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Last Update: November 23, 2006
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so... i finally got my first makeout. me and the guy had it planned. well, i went in and i'm sure either i messed it up ors omething but he said i wasn't bad at all, but i don't know.... i didn't really like it, kinda? i think it was just the guy. but now i'm scared that i'll think kissing/making out isn't fun at all. is it really fun? or do you think that i just didn't think so 'cause my first time i was nervous and it was all planned...? haha sorry, i'm just really confused, any help will be great. :D (link)
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its overrated dont worry about it. it was your first time to so of course it isnt gonna be fabulous. it sucked for me too
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OK so, right before Christmas my freind broke up wtih her boyfreiend. They had only been seeing eachother for 2 weeks. She then told me sometimes in January that if me or any of my freinds went out with him she would be mad. Well, we aren't really freinds and more and over the weekend I kissed her ex. I don't know if I should tell her or just keep it to myself. Like, if someone else told her would it be worse? I like him and have liked him since January. (link)
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well, you should only tell her if the subject comes up. i know, i know.. honesty is the best policy.. but not in certain situations, if you know that its going to upset her.. make an effort to be sure that she doesn't find out.
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well me and my boyfriend have been going out for a while now and we're always messing around but lately we haven't it feels like our realationship isn't the same anymore.i told him i didn't feel like it was the same and he told me he was feeling the same way so he suggested that could be the problem that we haven't been messing around with each other and he thinks we should start again,but i feel that why should we mess around juss so we can feel that spark between us again.shouldn't it juss be like we don't have to do anything like that juss so our relationship could be the same.i don't like the fact that i always have to satisfy him juss so he can be happy with us.i feel like if i don't do it our relationship will not be the same.wat should i do?should i do it or not.he's not pressuring me to do it he was saying that as a suggestion but i don't know i juss need some advice i guess and i will rate a five for juss sum good advice o and i don't mean messing around like having sex with him i haven't done that yet and we love each other alot it's just that we want the love to be on a high level right now. we don't want it on medium i guess u can say but he's like my best friend.i really care about him and i know he feels the same about me.
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believe it or not, being physical with eachother is a very important part of the relationship. its pretty much the line that sets puppy love apart from the real deal. you may not think so because so often guys will pretend to love you just so that they can get some.. but when you know somebody loves you, and you have a caring and loving relationship.. messing around, can only make things better. i cant think of any way it could possibly hurt the relationship. but yeah.. just try spending more time with eachother. dont make it a point to mess around every single time your together.. just try and fit it in to your scheduel.. if you know what i mean.
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i think that i'm kind of self conscious .. i didn't know where to put this under but i think im really self conscious about my body and my looks and stuff. so i dont know. but anyway .. how could i get rid of some of my self consciousness?
thanksss (link)
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hey,
well, everybody is self consious about something, whether they choose to admit it or not. I am self consious about most of the aspects of my appearance. But ive gotten over it by focusing on the things i like myself. I know it sounds kind of lame. but maybe you should take some time && stand in front of the mirror && ask yourself. "what do i like about my body?". Maybe that will help. But you can never really get rid of your insecurities completely.
♥*KAYLA
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ok.. me and my mom aren't really close... and like when she tells me stuff like oo i need to buy u a bra or sumtin like oo lets go bra shopping i get like embarrased and she does it like in front of people... so like my friends wouldn't care to come with me cuz they would buy there own.. but i mean iim only 13.. and ive got some boobs.. but im not sure wat size.... but they are like small.. i would be no bigger than a a cup.. .and in bikini size im a medium.. so liek maybe you can tell me by that wat size i am or like wat possible sizes are small.... (link)
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your most likely a 32a
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Iam 16 years old and I want to have sex so I could get pregnant becouse I feel like nobody loves me and if I have a baby iam sure my baby will love me is this normal? (link)
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im going to be brutally honest with you. im sorry but you definitly need it. having a baby because nobody loves you has got to be the STUPIDEST thing i have EVER heard in my entire life. you are only 16 years old. your still in highschool. how the hell would you be able to raise && care for a baby the right way and still manage to have time for school. if you want something to love you get a frekin` puppy.
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Im the only gothlike dude in town (im not complaining) so Im just curious if you have any weird experience with goth people (mostly in the US). Weird question I know but thats my style :) (link)
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Oh God Yeah,
Theres this new gothic girl that goes to my school, and im a really nice person so i'll try and be nice to her and start a convorsation whenever i can. Thats just how i am.. we were in spanish class one day, and we had a substitute so everyone sat wherever they wanted (we usually have assigned seats) and she happened to be sitting near me and my friend leanna.. so i was telling leanna about some crazy ass dream i had the other night.. && all of a sudden the goth girl goes "have you ever had a dream where your eyes are slit open?" so i said "um nope can't say i have" && she went into full detail about it. It was crazyy .. and then later on in that class she was telling us dead baby jokes.. that wheren't funny in any way..
so yeah.. i hope that was weird enough for you
it was for me ..
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I just want some opinions on this:
Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?
I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.
What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea. (link)
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Hey,
I personally believe its wrong in every single way possible. I am really protective of my boyfriend.. I get pissed off even when he's watching pornos and stuff like that, because the fact that he's fantasizing about other girls.. well it just makes me feel completely un comfortable.
i figure..that allowing your boyfriend to go into a strip club with your permission.. is just going to give him the idea that you don't really mind what he does.. && that cheating is ok..
eventually he might have the desire to check it out && stuff.. you shouldn't really say no.. i mean you can't run his life..just tell him you wouldn't feel comfortable with that idea.. but if worst comes to worst and he absolutly wants to go.. go with him.. you'll feel much more comfortable knowing that you can monitor whats going on.
I would never let my boyfriend set foot in a strip club.. it just seems like .. idk a horrible idea.. && it could lead to cheating ..
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okay, well my friend got fingered for the first time the other day and now she's been worrying about it. she think's that she is pregnant but i'm telling her that she can't be because it's totally impossible because she didn't have sex or anything. and she hasn't gotten her period and she's 2weeks late. i told her that i think it's because she doesn't have a regular period, because she hasn't had it for over 2years and normally that's when it starts getting regular. her boyfriend only fingered her, she didn't do anything to him so i'm really not sure what to tell her except that she isn't pregnant. what do you guys think?
PS. when she got fingered after she bled alittle, and i told her that maybe he scratched her or something because you never know. (link)
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Ok first of all Unless he masturbated before he fingered her theres pretty much no possible way she could be pregnant, because, obviously that would mean she didn't come in contact with sperm. You are right about the whole late period situation, your period does not become regular within until you've had it for about two years, so being a couple weeks late shouldn't be anything to worry about.
And second of all, it is totally normal that she bled a little. This most likely means that he "popped her cherry". Im not going to go into detail about that right now though.
If she's still worried about being pregnant you can give her my screen name && i could definitly reasure her that she has nothing to worry about. (its xokaylao2)
Hopefully i helped,
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well im a girl and im 15 so here it goes...to make this as brief as possible, i hate my bestfriends boyfriend...ive been pretending that i like him and pretending that it doesnt kill me to see them together for the past 3 months because i know he makes her happy and i want to see her happy...im sick of people telling me to just deal with it because shes my bestfriend and what makes her happy should make me happy, but it doesnt...i cant keep pretending i like him, ive talked to her about it a little but i feel bad and selfish everytime i tell her i dont like him...so i dont know if there is anything left to do, if so i could use some advice (link)
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Wow that sounds so familiar it's not even funny. My friend hates my boyfriend & i feel absolutly horrible about it, but anyways, enough about my problems..
if she`s happy with him you don`t want to like pry them away from eachother, but she's your best friend and if you dont like her boyfriend then you have all the right to say something to her without feeling guilty or selfish afterwards. try and work things out for both of you. personally when my friend confronted me about the situation, i felt kind of torn..you know like im being forced to choose between my bestfriend or my boyfriend. And thats not an easy descision to make.
Throughout your life, theres going to be alot of people you dont particularly like. My friends have had boyfriends that ive absolutly HATED. Like they would treat me like shit (my friends were totally aware of it) and they still stayed with him despite how rude they were to me. I just had to deal with it. Eventually i got over it ...pretending doesnt really help though. You can hang around with them..but you dont have to go out of your way to pretend to be nice...
Talk to her..forget about what you want..or what she wants..try and figure out what would be best for both of you.
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my boyfriend fingered me and i got really wet(yah know) is that a good thing or bad? another thing how do i know when im ready to have sex with my b/f
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That just means you where sexually stimulated. Its not a bad thing at all. I guess you would consider it a good thing...
When you feel like you seriously want to have sex with him. THATS when you know your ready. You'll know, trust me..if your not 100% positive you want to do it..then your most likely not ready.
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OK. So there's this guy I met at a "get started program" for starting high school... and well I started to like him.. a lot. then i realized that he had a girlfriend.. and then he broke up with her and then my friend went out with him.. then she broke up with him.. and then he got another girlfreind.. now they are broken up.. and he says he lieks me.. but I dont want to fall for it because I know he's just gonna end up dumping me after a week like those other girls.. but I want to at the same time cuz i like him.. i dont know what to do... but theres this other guy that ive liked since 7th grade.. but i dont know if he likes me.. and he goes to a different school than me.. but i dont know what to do cuz i dont know if he likesme.. help me pleaes? (link)
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Hey,
Guys aren't the same with every girl they go out with. He must have had some kind of a reason for breaking it off with all of those other girls in the past. I know its discouraging to know that he has such a commitment issue, but if you really like him go ahead and give a relationship a try. You never know...maybe you'll be different than all of those other girls he went out with. Just try and be the best girlfriend you can be, && if he still breaks up with you after like a week, he's totally not worth the trouble.
You really shouldnt worry about that other guy right now. After all, he goes to another school, and usually relationships like that dont tend to work out. (and you dont even know if he likes you back)..
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ok i have pretty big feet;
they are not out of the ordinary but they are kinda big.
size 11 in womens.
i am 13 years old. and in 8th grade.
everyone and i mean everyone
makes fun of my feet;
i also have bunions;
and everyone makes fun.
even people that are not even in my friendship 'circle' is like wtf?!?!
i always wear UGGS to hide them and stuff
what should i do
i mean the joking is ok, too my face.
but ppl are doing behind my back
and it hurts.
help.
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There is a surgery you can get to remove bunions. Its probably very painfull but if you think its nessecary you might want to talk to your doctor about it. My friends mom got it done..
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Everyone says that like it's just so simple. "Just get a new boyfriend!" HOW? If there isn't anyone that likes me, then how exactly am I supposed to get a boyfriend? It's not like I can just snap my fingers and have guys crawling all over me like everyone else, they just don't want to date me!
So... HOW? How do I just get a new one? HOW? (link)
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It seems like you just want a boyfriend for the singe luxury of being taken. Wait for the right guy. He'll come along eventually. Dont try going after every guy in sight just so you can find comfort in saying "i have a boyfriend".
&& everyone else doesnt have boys crawling all over them, in fact i havnt met anybody that does.
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okay i am 13 years old...adn there is this guy that i really like and he likes me. the only thing is that hes 2 years older then me...to me it doesnt seem bad or anything but to everyone else it does. everyone keeps telling my that he does drugs and stuff but whne i ask him he says no. and people are telling my that he only wants to go out with me to make out and have oral sex. when i asked him about this hes like i would never make u do anything that you didn't want to. and i said good b.c i would never give you oral sex. and he said fine...
should i go out with him???
please help...thanxx (link)
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As long as you (& him) know your personal boundaries. If your willing to go out with somebody despite all of the horrible things people are saying about their charactar and choices, then you need to make sure you dont forget about your own limits. The second he tries to convince you to do something you dont want to do you need to leave him. It may seem like he's being nice about it, and not pushing you. But trust me, guys have a way of convincing with out pushing. Thats great that you've set your limits. Most girls your age try to score older guys without realizing that they have different views on sexual activities than guys closer to your age do. Everything comes at them so fast, and their having sex in no time. Just keep that wall up. If you dont want to give him head. DONT. never let any guy make you feel like you need to do something you dont want to do.
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well in sixth grade i was a complete loser, i mean ugh i had really curly hair and wore it in a bun, and i wore big clothes. like i didnt even care. and i liked this guy A LOT. his name was david, and like he didnt like me at all. and he hated me in seventh grade. and we havent seen eachother in a year. untill saturday night. and when he saw me. he kept looking at me. and like we cuddled or whatever. and he said he liked me. but like i dunno. sixth grade was weird for both of us. and ive changed A LOT since then. and i just wanna know should i give it a chance? (link)
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Definitly give him a chance! If you've changed since 6th grade then he must have too if he went from hating you to being attracted to you. It sounds like you two really hit it off. Hang out with him some more and if you feel the sparks, give it a go.
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is it gay for a guy to go on a diet? (link)
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Nope its not gay..most guys pig out on everything in sight though. usually they don't really care about their weight or body condition. some guys work out, but not many diet.. your just taking a different approach to making your body more attractive. its not gay at all.
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Have you noticed that everything now is sparkly belts, big sunglasses, ripped jeans, granny sweaters, oh and sparkly purses? and those BOOTS? im so sick of it all that is ALL i see in stores oh and those short lil jackets!! UGH!! Does anybody think they know what will be next, i started liking this stuff too late and im getting sick of it cuz i see it on everyone else!! I need some HOT new trends to be the FIRST with it out, i dont wanan follow i wanna LEAD!! (link)
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"hot" new trends, are what EVERYONE is wearing. If you want to lead..start your own style, be an individual! I personally wouldnt worry about whats in..just wear what you like. You'll get alot more attention that way than if your just another face in the crowd.
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alot has been going on around me. i'm really depressed. well last night i thought of cutting but i dont have the guts to do it. so instead with a pin i carved an X into my wrist. i feel so addicted i did it again this morning. i keep having these suicidal thoughts and i dont know whats wrong. my life is a mess. and i dont know what to do help? (link)
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Hey,
Im telling you now..stop before it starts. ive gotten myself into cutting in the past and it can grow into an un breakable habit.
This year my everything fell apart for me, i wasn't exactly suicidal, i never really thought about killing myself, but i started cutting. I wouldnt do it on a regular basis, usually only when i got really depressed, like if something bad happened to me. And i still cut occasionally, it becomes like, your only way of dealing with stress. like, if im down about something, the first thing i'll want to do is go and cut. Its like a craving.
You can't possibly be addicted to it already if you've only done it once. It becomes addicting over time. So i think its all in your head. You can easily forget about cutting and find other ways to deal with your depression, while you can. Believe me, cutting doesn't solve anything..it just creates another problem. I suggest you talk to a counselor about everything thats going on in your life. its nice to have someone around that you can talk to and know that everything you tell them is completely confidential. its a much better approach to dealing with things than cutting is.
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