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finding a guy...
I'm 16, and I've had a couple bfs but haven't had one in awhile. And I really enjoy being in a relationship more than being single, I feel happier and better about myself. I know it's good to learn how to stand on your own before you get involved with other people, but I think I've done that by now. How do I get the guy's attention? :D
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Patented flirting techniques guys notice (even unconciously)
1) Eye contact. Eye contact is sexy. It lets someone know theyre being noticed.
2) Smile. A genuine smile gets attention, and if you smile at a guy alot, he'll notice.
3) The neck. As ridiculous as this sounds, a woman's neck is sexy. Across almost all cultures, the neck is an intimate place and is usually only touched by those we are interested in. Use this to your advantage.
When talking to a guy you like, rub your neck lightly for a brief moment. Imagine like you're giving yourself a 1 second very light massage. Watch his eyes. If his eyes flicker to your neck when you do this, he likes you.
This technique can be used on more than just your neck. One of the most effective ways Ive seen girls work this, is get a necklace with something in front big enough that you might touch it on occasion. When you're around a guy you like, play with the necklace a little bit. It draws a guys eyes briefly down to your chest.
Yes, your chest. You don't even have to wear a low cut shirt. Its not about showing off or being slutty, its more about saying very subtly "Look, I'm a girl and I'm pretty"
Hips work equally well.
Lips work well.
Combine this with normal conversation.
4) Hints. Guys work well on hints, but they have to be a bit blunt.
Think "Oh, this movie is coming out soon and I want to see it but all my friends are busy" kind of hints.
There are two reasons you have to be this blunt.
- Because not all guys are innately perceptive, or they don't have the experience to know what these things mean
- Because many guys will chicken out on a very subtle hint not wanting to read the signals wrong and screw up if they like you.
5) Find reasons to strike up a conversation. If you like a guy, talk to him. Show interest. Ask him questions. Same rules that guys have with girls, basically.
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A lot of girls have that problem (feeling better about themselves while in relationships) because it makes us feel wanted or important to someone of the opposite sex. But you say you think you're past that now. If you have a guy in mind then just start talking more. It doesn't necessarily have to be about something you know he is interested in. Just talk. Talking to someone is the best way to get noticed, not dressing up all nice and trying to get them to look at you.
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I know it's really cliche to say, but just be yourself. But by that I don't mean just do everything like normal and wait for a guy to come to you. Just be comfortable with yourself enough to chat up a guy not worrying too much about what he thinks about you or whether or not he will like you. Just having fun talking/flirting will allow you to be confident, which will really catch a guy's attention. If you're having fun, you won't have to be worried about overdoing anything or getting too nervous to show any interest at all.
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