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TOO YOUNG!
I have a neice who lives with me, only seven years old. Im fourteen, and you know, we fight alot. This really aggravtes my parents, and Rays (Neices name) mom. But they dont believe me when i say that she starts most of the fights. Anyways, getting to the point. I really dont want to tell my parents or my friends this but- sometimes she really gets under my skin, and hurts my feelings. I know, it sound so stupid, but we used to be really close when she was little, i dont know what happened. I really dont. When i pass by her in the family room, shes watching tv, and VERY INNAPPROPRIATE THINGS! She watches mtv, and shes only seven! Shes clearly (in our family) not allowed to watch anything pg-13. Fair enough, so SHE DOES. She has full control of the remote, and knows where all the channels are. I just caught her watching jerry springer! Ive tried telling my mom and dad, but they wont listen to me. They say shes just an 'innocent little girl' and how the heck could she watch something like that?
WRONG
seriously, i think this is getting to her head, she just said her first curse word yesterday, i curse alot, lol, but i mean shes only SEVEN! I really dont want her to grow up badly.
HELP!
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You have a 7-year-old niece living in your household. That right there poses two problems in my mind. One is that your niece clearly has something going on in her life for the simple fact she doesn't live at home with her own parents. The second is, being only 14, you are a kid too... a bigger, more mature kid, but a kid.
The suggestions I have to offer are 1. You do not need to discipline her. That is up to the adults. If you are truly concerned about her, tell her. Sit down with her sometime when she's having a calm moment and seems willing and able to chat with you. Be open with her. Tell her you care about her. Perhaps offer to spend more time with her so you two can continue to be close. She may really need that given her home situation is likely causing her stress. 2. Given that you are 14 over her 7... you need to be the more mature one. I think you will find if you are more respectful to her, spend more time with her, chit chat with her about things, (you may even have to stoop to Barbie's once in a while!!)etc... she will be less likely to "want" to see you in trouble and you may find you have quite a nice little sister in your little niece. Sing and dance in front of a mirror with her, play with make up with her, do her hair. Bond. I think she may not know how to tell everyone she needs someone (likely YOU) because she is lonely and maybe even a little scared or confused.
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Okay, so it seems to me like you've had enough. I know exactly how you feel. I have a little sibling who seriously gets on my nerve 24/7! she loves getting me in trouble, too.
you really do have to learn how to be the better person, if you know what I mean. If she is getting under your skin, ignore her!! That's the thing little kids hate the most. I know it sounds tough, but you have to get used to keeping your tongue inside your mouth (oh, you know what i mean!!!)
as for Ray watching naughty things, that really isn't your problem. So don't worry about it! It is for Ray's mom to deal with. believe me, she wlil catch on.
when your niece screams and shouts, don't tell her to stop!!! don't do anything!!! walk away calmly, and show her that she cannot get to you.
so, she acts like an "angel", why don't you pick up the act too?!
it takes two to tango. don't give in!!
let me know how everything goes!
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You should be lucky that shes not as bad off as some other kids. I have two little cousins who can name most of the drugs that are abused by adults and they will straight up tell you when their mom and dad are having sex. The little girl just turned 8 and the little boy is 6. They also cuss their parents out and spit in their faces. I also have a little brother. He's 8 and hes also very spoiled. He's allowed to do what he wants (family guy,R rated movies etc.) but he doesn't cuss, he gets his mouth washed out or threatend to get his games taken away. It's really not your job to try to raise someone else's kid. I know shes your cousin and you feel that you need to do something and the fact shes always in your hair doesn't help. Try to avoid her. Thats what i do with my brother. Lock yourself in your room, threaten to take their stuff away, and if that doesn't help catch her up in what she does. It can't be that hard. Shes only 7 right?
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