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Okay, so I have a boyfriend. And I love him so much nobody would ever understand. Everything reminds me of him and he's always on my mind. Today he confessed that I'm all he ever thinks about no matter what he's doing. That means that he thinks about me a lot because he's always playing football or basketball or soccer or working out. My friends say I'm obbsessed, but I just can't help it. Is there anything I can do that will take my mind off of him or at least tone down my thoughts about him a bit?
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although its great to have strong feelings for a person and love them a mature love realizes that real life gets in the middle of things. what i am saying is.... you need to realize that without him you are still you. you must maintain that individual side of yourself so you dont loose yourself in him. im not saying to "act"like he is unimportant because i know how it is to love someone and think of them often but dont loose sight of life because in the end all you have is you if he ever left and you have to strike a healthy balance. besides men are more attracted to a woman that maintains her own identity and interest. continue feeling how you do. its ok to do so. just stay busy and concentrate on the important things that you need to accomplish in your life cause i he loves you now he will love you later. not to mention he'll feel proud that he is with such an interesting woman. even though he claims to think of you all the time i really do believe that noone likes to be smothered and eventually they will loose interest. so love him and adore him, think of him often. butttttttt dont make him your only hobby. best of luck hun.
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I have a slight problem. Sometimes when I get out of the bath/shower I feel like I am going to fall, my eyes change for some reason, and I get real dizzy. This has happened more than once and I have never been to a doctor over this problem because my family doesn't have much money. If anyone could tell me why these have been happening it would be much appreciated.
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is your shower hot? i know that happens to me when i get out of a really hot shower. i have also at times felt dehydrated and guzzled water after i got out and it cured the problem. get out slowly, and drink water.hope i helped.
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yes mam i am a 31 year old male(straight) who loves heavy meatal and country, most of my friends like the same but when i have a get together and wish for something a little uplifting i play one of the greatest bands of all time, chicago, of course i am immediately cricified and most of the comments are a referance to sexual prefeance. is there any way to get my hardcore music friends to enjoy the melodic extravaganza that is chicago. please help!---cavdoc--- (link)
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well personally i love chicago hun and i dont think there is anything wrong with loving them. if i had a party i for surely would blare chicago. i feel that you should blast it and hold your head high and feel proud to be a chicago fan. i also that music is a reflection of who you are and what you feel. there are many chicago tunes that are rich in feeling and represent feelings of the 80's and of now. hold tight to what you love and your friends need to accept you for you. dont change. its not worth it!!!!!!!!chicago is who you are and noone should change that.im sure there are many closet chicago fans that would love to reveal who they are.i remember when i finally revealed my love for chicago. it was such a liberating experience.the song i am a man and will fight for your honor is a great song.it reminds me of someone i really care about. and i only hope that he appreciates the sound of chicago. as for your friends maybe explaining to them why chicago is so important to you may shed some light on them to understand. its really hard for a hardcore chicago fan to understand why noone would love chicago. in your honor tommorow i will blast chicago from my car on the way to the store and i will put on my 80's ray-bans and shout the lyrics in your honor.chicago has been around longer then mst of your friends and thats why it is important not to give up on peter cetera and his band. they make ya laugh make ya cry. i mean i cant tell you how many times i have wanted to make love to the rhythem of chicago on a velvet rug drinking irish whiskey. anyhow good luck and keep me posted
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Hey, im a 13/f and i was wondering if there were any home-made remidies (sp) for getting rid of pimples and blackheads? If you could help that would be great, thx! And i rate =] (link)
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eggwhites and milk and scrub gently with brown sugar
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Okay!I am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 16! Well a week before my period was supposed to come, my boyfriend and i had sex. It didnt last long like only 5 minutes at the most! He didnt cum in me because I watched him when he came out of me! a little got on top of my leg but that is the farthest that it got to me! we dont even think that he popped my cherry! i was supposed to start this past monday..it is now thursday and i havent started yet! i have the symptoms that i am about to but i havent yet! is there a reason that i havent started or do i need to take a pregnancy test!?!? please answer me asap! PLEASE! (link)
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well i would definityly take a test and see but it wouldnt show a pregnancy untill you are at least a week to 2 weeks late. sperm can swim and the precum that is released from a male inside of you can get you pregnant. the pull out method has a high failure rate. i dont mean to scare you but if you are 15 and dont want a baby you have some descions to make. birth control is avalible through planned parenthood. i would highly recommend getting on some. chances are you arent pregnant but if you arent get on birthcontrol asap!
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I have to write an essay about a serial killer for my english class. It can be about any serial killer I want, so I chose to write about Jeffrey Dahmer. Everyone else wanted to write about Ted Bundy or Aileen Wournoes (the Monster character that Charlize Theron played )
Does anyone know anything about Jeffrey Dahmer? I rented the movie Dahmer, and so far it looks like he just likes to kill for company, mainly gay guys.
Does anyone know if Dahmer was executed in prison? And did he ever kill woman, or just men? (link)
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i do know a lil bit about hime. i do know that as a child he was very lonely and had a strange relationship with his mother. he also started by hurting animals and killing them and burying them out in a field that he use to walk by as a kid. his parents had a hard time believing he would hurt anything because he was such a quiet soft spoken child. also i know that he was a satan worshipper and a surviving victim of his said on oprah that when he went to his apartment that night jefferey was playing a scene from exorcist over and over again. then he said he opened jefferys fridge and saw a pot with a head in it and thats how he knew he was next so he knew to defend himself. hope i helped a lil
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has any one else noticed that most of the things asked on this site are not people seeking actual advice, it is just a bunch of people who are too um i guess "lazy" to type in google.com and search for the lyrics to a song, or where they can find a good website etc.,so they have to ask a bunch of people who want to give them advice and who may not even be right...hmm...
yes, i know i may be being a little hypocritical right now by asking a question, but i am just um.."upset" that young people these days just cant simply go to the lovely site of google..o well does anyone agree with me on this one? (link)
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ok, so without disclosing my age, we'll say im over the age of 18, I recently started babysitting an infant that is teething. I babysit him from 5am to 5pm, so I've got my hands full. I've never had children of my own but I have always loved kids and yes, I know how to take care of him as far as feeding, burping and such ok so my question is, he's fine and dandy as long as I am holding him 24 hours a day, but I cant hold him all the time, i need both my hands to fix his bottles and such, but if I put him down, he screams his head off and will NOT stop. What is his deal? I think he is just spoiled a couple of ppl have told me to just put him down and let him cry it out but that makes me feel like a bad person for doing that. any advice? p.s. he's 4 months old. (link)
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i agree hes spoiled . babies are smarter then we think and they can manipulate at a very early age. my daughter did the same thing. i would let him cry it out and in a firm yet unabusing way tell him you will be right with him and to hang in there. also try this........get a baby mozart video from a video store or target and a bouncer seat. its made for babies and helps with thier vision and relaxation. my daughter would watch it while i did dishes made bottles and all that stuff thats how i ended all that. remember baby mozart is a moms lifesaver.... bouncer seat toooooooooooo
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Am I justified in being upset with my bf? Since he moved to another state back in November for a job he hasnt contacted me ONCE. I phoned him on Xmas Day and he said that he'd phone me on New Years. I was waiting up all night for his call, and never got one. I've decided to give him one last chance, on Valentines Day. If he doenst phone me then it's over. Life is just too lonely having my life put on hold. My feelings are deeply hurt that he would treat me this way. My question is if he doesnt contact me on V-day, should I phone him up and tell him that it's over between us? (link)
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nope i wouldnt call id just disappear like he did and if he resurfaces tell him that you sent him emails and stuff and you were under the impression he was over you or he moved on so you did the same.
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I met a guy on an online dating site. After just a couple of days he told me he wanted to meet me. The kicker was that he said he didn't have a car, and that I would have to drive up to see him. Remember, I've never met him, and really don't know that much about him except what he wrote about himself. At first I said yes that I would drive up after work on Saturday, but then my gut feeling and intuition were telling me not to do it. So I emailed him and cancelled the date and told him I wasnt comfortable with the arrangement, and that I would prefer he come up to see me. He wrote back and told me that the reason he didnt have a car was that he was taking public transit to save money, and that he wouldnt have a car until May. Then he said he asked to meet me too soon, and would still like to meet me. My gut feeling is telling me that this guy is a little desperate, and I want to back out of the whole thing.
I don't want to hurt his feelings. What would be a nice way to end things with him, and do you think he'll get angry? I told him at first that I wouldnt mind still sending him some getting to know you emails, but I don't even want to do that anymore. I'm thinking realistically, how is this potential relationship going to work? The guy doesnt even live in the same town as me and deosnt have a car.
Would I be a super bitch if I told him I didn't think this would be a good idea? (link)
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go with your intuition you dont wanna be kicking yourself in the ass later. he doesnt sound like he can afford to be dating unless you dont mind pinching pennies and taking the transit on a date. i dont mean to sound mean to him but if a man is in a situation alone like that the last thing he needs to do is start dating until he get all this stuff taken care of. as far as being a nice guy ... yeah he may be the sweetest thing in the world but there are many sweet men out there and how often is he online cause you definitly dont need to be with a guy that has no life and is online all the time. i just imaagine a guy sitting online trolling for women for his own selfish reason when in reality he has no stability to offer if you fell in love and it became serious. unless these things are things you can tolerate ... cause who knows how long he'll be in his situation,,,i wouldnt meet him tell him that you dont feel the timing is right and you dont want to start something with a man in another town at this time. tell him you arent saying you cant be email buddies and keep in touch but you just dont feel comfortable with the current feelings you have.good luck. and remember you really dont know him so dont feel guilty for all you know he may not be a thing like he says he may be sitting in front of a computer in a old motel waiting and luring women to him. be careful
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Like the topic stated I'd like to hear from woman what they would consider fun dates,
first dates and later on when you know the guy better.
I actually need a couple of date ideas, I live in a big-town/small-city and if a girl has been on more than 5 dates she would have seem everything around here.
Thanks in advance :) (link)
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take her to hawaii but at your house or a hotel.... decorate the room in a hawaaian theme and serve her a drink in a coconut and eat some bbq food and play some romantic hawaaian music shell get a kick outta it or do it italian style with the whole italian decor with pizza or however ya do it it was the creativity she will always remember. and it doesnt have to be expensive.go to a party supply and buy the laou stuff its fun and give her a lai when she walks in the door.hehe
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I am waaay too overweight, but I can't seem to get it off. I've tried counting calories combined with exercise, and I had to get down to 900 calories a day to lose weight, and even then it was less than a pound every two weeks.
The only thing that has every worked for me is the South Beach diet, and it worked really well. The only problem is that I kept getting really sick on it. I was dizzy, lightheaded, and nervous all the time, and I kept throwing up and having diarrhea.
I went to my doctor, but he doesn't believe me. He says that it's not possible for me to have such a hard time losing weight.
So here's my question. Can anyone tell me any medical reason that I might be having trouble losing weight? I'd like to go to the doctor with some suggestions, because maybe he's missed something. Also, can anyone suggest why I might've gotten so sick on South Beach?
And finally, has anyone had any realy success with any other diet that I might try? I don't mind dieting or exercising, so I'm open to anything that works!
Thanks in advance! (link)
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well did they check for hypothyroidism? that is a major thing to check for when a person has a great weight gain or cant get the weight off dispite every attempt. i lost alot of weight 80 lbs on hydroycut and metabolife but they arent healthy for you but they do work.i would recommend a physical exam before taking any of them and before any extreme diet. but yeah get your thyroid checked. a person with a slow thyroid sometimes appears puffy in the face and feels tired all the time and can gain weight rapidly. they will just put you on a lil pill to regulate it and if you do have a thyroid problem they will get it back to normal and you will rapidly loose weight. google hypothyroidism symptoms
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if love was a question would you answer it? even if it made you feel sad, or mad, or dissapointed or insecure? (link)
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yes because there is a risk in everything you do in life and for love its worth the risk
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When it comes to listening, I'm the worst. If I don't want to hear what you're saying, or even if I do but I'm bored, I will tune you out. Not on purpose either (well it might be on purpose but I'm not aware of it). I won't even realize that I'm tuning you out until you're done talking.
There have been many times where my friends tell me stories for like 15 min. and when they're done I ask, "Wait...what did you just say?" You can imagine how offended and upset people get.
I need help. If I try to pay attention to something I don't want to pay attention to, I'll concentrate on trying to pay attention and why I should pay attention so then I'm not paying attention to what you're saying I'm concentrating on why I should. That's confusing. Any help?
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well i do the same thing and my reason is that i have way to much on my mind and im trying to absorb to much information in one day. i also am always busy and multitasking so i never have the patience to take the time to listen until im on here at night when the kid is asleep and my mind is relaxed themn i wanna listen to everything people wanna spill . strange huh . wish i could help but know you arent alone in this.
reply...i think you just tuned me out and didnt listen the information is in the paragraph
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hey! okay, i'm 15/f and i'm allowed to get my belly button pierced after our last cheerleading competition, which is around march 13. but, we are going to mexico for spring break on march 24, and i don't know if i should get it done before spring break or not. i want it when i'm laying on the beach and stuff but will the water in mexico and all the chlorine be bad for it? i don't know if i should get it done before or after mexico. any ideas? any info on belly button piercing would be great too! (link)
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yes it is bad for it they advise you to stay outta the sun because it can cause improper healing and scarring. as for the clorine i dont really know about that but yes the sun is bad for it.
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Which you think is better Cathloic high schools or Public high schools and explain your reason why because i don't know if i want to go to a public high school because iam attending to a cathloic high school. (link)
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i personally went to catholic school and public and now that i have a child of my own i have her in a christian school. i feel private school is best. there is more structure for learning. my grades dropped in public school and all my friends were not of the same status as i was once accustomed to. so what happened was i became like them ... ditching and all that stuff. i dunno i just think that way and its my opinion hope i helped.
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i want to make a new s/n and i wnat to have the word barbie in it i noe its clechie but i think its cute sumthin like x0x0babrbie or i dont noe i need help ill rate high tnxs
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barbie_q
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what is a shank? i know the part between your knee and ankle...but is there anyother definition for it? thanks (link)
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a knife in prison
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hey everyone! im going to the ortho tonight to get my ties on my braces changed you know? well i had hot pink - total mistake. it drew too much attention to my mouth ahha. what color is the best to get? thanks! (link)
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This may sound like a really stupid question comming from a mother of 6 but here it goes. I have a 2 year old little girl and she is the love of my life, but lately she is driving me crazy with this whole potty training thing. Does anyone have any advice or tricks that I can use to help her train?? She is the only female child that I have had to potty train. Boys are so much eaiser!!!!!!! Any feedback would be greatly appreciated!!!!! (link)
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i potty trained my daughter by having the man at the grocery store tell her (as i was putting diapers on the belt)that she is too old for them and they legally cant sell them to her anymore. she ued the toliet when we got home. also it works to play the game dont sit on my potty. this one usually works if you have a headstrong child that likes to have a power struggle with you. just say in a really playful voice"dontttttttttt you dare sit on myyyyyyyyyyy potty and make it fun sometimes they make it a mission to poop in yourrrrrrrrrrr potty. it also may be that shes too young . mine was 3 years and 3 months when she finally did it.
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