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I'm a 17yo/M and A little while ago i was hooking up with this girl and after only a short time of her giving me a handjob, I ejaculated. Is there any reason why this happened or a way to last longer? I feel like the first time i get a blowjob or have sex i'm going to nut right away. I masturbate pretty regularly and it still seems so happen. any advice will help. (link)
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The answers the other people gave you were good, but also consider the pace that she may have been giving you the hand job. If she is going fast right away, it may happen faster. Also, if she is focusing on the tip too much, you may get a faster reaction.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year now and I was wondering if I should get his mom something for Christmas. I'm not really that close to her but I would like to be. She's very nice and welcoming (I'm always at their house) but she doesn't really talk to me all that much. Just your usually Hi, how are you. That kind of makes me timid about trying to talk to her because I'm not sure if she "approves" of me for her son. I was thinking that a gift would hopefully help change that. If i get her something, what should it be? (link)
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I am getting a present for my boyfriend's whole family because I am close with all of them, but definitely get his mother a present if you want to score points with her. My boyfriend's family loves to do puzzles together, so I asked his younger brother to secretly send me a family photo and I am ordering a puzzle of it off of snapfish.com. You might want to check out that site because most mothers are proud of their family and any gift that has to do with them would be really nice and there are a lot of different gifts you can get using pictures on that site.
You could always go with the traditional flowers or even a dessert you made. Anything to show her you thought of her I'm sure she would appreciate.
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this might end up being kinda long... anyway, my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 4 months and about a week ago i saw a picture with him and this girl on facebook and someone left a comment saying something about her making her move or something anyway... the other day him and i were hanging out at this place he usually goes with with his friends and he was calling some of them to see if they could come hang out with us, and he called the girl from the picture, if something was going on between them would he have wanted her to come hang out with both of us? or would he want to hide her more or whatever so i wouldn't get suspicious about anything? anyway, if anyone has any advice let me know.. thanks :) (link)
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Try bringing up your discomfort around her. He may consider her just another person in his group of friends. That comment may have been a joke, or it may be that she is interested in him. If you have a healthy relationship, chances are he'll explain everything to you as long as you ask him in a way that doesn't sound like you are attacking him.
I went through a similar situation where there were two girls posting flirty comments on my boyfriend's wall. I asked him about it and he told me that they both had wanted to hook up with him the previous year, but he had refused both of them because he liked me (we weren't dating at the time). I've gotten to know one of them and we really get along, but I'm still a little uncomfortable with the other. Now because he knows I am uncomfortable, he talks to me before he hangs out with her. I would never forbid him to spend time with her, but it means a lot to me that he is now aware of my feelings since I brought them up.
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alright... i kinda think my boyfriend might be cheating on me... i've done the whole look at the phone thing and stuff like that, but he would probably delete everything anyways. i saw something on the computer before like a program that would make it so you could see all the texts and calls he makes and gets from your computer or something. does anyone know of anything like this and where i can find it? thanks :) (link)
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I don't know of any programs like you have described, but I also highly recommend that you don't resort to spying on him. What you really should be doing is evaluating your relationship. Why do you think he is cheating on you? Do you feel comfortable telling him about your fears or have you done so already? If you are in a relationship where trust and/or loyalty is missing, you need to discuss this with your boyfriend to see if the relationship is worth saving.
Think about this. You spy on his texts and calls and realize he hasn't been cheating. How would he feel if he found out? Would you feel guilty and eventually feel the need to tell him? Would you later mistrust him for other reasons?
What if you spy on his texts and calls and realize he HAS been cheating on you? Will you confront him about it? Will he turn things around to make you feel like you are the bad guy when he was the one who was cheating?
Does the relationship sound like it would work either way?
You are in a situation in which the other way to solve it would be to talk to him about. Either he will assuage your fears, come clean, or leave you guessing. Depending on the outcome, you'll figure out what to do from there.
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i refuse to go tanning in a sun bed because i don't want skin cancer but i'm embarressed to go outside and tan because i'm really pale so i've been trying tan in a bottle stuff. All of the stuff i've tried has glitter or sparkly stuff in it. Has anyone used a non-scented, not glittery tanning product that seemed to work? if so can you please tell me what its called/where to get it? (link)
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I just got Neutrogena's gradual tanning sunblock. I can protect myself from the sun AND still tan! I don't think it's completely unscented but the smell isn't too bad or strong at all. I recommend it.
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Hello world. So does anyone have like really good tips on how to write a song, liek jsut the lyrics part. And i know stick to your deep true feelings, because those ideas are the best, but where do you go from there? Thanks if you can help! (link)
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Just wait for inspiration...or don't be too concerned about finishing a song. Sometimes I'll start one and it will give me a great idea and I'll put that one to the side and create an even better song. Don't worry about censoring your thoughts because once you let what you really feel come out it's much more beautiful. It's good to stick to a formula kind of. Like, if your first verse is four lines long, then they all should be. There are exceptions, but I would stick to this if you are just starting out. Try to come up with a chorus that is worth repeating and catchy and sticks out a little more from the verses. Sometimes you might write a verse and later decide you would rather have it for the chorus so it's okay to change it! Just don't be afraid to write anything that you might later change or reorder because you'll be less likely to run into a block.
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I'm 16, and I've had a couple bfs but haven't had one in awhile. And I really enjoy being in a relationship more than being single, I feel happier and better about myself. I know it's good to learn how to stand on your own before you get involved with other people, but I think I've done that by now. How do I get the guy's attention? :D (link)
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I know it's really cliche to say, but just be yourself. But by that I don't mean just do everything like normal and wait for a guy to come to you. Just be comfortable with yourself enough to chat up a guy not worrying too much about what he thinks about you or whether or not he will like you. Just having fun talking/flirting will allow you to be confident, which will really catch a guy's attention. If you're having fun, you won't have to be worried about overdoing anything or getting too nervous to show any interest at all.
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i want a coach purse but not the real one.
does anyone know a store i can get it at?
& how much are they? (link)
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I'm not sure where you live, but the best place to go in the north is Canal Street in New York. The bags there are usually either really good knockoffs or stolen (which is bad, but oh well). But really, any major city nearby you will have street vendors selling knock off purses. It would be really easy to find a nice one and you can usually barter the price down. I got a knock off Coach in Boston from the lady near Faneuil Hall for like 20 bucks and no one has ever questioned its authenticity. If that isn't an option, try going to a boutique somewhere near where you live. They usually have very unique purses that you might even like better than a Coach because it is more likely to be unique and you won't find anyone else who has it, like you probably will with a Coach.
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hi, i need advice. im 16 and the guy i love is a bit older than me. my parents want let me be with him so i have to sneak. i do feel horrible about it. i really want a relationship with him. i dont know what to do. please help! (link)
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Try to get your parents to know him as a person, not as a person you are interested in having as your boyfriend. If they get to know him well, they'll be more comfortable with you dating him. If you continue to sneak around and they find out, they will have more of a reason to be against you being with him.
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Last year I discuss my best friend that I am bi sexual and that I have a crush on her. She is fine with it but she doesn’t like me in that way. Because she is unsure of her sexuality and not ready for a relationship (she is still unsure). After the talk we had she and I are still close friends and there were times she will seemed she is flirts or teasing me but I cant tell if it means she fancy me. She leans on me, touch me and close to me. Yesterday she and I and couple of our friends were in my room watching TV. I was on the left side of my bed and she the right. I lay in my head in the middle of the bed as she too. We ended up our heads touching together. I just don’t get why she is so touchy feely to me when she isn’t attracted to me.
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You said that she's unsure and not ready for a relationship, but are you sure she isn't attracted at all? She may be toying with the idea in her head and that is why she acts that way towards you; because she's unsure and not ready for a relationship she just might be trying to figure it out without without jeopardizing your friendship. OR perhaps you may be overanalyzing what she does. she may just be comfortable with you because you are her best friend and she feels comfortable with you.
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Technically I'm not a vegetarian, but beginning a few months ago, I stopped eating red meat. I eat chicken sometimes, but since I don't eat red meat I'm probably not getting enough iron. Plus, I don't know if this is the case with me, but my sisters have low-iron anemia.
I started eating a little bit of red meat last week.
The problem is, I haven't gotten my period yet, so I'm wondering if this change in diet is the cause of this. Or maybe because I stopped exercising around the same time I stopped eating red meat?
If any of you are vegetarians, vegan, or don't eat meat, has this happened to you too? or if you've tried this and it affected your period?
Please don't tell me to take a pregnancy test, I just want to know if this is a reason or not. Thanks in advance! (link)
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Yes, it is true that changing your diet can affect your menstrual cycle. Get back in some sort of routine eating pattern and it should go back to normal.
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does anyone know of a (female if it helps...15) job personality quiz type thing that is free? the kind of one where you answer questions and it suggests what job you would best fit. thanks!!! (link)
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Try looking around on Collegeboard.com. There is a quiz that will give you some possibilities and you can also read profiles describing different jobs.
EDIT: http://myroad.collegeboard.com/myroad/navigator.jsp?t=idme&i=index
There you go.
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6 months along :]
its a girl.
me and my boyfriend have some names pciked out.
but arent sure what to name her.
just lemme know what you think.
Riley James Court.
Brooklyn ray Court.
Elizabeth lynn Court.
Courtney may Court.
^6what one do you like the best.
or give me some suggestions. (link)
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I immediately loved Riley James. I think that is an incredible name. I would give Courtney May a definite no. Courtney Court? Would you really want to do that to her? If you just say the first and last names together Elizabeth Court flows the best I think, and it also does when you add in Lynn. I think it sounds really sophisticated also, but make sure you consider all the nicknames. Would you mind people calling your daughter Lizzy? Liz? Eliza? Beth? Ellie? Riley would always be Riley, sometimes Ry probably.
Someone else said Riley May Court. I think that is really cute also.
If I had to choose, I would probably go for Riley James or Riley May, but my biggest advice is to go for anything BUT Courtney.
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I absolutely hate my school and my town, and I want more than anything to go to boarding school. But my parents are like, "We'll miss you too much." I think that's the only reason I can't go. Money's not a problem, and all the ones I want to go to are excellent schools. How can I convince them? (link)
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Call a "meeting" with them and tell them all the reasons that you want to go and let them know how serious you are about it. Have you considered going to a private school but still living at home?
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what do i do without telling my parents !?!? (link)
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put it into neutral and push it out of the garage and have a friend come jump it.
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16/f.
my mom recently kicked me out because i came home past my curfew. is she allowed to do that since im only 16?
im living with my dad right now but its really hard cause he doesnt have a good job and we can barely eat and i have to walk to school from a different city ever morning. it takes me like 40 minutes.
my little brother still lives with my mom and she gets child support for both of us.
i live in michigan, can anybody tell me what the law is about kicking a minor out.
can my dad collect a paycheck everymonth since he is not financially able to support me?
THANKS IN ADVANCE. (link)
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i'm not sure what the laws are exactly, but if you are looking to get back with your mom i would try to work things out with her. if she is not willing to take you back, or if you don't want to go back, you're parents will probably have to go to court over it. your mom should not be recieving child support for you if she is not actually supporting you. so that right there would take a load off of your dad financially, since he is now basically paying child support for you twice. if you stay with your dad he will have to gain custody of you and you will probably end up changing schools. i would definitely talk to a guidance counselor at your school because he or she will have a lot more information and advice. i hope things turn out well for you.
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ugh okay so im only 13 and i hate my life. like its not bad or anything but im always depressed and ive had a lot of stuff happen to me latly that i just cant handle and it doesnt take much to make me sad or mad and ive already tried to commit sucide but that didnt work and i want to run away so bad but i dont think i could go through with it and im just to confused as to wat to do becuz i dont wanna see a counserlour and i really dont think im depressed so i dont need to take any pills but is there something wrong with me and if so how can i fix it? this has been going on for way to long and i just want to give up and run away so bad (link)
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You've obviously been feeling quite a mix of emotions lately. It's good that you've realized that something is wrong. That's the first step to getting better. Even if you aren't clinically depressed, you would be surprised how much it helps to talk to a counselor. I'm very good friends with the guidance counselor at my school. She does not judge you at all and has a lot of great things to say to help you become less confused and lead you back in the right direction. Your guidance counselor is probably just as great. They are all sworn to keep everything confidential, so your parents won't even know unless you want them to. I really recommend at least trying it once.
The only way for life to get better is to keep living it. Stay strong and things will get better. I promise.
If you need anyone to talk to, I'm online all the time. Let me know in your feedback if you want my screen name or e-mail.
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what are some good gifts you can get your boyfriend for valentines day?
thanksss (link)
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I used to think that gifts for your boyfriend had to be strictly sweet gifts. Don't limit yourself like that! Cologne or a framed picture of the two of you are great, but don't be afraid to go for anything like movies, cds, clothes, or anything relating to any of his interests (cars, a tv show, sports, etc.)
Is he into music? Have a favorite band? What about a t-shirt or sweatshirt from their website?
Does he constantly work on his car? How about a gift card to an auto shop?
It also depends on how big of a deal Valentine's Day is to the two of you. Last year, I just got my boyfriend a card. He gave me flowers and chocolate.
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i constantly think of killing myself and i dont know how to stop it. i constantly think that everyone hates, me nobodys really my friend, people just use me & try to take advantage of me, im fat, ugly, ill never be happy.. ect. and i cant deal with it anymore cause i really think im becomming suicidal, i used to cut a long time ago but i stopped & now i just like have alot of mood swings witch turn into me wanting to kill myself, like stab myslef or o.d on medicine or something i dont know what to do. my mom says i have depression and i bottle everything up. but i cant deal with it and they want me to go talk to somebody but i cant. i dont like talking to nobody cause i cant trust anyone i cant even trust myself thats how bad it is .. i think negitive of everything and i just need help .. can somebody help me please ?! (link)
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i have good news for you. you realize that something is wrong. this is the first step in getting better. i would highly suggest taking everyone's advice to talk to a professional. it may seem completely unappealing to you, but i promise it will help you a lot. you will learn to build trust back in others and, more importantly, yourself.
i know you said that you don't like talking to anyone because of lack of trust, but if you want i can give you my e-mail. that way i can give you much better advice. just a thought. let me know what you think in your feedback. =).
also, when i'm upset i like to write down my feelings. maybe you could try tranfering you emotions into a journal. also, try finding music that makes you feek better.
i have a lot more to say, so let me know about the e-mail thing.
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You may remember that question I asked about the whole being anti-social thing. Well, I talked to my mom about those reasons, one being that I'm afraid that someone might kidnap me, and she said "How many people do you know who have been kid napped?" and I said "None, but the fact that it COULD happen scares me" so she said "that is a fear that is very irrational and you need to stop worrying about it...people rarely get kidnapped." This didn't help me. Like I said, the FACT that it COULD happen to me makes me scared. The other reason, I don't want to be emabarrasssed and I'm afraid of looking stupid in front of other people, she responded with "Just because they think you're stupid does that make you stupid?" It's like my mom is so outgoing and social so she just doesn't understand!!! Although I DO agree with her, it doesn't make me feel any better for some reason. Where do you think I should go from here? (link)
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i'm so sorry i didn't answer your question. my computer broke and i didn't get it fixed for a long time. you asked this question in the beginning of july. if you still need help with this, or anything else. please let me know! =).
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