Depending on the day depends on the type of answer you will get from me. Most of the time i give what i would do if i were in your shoes. That means it could be harsh and stereotypical or nice and easy to understand. i love giving advice so ask away. challenge me a bit and you will get a good answer out of me. i have played the harp for 7 years and love it to this day. God bless
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I have this "friend"that talks behind my back!!! she even said she hated me, to my other friend!!!I don't know what i did?!! When i try to talk to her all she does is say "i don't need advise I'm not rude so shutup!!!" I think she is also a show off to impress me and my best friend!! How can i solve this?!!! (link)
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Talk to her in a different way. confront her with proof that she is talking behind your back. Tell her that it offends you and if she were a real friend she wouldn't do it to you. Ask her if she is your friend. Also ask her questions like:what did i do to you to make you hate me? Why are you doing this? Why can't we just be friends, is it that too hard to ask for? Don't confront her with an attitude just be neutral. It is easy to get mad and yell at her but that only makes matters worse. Just talk to her in a neutral tone that she can't twist and minipulate to make her look better and you worse. If that doesn't work, then just ignore her all together and just tell her if she can't be a true friend there is no point in trying to act like being friends. Good Luck!!
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(16/f) I've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months now and I really do love him. Its just that he doesnt trust me at all. Just because of things people tell him. People dont like the fact that we're going out because we're in an inter-racial relationship. So they make things up to try to get us to break up. I know that they're lying but he doesnt. He just doesnt trust me and I'm constantly telling him not to believe them and " No I didnt flirt with so-and-so today." Im so sick of trying to get him to believe me. He also makes me feel guilty for things I did before we started going out. Im tired of it and I try telling him this but he just doesnt stop. It's getting to the point where we're fighting most of the time instead of getting along. I love him so much and I dont want to have to break up but I want to be happy instead of being sad all the time now. I just dont know if its at the point where I should end it or not. Please help me out I dont know what to do... thanks in advance. (link)
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Try this before breaking up with him:
Bring him out on a date show him how much you love him. Reassure him that you love him and him only. he may be uneasy because he is frightened of loosing you. If that is the case talk with him and let him know that if anything were to happen you would tell him and that you can trust him. Then prove it. think of a way to show him that he can trust you. Even if it is romantic or cheezy or anything. if that doesn't work then there is not point in trying. If he doesn't trust you enough, he needs to fix his issue. Take a break and then try again. Sometimes the second time is better than the first. Hope it works out in the end!!
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My bf and i are going to 2 proms this year and we're not sure if he should buy or rent a tux for them. What do you think would be cheaper. All he wants is a basic Black Tux with nothing fancy and also besides Mr. Tux and Steping out Formal where can he rent them and where can he buy one. thanks and sry if that is confusing (link)
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If it both of you Juniors then he should rent a tux. It is cheaper and he is still growing probably so he would never fit it again. If it is your senior year buy it, even though it is a little more expensive he can use it later on. My dad still fits his tux from his wedding which was a few years after his prom. Keep it and he will be able to use it for some other occassion. Have fun at prom!! It is so much fun!!
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I know my bf gets boners becuase he has said he hates it when he gets them. I dont know what to do when he gets them, should i just ignore it? (link)
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That is what I did with my past ex. I felt sorry for him but that is his issue I really didn't know what to do. So yeah kinda clueless on that topic. I just say ignore it.
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theres this girl i dont just have a crush on ive nown her since well (for americans kindergarten)
(for uk reception) and i love her with all my heart she has a bf but i lov her so much i dont know what to do she gave me my first kiss and she has always been there for me but she met this guy i dont know what to do ive nearly told her i love her but chickened out help me please
ill rate huge
despratley needing help
sam (link)
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Girls usually know when I guy likes them. But because she is a close friend of yours since childhood she may not realize how you feel. She may assume, but she might not be sure. Even though she has a bf you should tell her. It is always good to let the person know you care. I know it is hard but you should. Don't do it over the internet or over the phone or in a letter. Do it face to face. Ask her how she feels about it. Not if she cares about you the same way. if she feels the same way she will probably tell you. She will understand and will not crush your heart. Especially because you are very close friends. If she continues to date the guy she is with let her know you are always there for her and respect her feelings. If she wants to be friends respect that and let her know that you will always be there even if you don't date. Which it sounds like you would do anyways. Hope I helped
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ok it's me again, I just had another question, I'm 14,f, my bf is 14 and I'm a strong christian and I hav many beliefs, not having sex before marriage is one of them. My bf isn't a christian he is unitarian(which i dont really kno much about),but he knows im saving myself for marriage,and he wouldn't ever take advantage of me cuz he luvs me. I was just wondering is it ok that he isn't a christian? Also, do u kno anything about unitarianism? thanks (link)
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I am not sure about utarianism but I think it is when they beleive in certain things from every belief. It is like joining all the beleifs into one huge one. I think that is what it is. I personally think it is fine to date people outside of the christian community. In the bible it says your partner should be the same as you are. But I interpert that as more of a marriage thing not dating. As long as he respecs you, I think it is perfectly ok. The whole utarianism thing....i think you should look it up on google or yahoo. Find a web site that explaines it. God Bless and glad to help you!!
Gwen
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okay well my best friend is always telling the people i like that i like them!! and she's always mean and like, yeah you have no friends, haha im just kidding! and then she says that the kid i like, matt, would never like me. and its really annoying.
And my other best friend is ALWAYS up on the guy i like. and if i stop liking them, she loses all interest. its REALLY annoying. (link)
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She is not supporting you and it is depressing to know it. I have been in that exact situation before. A girl named Sarah (who I thought was my best friend) turned out to take every boyfriend I ever had until I stopped talking to her and staying away from her. You need to tell both of your friends that what they are doing is not what a friend does. Friends are supposed to watch out for each other and all they are doing is making things worse for you. The friend that is always up on who you like might just envy you. She might want to be like you or even be jealous because you get the guys who actually care about you and not date you for some other reason. Take that into consideration if you confront her about it. For your friend that is allways putting you down. realize the one who points the finger at someone is usually doing it because they feel that way about themself. you are a victim amoungst missunderstanding and low self-esteem. Know that if you talk to both of them it could get better. If not unfortunantly it won't end until you find new best friends. Hope it works out for you!! Your whole guy situation should work out great, he seems to care if he listens to you instead of them.
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ok me and this guy have been going out for about 4 months, im 14, female, and i luv him soo much! We have made-out and been to each others houses, also hes looked down my shirt and lil things nuthing totally taking clothes off or anything, i definately dont want to have sex because im a christian and ive made that promise so what should we do if i want more than just making out? (link)
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i have been in a similar situation just a few years older. i know it is hard to control our hromones and emotions. It is as if what the Bible says and what the 'world' says conflicts. It is hard to say it and keep to what the Bible says. The bible says no sexual activity before marriage and to me that means nothing that implies sexual activity. If your boyfriend loves you he will understand your beliefs and respect whatever decision you make. If I were you I would end it at making out. Plus you can have fun doing other things. Go to places around where you live that are fun. Like around where I live we have indoor rockclimbing, laser fighting, paintaball warzone, and other places. Relationships should bot be based on physical asspects. instead it should be based on your personalities. If it is based on your personalities and beliefs than he will understand and you will only strengthen in your belief. Hope I helped!! Write me anytime with any other issue!!
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Me and this guy use to go out. He broke up with me and I didnt see him for a long time. I was in love with him, we started talking again and we hug and flirt and talk but theres this other girl he does some of that stuff with too. I still have feelings for him, everytime I see him I always think god he's hot, and think about how much I care for him. But wut do I do? I need him back, he's like all I ever think about. (link)
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First of all i am in the same situation and I am sorry you have to deal with it. Second of all I thought I needed the guy I liked. But now I know I don't sure i like him but if I am just sitting here waiting for him to come to me, I am not going to wait. Think about it, if he wanted to be back with you as much as you love him wouldn't he just go to you? I understand you think you can't live without him but didn't you live without him before yall dated? It is hard to realize that we can be independant after allowing ourselves to fall into this belief we HAVE to be with someone. It is as if we latch onto someone and can't get off because we never try. Once we realize we can be on our own and be fine we move on or we find someone else to latch onto. If you love him, tell him, talk to him. That way he at least knows, then it is up to him and how he feels to decide whether to date you again or not. At least that way you know whether you are holding onto false hopes or real ones. Hope I helped!!
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what are some good colleges for good photography classes?
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i have a great site that will give you TONES of colleges and SCHOLARSHIPS....www.fastweb.com....it is easy and the results come based on your profile..ohh yeah ind it is free
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i know alot of girls probably do this.. but i always compare myself to models and girls who i believe are prettier than me.. im always putting myself down and looking in the mirror finding everything thats wrong with me and wishing i was perfect like other girls I know... does anyone else do the same.. how do you get over it (link)
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Every person has unique qualities. Many perople see their qualities as weaknesses or ugliness. Most of the time, they aren't. if every girl looked just like a model, we would all go insane. Just because you may not be as skinny, tan, tall, short, or 'perfect' as all the models on TV and in magazines doesn't mean you aren't beautiful. The only thing that makes you beautiful is who you are and if you accept yourself inside and out. The only way to stop is realize you are beautiful and even though you may not be as beautiful as model (which by the way wear so much makeup that it isn't funny....friend is a model) you are still beautiful.
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Why are human beings, as a species, so weak minded that they need religion to tell them what to do? I want real answers, not just the whole,"Jesus is great!lol!" shit that most people will dish out. I.E. I want someone intelligent to explain this to me. (link)
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I believe in God not because I am weak or need some religion to settle my spirits. I believe in him because I can and want to and I know that he exists. I do not nee hard proof to know that he is in my life. I just know it through actions and small mericals everyday. Yes Jesus is great but that is not all of it. Christians tend to get caught up in 'converting people' that they forget reality. Being a Christian and believing on God takes work and time. When you first begin your journey it is hard. Often you have to give up habits, and rituals that inhibit you from getting closer to God. Although many people believe going to church will be enough it isn't. You have to read the bible and tell people about God. Everyone has a different preception of what God is. I think he is a person who is powerful enough to change anything and everything in one instant but chooses to listen to me instead. i am able to think, write down, or even talk out loud my issues and I know he is listening. Even when I sin I know he will forgive me because in the bible it says love the sinner hate the sin. He forives me for whatever i do and then forgets it. That does not mean I can continuously do the same sin over and over again because that pulls me away from my beliefs and God. Being a Christian is about a person relationship AND reflecting out into the world for everyone to see. I know God is with me everywhere I go. He is the most dependable thing I have, even more than myself. I know that no matter what, once I allow him into my soul, he will never leave. My personal relationship is a relationship based on my knowledge of his stories (the bible), his laws and how much I abide by them, and how much I talk to him. Talking may be through prayer or just thinking and talking. I hope this helps you and if you want more just email me at RMS2388@aol.com.....Just write in the subject "I want to know more about God"
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Age: 13 Gender: Chick [girl]
Ok, I have this problem and like it involes this dude that I truely like. But like, we went out for like 10 to 11 days and then we broke up. I did something like so fucking stupid to get his attention and now like we don't talk a lot but we're still "friends." I really love him and like he keeps asking me if I do and I know that he suspects that I still do. Then, he already has this other chick under his arm and it's not me. But like I know why we broke up and everything. But like on a note he sent me he wrote that no matter what we will try to make this relationship work and last long even if we have to marry each other! Like, I knew he was going to take back those words. But like, he made feel so freaking retarded and like now, I just think he's like such a dork for confusing me! Like, should I forget about him and move on and just stay friends or should I like still continue to kill myself this way? Because everyday I cry for him to come back to me and like I also "cut" and like I'm like always depressed because of him. Help me please, what should I do?
The Loner, loser, Lover...your dark lord and master...Jenny M...
[jennymanzanares@hotmail.com] (link)
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In all honesty I think you should stop cuttingyourself and realize it is ok to be single. You were fine before him and will be perfectly fine after him. Just because he may tell you he loves you doesnt always mean it is the truth. I know this very well and hope you never have to deal with any jerk or any guy who treats you wrongly. A guy you date needs to repect your thoughts, opinions and beliefs. Just realize if it soesn't work out it is not all your fault and know there are bigger fish in the sea
Gwen
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okay my guy friend and i were suppose to spend yesterday together but we didn't cuz he didn't call me. he is not a dependable person. so today in the hall he said hi and i ignored him. was that the right thing to do? and does anyone have any ideas on what i should say to him or what should i do? (link)
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Understand that people that no one can depend on have an issue with themself. If you ignore them because he didn't show whatever is making him undependable may be affected by you ignoring him. You should explain to him that you were really looking foward to hanging out with him and he let you down. Say how much it dissapointed you. If he continues to do it that is when you have the right to get made and give him the silent treatment. Hope yall work things out!!
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Ok now well i have been with this kid whom we'll call john and my ex we'll call jack.Ok me and john have been together for about 3-4 weeks and i was with my ex for 5 months then we broke up in january but lately i have begun to get old feelings back for jack but we are BOTH in a relationship so i wrote him a letter after john left for florida basically asking him out and i am waiting for right now but the prob is if it doesn't work out should i tell john when he comes back about what i was secretley doing?? plz help i only have a couple of days left!!!
~~ME~~ (link)
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It is perfectly natural to have feelings for old flings or even random people. Acting on them on the other hand is a hard decision. If it the whole thing works out for you I am happy for you but if it doesn't you have to choose between telling or not. Personally I would tell john because it would drive me crazy if I didn't. It might make your relationship stronger if you both get through this but it can also weaken it. If you do decide to tell him you should chose a right time and place, when he is in a good mood. If you do it the wrong time then he may over react. If I were you I would tell him, no matter what.
Hope it all works out!!
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