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there is this guy at my cousins school that is very very attractive :) ..my cousin doesnt really talk to him though! it sucks..and like he is one of the really popular kids and i guess alot of girls like him. i just wish he would notice me one time! like i went to their schools football game and it was really really cold and my hair was all messed up and came unstraight and it was a mess! it seems like everytime i look alright then i never see him and when i look like crap i always see him! i dont want to like go up to him and have him be like ohhh kay i dont know you? and go back and tell people wow this weird girl came up to me and was trying to talk to me. all of my cousins friends think im soo gorgeous but i dont see it..and we always have our talks and my cousin always asks who i would look good with and all her friends say i would look really cute with this kid. these days ..over here people dont introduce really. they just all hangout and kinda have to talk themselves. but i dont know what should i do!? im very very shy though which doesnt help. its hard because i see him only at like their school functions where EVERYONE is. im really bad with like..going up to someone i dont know and usually i wont do it!!

16, female!

I know your shy but maybe if your cusins are around you won't be so shy around him. Look your best when you talk to him and don't be afraid to look like an idiot. Belive me when you think you are gonna look stupid everything goes flawless and when you least expect it the embaressment comes. That's from my experience. I don't know if it is the same for everyone, but mostly everyone I talk to that happens to them.

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hi, well i dont know if anyones has ever heard of a dhol, but its an indian drum. anyway, mine is too loud, soo loud that when i play (in lessons) the drum kits start to shake. its a bad loud, not a good loud, in my opinion. does anyone have any advice? thanks in advance

Ask the teacher who is giving you lessons to help you. I have never heard of a dhol drum so that's the best advice I can give you.

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ok im 16 and in gr. 12, tha last few relationships ive bin in have bin disastrous, some of them wanted ta be dominated and a little controlled, some thot i was being a dick when i was like that, some thot i was too nice sumtimes, and i pretty much just wanna know wat girls really want, i know it cant be generalized like that , but do you want a guy that makes decisions for you, gets jealous and protective, and is dominative, or do you want someone who romances you , visits you at work on your worst days just to make you smile, and kisses you randomly, , i really hope i dont get 50000 different answers but ya thx

Every girl is different. I am definatly NOT like the girls at my school. So There is no answer to what girls want. Personaly, I would like hugs and kisses like tic-tac-toe but I hate a whole lotta romance. So the best thing I can tell ya is get to know them and you'll find out what they like.

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i have liked this guy for awhile and people have been telling me were probably going to end up dating.. today my friend asked him about me and he said he thought i was cute and everything but couldnt really see us going out, he asked why and he said i dont know, but then said he would think about.. from a guys point of view or girl whatever, do you think this is an automatic no, in just a nice way or do you think he is really thinking about it and would actually consider going out with me?

From a girl's point of view cuz I am a girl, I think he is considering it. I was in the exact same position as you. And look where I am now. I have a b/f who loves me to death. Give him a chance and hope for the best.
juicyfruitluvr4ever

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13/f/Tx
My boyfriend asked me if I was ready for him to kiss me. I've truthfully never kissed anyone before. He's taking me to the movies this weekend. He said if I was ready he wanted to kiss him there. I told him to talk to my cousin because she always knows everything, but he wants an answer from me. What do I do?

OMG! I have the same thing!!! I am meeting my b/f this weekend and we might kiss, but I don't know so my answers to my question might help you. This is a driect link to my question.

http://advicenators.com/qview.php?q=449729

Good luck with your b/f and good luck with mine.

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I've tried to stop drinking soda but going without the caffeine gives me headache. I've cut down on it so now its only once in a while but does anyone know a way to cut it out completely and replace it with something else???

I grew up without being aloud to drink caffine, so I can't relate to being adictied to caffine. But I know what it is like to be adicted to other things. What I drink is mostly uncaffined soda like 7up, sprite, root beer, decaffined pepsi, 7up cherry, grape soda, orange soda, chubbys, ect. So drink those. Or if you want to cut back on overall all soda then sport drinks. I recomend propel SO good!

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Depending on what it's like, a song can change my mood or outlook on a situation from moment to moment because that's just how I am. What are some good songs that make you feel mellow and chilled out or happy. The songs themselves don't have to be happy or sad...just how do they make you feel? Please give me some names of good songs.

Aselin Debison has a very soothing voice, I listen to wide range from azi to The Vines, so I am just like you.

www.aselin.com

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Alright I purchased a dress to my homecomming
[which is on the 30th]
And it has a 50's feel to it. So I was thinking for my hair I could do a classic fiftys up-do or hairstyle in general.
My hair is kind of short
http://i8.photobucket.com/albums/a47/xRadPotatos/MADDYY4.jpg

so could any one give me any ideas
[preferebly pictures]
of styles that I could do with my length?

www.dlhair.com It has a trillion hair ideas. My dad created it with his company so whenever you click on anything where it says google links my Dad gets money. Not trying to get more money but I am serious its a VERY good directory!

Have a good prom night,
juicyfruitluvr4ever

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My boyfriend and I have been dating 10 months. We go to a two story school with stairwells. We were in this one particular stairwell in the morning before school started and one teacher told us to "MOVE ON, GET TO CLASS" (Note: We were not hugging or doing any other type of PDA, my boyfriend was just standing against the wall with me about a foot in front of him looking at him). Today, between classes, we were in the same stairs, same scenario. We walked down the stairs, hugged quickly, then I went back up the stairs where the teacher was staring then made my way to my class (I went to third period). She happened to be talking to my boyfriend and I's fourth period teacher, when the teacher that got on to us and came over and talked to us. She said that we are not allowed to be in the stairwell between classes (except to get to class, obviously)and we were giving the appearance of doing something else (Note: Neither of these "rules" are written school rules). She told us if she caught us in there again, she was going to write us both up. My boyfriend asked what rules we were breaking and she said "Subordination". She told our fourth period teacher about it, and my fourth period teacher got on to us simply for holding hands (according to the policy book, this is acceptable).

If it's not a written school rule then if I were you I would keep doing what I was doing and ignore the teachers.

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well we just got into high school this year and there is a new girl in our grade. shes basically aqauntances with the whole grade (she's not like a loser, pretty jappy but nice) i talk to her sometimes when shes in my class.
anyway at lunch she was sitting by herself and then i asked her to sit with my friends. when she left my friends told me not to hang out with her cause they think/know she is a bitch.
but i don't want to be mean and stop talking to her.

what do i do ?!

Talk to her anyway. When a new girl came to my school, I didn't care what my friends said about her I wasn't going to be shallow and leave her in the dark. You do what you feel is right. Much luck, juciyfruitluvr4ever

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theres this guy, "jake". jake & i talk alot online and stuffff and he's completley normal and fine when we talk online. but then in school, when i see him or we talk, he acts really shy. why is he doing this? and how do i make him feel more comfortable around me?

I think I know why he is so shy at school. He is shy because hes not 1 on 1 with you like he is online at school is is crowded with other people around him. You can't force someone to not be shy anymore but you can try to get the shyness out. When I was in 6th grade I was almost exactly like Jake. I would be SO comfortable at home except when anyone else besides my sister, brothers, and parents. I felt out of place and uncomfortable. But to help Jake out talk to him whenever you can. I overcame my shyness by someone being a best-friend to me, only talking to me and soon I became confident about talking to other people.

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My husband bought me a dog when we first got married, I loved this dog more than anything in the whole world..time passes me and hubby got a divorce and I moved.. that living situation didnt work out and I asked my Ex to take care of my dog for a few months for me (I knew he would take good care of her) anyways, I just found out that he gave Precious away! He gave her to his brother and his brother's wife -the wife, which hates me more than anyone on the face of the earth! What can I do? She was not a pure breed dog so I have no papers on her of that kind. I do have all my papers from vet visits with my name being on the reciepts as the owner. I also have TONS of picutres of me and her from the last 5 years. Do I have any legal rights or should I plot to steal her back? This woman never took care of her dogs and you could always see there rib cages. It is breakin my heart that my dog could possibly not be fed or showed the love she needs. Please just offer me your opinion... my heart is breaking! P.S. I'm married now and can provide her all the love and care she could ever need.

-Missing Precious

Try to ask for her back. I know you said that the wife hates you but you should at least try. If you do not get along with her then be a suck-up. I think you would be able to get your dog back if you envole any law because, when I lived in Pennsylvania I had to give away my adorable kitty, and then the shelter called and said that since I paid for the cat I could not give her away without first informing the shelter, and they would do a bunch of paperwork and reasign the cat. But that is only at 1 shelter in Pennsylvania, so I am not sure if that will work for you. Since you are desprite you should at least try. I think that stealing her back wouldn't be such a great move because, it is ilegal.
Much Luck,
juicyfruitluvr4ever

P.S if you ever get your puppy back give her a hug for me, she sounds precious.

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ok i blow dry my hair every night after i get out of the shower. and in the morning i straighten it. my hair looks fine right after i straighten it but after i get to school its a mess! i get so much frizz its not even funny. ive tried almost everything on my hair. i use a anti-frizz shampoo from dove and it doesnt seem to be working. i want to buy a chi but i dont know where to get one at. does anyone know anything i can do with my hair to eliminate the frizz? any shampoos and conditioners that work really well? and hair spray or anything? PLEASE HELP!!

Don't blow dry your hair and let it dry on its own. This will let it be natural for the night and then straighten it in the morning like usual. If it doesn't do anything to your hair then tie your hair up until you get home.

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o.k so here's the deal my dream is to be and advice columnist for a newspaper or magazine i'm really good at giving people advice.. but i never take my own.. i need... help i have a great boyfriend... he's nice, funny and he makes me feel good he once just came over my house just to give me flowers......but he has one flaw... HE SMOKES WEED! and weve been dating for about 3 months now and he says he's gonna stop but he doesn't... please i need help should i break up with him or give him another chance... please tell me what you think

Tell him that your over unless he stops if he really likes you than he'll stop.

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i need to know, how can you become a pretty person outside? i dont think im pretty or anything,i want to be a girl some guy would like. but how? tips? gerneral stuff? im a kinda preppy person,i dont dress bad,i wear makeup,but i dont know how to be pretty. i have brown hair,big brown eyes,long eyelashes,dark eyebrows,kinda light skin,kinda circles under my eyes,oval face shape,4"9 13...please help i want to look nice and aprochable,and pretty.

I know that the frase be yourself never works because you think I can't be myself because myself is... so I suggest you don't wear make-up for one day. Wearing make-up isn't being yourself, your putting on someone eles face. Just for one day don't wear make-up. See if anyone says anything. If it doesn't work try to little by little change your style. That's not being yourself becuse your style makes up who you are but a small change might work.

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15/f

I know I am attractive, smart, funny, outgoing and kind but I do not feel like a guy could be attracted to me. I know there are guys, who I am not interested in, who have a crush on me.. but I don't feel like that is even possible. I haven't dated a guy steadily for more than two years now. Why might I feel this way? How do I overcome it? Do I even need to overcome it?

Thank you :)

I feel the same way but yes it is possible. The first time anyone ever liked me I said "What's wrong with them?" I thought I was the ugliest person in the world. It turns out that they actually did like me, nothing was wrong with them, and they liked being around me. You might feel like this because your doing what I did your bringing yourself down. To overcome it just give them a chance and see where it goes for you. I don't think you need to seriously overcome it just try to stop thinking it's impossible for someone to like you.

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I think i'm ADD (not literally) i alwayss get distracted from my homework...i know thats normal b/c its boring, but how can i just pay attention and finish it b/c next thing i know its 11:00 and i still have to study and do other things (like right now haha)

pleasee help.

Try to do some work then take a break then do some more work. It will take longer than just sitting down and getting it over with but you will feel more accomplished if you finish that way then getting distracted all the time.

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My 16th birthday is coming up and i dont know what to do for it. I can have like a big party, or i can take like 10ish people and go to broadway, or go to a spa or something like that. Does anyone have any other ideas or suggestions?? i would realllllly appreciate it!! thanks in advanced.

I think that a sweet sixteen would always be my dream to have but never a huge party. In my opionion you should have a sweet sixteen but don't invite the whole school.

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my boyfriend dumped me after a year of seein eachother Every single day and i spend all my time with him he was there for me wen no1 else was wen i lost all my friends and because wen we fight i take it too far he just had to dump me i begged for another chance but he said no i feel so sick im achining i miss him so much i see him everyday so its soo hard not to see him from now on i dont want to see him with another girl to thats going to make things harder please help because no1 is giving me good advice to stop the pain i love this boy i told him EVERYTHING and now its all over he dont want anything to do with me help!

Try forgeting about him. I know that will be so hard because you spent so much time with him, but try. If you can't then ask him if you can at least just be friends. Even though he might not love you back, you can still at least be friends.

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So there's this guy in 2 of my classes, and I have developed a sort of crush for him, although I don't know much about him. I've never really talked to him either, but I wish I could. But, both of the classes I have with him, I'm in like the opposite part of the room. I don't know what to do, advice will be much appreciated.

Try talking to him in the halls, before class, and after class. If he talks to you more than you will develop a friendship eventualy, and that's a start.

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