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Cliques and Friends. . .
This is sort of a two part question. First, some information that might help. My friend(H.) and I use to be part of a snobby clique. We weren't really a part of it and felt like outsiders, which was why we decided to leave it. Now, we hang out with a sort of less popular Christian group( we are both Christians) I like these new friends and have always been sort of friends with them, but I still don't feel like I fit in their, either. I don't know what to do. The second part. . . I feel like the only reason that H. and I are still friends is because we have been going through depression together. I don't want this to be the only reason we continue our friendship, but I don't want to feel like I'm ditching her, either. But, I get the feeling that she likes our new group, so she actually has friends. I, on the other hand, do not. What should I do?
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Okay if you want to keep hanging out with her then just find stuff to talk to her about and she will be closer than ever with you. And if you do like your new group then I suggest you give them a little more time for them to have you to be hanging out with them because appartently they all have been hanging out with each other for awhile and wasn't looking for more people to come in. It just takes time. Soon you will love to hang out with them. Hope this helps!
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Now, I know this seems hard but try to forget cliques. My school doesn't really have any, so I am friends with all types of people. You and your friend can both have your own friends. Make sense? Well, let me put it this way: You can like one person in a certain clique and not like another person in that same clique. Besides, when a person thinks of a "popular" person, they think of the whole prom queen, cheerleader thing right? Well if the popular clique was snobby, who would vote for them?
So my advice would be to make friends with anybody, no matter what clique they are in. The more friends you have and the more people that like you, the more "popular" you will be considered.Also, the popular people are always confident, so keep your chin up and just be yourself. You will find where you fit in.
Hope I helped
-Linsay
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