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my advice-based life basically started when i was sent to a set of seminars to modify my behavior(i was being a rude kid). there i learned how to help myself out with alternatives to being rude, and how to give others really good advice. i have bipolar and acouple other disorders which are all under control, so don't worry. but if anyone has any problems like that, i can answer alot of questions on that subject. i'm really good at answering any questions i know things about. i don't know much about Mac products, but i'm pretty good at computers. i also enjoy just chatting, so if you want my email address, just ask me for it. i hope to meet some people here and become friends with them. i guess that's it, hope i can help anyone who calls on me with a question. feel free to ask me anything you want and i'll answer to the best of my ability!!
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im not sure if i should get back with him though, when i told him the reason why he didnt care at all, weve always been really really close but this happened on his holiday off work n he ditched me to go away with his friends wich is partly why i overeacted.. 2 days is the longest he hasnt talked to me n i sent him like 5 msgs in those times askin if he was ok n he didnt reply wen i finally called him he said i was just busy. i have forgiven him for so much crap hes stuffed up like 50 times n i always forgave him once i did somethin stupid n he dumped me.. n i was really sick at that time. it feels like i should b perfect for him n always forgive him but he wont do the same for me. no matter what my reason is. wat do u think?

well, the problem seems to be a bit deeper than you originally stated. i still think you should get him together in a private place and talk with him because if you really want to make up with him, you will have to come to an agreement on this issue. both of you need to apologize to eachother, but make sure he knows that you only overreacted because he hadn't returned your calls to even say he was busy. you now know that, but see if you can get him to see it from your point of view. I hope this helped, but if it didn't, email me back if you need anymore help. it is your choice whether you want to get back with him or not, and i'll be here to guide you through it every step of the way if needbe. email me at Metalkat86@hotmail.com if there's anything else i can do for you. i'm here to assist, and i will do so to the best of my ability. later,
Kat

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What is the right age for a male to start getting erection and be able to burst?? I am thirteen years old but I still cant have any erection...But all of my friends (same age) say they can have erection...Some even say they have been having erection since they were 11 or 12?? Maybe this sounds gay but I have actually seen them having erection in the mall or in the school shower...Is this bad? I am so worry about it...Is it possible that I won't be able to have any erection throughout my whole life??

calm down!! you're only thirteen, it will happen, you just happen to be a late bloomer puberty wise. nothing to worry about, having an erection will come when it's supposed to come, and you can't force it to come. just wait and it will happen when it's meant to. hope i helped,
Kat

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what happened when a guy gets an erection? can he get one from making out?

yes, he can get one from making out if he really likes who he's making out with. nothing really happens when a guy gets an erection. his penis fills up with blood and gets hard and basically stick out like a big finger. and yes, it is noticeable, unless his jeans are too tight to let his dick move outward. hope i helped, later,
Kat

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In my house, all I have is a small stand-up shower (no tub!). It sucks. So that makes it more difficult to shave my legs. I tried shaving out of the shower using the sink with a towel on the floor to catch loose water...but it takes forever! Does anybody have any ideas to make it quicker? Or anything I can do? Thanks

are you flexible? i just prop my leg up on the wall of my shower, it may be uncomfortable, but it works. hope i helped. later,
Kat

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At youth tonight, these two guys were like flirting with me and my two friends. They sat down by me, pointed at us, looked at us, and asked me for my number. And my friends and I were like laughing because they were doing this. We didn't like them either. It was just so funny. And then we had to leave early because we had this dance. And they like followed us out the door and we were like bye. It was kind of funny. But the guy that I like was there, like on the next couch. And would us laughing would have made him think that we liked those boys that were hitting up on us or what? I hope that it didn't, because we really weren't. And why were those guys doing that? They go to a different school and are older. Thanks and I rate.

the easiest thing i can tell you is to go up to the guy you like(if you are friends) and jokingly discuss how stupid those boys were being that night. that way, he'll know that you didn't like that they were hitting on you and if he likes you back, it will put his mind at ease to know that you are still open for the taking. hope i helped. later,
Kat

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hey im working on equations of perpindicular lines. i dont no what to do because i dont know what tehe reciprocal of 2.5 is? what is it? thanks

the reciprocal of 2.5 is this: -2/5. i got this by making 2.5 into an irregular fraction: 5/2, and then, as the reciprocal of a positive is negative, i switched the numerator with the denominator and made it negative. hope i helped, later,
Kat

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I haven't seen my mother for 9 years, I'm 14. She's been on methampthetamines my entire life. I just got word today of where she is, I talked to her about 3 years ago. I need to go see her so that I can get over the fact that she will never be my mom. I just need some advice on what to say to her, and I really want to tell her to stop doing methampthetamines. I know that I won't be able to help her, but I just need some advice on how to deal with the fact that I will never have her as my mom, and that I will never be able to help her. I know it's hard to answer, but please, if anyone can help me. The pressure is too much, I'm seeing her this weekend. Please help me. I have no one else to turn to.

don't give us so easily. hey, maybe seeing what a nice young lady you've grown into could make her want to change. i honestly have never had to deal with anyone on meth, but it might work. i hope that she will be clean for the moment when she talks to you. go ahead and tell her that you want her to stop doing drugs, you'd like to know what it's like to have her as a mother. appeal to her heart, however diluted by drugs it may be. it may help, it may not. update me after you see her, my address is metalkat86@hotmail.com. i hope i helped, and i hope that you have as good a time as you can with her. later,
Kat

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my boyfriend of 6 months didnt call me for 2 days, and in that time it was the anniversary of my bestfriends death, i found out my grandma was dyin, my parents fought n my mum left, n i ran away.. i really wanted to speak to him in those 2 days and when i finally called him he said he had simply been too busy to call so i overeacted n dumped him, i regretted it and told him the reason why i overeacted and he didnt care.. should i get back wit him because i overeacted.. or shouldnt i because he wasnt there when i needed him

yes, you have a right to be mad. he does also. just look at it this way. yeah, you had all this stuff going on with you during those days, but HE DIDN'T KNOW THAT. true, he should have called to tell you he was too busy, but he didn't. there's nothing you can do to change the past. I suggest that you sit him down in a place where he can't ignore you, somewhere quiet, and tell him how you felt. tell him that you understand why he is mad, because you did overreact, but that your emotions are really unstable at the moment because of all the stuff that happened while you didn't talk to him. apologize and ask for his forgiveness, maybe it will show him that you really were sorry, and that you want to get back with him. during this conversation, let him raise his voice if he feels he needs to, but you KEEP A CALM VOICE. this will show him that he's not getting to you and that you really are sincere this time instead of making this decision out of anger. i hope i helped, and if you have any more questions, please ask me, i'm here to help and will do so to the best of my ability. later,
Kat

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What are the signs that let you know that you ARE ready to have sex for the first time?

biggest one in the world is this:
YOU AND YOUR LOVE ARE BOTH 18 OR OVER. if he is and you aren't, he could get charged with rape, even if you consented. think twice, please!! hope i helped,
Kat

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well me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 months now and well it took 4 months for me to kiss him and well thats all ive ever done with anyone...well now hes kinda wanting more and is testing his limits and well i know its normal for guys to try that but i dont know...im only 14 is it normal for 14 year olds to do stuff like that? see my boyfriend has always gottin some from everyone hes been with accept me, but i kinda know that he cares for me b/c he waited so long and well if i do get up the nerve to do it once, will i have to do it alot? is he going to expect that more? should i do it? any advise?

you are only 14. if he loves you enough to wait, he'll keep waiting. YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE. all that matters is that you are secure with yourself. if you aren't ready, don't feel pressured to just because he has gotten stuff from his exes. you do whatever makes you feel comfortable. that's all i have to say, i hope i helped. any future questions, feel free to ask. later,
Kat

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Ive been with my boyfriend for along time and he wants to have sex and i dont no i love him soo much and he loves me i no he does and everytime we r together its soo perfect and he said hes not guna force me but he thinks this will lock r relationship and then we ll be together forever and ii rele think hes telin the truth...should i do it?
Sexually confused..

to your question, i can only ask another one: HOW OLD ARE YOU? email me and tell me this, and i'll give you a nice long answer. my addy's on my advice column. hope i can help, i want to.
Kat

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Alright me and my ex are really close and we talk about having sex alot...I mean all the time..I feel ready and I think Im ready...I'm only 14...He is 15...I have never hasd sex before and I'm not sure if I should wait or what I should do??? I mean he doesnt push me into anything and never has and never will... Will someone give me some advice on what to do???

WAIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YOU ARE ONLY 14!!!!!! you are honestly too young to be doing stuff like that. what happens if you end up pregnant? think about all, and i mean ALL the consequences of taking that step would be before you even condsider doing it. my best advice: wait til you are legal(18) because if you get caught, he could be charged with rape because you're both underage. even if you both consented. just wait, if he loves you, he'll wait too, hope i helped.
Kat

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My friend and I experimented with each other. Were both 13 and are both girls also. We kissed, french kissed, nibbled and felt on each other, but nothing "below the belt." I would just like to know does that mean were lovers if we don't have boyfriends? We never had sex before and we experimented, but not "below the belt." Does that mean were not virgins anymore? Help!!

first, calm down. you are both still virgins, don't worry. you are not "lovers" unless you do this often. and also, you're 13, calm your sex drive down and wait until you're older to find out about that type of stuff.
Kat

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i dont want to sound stupid when i say this but im 14/f and me and my b/f have been together over a year now and well i havnt done anything besides kiss him, see ive never done anything with anyone and well lets just say i have what usto be a "sex god" for a bf until he got with me. I want to do somthing like give him a hand job or blow job because as much as he tells me he doesnt mind i know he does. im just wondering... how? i mean what do you do while your giving and hand job? what do you look at? how do you do it? i dont wanna totaly suck at it and i wanna know what im doing before i try it!! please anything? any tips? advise? anything?

YOU'RE 14!! LEAVE HIS DICK ALONE. you are too young to be going below the belt, because if you do, before you know it, you'll end up having sex with him, and you could end up pregnant at 14. then you'd either have a baby, which at that age is a living hell to raise, or abort it, which is very damaging to your mind. please take my advice and just leave it alone. if he loves you, he'll stay with you because of that, not because you touch his dick.
Kat

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im 15 and well honstly ive only made out with 3 guys, and thats all ive ever sexually done... ive never "masterbated" whatever that means or anything like that but my bf keeps trying to finger me and stuff! if i let him do it..is it gonna hurt? can my "cherry" pop? is it gonna feel really bad? and if i let him do it will i be labled a slut? (me and my bf have been together 10-11 months now) anything?

okay, your 15, a little young to do much of below the belt. but i'll answer your questions anyway. depending on how he does it, yes, it may hurt a bit the first few times. no, your cherry can't pop unless his fingers are a foot long :P if you give him the okay, it shouldn't feel bad. and if no one knows, you shouldn't be labelled a slut. but my best advice to you is don't let anything happen below the belt. oh yeah, and masturbating is when you give yourself an orgasm by, basically, fingering yourself. hope this was informative, and please, take my advice, don't do anything below the belt!! later,
Kat

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i am a 13 year old girl, and i got my period for the first time today. i don't know how to tell my mom. any advice?

just tell her, it's a natural thing, she won't (or at least she shouldn't) flip out. she got one too when she was your age, it's normal. don't worry. later,
Kat

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ok there is this boy who is in my grade.. well here is the thing i found out that he liked me for a long time and i liked him too but neither of us knew about the other one.. he was gonna ask me out because someone told him, but he got scared i would turn him down because that day we were talking n i just wanted him to know that if ppl r still sayin i like him i don't i said this because he is black n my rentz r not cool with that. so he is goin out with another gurl n now in the hall he just looks @ me n our friendship is not the same but the thing is i cant stop thinking about him i am soOooOo stuck n i need help wut do I do?¿?¿

i'll tell you what i can from this, but i'd like to know who or what your "rentz" are so i can answer this better. take him aside, ALONE, and tell him the truth, that you do like him and if he wants to, you would be willing to go out with him. i say this because YOU ARE THE MOST IMPORTANT PERSON IN YOUR LIFE. it shouldn't matter what other people think or say about you. if you are happy, that's ALL THAT MATTERS. email me or ask another question. my email address is on my advice column if you want a more personal setting. i hope i helped you, and please, tell me what "rentz" are!! i'm here to help!
Kat

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i used to really like this guy alot (15/f and hes 17) and we talked alot and hed call me every day, but the thing is i dont really like his personality as much as i thought i did and i dont like him at all anymore- i dont know what to say to him because he thinks i like him and hes going to ask me out please help me find a way to not be mean but get across to him that i nolonger like him - thanks a bunch!!

when he does, just politely say "no thank you" and if he gets all snooty and angry, tell him that you'd still like to be friends, but you just don't like him in "that way". hope this helped,
Kat

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i sometimes feel uncomfortable singing infront of people! how do i over come this fear?!

signed,
Afraid2Sing

build yourself up slowly. start with one or two people, then go to five, then 8, then 10, etcetera. practice singing infront of them until you feel comfortable enough to go up to the next level. i've been there, it ain't fun, but take a step out of your comfort zone, it will be worth the trip :P
Kat

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There's this guy I like and i thought he liked me too. But then my friend had to go and mess everything up. She ran up to him and started bugging him and told him I was in love with him (which I'm not-I just like him). And now he's acting all weird around me. What should I do?

(I'm 13 and in 7th grade and I'm a female)

PLEASE HELP!!

two words: BE HONEST. all you have to do, as uncomfortable as it may seem, is to go up to him and tell him that your friend was being a jerk and that you don't LOVE him, you only LIKE him, and explain that you just want to stay together like you were before your friend butted her head in. hopefully this will calm him down and letting him know your intentions can help alot too. anymore problems, feel free to ask me!
Kat

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