.. and alot of it! I've come to find though that I have alot of good advice to give. I come from a HUGE family, so if you need any family advice i'm most likely here to answer it all for you! It's sorta a been there done that situation. I'm one of six amazing kids and i'm next to the baby. I'm 18, I have 2 brothers [8, 21] and 3 sisters [21,21, and 19]. I have two sorta crazy whacked up parents that i love deeply. I have 4 in-laws. I also have 4 amazing nephews.. I know alot about babies too on that note. I know alot about computers for w/e reason. I give credit of that to my uncle and my old teacher that I had 6 years straight. I know about alot of stuff.. Need an idea for a history project.. I'm like a history guru n a half.. big nerd and my brother is a soon to be history teacher. I'm in Beauty school if u need hair tips as well..... I know music too, money, and im queen of awkard situations .. I can help just about ne1 with those.. I stole from a store once and got caught. I'm prolly one of the only x cheerleaders who have went to a voactional school for Carpentry (Which i got n a fight w/ a girl there, and got n a fight with a cop n the principal) and then got kicked out. Waddah life right? I have 12 aunts n uncs from the moms side not including the ppl they've married. Then i have 16 from the fathers not including the inlaws. I know how to deal with death quite well. Actually now as i'm typeing this i lost a uncle that was very dear to me last night, and my other favorite uncle only but a month n a half ago. I've done the whole anti depressant bipolar thing. It runs in the family. I have consistand mood swings. I'm hard to read so you never know whats really on my mind. I am also very smart when it comes to animals. I only have like 12 cats and 2 dogs 2 horses and 2 hermet crabs. I used to have like the whole farm thing w/ the chickns too! crazynessss.... I really don't know what else to say.. 0o000oo.. wait.. I have loved to.. i don't know if i mentioned that or not. I have been with a guy for almost 4 years now. I love him dearly! I've been to hell and back w/ him and i wouldn't of done nething different to change it..... yadda yadda yaddah~! =D
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What's a nail polish that is like clear but when the light hits it a certain way it looks green and also pink. I used to have it but I don't remember what shade it was and who made it... (link)
Sounds like its eradescent.. I don't think i spelled that right but thats what it sounds like! Differnt brands make it.. I'd personally prefer OPI cause theres is really pretty! :D


okay.
so me & my boyfriend had sex, for the second time. He went in like 10 times and pulled outt cause he didn't wanna [ cum ] in me. so he pulled out and stuff. when he pulled outt my " stuff " was all over his thingg. Maybe a day or two after that i've had serious migranes, heat sweats out of no where, and veryy tired and weak. Now its supposed to be my time of the month. All my friend have got theirs and i usually get mine kinda close to when they do. I havent got it yet but i'm having like all the syptoms of getting my period. do you think i'm pregnantt? i am so scareddd. i'm only 14. i don't know what to do. sometimes when i'm stressed and stuff my period doesn't come but thats rare. & sometimes it comes at diffrent times. i keep feeling like i'm gonna get my periodd but its just discharge. GOD i've been crying for about 5 days straight. i can NOT talk to my mom about itt, or my 16 year old sister. so theres no way i can get a pregnancy testt. whats the deal? please please please help meee ASAP !!
thank you so much, & be honest please. (link)
Honestly anythings possible, but if you were saying you had those 2 symptons two days afterwords that still wayyy too soon to tell! I mean my periods are irregular as well.. I get them for like 2 weeks stop a week and start again.. differnt stuff in the differnt months. If your have the period symptons your most likely goingto start. you should be safe next time and atleast wear a condom or something! It's really hard being a pregnant teenager! Hope i helped a lil! =D


How can I be more of an individual.
I am sick of being like everyone else and doing what everyone else is doing all the time.
What sort of things can I wear so I can have more of an individual style? What accessories could I use?
Do I need to find new interests?

Thanks everyone who can help.xx (link)
I'm prolly the Queen of Standing out and being weird! I don't even try to thats the thing. I just like awkard stuff. Maybe you should just really be you. I mean there has to be something that you like alot and maybe u can start off with that. See me Im infatuated w/ serial killers and other random history things. I'm in to rock music but i still love elvis.. just kinda see what all you like and piece them all together. Personally since your a girl.. well first question do u like eyeshadows? I personally


Okay, first i'll say i'm 15 years old. After I pee, I usually feel like I still kind of have to pee afterwards like my bladder hasn't completely emptied. I don't have to go like REALLY bad but I feel like I kind of have to. And I always feel wetness "down there" and I'm not sure if i'm like leaking really small ammounts of urine or if it's discharge. And I also have an odor down there. I have no idea what this could be and i'm really embarrassed to talk about it. If I went to a doctor i'm scared they woudn't know what was wrong with me. Is this really weird? (link)
It's most likely a UTI! Urinary Tract Infection. I don't know if i spelled that right though. You could also have some sort of yeast infection! I've heard u could get UTI's from multiple things. Hair getting in your crotch if you shave in the bathtub, Having SEX, Holding your pee. Etc. The list goes on. You might want to go to the doctor and get it checked out cause it could possibly be something worse!


i need help to just let go. i've never liked dancing, but i signed up to be an extra in a play and guess what? i have to dance! oh yay. anyways i'm okay with choreographed stuff, but not when they tell me just do what you want. like in the end we're in two lines and everyone takes a turn going down the middle doing whatever dance you want. i just skipped and stuff last time and they said to give them more. i'm just not comfortable with it. never have been and i can't quit now the play is next weekend, have any ideas? any dances that are silly you can tell me? any advice, thank you so much =]

oh and please don't just say let go just have fun, do whatever you want. i can't.i think i have like a problem but i don't know. like when i wanted to do cheerleading, me and my best friend started practicing and she knew a cheer, we learned it, said it together, then she told me to start it, i tried but could not spit the words out, i couldn't, i don't know why..but i couldn't. (link)
This is really funny to me cause im the exact same way. If your not afraid to do anything and you just really want something silly to do and fill the time do like the macarana, seawalk, The lawnmower, the walk the dog, go fishin. You've watched superstar haven't you? Do some of the stupid stuff that guy does. Or maybe you can get really gutsy and do the soldier boy dance... or another idea.. look up this...
i don't know if this showed up right or not but its called the evolution of dance and a guy does some pretttttttty funny stuff in it! =D Hope i helped some~!


I have a neice who lives with me, only seven years old. Im fourteen, and you know, we fight alot. This really aggravtes my parents, and Rays (Neices name) mom. But they dont believe me when i say that she starts most of the fights. Anyways, getting to the point. I really dont want to tell my parents or my friends this but- sometimes she really gets under my skin, and hurts my feelings. I know, it sound so stupid, but we used to be really close when she was little, i dont know what happened. I really dont. When i pass by her in the family room, shes watching tv, and VERY INNAPPROPRIATE THINGS! She watches mtv, and shes only seven! Shes clearly (in our family) not allowed to watch anything pg-13. Fair enough, so SHE DOES. She has full control of the remote, and knows where all the channels are. I just caught her watching jerry springer! Ive tried telling my mom and dad, but they wont listen to me. They say shes just an 'innocent little girl' and how the heck could she watch something like that?
WRONG
seriously, i think this is getting to her head, she just said her first curse word yesterday, i curse alot, lol, but i mean shes only SEVEN! I really dont want her to grow up badly.
HELP! (link)
You should be lucky that shes not as bad off as some other kids. I have two little cousins who can name most of the drugs that are abused by adults and they will straight up tell you when their mom and dad are having sex. The little girl just turned 8 and the little boy is 6. They also cuss their parents out and spit in their faces. I also have a little brother. He's 8 and hes also very spoiled. He's allowed to do what he wants (family guy,R rated movies etc.) but he doesn't cuss, he gets his mouth washed out or threatend to get his games taken away. It's really not your job to try to raise someone else's kid. I know shes your cousin and you feel that you need to do something and the fact shes always in your hair doesn't help. Try to avoid her. Thats what i do with my brother. Lock yourself in your room, threaten to take their stuff away, and if that doesn't help catch her up in what she does. It can't be that hard. Shes only 7 right?


does anyone hav freckales that knows of any good cover up to get rid of them??? (link)
mary kay covers mine up and some brands of covergirl.


My ipod just froze what do I do? I connected it to my computer but nothing happened. Mine is one of those ipod video if that helps. (link)
My friend had the same problem with hers. She let it set on till it eventually went dead cause nothing else we did would work. After it goes dead just plug it back in and it should work~!


i always feel like i am approaching death. like im 15 years old i dont have any real friends anymore. everything i try at, i can't succeed. ive never gotten along with my family at all. it might sound liek im complaining but honestly nohting can go right in my life no matter how hard i try. it just doesnt seem liek there is a place for me in the world at all, or like i dont know i dont feel like the purpose of me being alive is doing good for anyone or myself. i get very very depressed most of the time and i honestly just want to kill myself, liek there really isnt a point ofme staying alive. ive gone to a therapist for over a year but nothing really seems to help.

i guess i dont know what im asking but please help meee, and dont just reply with something like "hang in there it will get better" i want actual advice (link)
I'm going to do what you told me not to do and say hang in there. -lol- I'm only 18 and I suffered the same thing not too long ago and it has stayed with me sence but I just push it off and not think about it. I tried to kill myself multiple times. Od'ing , cutting, etc. Maybe you should consider getting checked into a hospital. Thats what happened to me. I did that and got put on anti-depressants. They helped! It runs in the family so you know, well atleast mine did. I have had 13 aunts n uncles from each side of the family and all almost all 26 of em have been diagnosed w/ some sort of depression or bipolar. My moms side is alot worse for bipolar though. It helped me to interact with my family alot. Do you have brothers or sisters? All of my problems gave me a chance to get close to all 5 of mine. Also pick up some sort of thing you might find fun. Heck i used to always pick fights with preppy people then i found myself being on the cheer squad my senior year and i swam. I also got into movies, cooking, sewing, and my craziest obsesssions like serial killers and elvis. Learning about differnt things interested me like crazy and they got my mind off alot of other things. Maybe you should find a passion. Something your crazy about. Mine varies. maybe you should consider one of mine. and if you ever need anyone to talk to my yahoo is love_da_buddah@yahoo.com i can help you through this if u need it. plus im not a therapist.. them ppl pissed me off like crazy when i went to see them. they asked me ever five minuts and how does that make you feel. See.. see the humor in others flaws.. it might make you giggle and realize your not alone.. hope i helped.. or gave you something to read for a good five minuts.. and hey thats 5 les minutes you didnt' think about killing yourself right?


hey everyone,
well I have a boyfriend and we have sex and all that and I'm always wet and stuff, but I don't know why but my pussy smells weird/bad and I don't like that smell, I always take a shower clean my self and all that, like what is causing that smell? how do I get rid of that smell, I get so embrassed, but he doesn't care, but I do it makes me seem dirty, but I clean myself and shower like everyday (I'm a neat freak) so please help! has it happened to you? help! how do I get rid of this smell?

thanks for the help =] (link)
This problem actually occurs with alot of women. Some of which is worse then others. Use vagasil like the others told you to! Thats supposed to be one of the best for this problem. Maybe you should consider doucheing as well. That helps someties too.


So for the halloween party i am going to i'm wearing a striped black and white shirt it's with a zipper so i'm gonna zip it half way up and denim mini shorts and flats. What can this costume be? (link)
You could always say that your a ring girl!
Orrr...... you could get a head band and some how put some adhesive on it and stick some sort of leight weight shoe on top and say that your a piece of zebra gum (stripes) stuck underneath a shoe! Personally Denim and Stripes don't sound right togehter but I haven't seen it so who am i to judge. You could also say that your like the female version of Al Capone and you just got out of jail, due to your case of syphlis or w/e it was that he had. =D Sorry thats all i got...


I am naturally thin. I'm not like 100 pounds or anything because I'm tall, but thin. People say my legs and arms and body are too straight, too thin, but that's just the way I'm built: very straight frame, not a lot of difference in calve and thigh widths. My doctor says I have a perfectly healthy weight, but I am very much bothered by friends telling me that I am too skinny or people telling me I am anorexic (this is ridiculous because you can't see any ribs or my spine.) I need a way to politely tell people that I am perfectly healthy, thank you, without seeming like I'm in denial and convince them that I am too thin. Thanks in advance for any help. (link)
I used to have the same problem but now i've gained weight. I am 5'10 n a 1/2 so people would always look at me like wow, are you making yourself throw up. My sister Jessica used to do that so they straight up thought I was doing the same. Really people are just self conscious of what they see themselves as and thats why they take it out on others. Your most likely just a easy target considering your build. I wouldn't take it to heart if I were you. Consider it a compliment while your still skinny. If it keeps getting to you thought just sit and have a talk with the person saying this stuff to you. Tell them it offends you and make them feel bad like they're giving you a complex. If that doesn't work then they're really not worth tlaking to. Hope i haven't offended you either, and hope you take this into consideration and get some enlightenment out of it.


ok so im planning on doing a strand of my hair [its light/medium blonde] either red or blue with koolaid. kind of the avril lavigne look. ive googled and read up on how to do it but i just have some questions if youve done it before.

1. it says dont wear light colored clothes, but it doesnt say for how long. does that mean for like days or just while you dye it?
2. will the color run off onto everything it comes in contact with? sheets, clothes, etc?
3. apparently it seems as if mixing it with conditioner makes it permanent and mixing with water makes it temporary?
4. does toothpaste really take it out?

any other tips?
and yes i have tried the store bought stuff but i just want something thatll last a little longer so no need to preach to me. (link)
Personally I can't help with the kool-aid thing but i have dyed my hair differnt colors plenty of times. I currently have black hair with red highlights and its stayed this color for about 2 months or more now, without alot of fade going on. I could tell you to go to a professional who knows what they're doing, and who has done it before. I didn't do that the first time i dyed mine and it turned out horrible. There are also alot of differnt types of product you can get to help hold the color. I'm using sunfire RED enhancing conditioner by Graham Webb. You should try it. It works really good!




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