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guy wont talk to me.


Question Posted Wednesday November 4 2009, 8:08 pm

im in a LDR. me and him have been having problems for the last two weeks and nothing seems to be getting better.
ill admit ive broken up with him alot, but alot has been out of anger and me being sad because he acts like he doesnt care.
most of the problems are because of him
and i always seem be getting the blame for it.
he has barely talked to me in the past week
and last saturday through monday he didnt talk to me becuase he "lost his phone at his friends house" i guess i believe that but i dont really know.
the whole distance thing is really hard on me but i love him so im going to deal with it because of that.
we have been fighting for the past two weeks. and ive told him soo many times that im sorry for breaking up with him like three times.
yesterday we were talking while i was at lunch for school and he said that i could send him pictures (if you know what kind i mean haha) and we could be even. so he told me he would tell me later that day what kinds he wants. later that night while he was at work i texted him and told him to text me or call me after work. he never did. and ive told him the same thing for the past three days. he never has.
when are relationship was good, he used to call me every night after work and we would fall asleep together on the phone. that hasnt happened in forever.
i miss everything so much. and i told him that yesterday when we were talking and he told me he doesnt believe me. ive never done anything for him to not trust me. all the stress on our relationship is because of him and i dont htink he gets that. he keeps blaming it on me and im not doing anything. if anything im caring too much and its making me so emotional. and if i ever tell him how i feel i like say the brutal truth and somehow it always ends up with us fighting and him getting mad at me. we never used to fight.

anyways. my point is, ive texted him so many times today and i havent gotten one text back. i dont know what to do. he told me he wants to be with me but he doesnt know what to do casue he is tired of me breaking up with him adn him getting hurt. i dont believe that though. hes never told me ive hurt him. and i think all of this blaming everything on me is a way of trying to tell me he doesnt want me anymore. and he told me we could talk for a while and then he could make his decision but were not together. right when i saw that i thought, yeah i know why. so you could hook up with other girls.

he wont text me back at all and i would call him but im pretty sure hes at work. i really want to call him tonight if he doesnt text me back but he works some weird hours so i dont want to call him whle hes at work. but i feel like im annoying if i always call and text him. i would spill my heart out in a text but i know im wasting my time becuase theres like a 2 percent chance he will text me back. he has changed so much and ive told him that and of course he got mad at me for saying that. he never used to be like that.
this is making me really sad and this guy means the world to me and i love him so much.

someone PLEASE tell me waht to do!



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beckyboo5291 answered Sunday November 8 2009, 4:11 pm:
I'm away at College while my boyfriend [who is a year younger] is finishing up his Senior Year of high school back at home. The long distance relationship is really hard. I felt like he didn't want to talk to me and didn't care. But idk something happened.
I told him we couldn't text anymore {it was distracting me from my studies} and suddenly he started to care. He calls me every night now to talk to me before he goes to bed. I think if you limit the talking between you two to certain times - he'll follow suit.
It's worth a try (:
Good luck

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dottie4 answered Friday November 6 2009, 1:02 pm:
Sounds like both of you have issues in your relationship. Maybe you guys should meet up during the holidays or something. That way you could rekindle things in your relationship that have been lost. A lot of people need someone to physically be there for them. Maybe you and him are that type of person. I'm not going to bad mouth him or you. For one it sound though the feelings are sort of mutual. I would call him, he's your boyfriend. Leave a message on his phone. If he doesn't call you back, you know it's not meant to be.

xoxo,
dottie4

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Razhie answered Thursday November 5 2009, 9:41 am:
Stop getting back togeather with him.

You clearly can't give eachother what you need. Stop trying to make it his fault, and stop trying to make it change. Stop assuming you can read his mind. Stop assuming, Stop judging, stop hurting him and stop allowing yourself to be hurt.

You are bad for eachother. Break up one last time, for good.

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