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14/f.
i really like this guy alot hes a year older than me He's probuly eveything i could ask for honestly
Hes's extreamly nice and everything that goes along with it. When were toghther we have such a good time. And idk he wants me to meet his parents because i guess they have been bugging him but i think i maybe a little young to start meeting parents and stuff.
I have with other guys but its a little weird
him wanting me to meet his parents. So i'm gunna sum this up why would he want me to meet his mom and dad and when i do meet them what would impress them?
Wow, there could be 10000000 reasons, but heres my guess:
He probably wants you to meet his parents so that they will trust you. Your boyfriend is probably thinking that if you meet his parents and they like you, they will not mind if he wants to be with you alot.Then if he says " I want to hang with her at the movies" they will not be scared that you will get a gang or something to beat him up.(ya it sounds stupid but its an example)
To impress them, I would say smile and dont be too shy or too crazy. When you talk to them, dont look down or anything, and do not be afraid to talk.
Hope I helped!
-Linsay!
Ok so I've know this girl forever it feels like. Shes is soooo my best friend. I mean lately we've been getting in a LOT of personal fights. I think that it has something to do with how much time she has been spending with her sister. ((step sister)). . .
Her sister isnt a good influence. Together they have been completely inseperable. But I mean her sister is like three years older than her. And her sister HATES me; for no reason; she doesnt even know me.
I mean with out her sister around Megan and I are like the BEST of friends.
What do I do?
Signed,
Confused && Broken!
Talk to Megan. Tell her how you feel about it. Don't be like hating on her sis or anything. You guys are best friends. Best friends understand thoughs things. She will understand.
Hope I helped.
From Me ;)
Heyy, my name is Kathleen and i am 14 and im from Canada. i have a botfriend and i love him a lot but, my EX boyfriend Spencer wants me back, in september he had cheted on me and i dumped hima nd moved on but now he has changed, he keeps telling me that he wants me and taht he has his mind set on who he wants to be with. he says that his life ain't the same without me in it. I love my bf alot more then anything but the feeling for my EX are still there loud and clear and wont go away.ill just me in my bed and all the memories will playback into my head, and how happy i was abck then. and i am happy now but i dont know who i shopuld be with, can you please help me
Thankz ; Kathleen Marie,Canada
This question is something Im familair with, so Im gonna say my advice straight my heart, you dont have to take it, but heres what I think:
Heres the thing you need to keep in mind: Few guys actually change, but all guys SAY they change. If your boyfriend has never done anything like that to you then why should you break uo with him to go out with some guy who might be lying to you?
Also, if you feel the same way about your ex as I did about my ex, you REALLY like him. But now I wished I would have never gone out with him because he was a jerk (like yours use to be) and if I just would have said no then I would have saved myself alot of hearache, which is what I think you should do. Say no to your ex so he doesnt get you into this deeper.
Think of how you would feel if you were in your boyfriends position. What would you think if he dumped you, who has never done anything wrong to him, for his ex that cheated on him?
Hope I helped, And good luck!!
-Linsay.
okay so i hang out with this guy all the time and last night it was clear that he wanted to kiss me and he hinted at it but i just couldn't do it! i wanted to, but i think i was afraid i'd suck at it or something.
now i'm really mad that i didn't do it.
seriously is that a legitimate fear? that i'll be a horrible kisser? or am i just being paranoid and have nothing to worry about?
Every body worries about this at one point. And yes your being paranoid and have nothing to worry about, but every is too.
Think of it this way: What if hes a bad kisser? Would you break up with him just because of that?(if you answer is yes than your kinda mean)When the time comes to kiss him, just do it. You will just know what to do. You could always just follow his lead and do what he does.
Hope I helped
-Linsay
15/f.
i've never been in a relationship before..and honestly..i'm not pretty AT ALL. and yet, this guy likes me. he asked me out before, back in like..march. but i said no to him..because i was going through a lot of issues with this other kid who i liked. well now..i hate that other kid and i really like this guy again. apparently, he still likes me too. we can talk a whole lot about pretty much everything..but we never bring up our feelings for eachother. i kind of want to say SOMETHING to him..anything really. i just..don't want to sound like an idiot when i do say something to him.. how can i prevent myself from making a complete idiot out of myself? i don't really want to bring it up out of the blue..and i don't want it to turn out this was all a game or something and end up being hurt. please help.
Flirting is a GREAT way to get started. But slowly and surely bring up the fact that you like someone. Ask him what HE would do in your situation. Be like " If you liked someone and werent sure how to tell them how you felt, what would you do?" (This will show him that you trust him)
Dont hold back and be shy. Act as if you guys have been friends forever. When he thinks you trust him he can trust you. You have to let him in and be your self 110% around him.
Bring up your feelings for him through a conversation that is deep and really reveals your true feelings. He will not think that you are an idiot, but someone who is brave enough to tell him the truth.
Hope I Helped
-Linsay
okay here is the thing my boyfrend is E and my homeboy if F ok. well im not so sure if i still want to date my boyfriend because well he doesnt trust me and on the other hand my homeboy F is really great but i think i want to be more then his homegirl and i can tell that he does too becuase he practically told me! What should i do?
______sign______confused girl
Well it all depends on who you like more, your homeboy or your boyfriend. And you said your boyfriend doesn't trust you, if you went out with your homeboy would he trust you? It really all depends on who you like more and who would make a better boyfriend.
Hope I helped
-Linsay
ok well this year at school,i have a new friend(a girl like me). and i mean we are so much alike and all but i cant tell if thats a good thing or a bad thing.plus i had two other friends who i hung out with all 6th and 7th grade,and now that i have this new friends its like we arent friends anymore, and our little click is broken up..i dont know if i should tell my new friend or if i should just let her keep on dragging me away from my other friends. she makes me go to the gym with her alone and stuff, and i cant figure out wat to do...can anyone help?
It sounds to me like she just really wants to be your friend. Does she have alot of friends? If not, she might be clingy because she has no one else to cling to. Then again, maybe she just really likes hangin with you because you guys are just alike. Either way, there is a reason she is being so clingy.
I think you should just try to hang out with your other friends. Maybe hangout with all of them at one time on a Saturday or something, like Ms Clingy and your other 2 friends. If you ever go to the mall or something, try calling up 1 of the others that you dont get to hang out with. Just make sure that Ms Clingy knows that just because you have other friends doesn't mean you cant be hers.
Hope I helped.
-Linsay
theres this guy i really like. but hes known for flirting with a lot of girls but i guess thats fine because he is single so why not right. but i never know what to do or say around him. i really really like him and i just dont want to do anything to blow it. what should i do or say. and if i wanted to hang out with him what should i ask him.. do i just generally say wanna hang out this weekend or more of something like what are you doing this weekend and if hes free then be like we should hang out? i dont know im so confused! and one last thing. how am i supposed to tell if hes really interested in me or not just because i know he flirts with a lot of girls. thanks for the help!
There are always guys that flirt with all the girls. Sadley, most of these guys do not make the best boyfriends. Its kinda hard to tell though if hes single.....
So here is how you get him. Start by flirting with him. That will send out some good vibes. Then ask him what hes doing over the weekend. If he says he isnt doing anything just be calm and cool and be like " We should hang out!" Go to the mall or see a movie with him, but nothing too fancy. If you are nervious then invite 1 or 2 of your friends that you know will not flirt with him so you can do it.
He will probably flirt back if he flirts with all the girls. Just kid around with him alot and keep flirting back. Sooner or later, if he doesn't say anything you will need to tell him that you like him. But don't be scared. The very worst thing that could happen is he could say that he doesn't like you like that. But atleast then you would know his true feelings. Even if he says that, keep flirting with him and keep the vibe going strong.
Hope I helped.
-Linsay.
he has given me 2 nicknames, but he also has my friends but i was first. lol.i danced with him at a dance. he ocasionaly talks to me but i am shy and don't want him to know i like hiom so i don't really show any affection or talk either. he gives me high fives, and rests his hand on my head( and totally messes up my hair) so what i really want to know is does he like me and should i let him know i like him. please help. please.
Well, he could or he could not. It seems like you need to flirt with him a little. Smile at him alot, and don't be afraid to talk to him!! When you do talk to him, look him in the eyes. When ever you see him in the hall at school or something wave at him.
Does he flirt with other girls alot? If he does, then don't think he likes you if he flirts back. If he doesn't flirt alot, and he flirts with you, then it probably means he likes you. Just really try not to be shy. I know its hard but being sometimes ends relationships, it has happened to me before.
If flirting doesnt work and you still don't know if he likes you, then tell him you like him. The worst that could happen is that he only wants to be friends.
Hope I helped
-Linsay
I stumbled across this site by accident. I seriously doubt many of you have the qualifications to give real people proper advice. After reading some of your responses to people's inquiries i was quite astonished as to how teenagers find they are able to give quality advice and information to real people in need with such little life experience. If you ask me you are not in a place to give your "personal opinion" when people truly believe you are giving them the right answer simply because you claim "people think i give really good advice". (eg. i am still at a loss as to how a 17 year old girl thinks she can give advice to someone regarding conceiving a child) I know you try to come across as a "godsend" to poeple who are in some sort of personal crisis and need a fast easy answer but the truth is, in the cases where it really counts, there rarely is one; at least not from you.
Well, I don't know about others, but I would much rather have another teenager who can see things from my point of view give me advice then some Physiatrist who thinks he understands teenagers. And thats exactley why people ask us. We are other teenagers their same age who can look at the situation and see it as if it were us in their position. And since we are teenagers, it is alot easier for us to do just that instead of some 40 year old.
Also, not everyone answers every question. Certain people answer certain questions according to their life experiances. We may have not been around long enough to see everything, but atleast one person here has seen it. Somebody might be able to answer why someones best friend likes their boyfriend, while someone else might not be able to.
And thats exactley why I, and alot of other teenagers come here for advice.
This is sort of a two part question. First, some information that might help. My friend(H.) and I use to be part of a snobby clique. We weren't really a part of it and felt like outsiders, which was why we decided to leave it. Now, we hang out with a sort of less popular Christian group( we are both Christians) I like these new friends and have always been sort of friends with them, but I still don't feel like I fit in their, either. I don't know what to do. The second part. . . I feel like the only reason that H. and I are still friends is because we have been going through depression together. I don't want this to be the only reason we continue our friendship, but I don't want to feel like I'm ditching her, either. But, I get the feeling that she likes our new group, so she actually has friends. I, on the other hand, do not. What should I do?
Now, I know this seems hard but try to forget cliques. My school doesn't really have any, so I am friends with all types of people. You and your friend can both have your own friends. Make sense? Well, let me put it this way: You can like one person in a certain clique and not like another person in that same clique. Besides, when a person thinks of a "popular" person, they think of the whole prom queen, cheerleader thing right? Well if the popular clique was snobby, who would vote for them?
So my advice would be to make friends with anybody, no matter what clique they are in. The more friends you have and the more people that like you, the more "popular" you will be considered.Also, the popular people are always confident, so keep your chin up and just be yourself. You will find where you fit in.
Hope I helped
-Linsay
i spend too much time pondering on other people's opinions of me. I not only worry about how my family and friends think of me, but also how complete strangers view me. It's darned time-consuming and debilitating. How can I stop it?
Every worries a little bit about what other people think, so thats normal. Just calm down for minute.
Well, its ok to be a bit worried about how others view you, but you cant obsess over it. Heres the thing: Every one sees you in a different way. One guy could think you totally hot and the next guy think your not the best hes seen. You just have to remember to be who you wanna be. Ok I know I sound like a commercial for Barbie or something but its true. No one, no matter how good they know you, can tell you how to be you.
Just remember this: Be someone who you would be proud to know and want to be friends with. And to me, thats someone who can just forget what other people think.
Hope I helped!
-Linsay
all my life ive had a thin tall fisique. I'm 14, about 5'5'' and i weight about 110 pounds. I really like my legs, until people thought i was aneroxic when they looked at them. I can't help it, im naturally thin & fit. But i hate HATE how skinny my arms and calfs (lower legs) are! They are soo skinny and i would look better if i gained some meat on them. It's just i eat SOO much, but it all goes to my stomach, or butt. I wanna get more meat on my calfs and arms but i dont know how! what can i do?! please help. are there any drinks i can get so i can have more meat on my bones! what about exercies. i would also like to tone up my thighs/butt along with my stomach, so what do you think i shoudl do! Ahh thank you!
p.s. my family i sskiing too. my mom is 5'4'' and weighs 107 and my sister is 5'4 and weighs 103. they cant help it, there just naturally really thin not matter how much they eat!
Well if you really liked your legs then you shouldn't worry about what other people think. I have sort of chubby thighs and calfs and I would kill for thinner legs. Besides, A tall and thin figure sounds to me like a model. Also, sometimes people call thin people aneroxic when they are jealous because they want to be thin!
But if you really want a little muscle, try working out some. Some really simple exercises for your legs and arms, just maybe 2 or 3 times a week. You can get plenty of magazines to help you find some exercises. I reccamend Prevention magazine.
Hope I helped!
-Linsay
Okay, i like this boy and we used to be friends and all but now hes a total jerk and hes mean to me but i still like him ALOT, like i dream about him every night etc.
But he stares at me and tries to get my attention.
Theres this other guy, that everyone says id look good with and he likes me , and hes nice and all but i dont like him that much.
Supposedly hes going to ask me out sometime, and i dont know what to do.Becuase i dont wanna go out with someone and be in love with someone else.
Help!
14/f
Well if your in love with someone else, dont go out with him. Because it has happened to me before, and it just wont feel right. Also the first bot that is now a jerk is probably being a jerk for a reason. Just go up to him and be like "Whats up with you? We use to be friends but now your so mean?!" or something like that. I did that, and when I finally told my friend he was acting weird, he said he was sorry and started to be nice. Also, try not to be mean back. Just sort of ignore his jerkish ways.
Hope I helped a bit.
Ok this is sort of complicated. My brother moved awhile back to another state only about 6 hours away. Well over the summer he came to visit for the weekend and he brought his friend and he was so hot and sweet, cute smile nice eyes everything i look for in a guy, except he was 3 years older than me. Well the second day they were there my brother told me that his friend asked how old i was and that he thought i was pretty. Well that same day a couple hours later his friend started talking to me wen we were outside. Then me nd my sis left to go somewhere. well later that night me nd my brothers friend talked for 5 hours straight, we really hit it off and he told me that he thought i was hot and we seriously just talked there was never an awkward moment. Well then it came down to i had a chance to kiss him but i didnt cause my mom was around and now i cant stop thinking about him and im kicking myself basically for not kissing him. I cant ever see him cause he lives 6 hours away and after we met i found him on myspace nd we started talking on AIM and now we barely talk it jsut annoys me how i cant stop thinking about him. I will see him again eventually but lord only knows when it will be. I hate feeling bad that i didnt take the oppertunity when i had the chance.SO basically my question is what can i do to stop thinking about him and just get over it? Thanks so much!!
I know it feels like you will never get over him, but trust me you will. I had the same problem when my ex moved away. We were somewhere and I could of kissed him but I didn't. Eventually some other guy will come and you will be thinking about him. Until then, if you really like him, there is almost nothing you can do to stop thinking about him. But it will happen eventually. You just have to give it time. And also, you might want to tell a friend you really trust. It is alot worse if you keep it bottled up inside of you. Hope I helped you a little bit.