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How do I know if God would be OK with this?
Hello, since you said it would be alright if I asked you love life questions - here's my first.
After reading your column, I recomitted my life to Christ and prayed for a while. All of a sudden an idea to recontact someone who once hurt me popped into my head.
Its a long story, but I deleted my email account and broke all contact with this boy (who's one year older than me, I'm 16) who used me. He used the fact that I fell in love with him to get what he wanted (physically speaking) and it saddens me to admit; for a while - he turned into my God. I lived for him. So as I found my way back to Christ.. I ended all contact I had with him.
Now I KNOW I'm still not ready to reconnect with him because I still think about him; OFTEN! and I still dream about having agreed to having sex with him so he would have stayed with me. Its almost like I regret doing the right thing.
Now, would it be OK to send him an anonymous email, probably a christian one.. advising him to get closer to God, or should I stay away completely - even if I make sure never to let him know I sent it?
You see, I think I miss him. And I want to email him, to somehow be a part of his life even if he doesnt know that I am.
Would this be dangerous? If it is, of course I won't do it.. my relationship with God comes first.
What are your thoughts on this? How do I know if God himself wanted me to get closure or to approach this guy again; or if it is the devil trying to make me fall back into taht trap??
Sheeesh, you'd think it would be easier to tell the devils evil work and Gods holy work appart, huh?
Sorry it was long! I'll keep it short next time :)
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The question isn't to long, so never worry about that. I am so glad to hear you recommitted your life to Jesus. God bless you little sister! I am so proud of you for truly seeking God's will.
Yes indeed, it can be difficult to discern the work of the devil and God's holy work. The devil loves to twist the truth as he APPEARS to be an angel of light. (2Cor.11:14) The more you seek the Lord in prayer and read the Word, the more you will understand and recognize the difference.
I can relate to the kind of hurt you described. The same thing happened to me, except I got pregnant. Talk about long stories...that's a long one. Unlike you, I didn't know the Lord in a personal way at the time and I ended up in a life of promiscuity. I desired to be loved so much that I was willing to do whatever it took. I never found the love I searched for until I got saved ten years later. The promiscuity thought process left me, praise the Lord, and I was given not only second birth, but second virginity.
The evil one wasted no time to jump right in there and offer my old life back. He figured it worked for so long...but I walked away from that temptation. Even after all that sexual sin, the Lord blessed me. I have been married 17 years to a man who loves me the same way Jesus loves the church. Of course he's not perfect like Jesus, but I wouldn't trade him for the world.
I would say what you described sounds like a dangerous situation to me. For one thing, you mentioned the idea of staying anonymous. I can't judge whether the voice was of God to find closure in this or not, but something that secretive is probably not of God. Now that you recommitted your life to Jesus, the evil one WILL try to lead you astray. If in fact you need closure from this relationship, the Lord will provide you the strength to face this boy. Doesn't seem like you are ready for that. I would advise you to concentrate on your relationship with the Lord right now.
Let me pray for you...Lord, I lift my little sister before you right now and ask you to reveal yourself to her in a way that she can understand; in a way that will give her assurance of YOUR love. I rebuke the evil one in the NAME OF JESUS from having any hold on her especially in this area of her life. I pray that you would take any residual shame, take the hurt and replace it with a strength and peace that can only be from You. And I pray that your Spirit would freely give her the discernment she seeks. Amen
There is peace in this and the more you say no to the devil, the weaker he will get in this area of your life. Hang in there, seek the Lord and if you get thoughts that seem to be pulling you in the wrong direction, repeat 2Cor. 10:5 a hundred times if that's what it takes.
Write me anytime.
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