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friend in trouble
15/f. So I have this friend, and previously shes been abused by her dad. Now this was a long time ago but i dont know what is happening right now. But lately I've been worried, she told my other friend (us two are the only ones who know about the situation with her dad), that she has thought about suicide before.
Now I know this sounds really mean, but I wasn't too worried before, because this friend likes to make people feel bad for her, and she usually exaggerates things a bit. And I know that is a terrible excuse but now I am starting to get really worried. What should I do? If I were to tell anyone who would I tell and how would I go about doing it? Should I tell a councilor or policeman or write a letter?
Any advice is helpful, thanks.
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Hey, my name is Faith42 and I hope I can help!
You should realy tell your parents about your friend! They probably tell you what to do about
your friend! Then you should talk to guidance
counsler ! Or, realy tell any adult about your
situation with your friend! They are older and may
have diffrent advice for you!
I hope I helped,
Faith42:)
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well i think that you should first go to your parents. your parents are adults who can handle the situation and help your friend. if telling your parents is out of the question, consider talking to the school counselor about it. the counselor could tell her parents and hopefully get her into therapy. and if you tell a counselor, you could ask to remain anonymous and your friend woudl never know it was you. i know that probably isnt going to help you much, considering that it is only you and one other girl that knows. but i hpoe it helps a little bit =]
i also wanted to say that you should tell someone NOW before it is too late. it might be scary, but would you rather have lost the friendship or lost your friend forever? please go right away to tell your parents or a teacher or counselor or another trusted adult NOW before it's too late. i hope you can help your friend!!
xoxo
mandyx3
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I hate to hear that your friend is being abused - being that she has told you this, she is asking you for intervention and help b/c she is afraid to get it for herself. Does her mother know what is going on and is her mother around?
Abuse is one hell of a thing, TRUST me-I know first hand and I KNOW what it is to NOT be taken seriously and I also know what it is to want to commit suicide because of it-
First, telling the police may not go to far, there is no evidence and my experience with the police first hand did NOTHING AT ALL, but start up a bunch of BS in the lil' country community, I lived in. So, I am advising you to contact the National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD
I encourage you also go on line and read up on what to expect when placing this call and to gain more helpful information- I have posted the website address
thewww.childhelp.org/get_help
Before you do this, ask your friend to talk to you and tell you the TRUTH STRAIGHT UP b/c you are concerned, and tell her UP FRONT what it is that you are going to do b/c you love and care for her. If she objects to this, call them anyway and let her know that you are calling anyway so that she isn't abused anymore, and seeks the help that she needs.
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