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I have a friend but the thing is i don't like her as a friend any more because she is very mean and controling. she still thinks we're friends even though i haven't talked to her in months. she called me and asked me to go to her birthday party how do i tell her that i don't want to go without hurting her feelings? also it is a sleep over thing and i said i could sleep over because of something the next day which is true but she still wants me to go for a few hours the first day! please help i don't want to hurt her feelings!! (link)
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Tell her you have something you want to talk about, without bringing up the birthday party. Tell her that you feel that she comes across as mean and controlling (if you don't think she intends to be, make sure you tell her that), and how. Maybe she doesn't even realize it, or it could just be a missunderstanding.
If you can't come to any resolution in either direction, tell her you aren't sure you want to go, and you'll let her know later. In which case, think about it, decide, and let her know later. If it turns out that you still want to be friends, then act as such. If you decide that you really don't want to be friends with her anymore, tell her you can't make it, and she will likely understand the rest.
If done right, her feelings either won't be hurt, or if they are, she will understand. Just don't be confrontational about it.
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Ok. There was this baby i was babysitting and a little kid. i put them to sleep and i was watchin TV. then i heard the baby cry. i ran upstairs and the little kid was ontop of the baby! i do not know hwat to do!! i dont want to tell the parents but the baby might be hurt. HELPP
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Tell them - even if the baby isn't hurt, there may be another issue they need to deal with. I don't know how the kid got on top of the baby, or what all that means, but if it was intentional, then there's an issue with the kid. If the kid was asleep and rolled over on top of the baby, then the issue is that they need to not have them in a bed together. Though I don't know why they wouldn't have the baby in a crib.
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My birthday was about a week ago, and my mom gave me a Tiffany braclet (if you dont know what that is its like a 400 dollar braclet). A few days after I went to the beach with my cousins and I was wearing the braclet. We were boogyboarding in the waves and the braclet slipped off my wrist. It went with the waves. Now I lost it and I havent told my mom yet. Im not sure how she would react but im scared to tell her. How should I say it? Please help (link)
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"Mom, I did something that now that I think about it I really shouldn't have done. I was wearing the bracelet you got me and I didn't want to take it off 'cause I like it so much, and I was wearing it when we went boogyboarding. It slipped off in the water and I couldn't find it afterwards. I really loved it, and I want to get it back, but I really don't know how to go about doing so. And I know it's very much possible that I won't, but I want to do anything I can. I'm really sorry."
Something like that, when your mum's sitting and calm. She's eventually going to find out anyway, so it's best to tell her.
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hey i was just wondering if any of you know any songs about missing someone,
i know blink 182 i miss you,
but any others, i dont like R n B or anything like that more rockish kinda thing,
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I couldn't think of any, and one comes on right now... lol. I know it's not R&B, or even close, but hey, what the hell. It's more like a cross between easy listening and a rock ballad.
Blackmore's Night - Wish You Were Here.
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ok i think something is wrong with my vagina, it itches and kinda burns i take like 2 showers a day an always change my panties or thongs wich ever i chose to wear ive never been sexually active well not really and when i pee sometimes it burns and other time it doesn't and i dont' pee opsesivly if that helps any i really need helpmy b-day is 2morow and im gonna do something special so please im beg'n u please help me ill give you a high rating if you really help
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Why do people put rating requirements in their questions?
Anyway, whether this helps or not, you may have a yeast infection. You should see a gynecologist and find out.
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im 14/f...i feel like i sleep a LOT! like here's an average day: wake up around 10...take a nap from like 1 to 3 30...then get up and do whatever...then take another nap from like 5 to 6 30...then stay up until like 1 in the morning and go to bed and do it all over again the next day...is this normal or is there something wrong??? (link)
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It could just be that you need to be more active. If you do a lot of sitting around or low energy activities, you'll have a low amount of energy. If you get out (or not) and do things that take more energy you will build more energy. If that makes sense.
On the other hand, it could be a problem, so you should probably just mention it to your parents.
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ok well what is the urethra? i kno its on a guy i think, but where and what is it exactly? (link)
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http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q=urethra&btnG=Google+Search
The first one gives a good explaination.
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Okay I’m 15 and I weigh 110 and I’m 5’6 is that to skinny? I don’t think it is but some people say that is and I wanna gain some pounds. And I want it to show I just maybe wanna get to like 120 at least. If anyone knows any good ways of gaining some pounds please let me know what they are. Also will you tell me from the information I gave you up top does that sound like I’m skinny or is it fine? Thank you so much!!
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If you're healthy, who cares what you weigh. OK, you do, and since you're not crying about being 2 pounds over weight, I think I can help.
Carbs. If you eat tons of fat and calories, but no or few carbs, gaining weight is almost impossible. Girl-scout cookies, bread, pasta, and any kind of grain, really.
But seriously, if you gain weight, it will affect your metabolism, so if you find it really hard to gain, and you're healthy, don't try too hard because it may start to go up faster than you want it to "practically over night."
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How is it that somedays I think I'm fat and then other days I look skinny?
I rate HIGH! (link)
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It could be related to how you look at yourself that day - if you're more depressed, you look less attractive, of you're happy and cheerful, you look more attractive.
Or it could be the clothing. Some people actually do eat enough at times that they look physically larger around the mid-section, but that's pretty difficult to do - you have to eat a LOT.
But it actually happens to me as well. I think it's related to my sub-conscious.
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Heyy, I wanted to ask you a question b/c you have good ratings, and you're a guy.
Let me tell you the reason I'm having a problem first: I go to a mostly girls school and so I never really had the chance to converse with guys, and I don't really know how to talk to them. And I am 17 years old if that helps :)
1) Is it weird for a girl to just randomly walk up to a guy in public and just start a random conversation??
2) How come if a guy sees a "hot girl" he'll just go straight up to her and talk to her, but if he sees a nice girl who's a little overweight he won't talk to her?
Ok I think that's it. I've never had a boyfriend (unfortunately) and I wanted to know how to go about meeting new people. Thanks a lot. (link)
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Lol, I'm actually a really bad person to ask this as I am somewhat socially inept, so I'll approach this from 2 perspectives - academically, and my own point of view (means it'll be long).
1) Yes and no. If she's uncomfortable, it feels weird. If she's confident, it's not as likely to feel weird. As far as /being/ weird or not... let me put it this way. "Weird" is that which does not follow suit with the rest of society. Our society comes from some very chauvanistic roots in many respects. One of them is that a girl is not supposed to make moves, but wait for the guy to do so. Which I think is utterly inane, but that's beside the point.
The point is, society is only just getting to the point where it's no longer rare to see a woman approach a man, so in many respects it can easily still be seen as weird.
As for me, I'd love it if a woman just walked up to me and said something along the lines of "I felt like coming over and introducing myself just so I could talk to you." Then again, I'm rather weird like that. I also believe a woman should, if she has any desire to do so, feel 100% free to be the one to take the initiative. But that's probably somewhat due to the fact that I'm a little bit of a coward when it comes to these types of things (with the role reversed) because I really don't know what to do. However, the best advice I think a person can give on that (what to do, say, yadda) is "just be yourself" because if you're trying to be someone else, and they start to like you, they're actually starting to like someone else, not you.
2) All men are pigs. Including me. Now, of course, I mean that to be taken with a grain of salt in that there are varying degrees.
Men are sex-driven - they derive satisfaction from the physical aspect of a relationship more so than women (where women derive satisfaction from the emotional apsect moreso than men), on average. They're also less apt to consider anything other than physical appearance when it comes between a number of women who they do not know.
In other words, the statement "God only gave men enough blood to think with one head at a time" has some truth to it - rather than going after a mildly less attractive woman and spreading things out a bit, they all go after the more attractive woman (if you watch 'A Beautiful Mind' you'll see what I mean). They also tend to think with their lesser head.
Don't worry, this changes; men do actually mature. Some slower than others, but eventually, you know. And there really is hope for finding someone. A lot of men are able to look past physical appearances. Myself, for example, while I do not deny that more attractive women catch my eye far quicker than less attractive ones, there are a few points - if her smile is not genuine, her attractiveness instantly goes down; as long as she's healthy, it really doesn't matter whether she's just attractive or a goddess (I'll be honest, I could not be in a serious relationship with a woman if I had no physical attraction to her), and I typically don't prefer a goddess; and while I am interested in a number of women, the only woman I have a well-established interest in (aka, we've been friends for years and I would consider moving beyond friendship) may be "a few extra pounds" (more than I am), but I really don't care.
3) The fact that you've never had a boyfriend means that you've saved yourself a bit of heartache. Really, we're typically not worth it until around 20 anyway. And even then it's hard to find ones that are. And to meet new people, just put yourself in situations to do so. I went to fanime (anime convention) where I could be a complete dork, and get away with it (it was awesome... yet I only freaked out less than 5 people - very disappointing). Maybe you could go to... a billiards hall (if you like pool), a beach, an arcade, just walk around the mall, a coffee shop, or wherever people in your town go to hang out and you would enjoy yourself.
Feel free to ask for more or to IM me (AIM: c0lorlessgreen).
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well all of my friends wear special underwear, thongs, and i dont like them ,but i dont wanna tell them that, they'll call me granny, but im also not allowed to wear them, and when i do i feel uncomfortable and guilty thinking wut would my parents think if they know im wearing them, HELP ME! (link)
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There's nothing wrong with not wearing thongs, it's just preference. And, actually, hoo-rah for going against the chauvinistic trends of this culture! Seriously, don't bother trying to wear things to make a guy want to have sex with you - wear what you want.
Don't tell your friends if you don't want to, and if they say anything about it, just say that your parents don't let you and you don't think it's worth getting in trouble for. Because, well, it isn't.
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ohkay.. first off, i am NOT sexually active at all. i've had my for about 2 years. around january i got my period but didnt get it again until the first week of april.. and i still havent gotten it since april!! im freaking out .. is there something wrong? (link)
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Hopefully not, but maybe. And if so it could be something minor, or something really major. You should really talk to your mother about it. And I mean that. If you aren't able to ask your mom, ask a friend's mom, or just any older woman you trust with talking about this.
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can you get pregnant on your period? (link)
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It's a really good time to get pregnant, actually. So if you don't want to get pregnant, don't have unprotected sex, because once you've had you're first period there's no time when you are not able to get pregnant. At least not until after your last period (you know, in your 40's or 50's or whenever it happens)
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if i call a suicide hotline, can they get my number nd like call the cops or sumthing? (link)
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I don't believe so. If you call and you ask them before saying anything else, and you're not satisfied with the answer, you can just hang up and they can't do anything.
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Hey Everyone!! Well ever since I can remember I've always biten my nails, its a really bad habit. Usually I bite them when I'm nervous about something or when im pondering a serious question. I really need to stop because my hands look like they don't have nails left on them anymore. My ? is How do I stop biting my nails and what can I do to prevent starting up again?? Thanks for your help in advance! (link)
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Put hot sauce, cod liver oil, or something on your fingers. The worse they taste, the less likely you are to put them in your mouth.
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ok my boyfriend is leaving for florida this morning, in an hour. we havent seen each other at all today, and we knew we wouldnt be able to, so we said our goodbyes last night. ok well on to the problem; even tho we said good bye and everything last night he snuck over at like 230 a.m. to my bedroom window for a 2nd good bye(kiss, hug, ilu, ill miss you etc.) well when he left his house he didnt realize the car was gone, so when he left my window he was walking back home and his mom pulled in, saw him coming from my house, and freaked. well his bedroom is the shed(thats where he wants it,and his mom doesnt care cuz she just got her custody back so she'll let him) but now shes making him move into the house in the little spare room. the reason? she thinks he sneaks out every night over to my house and then i sneak back over with him, we do stuff and then i go home. which none of thats true. i havent even snuck out once in my life. but she seems to think its happenin liek that and he told her its not, btu she wont believe it. but now she wants to call my mom at work and tell her everything, and she thinks thats why he came last night, even tho it was to say good bye, but back to the point she wants to call and tell my mom all this, and none of its true, and im like freaking and i dont know what to do, its all a bigg mis understanding, and my moms gunna believe her and ill be in sooo much trouble!!...please answer ASAP. thankss soo muchh (link)
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Tell your mom what happened, that it was so he could just say good-bye one last time, and that was all. Just be like "Mom, last night (whateverhisnameis) snuck over here to say goodbye one last time. We hugged, said we'd keep in touch, and said goodbye, and that was all. Well, his mom saw him heading back home and thinks that" yadda yadda. Even if his mom doesn't call yours, your mom can call his and say that no, that hasn't been happening.
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I am a Wiccan and so is my boyfriend. I told my mom he was (but not me) now she won't let me see him. My mom's a very conservative Christian who is very judgmental andtakes everything personaly. Should I tell her I'm a Wiccan, my boyfriend says I should..because even though we can sneek and talk we can't sneek and see each other and I'm only 16 so I still have 2 years before I can move out.
PS- I'm worried that if I tell her she will have me on complete lock down (link)
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I think you should sti your mom down and have a theological conversation with her. Tell her you want to discuss religion intellectually and just talk about it. Now, if she's like the uber conservative Christians I know, she won't be able to - most who act like that refuse to acknowledge that a person has the right to believe something different, and refuse to entertain any conversation that might suggest that.
However, you should discuss with her some of the reasons why you choose to be Wiccan rather than Christian, but without telling her anything about making that decision. For example, "I don't understand how the Bible isn't contradicting itself by _________ and I was wondering if you could shed some light on this for me." Ok, so that was corny, but still, hopefully you see my point.
After discussing a number of these things with her, you should tell her whether you agree with any of her arguments or not, and that you've chosen to follow a different religion that she has. She'll be shocked, and maybe upset, but it'll probably go a lot better that way than "Mom, I'm Wiccan and there's nothing you can do to change that because it's my choice and not yours!" Plus you'll have shown her that you aren't making this decision blindly (and you should point that out), and you've given Christianity a chance (point that out too).
And, for the record, I follow the Christian faith.
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im a columnist..im not obsessed over ratings but im just wondering why is it when i get 3 5's as a rating in a row, my rating doesnt always go up? but if i ever get a 4...or a rare 3...my rating always goes down?
anyone else have the same problem? (link)
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It's actually not a problem, per se. It's because your (and everybody else's) rating is based off of an average. If you have 9 ratings that are all a 4, a single 5 rating will bring you up to a 4.1. If instead you receive a 1 as your 10th rating, you will drop to 3.7. Here's how (it's math, but it's the only way to really explain it):
Your average rating is the total of all of your ratings divided by the number of ratings. So if you have 9 4's, it's 4+4+4+4+4+4+4+4+4=36 then divided by 9 (36 / 9 = 4). Getting that extra 5 makes the total of your ratings for to 41, but the number of ratings goes to 10. 41 / 10 = 4.1. However, getting that extra 1 means the total of your ratings goes up to 37, but your number of ratings still goes up to 10. 37 / 10 = 3.7.
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i feel like i should exercise more but i don't know what to do, i'm really bad at sports and i'm not into running, got any ideas? (link)
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DDR, biking, rock climbing, martial arts, wrestling (not sport, just with friends), um... long walks on the beach? If you have the money, or if you can window shop without spending money, go around to stores where you like looking at stuff (I used to wonder the farmer's market for an hour or two just looking at stuff). You might think that it's nothing, but if you usually sit and don't do much walking, it'll help a lot.
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ok this might be kinda confusing and long..I understand the consequences and worries that come around when you have sex& all that. I love my boyfriend with all that I have, and he loves me. We both gave up our virginity to each other, but the thing is, we weren't safe about it, and we both regret that. We both know that we should've used a condom, but I guess we were too caught up in the moment to realize that not using a condom wasn't very smart. okay so here's the question. I was wondering- the first time we had sex, he pulled out right before he ejaculated, and it got all over the place, but I wasn't sure if it had gotten inside of me or not. after that I told him I wanted to make sure I got my period. I took a pregnancy test because he said it would make him feel more comfortable, even though it was too early to be accurate anyways, and like I figured..it came out negative because it was too early. but then a few days later we had sex again but he didn't cum. so if I get my period, that takes care of both times we had sex, right? I know you can't get pregnant if you get your period, but I wasn't sure if I could get my period for the 1st time we had sex, and still get pregnant because of the 2nd time or not. I'm planning on taking the 2nd pregnancy test today or tomorrow since that would make it 4-5 days before my period is supposed to come. please help! thanks in advance!
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First, yes you can get pregnant even if you have your period. Some girls (rare) have their period the entire time they're pregnant.
Thing is, any time a guy capable of reproduction puts his penis in your vagina, even if he doesn't have an orgasm, he may (and if he's turned on, it's quite likely) have what's called pre-cum. There is semen in pre-cum, and it only takes 1 sperm cell reaching the egg. It's just extremely unlikely unless he remains in you for part of or the whole ejaculation (and even then it's only something like a 40% chance).
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