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sexually confused
i dont know where to begin or how to begin,
id say im bisexual. but i dont think i totally am
like the full on i like girls thing
but i have this bestfriend, and we've been
through a lot together, and i think i like her.
like, like like her. but then i know im not
totally gay because i have a crush
on this guy. i've known my bestfriend for about
2 years now, we hang out just about everyday!!
and we do just about everything together.
i've been so confused, and i dont want to tell
her because shes always saying how shes not bi
and what not, we talk about it too ( the whole i know im not bi or gay thing ). and i say
the same thing, buh then again she could be doing
what im doing. so i dont know how to find out
the truth without letting her know i like her...
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k so im only 14 idk bout who you are but im a girl so i might be able 2 help....oh and im straight at-least i hope....so you say you think you like your best friend well this can happen but its not because your bi but because you like that she realy knows you may-b you just have a great connection if you raelly wanna know if she feels the same way then just ask if shes your best friend and you talk bout that sort of thing together then trust her enough to be there now... sure it might make her feel weird at first but hey might be thinkin the same thing or she might just say w/e she doesnt like you like that and still be friends so next time you hang out and its only the 2 of you then just well tell her and see what happens....:]
hope fully i helped....xuya :D
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well i would not say that you are bisexual either. in my opinion, i would describe it bi-curious. which basically means that you are interested in being gay and curious about the same sex, but arent fully *there*. like you said, you think that you are bisexual, but you dont think you are on the whole full on girls.
well, maybe it is time to let your friend know that you might be a little sexually confused right now. maybe she is feeling the same way as you are. but you'll never know if you dont tell her. just try talking to her. she is your friend, and she'll love you no matter what. its time to be honest with her. you dont have to tell her right away that you like her, but maybe it is time to let her know. just sit her down and have an honest talk with her.
if you want to find out the truth without letting her know, try looking at her more closely. does she look at you differently? when you guys hug or something like that, does she linger there longer than neccesary? does she even flirt a little but? these are some things thst you should be looking for as clues. also, try asking your friends or her friends about anything she says about you. if she seems to talk about you (in a GOOD way!) alot, then maybe that could also be a clue.
in my opinion though, i think it is best to be honest with her. letting her know would mean not wondering anymore. and it would be a good idea to tell her the truth. at least you will know if you tell her, and if you didnt, you would never know. i hope i helped out and i hope everything works out for the best between you too!!
xoxo
mandyx3
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Wow.. Well, first of all: There is a difference in actually being bi-sexual and bi-curious. At this time, you are bi-curious, until you have actually experienced a girl/girl relationship and decided if it is for you or if it's not for you. If it is for you, then yes you are bi-sexual. It is also based on when you felt an attraction for the same sex. If you felt it at a young age, then it is also possible. If you didn't and you just felt it while hanging with your friend, you are curious.
Secondly: You are correct, your friend could be playing it off b/c she may also be bi-curious OR based on the signals you are sending her she could be telling you in advance that she is not bi-sexual or gay and has no desires or interest in being with a girl.
I honestly think that ALL girls/ladies/women have been curious at one point, as to what bi-sexuality and gay life is really about. Most deny it b/c of the way society has outcast the preference in the past;however, it is much more discussed, and shown in public, even on tv now than it was back in the day - which also causes curiosity. Honestly, the only thing that you can do is tell her what you are feeling and be sure to let her know that you respect her opinion and feelings she isn't curious. OR you can keep your feelings and just tell her that you are bi-curious and see if she has any curiosities too.
If she expresses that she doesn't then don't tell her how you feel about her and keep those feelings to yourself for your own safety. Either way, be prepared in case she shuns you because you told her you are bi-curious or have feelings for her. If she is really a true friend and your best friend, honesty shouldn't come into play in damaging the friendship.
Good Luck
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