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Q: iam a 66 year old female was married for 46 years have been a widow for 5 years but now have found a new love but when we make love i can not seem to have a orgasm. does that mean there is something wrong with me ? this man is very good and sweet and tender so know it is not him . we just really have fun and a great time.could it be some of the medications i am on or am i just to old? Thank you
maybe your just to old but hey no ones ever to old to have sex
love,lizzie

Q: 15/f
i have this fantasy like when i have sex. its like we go like hard and slow. like real slow. and im on the bottom. but alot of guys i heard always like going fast. how do i take control and tell him how i wanna do it.
tie him up chicky ha ha
love,lizzie

Q: 15/f
ok so you no how you have the circle and then your nipple? well my "circles" are like... diffrent sizes? is that normal haha? and one boob is like bigger then the other.. i dont think anyone can notice it but im worried that my boyfriend will, like when were doing stuff?
so do i still have growing to do or is it going to be like that forever?
its normal and no i dont think he will notice useually guys dont care anyways
love,lizzie

Q: Well every guy i date wants to have sex with me
but im really scared and want to wait till i find the right guy or im married and they dump me should i just give it up to them?
hell no if the guys only want to date you for your sex then they aint the kind of guy you want. i think you are right with saving yourself for the right guy.just keep your legs closed and your heart open.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: I AM SO EMBARRASED

i dont go on here much but i went on the otha day and forgot to log off, my sis posted this thing about how she had sex with my best friend and all this shit i cant look at him or my sister the same at all she knows i saw it

what do i do?
ohh man i would be pissed umm well if you dont want to be mad anymore i guess i would just talk to them a little bit more about it who knows maybe you dont know the whole story.or maybe she made it up so you would get mad .
let me know how it all works out
'lot of love,lizzie

Q: ok. im the one who has the ex bf issues. -lol- but n e ways.....i have a new bf. I like him ALOT, but 2 days after we started goin out, he had to go on spring break early to wisconsin. Im okay with it, but it goes to our situation.lol

Ok. Thursday night, 2 nights after we started goin out,I was bored and asked him, if you could say one thing to me right now, what would it be?" And he said, I can't tell you right now, but you tell me what you would say. I said I would say 3 things. 1) I miss him. Cause it's a longer story. ( we've been friends for a year, and just now started goin out.) Ok. So then he tells me what he'd say. and he said that if he could tell me one thing right now, what would it be? And he said , " I love you". Now realize, I said that we had been friends for a year in the making, so my mouth dropped. ( But in a good way.) Cause I kinda knew he was ganna say that. So then I told him my other 2 things. 2) I was xstatic to be his gf. And 3) I think I love you. He said sweet, then we had to get off the phone. Now I've talked to him since, and he seems like any happy bf would. But he aks like it never happend. And I mean, as the obnoxisious friend Allen, he would be a jerk, and purposlly forget. But as a bf, he's a COMPLETELLY diff. person. and I don't know what he thinks. But was hoping you guys could help me out.-lol- i just think it's cute cause, i've liked this guy for the longest time, and he asked me out. And he likes all the things I do. It's like he's perfect. But in the majority of ways, the " i love you feels right, and i could love him, " but in another way, I don't wanna say it to soon. And I think he's the same way. But if so, then WHY DID HE SAY IT FIRST? -lol-
starting off as friends and then becoming loversis one of the most rewarding things this world has to offer

Q: Alright so this may be an intresting question...

I want to know if each of these things is considered good or bad, ok?

-My b.f has an 8inch penis (hurts me sometimes)
-He doesnt cum for like 2 hours (this is the one that worries me a lil)
-he never gets tired after sex

haha thanks in advance!
well that sounds pretty good to me ha ha just kidding. Uhh i dont think you really have to worry about it those things are common for alot of guys. if you get to worried it wouldnt hurt to have it checked out by a doctor.
let me know what you think
lots of love,lizzie

Q: My question is simply this. Me and my boyfriend have been sexually active for a few months now and every time he seems eager during foreplay to either 'go down on me' or make sure I'm satisfied in whatever way before him. I have no problem with this, I've come to a point where I'm assured with home much I love him and also I've beconme comfortable with him in every respect, so my question is simply, he practically begs every time we're alone together in the house, if he can do it to me before I do it to him. Well, of course he never says no to me pleauring him first but always seems very eager to give oral sex. I was wondering, I know guys say they like it even though they don't enjoy it necessarily because it gives pleasure to the girl. Is this true, or do some of you actually enjoy the experience? Why else would he want to do it so much? XD. This may sound stupid. Sorry. Either way, I told him he could stop anytime and he started a sentence and said something about liking to watch me feel good, but I'm just worried he could be saying it whilst actually wishing it to end or something, just so I don't feel bad. What do you think?!

Thank you!
aww sweetie i think your worring to much about it. I think that what your boyfriend is trying to say is that he like to make you feel good or he likes to be certain that he plesures you.or hey maybe he likes to do the work first so he can just relax after his turn . i dont know guys are crazy some times. just be happy he dosnt make you do all the work.
lots of love,lizzie

Q: Alright, so my hair is THE WORST! Literally. It's frizzy, thick, course, and dry. Talk about a bad combination. Anyways, I know it's unhealthy, but I straighten my hair every day, sometimes twice or more a day..and I usually end up wearing it pulled up anyways cause it's just that unconrollable. So does anyone know of any good products that actually work. I've thought about having it chemically straightened, but I'm too scared to loose my hair or something haha. Anyways, any help would be appreciated.

Thanks. :]
bed head works great
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,trisha

Q: Well I was in a relationship with this boy....i'll just say his name is bob. Anywayyss I thought everything was going great in our relationship but out of nowhere we're alone in my room and we get into this BIG argument that ends with him hitting me and raping me! Could it be that I did somethin wrong?
you did nothing wrong but i dont think that you should really be a relationship with someone who gets upset and rapes you thats just gross and not healthy at all. You dont need that.let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: should i turn down one of my bestfriends that is going to ask me out?
if you dont like them but if you do then give it a shot.
let me know how it all woks out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: How do I know when I first get my period??
umm you just bleed i guess............just like a regular period unsteed of peeing yellow you pee blood.
lots of love,lizzie

Q: I smoke marijuana and cigarettes, and I'm about to get on birth control.

I know that smoking on birth control is bad, and it increases risks of heart attack, I'm 16 years old btw. I was just wondering does it change the effectiveness of birth control. Like will it not work as well if I smoke while I'm on it.
it defenitly will not make the birth control as effective,because it messes with you system. And please becarefull of what you say next time(marijuana)but ya if you can kick the habbit while you can
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: my gam(grandma) died in 12/10/07.
On my 17th birthday I'm allowed to get a tattoo. And I want it for her. Now I want it on my rips(going up the sides) I really can't find anything like that. I did find some things, but it's not what I'm really looking for. My birthday is in June. I MIGHT Get it early bc I'm going to Florida around my birthday wih my friend. And I want my tattoo to be PERFECT and have it ready whenever I go to get it. Can anyone on here maybe draw a picture if I explain what I want to you? Or even do it on the computer? Please and Thank You Soooo Much!!


What Im looking for.
-Maybe Stars, or flowers going up the side and having RIP Gammy in it somewhere. I really don't know what I want. Anything really pretty. Please and thank you
i would get your grandmas name and the date she was born and the date she died with a cross above it and maybe some roses.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: i just have been going out with this guy for like a day now. and we act more like really good friends but we like each other more than that. any advice on um showing him we should act more like friends?
wow chill out its only been one day maybe you could make the first moves and he will fallow along.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: Ahh. Please help. There is this guy who tells my friends im cute and wants to get to know me better and we've hung out a few times. the most we have done is hugged and he's put his arm around me. and i feel like he really likes me when he does stuff like that.

We talk online every night until like really late about a lot of things. He isn't one of those guys who is corny at all. And he doesn't put it out there directly that he likes me. But says he wants to hang out a lot and stuff...

I don't know... maybe its just because he is a guy and guys tend to not like tell their friends as much stuff or let their emotions show, at least in the beginning. But like... I'd like to know he wants something to happen. He just won't say anything.

And I don't wanna mention anything to him because I don't wanna seem crazy you know? We've only been hanging out for like two weeks.

Okay I know that was long but pleaseee tell me what you think! THANKS!! =]
well just keep acting casual and like you don't suspect anything. if you rush it to much then the relationship you want may never happen.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: Okay, this question is really strange....How can I stop my boyfriend from eating his boogers?
tell him no more kisses until he stops, you don't want none of that stuff in your mouth !
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: okay this might sound like a dumb question but is there any way to make your eye color lighter? i have blue eyes, but usually they're dark blue, and i would really like them to be a lighter blue. i don't have contacts, but is there anything that can brighten the color? thankss.
uhh color contacts is the only thing that comes to mind.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie

Q: OK well i have just caught the eye of this really cute guy who works at the supermarket near my house. I mean he is so cute I can't stope smiling when I see him. *blush*
But idk how to talk to him. I have a really low self esteem. I'm 5'0" and 169 pounds....... a bit much for a girl my hieght..... so i am always worried that a guy is only looking at my face and not me..... also i am just to shy to talk to him. so any ideas on how i can break the ice?
just take it slow and give im a small wave or a hi each day and eventually it will not make it akward when it's time for big conversation.
let me know how it all works out
lots of love, lizzie

Q: my boyfriend (16) and i (16) have both explicitly and bluntly expressed to eachother that we'd like to have sex and think we're ready. we have been dating for 6 months and i don't trust anyone in the world as much as i trust him.

there's no way in hell i could ever tell my mom that i wanted to have sex, she'd flip a lid. however, i really want to be careful and don't want to run the risk of becoming pregnant. i'm curious about birth control, is there an over-the-counter brand that i could get without a doctors note?

more importantly, anyone with prior expierience... how were you able to do it and get away with it?
a condom is the best
lots of love,lizzie

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lizzielovesyou
hey guys whats up im Lizzie .i love to give people advice and i sometimes need to ask others for advice if i dont know what to do .the most important thing i want everyone to know is that they shouldnt be ashamed to ask others for advice.it will get you far if u ask questions.im not here to tell people how to live there lives,im just here to help .so if u ever need advice or just want to make a friend im allways hear .hope to hear from u soon ,
lots of love,lizzie

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