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bad listener
When it comes to listening, I'm the worst. If I don't want to hear what you're saying, or even if I do but I'm bored, I will tune you out. Not on purpose either (well it might be on purpose but I'm not aware of it). I won't even realize that I'm tuning you out until you're done talking.
There have been many times where my friends tell me stories for like 15 min. and when they're done I ask, "Wait...what did you just say?" You can imagine how offended and upset people get.
I need help. If I try to pay attention to something I don't want to pay attention to, I'll concentrate on trying to pay attention and why I should pay attention so then I'm not paying attention to what you're saying I'm concentrating on why I should. That's confusing. Any help?
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well i do the same thing and my reason is that i have way to much on my mind and im trying to absorb to much information in one day. i also am always busy and multitasking so i never have the patience to take the time to listen until im on here at night when the kid is asleep and my mind is relaxed themn i wanna listen to everything people wanna spill . strange huh . wish i could help but know you arent alone in this.
reply...i think you just tuned me out and didnt listen the information is in the paragraph
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You may have ADD, but in any case, here are some listening skills you should know so people won't get upset at you.
Maintain eye contact, lean forward and face the speaker, ask questions, nod your head, paraphrase the speaker.
You should learn how to become an "active listener". Active listening is when you let the speaker know you are listening and clarifying anything that is confusing. You can do this by asking the speaker questions and saying things like "I guess you must have felt..." "Tell me about..." "Hmmm." "Really?" "Uh-huh."
So even if you aren't completely paying attention, using those skills will make the person talking to you seem like you are really interested and they won't get upset with you. Good luck!
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Well, first of all..you might have a mild cause of ADD(attention deficit disorder)..theres probably no way you do, but maybe...also, i have a friend just like that and he literally tunes me out for ahwile like you said and notices after and always keeps aksing what i said, soemtimes 3 times b4 he listens to it enough to comprehend what im saying..but ive just gotten used to it and like him for who he is..its just him..i cant explain it and neither can he..so i dont think theres much else you can really do but to maybe practice focusing more every time..remember int he begining to look into their eyes the whole time and try to figure out what theyre sayin so you can comment back..this also sorta reminds me of this autistic 7yr old boy i watch(kinda like a nanny job) he has that problem too..hes always in 'his own world' but thats part of autism..you just need patience to get him back to earth..maybe tell you friends to tap your shoulders or say your name if they notice you not payin attention so that you snap bak to it..and the eye thing is a big thing..for the boy i watch if he isnt looking at my eyes he rarely hears/understands what i say..hope this helps.
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