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i love a special someone
hi, i need advice. im 16 and the guy i love is a bit older than me. my parents want let me be with him so i have to sneak. i do feel horrible about it. i really want a relationship with him. i dont know what to do. please help!
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If he's old enough to be prosecuted for statuatory rape, stay away for now. You're only a couple of years from the age of consent (maybe less, if you live some places)
If theres no legal problems involved, sneak, and don't get caught.
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What your parents worry about is this bit older. Him being older then you puts him at a different stage in life, (at your age, one year can be a different stage). We change so fast during our teen years and it can be very disturbing to you if he wants to take you to a level you are not ready for. The one thing that most young people don't realize is life is a lot like the class room, each year you are taught something new and if something is skipped there is a big hole left by it. You can't take Accounting III, before you take Accounting I and II.
If you want to see this guy, which even I will admit that I think you should not, I trust your parents judgment. Try talking to your parents, tell them that you understand they're concerned about him trying to take you to a level you don't want to go too and assure them that you will not allow this to happen. You will stay to public meetings with him and allow for time for you and your parents to get to know who he really is. If your parents still insist that you don't see him, even after you talk about taking response ability for protecting yourself, as you should always do, and they can not see this as being a learning experience for you. Then you should not see this guy, you have 2 years, then you can see who you want, look him up in two years, see if he is still interested. It's not a life time, it just seems that way to you.
If they say okay and this guy wants to break the only public dating rule, you say no. He will either choose to respect that rule, or stop seeing you. In the later case you will know that you were pray to him, not a girl.
Oh, and a P.S. My oldest daughter experienced this same thing, we gave her the room to find out for herself that this guy was a predictor on younger girls, sex was all he wanted. When he couldn't get it, he moved on to someone else.
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Try to get your parents to know him as a person, not as a person you are interested in having as your boyfriend. If they get to know him well, they'll be more comfortable with you dating him. If you continue to sneak around and they find out, they will have more of a reason to be against you being with him.
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first it depends how much is a bit older. next, if you are feeling guilty, how about you try to convince your parents how much of a good person he is and try to show them that. your parents are just looking out for you and want the best for you that is why they are concerned. i hope i helped :)
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