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bestfriends boyfriend
well im a girl and im 15 so here it goes...to make this as brief as possible, i hate my bestfriends boyfriend...ive been pretending that i like him and pretending that it doesnt kill me to see them together for the past 3 months because i know he makes her happy and i want to see her happy...im sick of people telling me to just deal with it because shes my bestfriend and what makes her happy should make me happy, but it doesnt...i cant keep pretending i like him, ive talked to her about it a little but i feel bad and selfish everytime i tell her i dont like him...so i dont know if there is anything left to do, if so i could use some advice
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You do need to deal with it. It doesn't matter if you don't like him, because he's not your boyfriend. You are being extremely selfish and have every right to feel that you are. Back off and let your friend live her own life. If you are that uncomfortable around her boyfriend, try scheduling time with her when her boyfriend isn't around. Other than that, you can't tell her who to date. Unless you have a damn good reason for disliking him, like he is a rapist or something, back off and suck it up. Try focusing on your own life rather than hers.
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hang out with her and if she wants him to come along, say you have to do some chores around the house. invite her to places jsut the two of you. if she asks if he can come, just say its a girls night. if she talks about him, change the subject by asking if shes thirsty.
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micki
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My advice is to talk with your friend and try to figure out what will work out best for both of you. Unfortunately, this is a very difficult situation, because you don't want your friend to ahve to chose between you, because that will put her in a difficult place, and if she were too dump him because you made her choose, she may feel a little resentment. So, since she knoes how you feel, just try and schedule some time where it is just you and her, without her boyfriend. That way you can still hang out with your friend, but you don't have to put up with her boyfriend. Also, if you aren't near him as much, when you have to be near him, you might be able to tolerate him more.
Hope you and your friend work it out,
--------->Maureen
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Wow that sounds so familiar it's not even funny. My friend hates my boyfriend & i feel absolutly horrible about it, but anyways, enough about my problems..
if she`s happy with him you don`t want to like pry them away from eachother, but she's your best friend and if you dont like her boyfriend then you have all the right to say something to her without feeling guilty or selfish afterwards. try and work things out for both of you. personally when my friend confronted me about the situation, i felt kind of torn..you know like im being forced to choose between my bestfriend or my boyfriend. And thats not an easy descision to make.
Throughout your life, theres going to be alot of people you dont particularly like. My friends have had boyfriends that ive absolutly HATED. Like they would treat me like shit (my friends were totally aware of it) and they still stayed with him despite how rude they were to me. I just had to deal with it. Eventually i got over it ...pretending doesnt really help though. You can hang around with them..but you dont have to go out of your way to pretend to be nice...
Talk to her..forget about what you want..or what she wants..try and figure out what would be best for both of you.
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