My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin?
In todays world there are ever changing definitions of what a virgin is. For example with homosexuals, its not simply 'vaginal sex' anymore.
Its an interesting question because its all subjective. Technically people say you're not a virgin anymore when your hymen is torn during vaginal intercourse. But again some girls can tear it by riding a bike so its all different for each girl!
When your boyfriend asked you the question, I'm guessing he meant "Have you gone all the way", as this is whats typically known as losing your virginity by having vaginal sex.
Just be straight with him! I'd say, yes I'm a virgin but I've tried some things and was waiting for the special one?!
It doesn't sound slutty or anything, its just being honest and upfront. Always best in any relationship! If you tell him you're a virgin but not about the rest of it, he may suss you've done other things anyway if you're really good at oral sex haha!
Remember he's you're boyfriend so you can be yourself around him and honest. Hope this helps!
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Ok, I'm gonna calm down now... BUT I CANT!!! GODS!
(Advicenators admins, or whoever reviews these knicknacks, please dont delete this, i beg you...)
Wherever you're living, you're probably going to be familiar with the show "The Amazing Race"?
If not, then worry not, this has NOTHING to do with that.
However, this has everything to do with this other show, "The Voice Kids", Philippines to be specific.
So again, you might be familiar with the show since it's pretty known.
Now here's my rant.
Two kids, I'm gonna change their names to Kyle and Francis for confidentiality, stepped on to the Sing Offs, the round where six contestants on each team battle each other, then in the end, only two names will be chosen to move on, got face to face.
I LOVED FRANCIS, I actually loved him from the beggining? (If you want, I could message you his best performance, just write "BINGBONG" on the end of your advice), and in this round, he might've swayed a little bit, but he still nailed it.
I kinda hated Kyle... He didn't exactly impress me. I was honestly going to skip his part midway because he was the last one and the results were coming after? But I didnt, cause I didnt want to ruin my watching position.
And so here comes your part. Please tell me who did better this round. You'll really help me calm down, I need your advice as much as the guy with the nipples problem er- I mean the lady with that ex-husband problem.
IF YOU'VE SURVIVED READING ALL THAT, YOU CAN SURVIVE WATCHING THE PERFORMANCES ;)
Kyle's performance:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Awu6LyexnPU
Francis' performance:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J-PXkuOz29Q
Leave in the comments who you think won the round.
Probably Francis
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I am a 15yr old girl frm nigeria nd my bust is jxt 2 smal for my age nd this always mak me feel sad,al my friends hav bigger bust than i do nd most of them laugh at me,i hav also wore different typ of bra sizes buh ntin work out for me i hav also used breast cream to make it bigger buh itz stil jxt d same tin..though a frnd of mine gav me an advice..that i shld hav sex with my boyfrnd nd during that period i shld let him massage my bust wel that it wuld make it grow bigger nd i hav been duin this for a while nw buh ther is stil no difference,what do u think i cn do to make my bust bigger plz
Hey!
I know how this feels. I have (some) solutions for you that I've learnt but take with a pinch of salt (they may work-they may not)
Also they only work a little in increasing your bust size AND if you're going to start taking exercise consult a physician first.
So doing chest exercises can help abit but lifting the breasts, so making them appear larger https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BvNCMbOOg0w
You're only 15, so chances are you're not done with puberty yet. This means that there's still time for your breasts to get to the size of your friends, so please don't get stressed about it.
Gaining weight is also good, but any major changes to your diet and you should consult a professional. Eating things like healthy fats is good, like nuts.
Other than that and the methods the advisors below have mentioned-that's about it! But remember having bigger breasts isn't everything. If you're being laughed at because you have small breasts I think you're spending time with the wrong people! There's nothing wrong with it. Good luck!
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For awhile I've been giving advice, not only on here but to family and friends . My mom and other people love told me that i should start a blog. And for awhile, I've actually feel like i could have alot of fun doing a blog. But i don't even know where to start. Anyone who has a blog or just any helpful suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance!
Hi!
Okay so I run a blog and I thought I'd give you some numbered tips below. I'm a journalism student so know my way round the blogsphere!
1) Blog about something different. As you may know blogging is very popular these days. Alot of people blog about their life-like a kind of diary.This is all well and good but won't get you more readers beyond people who know you-family and friends. Blog about something you're passionate about-like a hobby or a talent you have. If you write about something no one else is writing about you'll be sure to get hits
2) Try sites like Blogger and Wordpress when starting out. They're very easy to use and theres help from online communities for those sites online too!
3) Link up with social media. Especially twitter. So what I do is write a blog about news topics. Then whenever the news topic comes up I use a #hashtag to get more traffic to my blog and new readers!
4) Don't let it become a chore. Often advice is given like 'blog a little bit and often'. I disagree-only blog if you actually have something to say! Otherwise it will feel like a chore and this will come across in your writing. If that means not blogging for a few days/weeks does that matter? No! Because its meant to be an enjoyable hobby not a source of employment!
5) Be YOU. Let your personality shine through in your writing. Including an about me page on your blog is always good, but don't give away too much personal info obviously. Similar to the last point, but only write about topics you actually have opinions on/care about. Your enthusiasm will show through your writing
6) Don't forget to make your blog interactive. No ones likes reading long bits of text! So include video clips/sound clips in each blog post (on wordpress this is simple) and then on twitter put
WATCH: How to make nutella pancakes (or whatever) and the WATCH in capitals will get you more hits!
7) Have fun! Blogging is great whether you're in it for the stats or for the passion of writing. Be as creative as you like and inbox me with the link to your blog if you want!
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Will sex hurt the first time badly ? 😩
I'm assuming you're a girl. Yes it hurts! Theres no
shying away from it and as well it will keep hurting untill you let him go all the way in. Don't be scared though because most guys know it hurts girls and understand. Also it is both painful and pleasurable. Take care
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I want to know the preventive measures of diabetes and cause of diabetes.
There are two types of diabetes, type 1 and type 2.
Type 1 is genetic-nothing you can do if you develop it.
Type 2 is commonly caused by obesity and having high cholesterol etc.
Preventative measures would include to eat very healthily and to not eat too much red meat, crisps, cakes etc. Also exercising often helps reduce high blood pressure,so could in turn help ward of the diabetes.
I'm not a medical professional so if you are worried I recommend speaking to your local pharmacist about it. I only know the above as a relative has type 2!
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There's a guy I like and he always gives me stuff like food and stuff. So on Valentines I want to give him something to pay him back for the food but I don't want him to think something of it unless that's what is should go for, how would I do that?
That end part does not make sense I'm afraid. Rephrase the question so people can help
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I've been with my girlfriend for 8 months now and I think I am ready to actually do it with her she says she is ready but she always refuses I don't force her I love her very much I respect their I take care of her but as a person I believe it's Time, I im 16 and so is shewe are very mature so my question is how can I convince her to actually do it with her?
Obviously your girlfriend isn't saying what she means!
You're only 16-there's plenty of time still! Why are you wanting to rush?
I think you're lucky to have a mature head strong girlfriend who knows exactly what works for her and what doesn't.
I wouldn't keep mentioning it every week or whatever because it'll appear desperate. I think you need to wait for her to come to you with this one.
Perhaps mention it to her, explaining by no means is the sex the crucial part to the relationship. If she still says no, make sure she knows to bring up the topic herself when she's ready.
It's not fair that you should initiate everything. Tell her. Ok, well when you're ready just let me know.
That's what my bf did.
And if after its been a year and nothing has happened and you're dissatisfied, explain to her that the relationship is not fulfilling all of your needs. She can chose to change or you can chose to move on. A compromise has to be made somewhere because relationships are not all about the girl!!
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Do girls like a guy to shave his pubic hair? I totally shave my pubic hair i prefer to be smooth shaven
Every girl is different.
Though tbh I wouldn't ask the next girl you're with untill a few times after you start to sleep together. Because it may come across as that you're rushing things or not comfortable in how you look.
I think do what makes you more body confident. Then its saying to the girl this is me-take me for what I am.
Yes you want to please your girl-but most proper girlfriends should love you for you.
Personally I prefer some hair but not too much and I reckon most ladies are the same as me.
Some hair indicates the guy is not a little boy (ew) but too much is such a turn off! Also too much hair under the armpits isn't that attractive for me either.
Think of it in terms of beards. A little stubble is good but a full on gandalf beard is a turn off..
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What?
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How to avoid having twins or triplets
That's abit like asking how to avoid having a boy or a girl. You can't.
As the user below said there are different things you can do to INCREASE your chances.
But the main ways you're likely to have twins or triplets are because you've undergone fertility treatments or because they run in your family.
With each pregnancy, the odds of having twins increases.
My advice to you would be to not get hung up on this issue-because twins are rare and triplets barely ever (but still do) occur.
Other than that I think any child would be a gift so a multiple birthday would be double/triple the joy.
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I sent a few nudes to a guy I met online and he's sent me money in return for them and now he's blackmailing me saying if I don't send him something else then he'll post all my pics on the internet.. Is there anything I can do to stop him? Can the police do anything?
Yes you have to tell the police-blackmailing is a strict liability offence meaning it can go to court.
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I'm a 13 year old girl and I think that I may have an eating disorder of some type but I'm not sure. I've been eating less, eating healthier, and exercising one a week to lost weight l because I'm only 5 foot but I weigh around 140 pounds. I figured that I should lose it now because everyone in my family is obese, it's in the genes, so I'm trying to avoid that. My eating schedule is usually like this: I'll have a yogurt or some fruit for breakfast, skip lunch or have carrot sticks or something small and then have pretzels for dinner. And I feel like this is too much. Sometimes I'll binge too and then punish my self with fasting/liquid diet for a day or two.
None of us on here are doctors-so its not like we can diagnose you or anything.
We're just here to give advice.
You know most people with anorexia don't know they've got it until its painfully late. You from the off set suspect you have it.
I doubt that you have tbh-because you can acknowledge that something is not right with you. Anorexics can not do this.
My advice would be to speak to a doctor/your parents. I think it may be more of a biological thing if you're eating less.
The way to type is a sign you are of a sound mind. Speak to a doctor.
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recently im having difficulting with my ability to think and speak my mind and it started to happen back in april and through i had to deal with it and have been insulted by ignorant old ladies so anyway i am posting this to Kittenlover200 and i hope she gets this in her advice column and has any good advice for me thank you .
Yes-I got it.
Hello.
Okay it sounds like your having trouble with being assertive. You say you've been insulted? I'd be interested to know why!
You say 'get back' your ability-so have you once been able to stand up for yourself but now you can't?
I think its important to be assertive because otherwise you wont get the most out of life-and reach your full potential. You could end up being walked over.
Its all about feeling like someone is in the wrong, knowing you have a right to correct them and then going on to have the confidence to stand up for yourself.
If you don't stand up for yourself no one else will!
I think the first step is easing the worry. You're obviously worried about something-most people seeking advice on Advicenators are!
What are you worried about? That you'll be laughed at-judged or it'll make things worse?
If you don't speak out-then you'll never know. Its all about abolishing the fear. Tell yourself to stop predicting the future-because YOU DONT KNOW WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN IN THE FUTURE.
Sometimes, speaking your mind isn't appropriate. (ie job interviews)But then sometimes not speaking your mind can lead to dishonesty which can affect you more in the long run.
Okay I think I'll list my top tips for being able to speak out in confidence:
1) Lose the fear. Fear holds too many people back these days. Its easier to stay quiet than to express yourself sometimes. Pinpoint exactly what it is about you that makes you feel less confident. Work on it. Or learn to accept it. Say 'Ok I don't like that I clam up when I disagree with someone's opinion-but this is just something I have to cope with'.
2) Don't be taken for a mug but don't be overly opinionated or overly sensitive. Quite often someone will insult you and not realize just how much it hurt you. Some people are far less sensitive than others. So if something does offend you-tell them. Message them if its easier. Else they'll never know. Of course don't allow yourself to be bullied-but equally don't burst into tears if someone insults you. Being assertive is about remaining strong. If you act tough then soon your mind will believe it too, and not take any nonsense from anyone.
3) You've not really described specific scenarios in your question. But in any speak out situation try and do it in a neutral tone. Don't let emotion be in your voice. You'll sound more in control and find people will take you more seriously
Hope I helped. Of course if you are being bullied please get help!
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So my girlfriend lost feelings for me, but still loves me so much, she tells me shes trying to get her feelings back, but for now, it hurts her when she knows shes hurting me.
Like, she feels really bad when I be nice to her and tell her I still love her despite her losing her feelings. I do admit, I spoiled her with love. We both want to fix our relationship. So we decided to take a 2 week break, so her feelings might come back when she experiences life without me. But we dont know what to do during a break...like do we still text or call? (Its a long distance relationship, 4 months in) what do we have to do during the break?
(Do's and don'ts will we helpful)
Hey!
So first off I'd be really happy that you have an honest girlfriend and are in a relationship where you can honestly communicate your feelings to one another.
During the break:
DO apply the no contact rule. This means N-O contact. No texting, Facebook messaging, phoning or whatever. Ever heard the saying 'absence makes the heart grow fonder' Well its true-so long as zero contact means zero contact. Never break this rule-well if you want to save this relationship anyways.
DONT get with other girls. To be honest seeing as she did the breaking up thing-its unlikely this will happen.
DONT be a pushover. If she gets with other guys during this 'break' then you really have to question yourself if she's just using you.
DONT beat yourself up. its easy for you to want to change yourself to become 'better' in her eyes. Sure, ask her before the break up period if theres anything she wants you to change. But during the break up period spend time with friends-keep enjoying life.
DONT put a time limit on a 'break'. Two weeks-especially as its a long distance relationship anyway-is simply not enough time. Just be more general and say 'a few weeks/a few months'.
She sounds like a caring girl who doesn't want to upset you at all but feels unhappy all the same. It was quite brave of her to choose to break up.
I think the best thing you can do is to rebuild your life without her in it. Four months isn't like 4 years-so this should be easier.
I know it sounds harsh but try to forget she existed. no contact or anything. You'll miss her like crazy but please remember that there is a chance she may not want to continue this relationship at all.
I know its easy to feel bitter towards her, but the best thing you can do (and this worked for me) is to deploy the NO CONTACT policy.
She's bound to get curious and wonder about you. If she texts you breaking the no contact rule herself. Simply inform her if you're still on a break.
So-No contact, carry on having fun without her, act like the break ups not really affected you (so its not like your dependent on her to be happy) and she'll most like come back to you.
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Students aren't always using essay writing services. I know this because I am a student.
The only type of students who use essay writing services are those who fail their course/degree and end up penniless (its expensive) and jobless.
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So I have the same cliché dream as every 14 year old girl: To become an actor. I was wondering how I get a career of some sort started so that I can work my way up to being on popular and successful shows like those on Nickelodean and Disney Channel. I'm involved with my school's drama club and musicals and such, but where do I go to get something bigger? I live fairly close to some major cities (New York for example) where I'm sure some auditions are held, but how do I find them? Also, how do I tell my parents that I want to be an actress? I feel like they frown upon that sort of thing. I really love acting; being on stage gives me a thrill and happiness like nothing else. It's just the most amazing thing when you can completely embody someone else and be anything you want. This is so important to me, please give me some advice.
You're probably wanting to enter the most competitive career there is.
With all respect-you need to leave your dream of appearing on the Disney channel and Nikelodean on the shelf FOR NOW.
This is because a whole part of being an actress is about being likable. If when playing these smaller roles people think 'oh she wants to be dead famous' then that may come across as arrogant.
Instead you've got to show a passion for your career-no matter how big or how small the play/show/musical/production whatever is you are acting in.
My advice? Volunteer. It shows a real commitment to performing arts-that you are soo into it you do it in your spare time.
Its also a good opportunity to put in a lot of practice and become really great. Here are my top tips:
1)Create a YouTube channel. Anyone involved in the entertainment or media industry (me) needs to be seen on all levels of technology. Just pop up clips of you that you may have already-anything-online. Above anything you'll see how far you've come.
2) Get a website. Doesn't have to be .com can be /weebly.com-whatever is easier for you. Refer to yourself in the third person and always include samples of your past work and contact forms.
3) Don't get ahead of yourself. Patience is key-sure some people wake up a star but most people have to put in heaps of effort.
4) If your parents disagree with your career choice ask them why. Listen and take note of their concerns. I think its important to have a back up plan-because even famous actresses can become unemployed.
5) Consider why you are in it. Is it because of your love of acting. In which case you can still act but in your spare time and have a different career. Or is it because you love acting and want to be famous. If its the later-don't act like you want to be famous-else people wont like you.
6) Make yourself stand out. I don't want to upset you but there are thousands of girls in America alone that have exactly the same dream as you. Do you look like other girls? Do you act like them? Don't-it'll do you no favours in the long run. As with most people in the entertainment industry you need to have a unique image. Of course looks aren't everything-so that's why I say make sure also your personality is pretty unique to.
I've done some researching and found this http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b4UE37xJzl4
Hope I helped-I also forgot to mention actually studying a performing arts degree will make you stand out abit more. But its very very competitive. Good luck.
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when is the right time to lose my virginity, im 14 and I know that im young to think about this, but I realy ned an answer. Thanks :) and im male and dont think that im just a horny kid please!
Honestly? No two people are the same with this.
Most people on here will tell you 'When you're ready'. But what does this mean?
it means that you feel old enough to take responsibility for your actions. Ready to cope with the emotional aspect of it e.g. 'becoming a man' or reaching a whole new level of maturity.
There's no time you 'should' lose it-but I'd say typical these days is 15-18. Don't worry though there's no pressure to do so!
People may also tell you it should be done with someone you care about and you trust etc etc. To be honest, this is abit unrealistic. Because when you get old enough to go clubbing and drink and things-you'll see sex is everywhere. The first time I went to a club? Lost it.
Your first time isn't such the big emotional barrier as most people make it out to be. In my (and other people's) experience its just like. Right I did it. Could've been better. Now time to catch up with Netflix. Not such a big deal.
So the best advice I can give you is actually to make sure you're legal (always best) and to make sure you feel totally comfortable in yourself about it. (e.g: not being forced)
Don't worry too much about the 'right' person or the 'right' place. Just get out there and have fun. Life's too short to have regrets anyways!
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I was with this guy and we were having dry sex. he wasn't wearing any clothes and i was wearing leggings and underwear. during this he came and i was wet from myself. could this cause any problems? I was supposed to get my period yesterday but still havent.
Unless you physically have sex then no you can't get pregnant because sperm won't survive outside the body for enough time.
Perhaps you worrying about this so much has caused your period to be late?
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Does it hurt on the fist time a boy finger you?
Do you moan when he do it?
When said it hurt the first time but not the second time does that mean it hurt the first time you do it
This all depends on whether your hymen has already torn or not.
If not-then yes it'll probably hurt. But then I wouldn't worry too much because
a) Its got to happen at some point
b) The pain is only like sharp but also feels nice-so its not all pain pain pain
c) The guy will know if he's torn your hymen or not and hopefully, will be gentle. Tell him to stop if the pain gets too much.
The second time does hurt still-tbh so does the third fourth and fifth. But not as much. Try and relax and not be nervous and tense down there and it'll hurt less
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