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why can't i feel emotions? seriously.
First I am currently in the United States Army deployed to Iraq. I am really a good looking person, and in great shape. But throughout my whole life, I have never been able to be really affected by emotions. I am married, most likely going to end up in divorce, only because I don't feel in love. No matter how many long term or short term relationships, I never feel happy, sad, or anything, and always yearn, for loss of better words, that feeling. I don't mourn the deaths of others, or family members. I am not fearfull of death or anything. Do I have to try to feel this?
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When you come home, get therapy, because it's not normal to have a complete lack of emotion.
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Well, it depends. No one has to be anything, but if you would like to, that is a different story. In the army, it is a very good thing not to feel emotions, especially about the deaths of others.
As horrible as this sounds, it may not be convenient for you to discover your emotional side right now, if you are currently in Iraq and not about to leave soon. Getting out of the army is a good idea if you plan on discovering your emotions; if you are unable to do so, it may be a good idea to wait a little bit more.
The reason why you can't feel emotions is probably due to the fact that it was not okay for you to show emotions in the past. Perhaps you were told that crying made you weak, and hence tried to bury feelings of sadness inside yourself. This is dangerous because without feeling sad sometimes, it is hard to feel happy.
If you would really like to feel more, seeing a professional is not a bad idea. You may not have a kind of depression that stops you from going to work in the morning or causes you to burst into tears regularly, but seeing someone can't hurt, can it, even if there is nothing specific that is "wrong" with you. Know that a lot of people (mostly males) have trained themselves to not feel anything. I encourage you, however, to try. Personally, it helps for me to draw something or write in a journal to get feelings out. This is not a bad idea, actually; you could try writing anything that comes in to your head, to get in touch with how you feel.
Honestly, you don't have to feel anything, but if you are yearning for something more, getting in touch with emotions may not be a bad thing.
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I think it may have something to do with a childhood experience that changed you or hurt you. Did your parents have a nasty breakup/divorce? Did someone in your life hurt you or did you witness something painful? It may be possible that you blocked it out or dont even rememember anymore but think back to a time, if you can, when you felt emotion.. lets say happiness, as a child. What happend in your life to change that?
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Hey. Well, i'm no doctor but it kind of sounds to me like you might be depressed. I won't get to into it but everything you've said in your question sounds to me like someone with depression. Expecially when you say that you have no feelings anymore..
I would most deffinately try to get some help before it gets serious.
Hope I helped.
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