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hello :)my name is amanda.
i love to give advice, so drop one in my inbox and i'll get back to you right away.
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i don't personally use limewire to get music or other illegal downloading methods, but all my friends do. i was thinking of downloading limewire but i was wondering what the chances are of being caught illegally downloading music? and also what will it do to my computer, would it start running slower?
the chances are very low of you actually getting caught, so i really wouldnt worry about that. but make sure you have a good virus blocker on your computer, because limewire has been known to put viruses on computers before and they're really hard to get rid of.
Hi! I have thin hair that comes to my shoulder... It seems all i can do with my hair is: ponytail, down and straightened, half up and straightened...
well you could try scrunching your hair in the morning. it does require that you shower in the morning though. but anyway, after you get out of the shower, towel dry your hair a bit until its damp. make sure you use a good hair gel, like something from bed head, or garnier frutics (sorry if i spelled that wrong!)
grab your hair from the tip and scrunch up to the root all the way around your head. make sure to use alot of gel (but not too much because then your har gets greasy) you may want to put it up in a messy bun afterward until it dries so it'll be more wavy.
you can also try a half up but curled hair, where you just pin it half up and curl the hair that's down a little at the bottom. other than that you could curl your entire head (may take more time).
hope i helped !
I'm looking for some good bands. I'm into stuff like Secondhand Serenade, Blue November, The Used, Dashboard Confessional...stuff like that, you know? I'd like as many as you can come up with, seriously. =) Thanks!
hmmmm.....well.
i listen to alot of stuff likeee:
paramore
mindless self indulgence (my favorite band, but its a bit different than what else is listed on here)
forever the sickest kids
panic at the disco
blink 182
simple plan
good charlotte
we the kings
cobra starship
thats really all that i could come up with. they're all really my favorite bands, you should check them out :)
http://www.coastalscents.com/cfwebstore/images/products/Brushes/brush1.jpg
can i use that kind of vrush flor my BLUSH
or is it toooo big?
its actually meant to be for bronzer but i think blush and bronzer can sumtyms be the same
yeas so is it tooo big for a blush brush?
thanks
nope i have the same one :)
perfect size in my opinion
it'll be fine
Ok, I'm 15/f.
I have my helix pierced, and then two on each lobe.
I'm 16 soon and my parents said I can get any piercing for my birthday.
Now I'm stuck between.
Something on my ear(tragus, industrial, conch, anti-tragus, forward helix,rook or snug?)
Tongue
Side lip
Navel
Eyebrow
I'm not 100% girly. But I'm not a tomboy either.
So like casual girl :P
Thank you!
Oh, I don't want anyone to be like err what the fuck is a ?
:P
hey! well i think that you should definitely get the side lip. ive always wanted one and i think they're the coolest :)
i wouldnt reccommend navel cuz i think its too mainstream. ehh everybody has it =/
eyebrow would be pretty cool too. definitely origional!
hope i helped !
okay so i really really really wanna make some lipgloss!!!!!!
it needs to be glossy and the liquid kind please!!!! i don't really like the ones that are solidds!
thanks for answering :)))
alright well here is a good recipe on how to make your own lipgloss without beeswax, which is sometimes hard to find and use:
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Your-Own-Lip-Gloss-Without-Beeswax
this one is my favorite though:
http://www.wikihow.com/Make-Lip-Gloss
hope i helped and tell me what you think!! =D
xoxo
mandyx3
I need help. So my dad got remarried like 5 years ago. Well, my stepmom is kinda cool. She really tries to be nice to me and my sister and i like spending summers there. Well, id like to be closer to her but my mom all she does is talk bad about my stepmom. She is always making nasty comments about her and my dad. I love my dad and my mom and my stepmom and I want a relationship with all them. How can I get my mom to stop talking about my Dad and stepmom? Ive told my school councelor and she told me that its really bad to say hateful things about the other parent to the kids. I told my mom this but she does it anyway. I need advice
i think that you mom is just trying to hold on to you. sometimes it is hard for divorced parents to let their child become close with the other parent and step parent because they are afraid of losing the child to the other parent. your mom is probably afraid that if she lets you become close with your stepmother, you may like your stepmom more than her. that may be why she always says negative things about her, to try and get you to think those things about your stepmom.
i think that you have to talk to your mom about it. try to explain to her that you love her, your dad, and your stepmom, and that you want to be closer to her. telling your mother how you feel will let her see it through your point of view. also letting her know that you love her, your dad, and your stepmom all the same might be comforting to her. that way she knows that you will never love your stepmom more than her and that you will always love everyone the same amount. you may have to have multiple talks with you mother until she really "gets it" that you would like to be closer to your stepmother and that you will never leave her.
tell me how everything works out!!
xoxo
mandyx3
Me and this guy like flirt non stop haha, Lets call him Jim. I mean, you can obviously Tell we have a thing. And everyone can see it. Both of us Are just too Afriad to Tell eachother. Anyways, Im not too sure if this is flirting but He always like Wacks me in the stomach or like punches me or stuff just like Fooling around. But i wanna like be Really flity with him, But when he punches me, I don't know what to do, should i punch back? That's what i usually do. Also, I just want to be flirty in general, School is coming to an end i wanna show him i like him without actually telling him. Im extremely shy though, So nothing too intense pleasee! haha thanksss(:
well if he punches you yeah you can punch right back, or like, playfully slap him. or you can pretend you're really hurt like, "ow!! you hurt me! you're so mean!" and then wink or smile to show him that you're kidding.
as for flirting in general, it really depends on what you are comfortable with. really subtle flirting could be like smiling alot or lightly touching his arm or something like that. and then progress onto things like playfully joking or punching him or stuff like that. thats the kind of stuff that you're doing now, which is good. just by spending more time with him and being a bit more flirty, i think he'll get it that you like him. hope i helped!! =DD
good luck =]]]
xoxo
mandyx3
okk well i went online and looked up the kiki kannibal kouture necklaces and i really like them but they are like, $50-$100 and i'm not gonna pay all that for ONE necklace. here are some pictures:
http://www.kaboodle.com/hi/img/2/0/0/63/1/AAAAAgcty_8AAAAAAGMc3g.jpg
http://static.stickam.com/media/image/converted/original/1742/2655/6/37a9b222-28d7-11dc-9f0e-4d4ed6ca279d.jpg
arent they pretty?? anyway, i cant afford to pay that much for one. so i was wondering if there were any stores that i could buy stuff from and just make my own? i really like the bat and the diamond but i dont know where to find them! can anyone help me out?? any tips would be sooo appreciated!! thank you!!
well i dont know of ANY places where you could buy plastic bats or diamonds in that shape, BUT instead of copying another idea, why dont you make your own? i personally dont have any kannibal kouture necklaces and i think that they are a bit expensice. i do love her necklaces but i think that making your own is a much better idea!! try finding different pieces at craft supply stores like michaels or joann fabrics or another craft store. then buy rhinestones or glitter and add your own style to them. and they are totally origional, one of a kind because YOU made them! i hope i helped!! =]]
xoxo
mandyx3
15/f. So I have this friend, and previously shes been abused by her dad. Now this was a long time ago but i dont know what is happening right now. But lately I've been worried, she told my other friend (us two are the only ones who know about the situation with her dad), that she has thought about suicide before.
Now I know this sounds really mean, but I wasn't too worried before, because this friend likes to make people feel bad for her, and she usually exaggerates things a bit. And I know that is a terrible excuse but now I am starting to get really worried. What should I do? If I were to tell anyone who would I tell and how would I go about doing it? Should I tell a councilor or policeman or write a letter?
Any advice is helpful, thanks.
well i think that you should first go to your parents. your parents are adults who can handle the situation and help your friend. if telling your parents is out of the question, consider talking to the school counselor about it. the counselor could tell her parents and hopefully get her into therapy. and if you tell a counselor, you could ask to remain anonymous and your friend woudl never know it was you. i know that probably isnt going to help you much, considering that it is only you and one other girl that knows. but i hpoe it helps a little bit =]
i also wanted to say that you should tell someone NOW before it is too late. it might be scary, but would you rather have lost the friendship or lost your friend forever? please go right away to tell your parents or a teacher or counselor or another trusted adult NOW before it's too late. i hope you can help your friend!!
xoxo
mandyx3
i dont know where to begin or how to begin,
id say im bisexual. but i dont think i totally am
like the full on i like girls thing
but i have this bestfriend, and we've been
through a lot together, and i think i like her.
like, like like her. but then i know im not
totally gay because i have a crush
on this guy. i've known my bestfriend for about
2 years now, we hang out just about everyday!!
and we do just about everything together.
i've been so confused, and i dont want to tell
her because shes always saying how shes not bi
and what not, we talk about it too ( the whole i know im not bi or gay thing ). and i say
the same thing, buh then again she could be doing
what im doing. so i dont know how to find out
the truth without letting her know i like her...
well i would not say that you are bisexual either. in my opinion, i would describe it bi-curious. which basically means that you are interested in being gay and curious about the same sex, but arent fully *there*. like you said, you think that you are bisexual, but you dont think you are on the whole full on girls.
well, maybe it is time to let your friend know that you might be a little sexually confused right now. maybe she is feeling the same way as you are. but you'll never know if you dont tell her. just try talking to her. she is your friend, and she'll love you no matter what. its time to be honest with her. you dont have to tell her right away that you like her, but maybe it is time to let her know. just sit her down and have an honest talk with her.
if you want to find out the truth without letting her know, try looking at her more closely. does she look at you differently? when you guys hug or something like that, does she linger there longer than neccesary? does she even flirt a little but? these are some things thst you should be looking for as clues. also, try asking your friends or her friends about anything she says about you. if she seems to talk about you (in a GOOD way!) alot, then maybe that could also be a clue.
in my opinion though, i think it is best to be honest with her. letting her know would mean not wondering anymore. and it would be a good idea to tell her the truth. at least you will know if you tell her, and if you didnt, you would never know. i hope i helped out and i hope everything works out for the best between you too!!
xoxo
mandyx3
A friend of my friend is considering suicide. What should I tell MY friend to do about it? who whould she notify? thanks --
i think that she should immediately tell her parents, a guidance counselor, ANYBODY. she should go to someone NOW though. if her friend is considering suicide, this could become a very dangerous situation. please get her friend help. i hope everything works out! tell me how it goes =]
hi i'm 14/f
well i just started going out with this guy lets call him frank.. well i've like frank for a while and he finally asked me out today and i said yes. Well at the begining of the year i had another boyfriend and we weren't very close we went out for 2 months and we didn't even hold hands or hug and i was just wondering wat i could do to make this realtionship better?
I've never really been close with my boyfriends the sorta avoiding them thing..you know?
and so yea i've never done of that stuff never been kissed!
can you help?
thanks
well some relationships are better than others. i was in a relationship with a guy where we didnt hug or hold hands or anything. when we broke up i relaized the reason why we never did any of that stuff is because the feelings werent there. you know? it wasnt a very good relationship because we didnt have those strong feelings for each other, and it never really worked out. i think that you should try to get to know him better once you guys start going on dates and stuff like that. once you guys know more about each other, you will find that things become much more intimate. then since you know so much more about eachother, you will start to get those feelings of wanting to hold hands and hug and maybe get your first kiss with this guy! tell me how everything works out! i hope this helped you =]]
hey i like this boy who is 16. does he likes me. he calls me , he talks to me on the computer. he texts my cell. it doesnt seem he does. he told me he likes me a lil...he wanted me to go to the powerhouse with him but my dad is not letting me go. i told him that and all he said was ok.. but i want to know does he like me ..... i will be on aol if u want to talk...bbj394 is my sn... please help and i will rate u
well he already told you that he likes you a little bit, but you just need to give it time for the relationship to grow. right now i see it as you will become friends first and then it will grow into a romantic relationship. if he talks to you on the phone, on IM and by text, then he is obviously interested. you just need to try to become better friends first to let the relationship grow. try going out to the movies with him and a bunch of other friends, or maybe just ask if you guys could hang out at the movies or at the mall or something. i hope i helped! tell me how it works out!
xoxo
mandyx3
what makes guys like girls? like what do most guys find hot and not?!
Well of course the physical attraction is there, but most guys will love to be with a girl that they can talk to. Someone that they have stuff in common with. Guys love a girl with confidence, someone who knows that she is sexy in her own way. But not slutty. Of course a guy wants someone confident, but someone who is not over-confident. A guy doesn't want his girl flirting with all the boys!! I think that a guy wants a girl who he can trust, and open up to. I hope I answered your question =]]]
When I start to like a guy, I fall really fast and becoming to obsessive in my own mind. I constantly think about whoever it is at the time and I'll start to want to talk to him 24/7. Of course then I get bored quickly and move on to being obsessed with another guy.
How do I stop this annoying cycle so I can just be more chill with guys?
just try to build up friend relationships with guys. if you build up regular guy-friend relationships, you are less likely to obsess over them because you will view them as just friends. so that way, if you do start to like one of them, you will already know how to act around them. you'll be more likely to be calm around them and like them longer. i hope i helped =]]
im gonna sing no air in a party any tips???
how do i sing it good
i dont have a great voice and i dont have trainging vocally
grrr help! I WANNA SOUND GREAT ESPECIALLY TO DO THIS GURL WHO GONNA BE WATCHING ME THA BRAGS ABOUT HER VOICE
well i think that the best thing that you can do is make it your own. you dont want to sound exactly like jordan sparks, you want to make the song your own. so dont like, copy everything jordan sparks does, but also dont completely change the song. just be right in the middle.
well vocally i would advise you to drink plenty of water before you go on, and try to stay awawy from carbonated drinks and sugary and salty foods. dont do any yelling before hand or you might lose your voice. try and have good posture while your up there, i.e. sing standing up. and have confidence!! dont be nervous, and dont worry about the people out there watching you. just go fot it! and have fun. people can tell when you are nervous and they will be more likely to provoke it if they find that they can make you more nervous. so just have fun and dont worry about it! the most important thing is that you enjoyed performing, not if they enjoyed it. get up there and blow them away!! good luck!! tell me how it goes =]]
Last year I discuss my best friend that I am bi sexual and that I have a crush on her. She is fine with it but she doesn’t like me in that way. Because she is unsure of her sexuality and not ready for a relationship (she is still unsure). After the talk we had she and I are still close friends and there were times she will seemed she is flirts or teasing me but I cant tell if it means she fancy me. She leans on me, touch me and close to me. Yesterday she and I and couple of our friends were in my room watching TV. I was on the left side of my bed and she the right. I lay in my head in the middle of the bed as she too. We ended up our heads touching together. I just don’t get why she is so touchy feely to me when she isn’t attracted to me.
just because she is unsure and not quite ready for a relationship, it doesnt mean that she isnt attracted to you. i think that shes also attracted to you, but that it will just take time until it develops into a further relationship. you could try talking to her, or you could just wait for the feelings to grow (because it looks to me like you two will have a romantic relationship in the near future) i hope it works out for you two =]]
We have a little family bible worship service each Saturday, against my will. We just read through Proverbs and lately the chapters we've been reading have this "child discipline" things in them . Like " Spare the rod; spoil the child." It's friggin driving me CRAZY! My parents always choose those verses when we come to the part where we are supposed to share what we felt was the important verse to us out of the things we read. (we read one verse ech.) Each time my dad cracks some joke like "yeah, take out the rod!" and my mom babbles on about how it's right and every parent should discipline and BLAH BLAH BLAH!In front of me! And lots of time directed to me!My parents they I should always obey an do what they want.They actually SAY it like that." YOu should always obey no matter what because we're more experienced." I mean, don't get me wrong, I am christian but why do they force me to do things I don't wanna. Like days I'd rather not go to church. I'm even going to CHRISTIAN school. If I tell them I don't wanna go to THAT certain school they threaten to take me out of that school and put me in these very hard schools.. ( I go to an international school and I live in Asia. In the place I live, the country's schools are VERY difficult.) They also just go "God has't touched you yet. I was just as unfaithful and Godless as you when I was young" And those DISCIPLINE and sexual parts! Don't they think I'd be embarrassed! I mean, excuse me, I'm a kid! I don't wanna here about how I should get hit by a rod! (my parents don't hit me, btw.) Don't they think I'd be embarrassed?! I always get mad after these worhsip meetings and my annoying mom always shout " What's wrong with you? The devil provoked you right after the worhsip meeting!" What is she, a friggin priest? I mean the devil? What the freak? UGH! 13/f
I know that it is hard for you to deal with your parents being very christain, but you just have to remember that it is their beliefs. It might feel like they are putting a lot of pressure on you. Trust me, I know what that feels like. Unfortunately, there is really nothing you can do about it. Your parents are obviously very strong in their beliefs, and I can tell that they are only doing what they think is best for you. Try talking to them. Just tell them how you feel. It may be hard, and I guarantee that they won't be too happy about it, but they really do need to know how it makes you feel when they say or do things like that. Also, try to look for outside support, like talking to your friends or another family member about it. It would be easier to deal if you had support with other family and friends. I have found that it is so much easier to deal if you have someone to vent to. Hope it helps!! Good luck =]
I have a friend who recently experienced this problem and I don't know what kind of advice to give her. Her and her bf (of a few years) got into a fight. He called her a bad name (c___), she smacked him and he smacked her back (she said it was pretty hard but that he told her he did it by accident kind of a reaction or something).. He's never hit her before nor does he seem like that kind of guy to me. She's not sure if this should be a big deal to her and while I normally say you should never stay with a man who hits you she did hit him first. What should I tell her? =/
okk to start off with, i dont think that it is acceptable to be called a c___ by your boyfriend. i think that it is just horrible. okk next. no matter what the excuse, in my opinion, it is never okk for a guy to hit a girl. she hit him because he called her a horrible name. he just retaliated. that is not right. and making up excuses such as, "it was just a reaction, i didnt mean to..." is just an excuse and a lie. im sorry, but i wouldnt stay with him.
if she does decide to stay with him, he better PROVE to her that he'll never do it again. it really is not acceptable for a guy to hit a girl, and he needs to know that. so if she does decide to stay with him, make sure he knows what he did was wroong and if it happens again, the relationship is over.
i hope this helps your friend and tell me how it goes =]]