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I want to make my boyfriend happy? He thinks im not a virgin? I feel bad:(
My boyfriend is the best, and i truly believe he could be the one. We are both virgins, but i get the idea he thinks im not a virgin? He talks about sexual things a lot... and he really wants to have sex with me. He wants me to be on top? I dont even know how to be! can you give me advice on sex? Does it hurt your first time? How long do you think he will last sense he is a virgin? Do I have to give him head if we have sex? What kind of things can i say to him to turn him on? And what kind of things can i text him to turn him on? Should I have sex with him right away? Weve been dating for 7 months. The most we have done is make out. But he wants more. He says he is fine with my choices and he still loves me, but that makes me feel guilty for some reason?
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Wow that's a lot of questions! Lol. To start: knowing how to do sexual things such as be on top (for you) and how to last longer (for him) all comes with experience. It all depends on the girl whether it hurts or not, for we are all different. My first time did not hurt at all. No, you do not have to give him head the first time you have sex, but later on in the relationship it will be nice for him. He may not last a long time the first time, because that comes with practice.. so give him a while and he'll learn how to. To turn him on, its easy just to touch his body (run your hands along his chest/legs) and to tell him what you enjoy about him (I like your __ , your ____ turns me on, its sexy when you ___ , Etc.). Texting him is the same, just describe what you and him like verbally. As for being on top, rock your hips back and forth and sometimes sitting up straighter and bouncing helps - you will soon find what works for you.
No one knows when you should have sex with him, the right time is when you're both ready and feel it's the right moment to do it. And please dont feel guilty, When you are ready, you are ready and I'm sure he respects that if he has dated you this long, he loves you. Talk to him if it will make you feel better. I'm sure he just wants you to be happy with him.
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NEVER ever do things out of guilt. Do them because you want to. It doesn't sound like you really want to for you. It doesn't sound like you're ready. You say that "he wants more". Well what about you? It doesn't seem like you're all that into it just yet. You're open to it for sure, but it doesn't seem like it's something that you want to do. If you did, you'd be acting like him. For your first time, you don't want to agree to try it because your boyfriend wants to and you're not against it. You want your first time to be really exciting. You want to be asking him just as much as he's asking you and you're not to that point yet. You may be curious, but you're not saying to yourself "Wow, sex! Can't wait!" Go through this webpage to see if you are ready: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location). If you don't like that one, there are tons of other ones all over the internet. Just search "Am I ready for sex?" It's honestly not a good idea for you right now. Your boyfriend probably isn't as ready as he pretends to be either, is he? He's not even close to being mature enough for it, am I right? Just wait. It'll be way better if you do. Your guy says that he loves you and he's fine with your choices. That's great! If he is, there's no problem here. Is he really, though? If he's going to keep asking you about it and making you feel guilty, he is probably just saying that. You need to tell him that you'll let him know when you're ready and that he has to quit talking about it because it's making you feel confused and guilty. You have your whole life ahead of you for sex; you don't need it now. Be careful. He may be making you feel guilty on purpose so that you'll do it. You may not think that he would, but many, many guys your age will do just about anything for sex and will NOT care if they take advantage of you because they won't even bother to think about it. You may think that he'd never intentionally hurt you and that could be true, he's probably not thinking about what he's doing. Whether he is or not, tell him to stop and don't let him pressure you. Good luck. :)
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