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I love thos boy so much but I don't know how to tell him. I don't think he's had experiance with girl so I'm not sure which way to go about it ?
Just talk to him. Talk to him, become his friend, then after you're comfortable with eachother tell him you like him. Dont tell him you love him right away or you may scare him away.
Hi everyone so I'm 17 years old and my boyfriend is 19 almost 20 and we have been together for over a year and I am obsessed with him. Not in a stalker way or anything but I am so in love with him. I have never had to many friends because I like to stay clear of drama but my best friend is dating my brother so I don't enjoy hanging out with them...and when my boyfriend hangs out with his friends I have nothing to do...ever..unless I'm working. And I don't really like many of his friends ..they're obnoxious immature and rude. What can I do to be less obsessed with him and maybe make a friend. I feel pathetic but my life completely revolves around him..he didn't make it that way ..I did...and I don't know how to adjust it. Thank you!!
Hi there, I know the situation all to well. My best friend dated my brother for years and unfortunately it ended up bringing us further apart and eventually we became distant friends... I haven't had many friends either because people are definitely full of drama which I cannot handle. What you need to do is find something to do when you find yourself bored. Everyone gets bored at some point, but what you have to realize is that you can either: keep complaining and be bored OR do something about it. When I'm not being a workaholic I: draw, listen to music, call a friend to go for a walk, bake something, practice my violin, make plans for next week, watch a movie, find a new outfit, text someone I know can make me smile and just think about the positive things in my life.
To be less obsessed with your guy, you have to learn to make time for yourself. Commit yourself to something for you, just you, every week. Such as painting your nails awesome, making a work out routine for yourself or spending time with a friend/family. As long as your keeping busy you won't find yourself being 'obsessed' and rather 'relaxed' instead. Try dancing in your room with headphones on, taking photos of nature/yourself or even creating a new recipe if that's what makes you happy. Discover what you love and put your time towards that, because the more you enjoy doing the things you love, the more your boyfriend will find you inspiring and dedicated which will make him love you even more than he already does. You can do it girl, start finding yourself today! (:
me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months but we've been friends for 2 years. we live in 2 different cities and i only get to seem him once a week. Were both highschool students, and we depend on your parents for rides. when we do hangout we go to the movies or i go to his house. I'm scared that he's going to get tired of us not being together and he'll leave me for someone that he'll be able to see everyday and i feel like he see's me as a friend or something, because sometimes he'll cancel or reschedule to hangout with his bestfriend. He's also made it clear to me that he isn't very affectionate and he doesn't like being loveydovey but it makes me really insecure. i'm not asking him to tell me he loves me.. but to show that he's still interested everyonce in a while. When i do bring that issue up he'll change for that moment and be sweet but then it'll go back to normal back to a simple conversation, ughh he's a simple texter which i hate! he mostly only uses one words.. like "cool" "nice" or "yup", im always the one trying to keep the conversation interesting. i feel like he doesn't care what im talking about. he doesn't even call ..we only text. im always the one asking him to come over and hangout or if im by his house to meet up but sometimes he'll make up an excuse that he can't go out or he doesn't have a ride, it gets me fustrated because i try so hard, i always go over there but he acts like its whatevers.. i even get i arguement with my parents because they tell me to stop looking for him and begging him and that if he really cared he would come over instead of me going over there.. i always ask him if he likes me or if hes bored of our relationship but he says everything is fine, sometimes he'll even get upset when i ask! i want to be honest with him and tell him but i don't want him to think im being dramatic or controlling..
dont get me wrong when we do hangout its an amazing time and i have alot of fun but idk what's going on.. it's more interesting in person than in text. i know he's not cheating, there is some-what trust but i just don't know..
is he tired of not being able to see me? is he tired of this long distance? should i move on?
his last girlfriend cheated on him.. or is he scared of commiting?
i've read all these articales about how to keep him interested and they say to ignore him and make him chase after me but this situation i think if i gave him the cold shoulder he would leave me,
I know ExactlY what you are going through hun! I know because I am going through the same thing right now with my guy... cancelling to hang out with his friends shouldn't always be a sign he doesn't want to hang with you, it could just be that he wants some time by himself/with friends for one day. My guy does this on occasion and as his gf, I have to respect that he needs 'guy days' just as you need 'girl days'. My guy isnt that lovey either and it makes me insecure too.. so ehat you have to do is: let him know. He probably just isnt the 'lovey' type and therefore you have to consider that he may not be the right guy for you :/ We only text too. I think you should not message him for a few days, an if he messages you - congrats you've gained his attention again. Otherwise the obvious solution is to talk to him. Let him know you'd like him to put in a better effort. If he says everything is fine when you confront him, perhaps you have to ask him more serious questions such as: 'do you see us being together long term'? 'What do you enjoy about me'? And 'how do you think we could improve our relationship'? Questions like these will help you solve some of your issues. The keys to successful relationships are: honesty, trust, and communication. If one is lacking, you have to help eachother pick it up. The questions you ask at the end can only be answered by the person in the relationship - you. Give it a few days, if he doesn't message you, message him nicely asking whats been keeping him busy. Then figure out what area your relationship is lacking in and talk to eachother about how you are both going to make it work. How do you know he would leave you? Maybe he just doesn't want to be the one to bring up something that could destroy the relationship. The thing is, talking about your relationship is the only way problems will be resolved. So be brave, hold his hand and let him know how you feel. You will feel better and you both will be on your way to a more positive point in your lives. Stay strong.
ok so i'm a guy and theres this girl i really like. let's say her name is Ash. i've had 2 girlfriends before but both of the relationships ended because i always ended up liking Ash again. I reallly like her and i don't know what to do. she is very pretty and sort of shows different feelings towards me every day. some days (rarely) she will be super nice to me and sometimes even flirty (:O) but most of the times when i try to talk to her she just shuts me down. the problem is that i cant get her out of my mind and she is literally (legit no joke) on my mind 24/7... and i imagine us going out but the funny thing is that my imagination of when we go out isn't even good. i just dont see the point in relationships because all my past girlfriends we didnt really kiss or even date (yeah ik im a middle schooler it's pretty pointless) so i don't even know what i want. i've never kissed a girl and i skipped a grade and so did she so we're the same age :) so i need help i sometimes even cry over her :( and the fact that i'm sitting here typing a 1500 character plead for help shows how much i like her. also when she talks and like does stuff with other guys i get really jealous and it just breaks my heart
Hey there,
Very sorry for the delayed reply! To answer your question: talk to her! If she's single, you've got to go for it dude! Start small by complimenting something about her every time you see her - shoes, clothes, her smile, how she laughs, her make up, anything! (: Why does she shut you down? Figure out why then try to see if she will grab a drink or food with you sometime in a public place. Offering to go out in public is less awkward for a girl if you're interested in dating her (she doesn't need to know this yet!). Why do you imagine going out with her to be not good? If you imagine it to be bad, then maybe you need to work on some things? Such as, how you present yourself or how you will talk to her.
Just so you know, your past relationships will not determine your future relationships - as long as you know what you need to do to have a successful relationship. The reason why we go through breakups is not so we can mope, but so we can learn from them and know how to be a better person the next time around. Also, it doesn't matter if you haven't kissed a girl. Why? Because your time will come, with the right girl and you will be the happiest guy, trust me (; You both are obviously smart. So find out what you have in common and go with it. Ask her to go for a walk in her favorite place, offer to buy her a drink and/or leave her a short cute note somewhere where she'll find it. As for the jealousy, try not to be. She is single and therefore can talk to whomever she likes, just like you can. The key to getting to know a girl and possibly become her girlfriend is to Always Be Her Friend First. If you remember this, you shall find the right girl and be able to make her yours.
Hi, I'm 18 Female, and also English is not my first language. Well, this is something that really bothers my mind for weeks now, I have a long distance relationship for almost 3yrs now. I gave my life to him make him feels that I'm just right beside him, makes myself perfect even though I'm not and give all the love and support that I can give, let's say I have given my very best and all I can offer to him, I love him so much, he's the reason why I have to live in this world but these weeks I can feel that something is wrong, something not right, we haven't met, no never only calls and social networks but I do love him so much so I now I can feel that he is lying and whenever I have to interrogate him or confront him about what I feel he's really good in answering and also I love him so I have to trust but I can't keep off of my mind that he's still lying he told me he's enrolled in a school I googled that school and found out that the course that he told me was not in that school, second he told me that he's in the varsity of that school it's summer and almost everyday they have training for about 8am to 8pm which is not normal and awkward that's the things that made me doubt him every night he always shouted at me on phone always mock a fight with me and whenever he does that all I do is to cry and beg so that he won't do it again but he still doing it, I ask him if he lives me, if there is other girls than me, he's always answer is "you only, if I had some other girls here why should I have to call you? To text you?" and I just shut up but still, I can feel that something is not right and I don't know how to figure it out :( What should I do now? :( I'm so scared :(
I feel for you hun. I am in a very simular situation right now. Obviously your guy was lying about the school thing. It is possible that course was cancelled and so he took another course - but you'd have to ask him. Also, 8 - 8 training would be very draining so I agree that is not normal. Maybe he's shouting at you because he has this built up anger about how he feels you doubt him. If you bug a guy alot about whether he loves you or not, he will get defensive. An alot of guys would rather show you how much they love you than by telling you. Ever heard of the saying "actions speak louder than words?", well this expecially applies to males.
I think you need to talk to your boyfriend in a calm and cool situation where you both hear out what eachothers needs are and help eachother come to a simple resolution. I know it's not an easy task, but communication is the only way you'll know for sure. An if he is cheating - a guy will never openly admit it. Right now I am in a long distance relationship and I feel as if he's cheating too. What am I doing to solve this issue? I am talking to him and keeping an eye on him. No, I don't mean 'stalk the guy'. I mean, if you think your guy is cheating watch for warning signs such as: talking to one specific girl (that's not you) alot, becoming distant more emotionally or physically than before and watch for changes in his personality/mood. Of course some of these things can be caused by a bad day or by something that bugged him, but if nothing drastic has happened to him recently - he could be cheating. The main advice I can give is talk to him, watch if he's changed and if all else fails, trust your instincts. Girls are wired with that gut feeling and heavy heart for a reason' your instincts are usually right. I'm just praying that yours and mine are wrong... *hugs dear*. Feel free to inbox me if you'd like to talk more.
Soo i wore a white pants and i got my period stain on it. How do I GET IT OFF. fast. And its not that fresh. What the best thing that would help. Please hurry and thanks
The only thing you can do is rinse the spot out with cold (not warm or hot) water several times to clean it as good as you can, then: wash your pants with Tide in the laundry (even if you have to do it twice) Or use a bit of bleach Orr use peroxide on the spot. Hope this helps!
I can not get enough of eating a guys ass out,i can spend hours tonguing,sucking,& licking his hole. I am a male guy who likes to eat ass why do men enjoy eating ass?
It is all personal preference. Some guys like certain things and others don't. Perhaps genetics have a play here... just as: why do some people like potato salad and some don't? They just do.
i went to a party and hooked up (made out) with a guy i was very drunk and he was sober. he was even helping me to walk and shit. i was aquintances with the ex but never like good friends. i did want to hook up with him. so i asked him if he and the girl were still together and he said no we broke up. so we hooked up and i dont feel bad about it at all. hes a senior and im a freshman. so his ex texted me the next morning saying back off hes mine and i just said i dont want him you can have him but before that i said sorry because we did used to talk. but they arent even together now or when we hooked up. if anyone she should be yelling at it should be him like did i do anything wrong? everyone keeps telling me i didnt because he was sober and still wanted to hook up. advice? thankss
You are right in that she shouldn't have been mad and the other advisor is right that you should just ignore the ex. His ex was obviously jealous and that's why she said those things, so what happened between you and him is none of her concern if they were actually broken up. Also it doesn't matter if he was sober and you weren't because you said you just made out and it was under both of your consent.
Moral of this is: chalk it up to jealousy and move on. An if you actually like this guy, feel free to be his friend/date etc, because he is single.
Okay,I'm 13 and my boyfriend will be 16 on July 27 2013. No I'm not going to say "should I have sex with him?" Because we swore off sex at least until I'm 17. What I'm asking is if it's normal. I always get made fun of because of the age difference. I know it's only 3 years but in middle school you usually date someone in the same grade as you. Pleas help me. I don't want to break up with him if its not normal i just was wondering if anyone else is in a relationship like this.
I think your friends make fun of you because 1. They're jealous and 2. It's different for them to see someone younger dating someone older. But do not let this stop you from dating someone you care deeply about. In society today there are billions of people dating other people older annd younger than them, it's just the way love works. So if you love a guy 3, 4 or even 5 years older than you - go for it. As long as you both respect eachother, love one another and are happy together, it's all good. Kudos to you for waiting to have sex. It sounds like you are both good together (:
I need a hand. I want to end it already but there's a few things holding me back. I have two kids. I serve in the military and I feel like everything I've done is worthless. I have a wife that loves to fight. I'm a deadbeat father and a loser. I want to know the best way to end it without it having so many aftermath financial issues. I'm looking for an honest answer. Please all positive people no offense but I don't need convincing to keep living. I can't do it anymore. Everything I've done is pointless and I can't take care of my kids. I don't own a gun or pain killers. I need a direction and not the direction turning back. This is not a call for help. I have a made upend and my kids will be better off. By alot. Please just let me know.
I believe that no one here can help you and that you yourself must have the will to save yourself on your own. I know that is a tremendous thing to ask of you, but you should at least try. Why? Because I know what it feels like to be raised by a single parent.. and I know that the day after, 1 week later, 1, 2 and even 10-40 years down the road your kids are going to miss you. An when someone asks your kids about their father, wouldn't you rather have them say 'my dad was awesome and there for me when I needed' rather than 'my dad let himself go.. he wasn't thinking about how much it would hurt me' or 'I wish my Dad could have seen me now'?
The point is, by doing what you are thinking of, you are not helping anyone or thinking of anybody other than yourself. Not your kids, your grandkids to be and definitely not your friends. Sure, tell me I'm just wasting my time, for who am I to say kids should have their father.. for the real truth is: a father should have his kids. Think about that a moment... ... ... And if you would like to talk about this further, feel free to e-mail me at dezi689@hotmail.com.
*Thinking of you.
Okay so I'm 13 and a girl and a model. I've been sexually abused by my brother in law(its been reported) my family always calls me a bitch,slut whore,ugly,fat ect.. I've took a OD a few times it never worked obviously since I'm alive. I cut myself. So lately I've been hearing voices in my head telling me I'm a bitch,no one loves me,I must starve to be thin,I'm a whore, everythings my fault,I must kill myself,the only way to end the pain is through cutting and suicide. The voices are killing me!! My bestFriend knows about them and says I might be depressed. I can't tell my parents or any relitive or anyone at school pls keep that in mind. Pls just help me I really need help. My family can't find out though.
I agree with the other columnists. Talking to a counsellor would be your best help. The only other option that would be reasonable would be to tell your parents or You could call an anonymous teenager help line. If you look online you can find a toll free number and talk to someone anonymously.
Heres a kids help phone number: 1-306-668-6868. Completely anonymous if you need someone to talk with. Or teenlineonline.org is another one you csn check out. I hope this helps. Feel free to inbox me if you'd like.
My boyfriend is the best, and i truly believe he could be the one. We are both virgins, but i get the idea he thinks im not a virgin? He talks about sexual things a lot... and he really wants to have sex with me. He wants me to be on top? I dont even know how to be! can you give me advice on sex? Does it hurt your first time? How long do you think he will last sense he is a virgin? Do I have to give him head if we have sex? What kind of things can i say to him to turn him on? And what kind of things can i text him to turn him on? Should I have sex with him right away? Weve been dating for 7 months. The most we have done is make out. But he wants more. He says he is fine with my choices and he still loves me, but that makes me feel guilty for some reason?
Wow that's a lot of questions! Lol. To start: knowing how to do sexual things such as be on top (for you) and how to last longer (for him) all comes with experience. It all depends on the girl whether it hurts or not, for we are all different. My first time did not hurt at all. No, you do not have to give him head the first time you have sex, but later on in the relationship it will be nice for him. He may not last a long time the first time, because that comes with practice.. so give him a while and he'll learn how to. To turn him on, its easy just to touch his body (run your hands along his chest/legs) and to tell him what you enjoy about him (I like your __ , your ____ turns me on, its sexy when you ___ , Etc.). Texting him is the same, just describe what you and him like verbally. As for being on top, rock your hips back and forth and sometimes sitting up straighter and bouncing helps - you will soon find what works for you.
No one knows when you should have sex with him, the right time is when you're both ready and feel it's the right moment to do it. And please dont feel guilty, When you are ready, you are ready and I'm sure he respects that if he has dated you this long, he loves you. Talk to him if it will make you feel better. I'm sure he just wants you to be happy with him.
We were best friends in kindergarten and i loved him still but i moved far away and now i only have 2ways forget or wait and find him. What sould i do?
It really depends on how far you live from one another and if he loves you. If you live close to one another you could try and wait for him/become best friends again, otherwise you might as well forget. Long distance relationships are hard, expecially to start if he doesn't feel the same way. Just remember that there are a ton of guys out there for you, so be absolutely sure about your feelings for someone - know if its love or lust. Trust your gut and follow your heart, that is one way you'll know for sure.
There is this guy, we are friends since we started university. He is 23, Im 21. He tried once, when we were freshmen, but he was drunk than and we went to the cinema few times. We get on really well, nothing has even happened between us, but I feel like he uses me. When we are at school and all, or need to study for exams he is always around, we help each other and study together, I literally do everything for him, I saved him from failing so many times. But when it comes to going out, he is only willing to go with his 3 guy friends, he doesnt really care about his friends from uni outside the uni. When he needs help in homework, or studying or anything about school he comes to me, but when there is no school he doesnt even talk to me much..except some on facebook. I know he likes to party and I guess he doesn't want a girlfriend, but than why does he do this to me? I know he likes being with me, I do too, I care about him a lot, but he doesnt really care, which kinda hurts, according to the fact that I do everything he asks. Should I stop doing things for him and helping him? Does he care about me at all? Even if it is just a friendship, I dont really get back anything. I have only been hurt so far, and if he doesn't want anything from me, I stop being so giving, because he takes out a lot of me. I hope this all is not too confusing and hope you can give me some advice, because it hurts. Thank you a lot! K
Hey there,
I believe this guy is using you. Sad, but true. Whenever you do things for someone and they do nothing for you in return, you are unfortunately wasting your time. It is obvious that he uses your good friendship to his advantage so you should definitely stop. By stopping what you're doing for him and explaining to him how you are feeling about this situation, he will begin to realize that he should step up if he wants to continue being friends. He simply does this to you because he knows he can get away with it - because you let him. It's not completely your fault, I know because I'm also the same way. Its human nature for someone like him (helpless), to come to us (the helpers) to fix their problems. So the lesson you will take home from today is that: you cannot let people push you around, even if they are your 'friends'. If you go with your instincts that something is not right then follow though by holding your head up, declaring respect and not giving in - you will not feel this way ever again.
Think about it. If someone is not treating you how you would like to, do you let them walk all over you? No, you stand up, brush the dirt off and move on with your life. Otherwise, you will forever be stuck in a never-ending circle of disappointment. Talk to him, tell him that you don't want to do things gor him with nothing in return and you'll find yourself much happier. You'll see.
I ate a week old cheesecake. It tasted good and looked alright, so yeah. Will I be safe? It was sealed REALLY good.
You should be fine. As long as it didn't smell rotten and was sealed, it most likely was fine to eat.. but if you do for any reason feel nauseous - that could be why. I doubt it though! Leave a message in my inbox if you have any other doubts :p
i like this guy but how do i make him unsocially awkward.. because he is. i mean i think hes cute & stuff & is really nice.
I once dated a guy that was socially awkward.. and I have to say, the only way to fix this is to put him in social situations and then help him by explaining what is socially and non-socially awkward to you. Since he is normally like this, he probably doesn't realize what he is doing is making things awkward (or maybe he does?), so you will have to give him a few chances either way... Start by taking him out with you alone and getting used to what kind of person he is in public. Then when you realize what makes him go into his 'awkward' phase, try to help comfort him by letting him know its okay to be 'goofy', 'talk to strangers (clerk or somebody random) or to just be himself. Once you help him with that, then invite him to hang out with you and your friends (if possible). If you're not comfortable with that yet wait a while longer, but if you are - see if he will and then get your friends to help him in social situations as well. Eventually he will be comfortable in all environments.. but first help him individually. Then work your way up with your friends and then finally as a group (with his friends included this time).
A socially awkward guy won't be willing to change his ways right away, but if he thinks you're cute too.. he will be willing to give it a shot. Just have him being comfortable in his own skin is a start to this solution. I believe if you encourage him (tell him he's cute and that he can do this), he will soon feel unawkward around you and (most) everyone else. Give it a shot and feel free to inbox me if you'd like to talk more
What is a synonym? and where i can find it?
A synonym is a word that has a simular meaning to a different word that you are able to replace it with in a sentence. For example: pop is the same as using the word soda, beautiful and adorable are close in meaning and so is: happy/cheerful or dog/fido. Once you get the hang of it, you can come up with our own synonyms such as: silly/goofy. You can find synonyms by looking them up on thesaurus.com or by buying a thesaurus at any place that sells dictionaries. Hope this helped! (:
sorry this might be a little long!
Ok so ive got a horse that will NOT take a bit, and i need suggestions on how i can make him take it without inflicting any pain, stress, etc. on him.
here's a little info bout him and my attempts:
he is an 8 year old sorrel paso fino quarter horse mix (he is a gelding)
i ride western and i use a egg butt bit, and i have a one ear piece headstall.
he has always had a kinda short temper.
he has never had a bit that put pain on his mouth.
he is used to me riding him at times. i don't ride him as often as i like because he has bucked me off, and school and stuff like that :\
I don't always lunge him before i ride him. i have also go so frustrated i just put the reins on his halter and rode him around.
we normally have to tie him close to a tree or post and i have to grab his nose and put my hand under his chin and squeeze his mouth on the spot where there are no teeth,which makes him open his mouth. (it takes me AND my dad to do it and it takes AT LEAST 15 minutes to get it in his mouth) and IF & WHEN we get it in his mouth he is always very nervous afterwards. sometimes i get so frustrated i pop him, which doesn't always help. (i don't hit him hard i just give him a little pop to get his attention)
when we attempt to put the bit in, he always moves around, jerks his head up and down & side to side. he tries to rear sometimes, he paws the ground, and tries to paw us. we got his teeth filed down a couple of months to take away the excuse.
we have tried putting molasses on the bit like the vet suggested, but he STILL wont take it, and its very messy afterwards.
just on the side, i cant change head stalls or bits, plus when he is in the mood he will try me, and act up, and like i said before he has always had a kinda short temper.
like on a scale of 1 to 10, 1 being the shortest temperment, and 10 being the longest temperment, my horse would probably be a 4.
i hope this was enough information, and any answer will be appreciated!!! thanks!!! :)
I believe the problem is that you are frustrated with your horse not taking the bit and by being frustrated.. he recognizes this which makes him feel the same way. Forcing a horse to do something you want will never make him agreeable, it'll just piss him off more. You have to do it at His Pace. If he jerks his head he is either 1. Frustrated or 2. Having Pain in his mouth. You said you got his teeth filed down and tried molasses so I feel the problem is not that - you're just trying too fast with him. Take your time and make him feel comfortable before even trying to 'shove' a bit in his mouth. Any horse can take a bit agreeably, you just have to know how to do it properly.
I looked online and found this site so you can read about this in detail if you like: http://marvwalker.com/bridling.htm Check it out and hopefully you can figure out the solution. Good luck (:
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So I have been dating this guy for nearly a year. It has always been the way it is. I have just always tried harder. Our first date I offered to pay because he was out of work at the time. Over the summer I worked a lot more at my job and was getting bigger checks. He would take me out to a movie once a month maybe twice after he started working. But I would loan him money like 50-100 because he would go without food for a day or two sometimes and needed money to hold him over. Well he is on his feet now and I am proud that we stuck through that together. He has a place and his own car and has gotten 2 promotions at work. I always feel a bit taken advantage of though. I usually make him dinner since when he gets home he is exhausted. I watch his little boy when he has to run out. I don't mind it because I love him. I took him out to a really expensive dinner to this fancy sea food place and spent quite a bit of money. If I want to go out I end up having to be the one to suggest it and pay for it or it won't happen. The last time he paid for a date was back in September. I just feel like put in more effort. Lately He has been low on cash and I have been buying him lunch. He won't talk to me all day until he wants food. I give him the cash and then he stops talking to me again. I try so hard to keep it interesting and happy but he never does anything back for me. He didn't do anything for Christmas for me and keeps telling me he will take me out and doesn't. But he always buys himself toys and video games and goes out to the bar. How can I bring it up to him that I feel like he doesn't try? How can I make him want to? I really need help I feel like giving up but we have been through a lot I love his son and family so much and I genuinely love him as well. Advice or anything is appreciated.
By the sounds of it, you are being taken advantage of a bit. If you keep helping him out by giving him money, watching his Son, taking him out.. doing things for him with nothing in return, he'll never learn. You need to let him know you feel taken advantage of Now. Not by saying he sucks or never does anything, but by mentioning that you like it when a guy helps out, offers to pay, or does sweet things for you. Frankly, I feel he has the money and time to treat you like his girlfriend, he just chooses to spend it on his amusement - video games and alcohol instead. There is a point when you need to tell a guy that the connection is lacking and he needs to help pick it up, not only for you, but for his sake as well.
You can make him want to try by encouraging him. Whenever he does do something for you (even if it's little, like kissing you or doing dishes) thank him. When he buys himself toys, mention that you were hoping you could buy something together for the both of you next time and when he drinks, let him know that you love it when he stays home and spends time with you instead. By suggesting these things to him, you let him know you care and want him to care more by doing things that will benefit the both of you.
One thing I thought of that may help you guys, is having a savings jar. Everytime either of you get paid, both be required to put $20 or so in the jar at the same time and not touch it until it reaches a certain amount. Keep track on a paper how much each of you has put in, that way one person doesn't pay more than the other and you know how much money is being put in. Then, when it reaches the agreed amount, decide on something you both can do to make your lifes happier or easier together; Such as, buying food for everyone or having a movie night with popcorn/treats for the two of you. Moral of the story is, if he loves you as much as you love him he should be willing to try anything. If he does not oblige at first, just keep encouraging him. He will do the same once he realizes what it feels like to have praise himself. Honestly I believe a relationship has to work both ways - it cannot be a one way street. Not to mention, he is older than you so he should have a little more responsibility... Wake him up by letting him know how you feel and things should start to turn around. Trust me
I need a cute username for instagram [ig] and it has to be somethinb easy to type and cute. Like the instagramers with 50k have. For example: @woahitsavvanah or @painlessaddiction. I need something with my name [sabrina] and it has to be short and sweet. I have 600 followers so on photos I start to write my user [@teenage_crimes_] on my photos for copyright and it's just too long.
The main one I can think of is: @Suave_Sabrina meaning sophisticated charm. Or @Swavy_Sabrina meaning awesome or cool.
No? Try: @itMay_BeSabrina, @Sabrinas_Styling, @Tailoredby_Sabrina or @Uniquely_Sabrina.
I tried my best, lol. Hopefully you find a good one :)