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I'm 13 and my boyfriend is going on 16
Okay,I'm 13 and my boyfriend will be 16 on July 27 2013. No I'm not going to say "should I have sex with him?" Because we swore off sex at least until I'm 17. What I'm asking is if it's normal. I always get made fun of because of the age difference. I know it's only 3 years but in middle school you usually date someone in the same grade as you. Pleas help me. I don't want to break up with him if its not normal i just was wondering if anyone else is in a relationship like this.
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I think your friends make fun of you because 1. They're jealous and 2. It's different for them to see someone younger dating someone older. But do not let this stop you from dating someone you care deeply about. In society today there are billions of people dating other people older annd younger than them, it's just the way love works. So if you love a guy 3, 4 or even 5 years older than you - go for it. As long as you both respect eachother, love one another and are happy together, it's all good. Kudos to you for waiting to have sex. It sounds like you are both good together (:
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The user below has given good advice, but you specified at the start that you dont plan to have sex with this guy yet-so lets not talk about that shall we?
It can be difficult with age gaps, but I know lots of people in year 7 (I'm from england-so about age 12) who date ppl in year 10 or 11 (aged 15/16)
I think its more widely accepted now than it used to be, because social media means its never been easier to interact with more people-so whereas previously in high school a 13 year old and a 16 year old wouldn't really have any reason to meet, facebook and things makes it more easier to talk, so I guess these kind of relationships have to be more widely accepted.
I think the older you get the easier this will be to deal with-its not like the guys an adult yet anyway.
So my answer to your question is whilst its not the norm its certaintly not uncommon or unheard of.
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Normal is one thing right and wrong is something else. What really matters her are two things.
First: Have your parents met this boy and do they know the age difference between the two of you. If they have and they do not have a problem then there is nothing wrong with you dating this boy at this time,
The problem comes in when and if you two are still dating in two years when he is 18 and you are 15. Then the law in your state could cause a big problem for him even with your parents consent for you to date him. The age of consent in most states has been raised to 18.
This means even at 15, it is under stood you are not going to have sex, still, you can not legally consent to having sex with him. If he is dating anyone under the age of consent he could be charged with statutory rape.
Which means sex does not have to take place just the fact he is with an under age girl means he can be charged with statutory rape and other offenses as he is an adult at that time. Some states do have an age forgiveness where in if the minor is within a certain age range of the adult; statutory rape is not chargeable. Many of the states have eliminated this provision with the elevation of the age of consent. This is the right and wrong part.
Second is the normal or not normal. Teenage life is a lot like an algebra problem in that there are different phases of teenage life that you are expected to experience. By skipping over these portions of teenage life and dating an older boy you are missing out on a very important part of teenage life that helps you mature into an adult. Just like in an algebra problem if you skip a step there is no way you should get the proper answer.
I cannot tell you if dating this boy is right or wrong, normal or abnormal. This is for you and your parents to decide. I have pointed out what you need to consider in making your decision; the rest is entirely up to you.
You have made a good choice to wait on having sex. To stay within the bounds of the law and to keep him from the possibility of having to go to jail and registering as a sex offender for the rest of his life. I would suggest you put of having sex with him for additional year until you are 18.
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