Gender: Female
Location: Rhode Island
Occupation: Student
Age: 16
Member Since: October 21, 2007
Answers: 22
Last Update: November 23, 2009
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i'm in highschool, and i've never had a boyfriend. i've never even really had anything close to a boyfriend, like a guy i'm dating or something. i've kissed 6 different guys, but i dont talk to any of them. i barely even have any guys friends. i feel like complete shit about myself every single day because i think i'm so ugly because i never have a guy, and my friends always do. i really don't think i'm ugly, i just have some acne right now. but my friends are gorgeous, every guy is in love with them, they all have had boyfriends/dated and i'm so sick of being the only one different. i'm the kind of girl who is a hopeless romantic and i'm soo into all that mushy stuff, and i'm the one who's never had anything close to it. yes i realize i'm very young and it doesn't matter right now, but i still can't help but feel like i've been waiting sooo long and i feel so alone. ALL i want is to alwyas have a guy to talk to/ be dating someone.but i NEVER have anyone. well, i've had like 2 guys i remotely talked to for a little, and i become OBSESSED with them because they're the only guys that have ever actually acted like they liked me just a little bit, so i became extremely attached even though there wasn't much going on. that's how pathetic i am. i cry myself to sleep every night and i always feel sad, especially when i'm around my friends and they get soo much boys attention and i don't. i really don't think i'm ugly, but i must be, because i don't get what else is wrong with me. i talk normally in front of guys and try to have a personality. but nooo. never even any guy FRIENDS. every second of the day i dream about the love of my life and finding him and falling in love and being sooo happy finally. even though i know it won't be soon. i would be happy just having a boyfriend even if we weren't in love, or always have a guy to talk to, or always having guys want me. thats ALL i want. and i know it sounds so needy and pathetic but i can't help it anymore, i realized that i'm obsessed with boys but i don't have any boys of my own and allll i want is boys boys boys. but i have 0. every day all i think of is trying to find ways to have boys like me and get guys attention. i would seriously be soooo happy if as many guys liked me that like my friends. i always think somethings wrong with me and its soo unfair. i feel so depressed and soemtimes i even drink a lot because i'm upset about never having a boy or being alone. what is wrong with me and what can i do to finally change this? it's my dream and goal to have a boy, even a boy to date and hang out with and talk too not even a completely full out boyfriend, although that would be even better.what can i do to finally get this and to stop being so depressed about it every second of my life? it's all i think about. and i'm soooo jealous when i see girls that have a boy that loves them, or even a boy to talk to. i hate this :( (link)
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There is no fool proof method to get a guy, no store to buy a guy, nothing. And it's horrible especially when we get stuck in that rut. I have been in the same situation as you, for 4 yrs. Then suddenly my senior year I was ambushed by three guys all wanting to date me. One has been my boyfriend for 7 months.
It will just happen. That Mr. Right will realize you exist. I was in the same school as my boyfriend for three years and we never knew one another was even there. It'll be someone you didn't know was there and he'll be madly in love with you.
Just give it time, even if you feel like you've waited long enough. Because it's completely worth the wait. The best things in your life will never just come easily (:
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okay so yea theres this guy im a sohpmore and i see him in the hallway all the time. i think hes is really cute. i know friends who i think know him but im not sure what to do? help please. (link)
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Sometimes a friendship can start with a question.
"Can you tell me what period is in today?"
"Is there an assembly?"
"What period is next?"
Then after you have made your existence noted - just say hi in the hallways when you pass. Finally you can start talking and introduce yourself (:
good luck
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hi 14/f
I'm always wondering how i would look like as a brunette. I have like a golden blonde look you could say, it's light and dark on the bottom. I have fair skin and blue eyes. So what do you guys think? I also wanted to know some different ways to style my hair. It's short and it's a bob layerd style. I'm growing it out, but is there any ways to make it really pretty?
my hair supplies are:
-straightner
-curling iron
-volumising moose
-brush (of course)
-wave enhancing spray
- tousle me softly spray
Any ideas? They can't be to hard, or long to fix because i don't have a lot of time in the morning.
Thanks in advance! :) (link)
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I don't know what you look like or what your "style" is. But maybe this would look good on you
http://www.justabouthair.com/layered-hair-cuts-img/Angled-Layered-Bob-Hairstyle-for-Punk-Girl.jpg
like said before, a picture would help to determine this.
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Okay so my sister lost her virginity last year, she said she bled alot, and it was big, and it hurt sooo much, she almost cried. well last night she went to her boyfriend's house and they were going to sleep together, well he got like half way in, and his was bigger so it hurt so much more, she started crying and made him go out, we know she may be tight, but is there anything else that could be wrong with her? (link)
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It's been a year so of course she was "tight" again. You have to go SLOW and ease it in.
She has to "adjust" to it. So tell him to put in a little -wait- a little more - wait- a little more -wait-. Then she'll be completely adjusted to it.
hopefully that helps (:
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im in a LDR. me and him have been having problems for the last two weeks and nothing seems to be getting better.
ill admit ive broken up with him alot, but alot has been out of anger and me being sad because he acts like he doesnt care.
most of the problems are because of him
and i always seem be getting the blame for it.
he has barely talked to me in the past week
and last saturday through monday he didnt talk to me becuase he "lost his phone at his friends house" i guess i believe that but i dont really know.
the whole distance thing is really hard on me but i love him so im going to deal with it because of that.
we have been fighting for the past two weeks. and ive told him soo many times that im sorry for breaking up with him like three times.
yesterday we were talking while i was at lunch for school and he said that i could send him pictures (if you know what kind i mean haha) and we could be even. so he told me he would tell me later that day what kinds he wants. later that night while he was at work i texted him and told him to text me or call me after work. he never did. and ive told him the same thing for the past three days. he never has.
when are relationship was good, he used to call me every night after work and we would fall asleep together on the phone. that hasnt happened in forever.
i miss everything so much. and i told him that yesterday when we were talking and he told me he doesnt believe me. ive never done anything for him to not trust me. all the stress on our relationship is because of him and i dont htink he gets that. he keeps blaming it on me and im not doing anything. if anything im caring too much and its making me so emotional. and if i ever tell him how i feel i like say the brutal truth and somehow it always ends up with us fighting and him getting mad at me. we never used to fight.
anyways. my point is, ive texted him so many times today and i havent gotten one text back. i dont know what to do. he told me he wants to be with me but he doesnt know what to do casue he is tired of me breaking up with him adn him getting hurt. i dont believe that though. hes never told me ive hurt him. and i think all of this blaming everything on me is a way of trying to tell me he doesnt want me anymore. and he told me we could talk for a while and then he could make his decision but were not together. right when i saw that i thought, yeah i know why. so you could hook up with other girls.
he wont text me back at all and i would call him but im pretty sure hes at work. i really want to call him tonight if he doesnt text me back but he works some weird hours so i dont want to call him whle hes at work. but i feel like im annoying if i always call and text him. i would spill my heart out in a text but i know im wasting my time becuase theres like a 2 percent chance he will text me back. he has changed so much and ive told him that and of course he got mad at me for saying that. he never used to be like that.
this is making me really sad and this guy means the world to me and i love him so much.
someone PLEASE tell me waht to do!
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I'm away at College while my boyfriend [who is a year younger] is finishing up his Senior Year of high school back at home. The long distance relationship is really hard. I felt like he didn't want to talk to me and didn't care. But idk something happened.
I told him we couldn't text anymore {it was distracting me from my studies} and suddenly he started to care. He calls me every night now to talk to me before he goes to bed. I think if you limit the talking between you two to certain times - he'll follow suit.
It's worth a try (:
Good luck
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Im 16/f and my boyfriend is 18/m. The title is a little misleading bc hes usually here, just the holidays...not so much. Last year we started dating in late december. he was away for new years, and then went on a cruise during valentines day. its alright bc he planned it with his family before he met me and the new years thing had been planned for weeks. Then he wasnt able to see me for the weekend for out 6 month anniversary. Then my birthday, he was visiting a college. Now i just learned he will be in cancun for christmas and new years AND our one year. Also, hes taking the same cruise for valentines day. I dont really know what to tihnk about this bc hes NEVER here for any of the holidays and holidays are important to me and its happening continuously. i just dont understand what to think about this and i dont want to bring it up bc i feel like itll make me seem needy and annoying but its really upsetting me. What should i do? Thank you in advance. (link)
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Please consider yourself lucky. I'm an 18/f and my boyfriend is a 17/m. {Two months ago he was 16 just like you} - I'm off at college while he's finishing his senior year of High School. Before I met him I chose a college very far away from home and the only time I can come home is FOR the holidays.
You have the opportunity to see him every other day except the holidays, I would give anything for that. Let him go off and enjoy his holidays and you guys should enjoy every other day together. I was away at college for both our 5th month and 6th month! I will be at college for our 1 year too. Your boyfriend be gone for one - two weeks at most. Then he'll be home and back with you. So don't sweat the small things (:
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and i feel like we're drifting apart. we have a good thing, and i really dont want it to end. but we havent had sex in a while, and we havent hung out in a bit either. i feel like somethings wrong, but when i ask him he says everything is fine (link)
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I think every relationship, after being together for awhile, goes through a dry patch. I know when my boyfriend and I have this problem, we go on a walk. It sounds silly but there's no distractions - we walk hand in hand and just talk. Usually we walk to a park or to grab something to eat.
Just try it (:
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Does anyone think a 14 yr old having sex would be slutty? If she has been with this guy for a year, or even less than 12 months, but more than 4? and them knowing each other for 2 years?
This is not about me, I'm just wondering, and no offense to any 14 yr olds, it's just that some people call sluts now-a-days for wearing skirts, or too much eyeliner.
Anywho...you think it'd be better if she was 15? And she knew the consequences, and had was taking birth control, had condoms, etc.
Give me your opinions, thanks! (link)
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I think you should have sex when you are old enough to deal with the consequences of having children. There is always a chance of getting pregnant and she won't be able to handle that.
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I love my best friend to death! But the thing is that she is always better than me in EVERYTHING. Its like im in her shadow. I can't help but to envy her a little bit. Its sad because we are such good friends. (Dont worry, I dont try to ruin her or anything like some people do when they are jealous). (link)
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Okay I love my best friend too! But the thing is...she's a genius who's athletic and can do anything. To be friends with her I learned to love my flaws! I love the fact I walk into walls and mess everything up because I can laugh at it and it makes life so much more fun! Would you rather be playing ball with your friend and they catch the ball every time then throw it back, or would you want them to miss, hit themselves in the head, then die laughing? lol. {no injury though.} Love your flaws, so you can enjoy being with your friend!
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17/f
i babysit a 6 year old girl and her 12 year old brother. the boy doesn't need much attention he pretty much stays to himself while i play with the 6 year old. one day i went to the boy's room and walked in and saw him masturbating. i was shocked and said sorry and he looked absolutly scared beyond belief but now whenever i'm babysitting i can hear him in his room doing it. i don't know if i should say something or try to ignore it. (link)
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I say that you should ignore it. they are right when they say that it is normal for him to be doing that. Turn up the volume on the T.V. && you'll have no clue he's doing it.
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19/F
For the past four or five months, I've been sick. Throwing up, diarreha[sp?], passing out, dizziness, lack of appetite, dramatic weight loss [5-10 lbs in ONE week], signs of fever, and bad chest pains. I've been to the doctor alreay about this but they can never seem to find out whats wrong. I go for about a week or two feeling fine but then it starts again. Also, I found a lump on my 'area' that is sore and seems to keep getting bigger along with several tiny ones around it. I haven't been able to go to the doctor for that yet but I do have an appoitment to get it checked out sometime this month.
I'm getting tired of being sick all the time. I barely have energy anymore. Its like all of it has been sucked away from me. If anyone could give me an idea on what they think it could be, please tell me. I'd appreciate it very much. (link)
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I also agree! I may not be a doctor but that is serious! Since this is been going on for 4-5 months then whatever it is has been progressing which means you should not wait any longer. Please go.
~Get Better~
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What are some really good slow songs
preferably by a guy
where the lyrics are really pretty sounding
haha
something like "boston" bu augustana and "breathless" by better than ezra.
thanks!thanks! :D (link)
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Well I have my absolutely favorite slow song is sung by both a guy and a girl. Please don't shoot it down so soon. It is absolutely beautiful.
"Come What May" by: Nicole Kidman & Ewan Mcgregor
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okeh. so i have like 2 final exams on Tues. and I am soooooo nervous. i always get nervous before tests, but 1 of these final exams will either put me at an A or a B. i have never gotten a B before, and I really want an A. last test i thought i did well, but ended up getting a B on it. But I'm really nervous! Any tips on 1)not being nervous before the test and 2)doing good on the test
thanxxx yousss!
also, if I have a 94% in that class, and get a C (70%) on the final exam, and tests are 20% of my grade, wut will i get in that class overall? a B-? B?
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Study Study Study! If you study enough that when you test yourself the night before & you get them all right then you have NO need to worry.
Also if you can't remember one thing then here's what I do....
Something outrageous! Sing a song about it while dancing with a mop. Your more likely to remember it. That's what I do and I never forget it.
This might sound weird but before the test do a little dance to shake the jitters out of you. It'll make you feel better. && if people are watching the just stamp your feet or something.
GOOD LUCK
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In my house we have a family dog, that everyone loves, including me. She sleeps with everyone, and everyone shares her bla blah blah. I want my own dog, like a small one. That i can say is just mine, and just for me. I certainly won't forget about my own family dog, because i love her more than Harry Potter, my problem is my mom doesn't want another dog. My dad said its fine, but nobody understands how bad i want this thing. It means alot to me, to have my own unique dog that i can calll my own, and not the famimlys. My brother and sister don't help much either. So, what should i do? (link)
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see in my house all the dogs love my parents (we have 3). Just because they know that they are the "masters". So I got a kitten. Cat & Dog are not the same but if you want an animal to be all your own a kitten is the way to go. Cats grow very attached so if you get them at a very young age and always pick them up and sleep with them they will get attached to you. They will follow you around, pretty much want to be with you at every waking moment. I have my kitty, Fuzz (2yrs old) & she's my baby that loves me. My dogs only love me when I am holding a sandwich.
If you can't get a dog then a kitten is the way to go!
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i have my period and i wore a tampon for about 8 hours today. i started feeling light headed and i am having major cramps..they hurt soo bad. is this tss? im really scared. will it just go away?
what should i do? the last thing i want to do is tell my dad (no mom) and have to go to the doctors or something.
please help! (link)
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Okay, laura basically explained about tss. About telling your dad. Don't tell him. Tell him that you have a bad "stomach" ache, light headed, & etc. Tell him you want to go to the doctors.
But what happens to me is that I find that when I wear tampons my cramps intensify. I also start to feel lighthead and EXTREMELY nauseous. So I'll put on a pad. Since then all I wear is pads because for me, my cramps aren't so bad or the other symptoms.
Maybe I am just odd but you could give it a try.
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i always feel like i am approaching death. like im 15 years old i dont have any real friends anymore. everything i try at, i can't succeed. ive never gotten along with my family at all. it might sound liek im complaining but honestly nohting can go right in my life no matter how hard i try. it just doesnt seem liek there is a place for me in the world at all, or like i dont know i dont feel like the purpose of me being alive is doing good for anyone or myself. i get very very depressed most of the time and i honestly just want to kill myself, liek there really isnt a point ofme staying alive. ive gone to a therapist for over a year but nothing really seems to help.
i guess i dont know what im asking but please help meee, and dont just reply with something like "hang in there it will get better" i want actual advice (link)
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You know your not alone. A lot of people feel this way. I do. I don't feel at all close to my family and I have friends but if they ever moved away I don't think I'd bat an eye. But I'll just tell you what i tell myself....
"I'm only 16...in two years I can move out and go to college. Once there I can make friends and find a good guy to date. I'll graduate from college and get married. I'll find the perfect guy who will love me and be by my side so I am never lonely. I'll have children and be the greatest mom."
This is actually my dream. To be a mother with a loving husband. Sometimes I feel like it's a far-fetched dream but it really isn't. It might sound odd but I lie to myself. Telling myself that I have a purpose (even if I have no idea if I really do or not.)
You can't kill yourself. You have to get older and the pieces will start falling into place. That's what I believe. You don't know your purpose in life yet because your stuck at home. But once you get out into the world...then you'll see.
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15/f
since march i lost 25 pounds. yeah i did it right... total healthy eating and exercise but sort of mixed with an eating disorder. im good now that is not what im worried about its under controll. but i think i am a binge eater. i have alot of self control at times but then if im at a party or something i will go, "okay i know i'll eat alot" and i end up eating stuff when i feel like throwing up. i eat dinner then have 2 slices of cake and 2 slices of pie and 5 slices of cinimon bread or something like that, but its insane and im discuted with myself. i can stop if i want to but it seems like i never do. i need help because i binge eat. i try and throw up after words because my stomach hurts so bad, but after 10 minutes it doesnt hurt as much so then i eat more and it keeps happeneing. durning the week at school i have complete controll- make my lunches, snacks, everything i eat is healthy but at times like these i loss it. im not worried about gaining that much weight because i know i can work it off but i just hate being like this, help please (link)
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What you do is just get ONE plate of food. Use that as your guide. If you can't fit it on the plate (& I don't mean piling it on there) then that's too much.
When having dinner do this:
1.) 2 pieces of meat/poultry etc. (2 at the most if the it is the size of your hand.)
2.) 2 sides. ex: Potatoes or Rice. Usually I eat about the size of my palm. It's a good amount.
3.) Desert. ONE slice of something!
If you can't help the thought of eating something else than go in your room and don't go back into the kitchen.
FYI- DO NOT go into a red room. In my Psychology class I learned that the color red can actually make you hungry.
Hope this has helped.
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i have a problem, well actually two. so i need some advice asap.
one: with my skin i am prone to get ingrown hairs, VERY easily. it scars and doesn't look very appealing. i dont want this guy to get the wrong idea, its just on my bikini line though. im afraid to shave cus if i do everything ill have ingrown hairs all over down there. so i dont know what to do?!
two: i've been with a two guys before just fingering, and it was abosulutely unpleasurable. i got nothing out of it. and i want to get wiht the guy i like, but i dont want nothing to happen, again..
so if anyone has any ideas on what to do//whats wrong. please let me know.. (link)
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I'm really troubled here. My best friend, (let say she is) Sara, is dating this guy (lets say he is Mike) that had just recently moved into my neighbor, like he lives two houses down so I usually see him in the morning, going to school. She told me that they were dating because they met through a friend or something but anyways, since we head for the bus in the same direction, we often see each other and usually we have conversations and we go to school together. But now, one of my other friends told me that Sara is mad at me because she saw me and Mike together laughing and walking home. I guess she thinks that I am trying to steal him away but I am not. He just happens to be a really funny person and he makes me laugh most of the time.
One time I was heading home and Mike and Sara came out of the building. Mike called out to me and I turned to look, and Sara kind of turned really angry and hostile. I knew it was awkward so I tried to end the conversation but it didn't really work. And then Sara was acting really possesive as if I was going to steal him away like that. And another time, when we were in this party with a whole big group, she kind of made out with him in front of me I guess to show that she was the actual girlfriend. I just find that really stupid because I am not even trying to steal him away in the first place, why does she have to act like that? I tried to talk to her but she act like she didn't care and she didn't believe me, I told her how ridiculous this was and she shouldn't be mad because nothing is going on between me and Mike.
But things got really bad recently, some stupid person made some rumors that Mike liked me, and it got Sara even more fired up, she came up to me and was calling me names and everything and was saying how I was flirting with Mike and how I was such a slu*, I got really mad and I slapped her, then we had this big fight where we got suspended.
So I'm stuck at home, grounded because of this but I really want to know a solution, I just don't want Sara to hate my anymore, I mean we've been friends for three years, I don't want to lose everything to a guy. But I know Sara, she can be a person who gets jealous really easy and she holds a long grudge. So I'm afraid that things will get even more messy and out of hand, like some big commotion might start at school, can anyone give me any suggestions? I tried to talk to her before, she just wouldn't listen. Can anyone help? (link)
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You shouldn't have to stop talking with Mike. Just go to Mike one day (when your not grounded) and tell him that someone started a rumor that you liked him and that your setting the record straight that you do not like him.
Then tell Sara that you told him that you didn't like him. Then she'll know that you really don't like him. And then maybe you can go back to being friends.
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mmk i don't care if people say it's out of style i like them.
anyway what kinds of shoes whould look good with them? would flats? and i have this jean skirt wit a little puffy ruffle at the bottom would that look ok with leg warmers?
and thanks!! (link)
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Not in style? EVERYONE in my highschool wear them! I wear them too. But with the outfit you described, I think it would look nice.
Good luck making it a trend in your school.
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