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My name is Amanda and I am a proud single parent of a beautiful 2 year old girl named *Brianna Marie*! I am also a child care teacher and a student. I am seeking an associates in massage therapy and skin care. I currently reside in Orlando Fl, but hope to soon go back home to HOTLANTA!! :D If there is anything else ya wanna know hey ... why not ask?! ;)ADVICE WARNING: You are at high risk of receiving advice containing extreme sarcasm .. among other things! HA! If ya don't like it run while you can .... you're about to reach the point of no return ... go ... before it's too late!! AHHHH!!
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Okay heres the deal...
Ive been dating this GREAT guy i mean he's perfect..But im not exactly the most loyal person..So over spring break i lost mah virginity 2 some one else..Yeah i kno its bad and n a way i regret it..But the otha guy well call him Will is soo hot, popular, cute, sweet, and hes jus a lil freak and we mesh good togetha. PLus i think (i know) i could really stop my game for Will which would be a HUGE achievement for me!! Now on 2 mah boifriend again well call him Jay. Jay is okay lookin, sweetheart, says he loves me 2 death, hes perfect ecspect..he cant make me laugh like Will and he thinks hes funni when hes not @ all..Me & Will jus have more n common PLUS he took my virginity!
Well i dont want 2 be with Jay anymore but im n fear of hurting him AND everyone says ill be making a huge mistake because hes so good 2 me.
But I would prefer 2 date Will jus for the simple fact we have more n common..
But i dont know what 2 do OR HOW 2 DO IT!!
-Caught Up-
Dear Caught Up (gotta love that song :D )
If you look back on your question you'll notice what I did....how much you talked about "will." It sounds to me like you are really into him and everything he has to offer. I can understand how you feel about the situation with "Jay" and how you don't want to hurt his feelings because he really is a great guy. But think of it this way ... you can't make yourself love someone. There isn't anything you can do to change him and mold him into a "will." It sounds to me like Jay is more into a serious relationship and I can tell that you aren't ready for that yet. You seem to be looking for someone that you can have fun and laugh with and be carefree .... a will perhaps! ;) You need to explain all of this to Jay and let him know that you just aren't on the same page and one day you may be ... but not at this point in your life. But please don't base your decision on the fact that will took your virginity. I realize that's very sacred, but it's not a reason to date one person over another. Trust me...I've been there ... done that, lol.
Oh yeah and about what everyone else is telling you. You need to listen to yourself and what YOU want and YOU need. Nobody else is a better judge of that than yourself. I've made the mistake of listening to friends when they told me to give this "nice guy" a chance even though I wasn't really into him and didn't find him attractive ... well he ended up being very abusive, mentally and physically. Please trust your own instincts and do what feels right!
I don't really know how to tell you to let Jay down gently. I can't really say since I don't know the guy. Just be as gently about it as you possibly can. Make sure you sit down with him one and one and be completely honest. Sugar coating anything isn't going to make it better for anyone!
Best of luck to you!
~ Amanda ;)
I'm not fat, i want to just loose about 2-3 in. off my thighs and about 2 in. off my stomach before i have to go out in a bikini. Does anywun no any good workouts or enything? **-- I RATE 5s --**
Ok well I know this amazing ab routine that I'll share with ya! :)
You can either do 100 reps (10 reps of each) or 200 reps (20 reps of each)
1. Crunches
2. Left side crunch (knees to right side)
3. Right side crunch (knees to left side)
4. Elbows 2 knees - hands on top of head, don't pull head, contact w/knees.
5. Superman crunch - Lock thumbs together, flex toes, lift upper body, straight legs ; alternative - reach w/one hand while holding other on neck for support.
6. leg lifts - hands flat under butt, press back 2 floor, try 2 keep head down if you can and watch your leg height..don't go too high.
7. In & Outs - keep head up high, legs straight in and out.
8. Hip Rock - hands behind neck, head up, elbows wide, knees bent and use a rocking motion while bringing your knees to your chest, lift up your butt for a bonus stretch.
9. Bicycles - just like riding a bike ;)
10. Full body crunch - elbows in tight, open and close bringing your head and hands to your knees.
I hope this makes enough sense. It may sound a little confusing but I did my best to make it short and sweet. If you have any questions feel free to ask me and I'll try to explain further! Hope it works well for ya.
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
i have blackheads and i dunno what to do!..i use clean and clear, phisoderm and they both dont work! so i tried clean and clear and that didnt help either!..does anybody know how to help me?!?!?!?
I use biore' facial masks and strips for blackheads and they work wonders!
But using a good exfoliating mask regularly (at least once or twice a week) will help prevent blackheads from forming.
But please don't go hog wild trying to squeeze them out. All that's going to do is add more bacteria and also leave marks that could lead to scaring.
You could also get a facial which is great as well. I know they can be pricy, but if you can find a skin care school near you they may offer discounts for them if you allow a student to do it. We do that at my college and it's only 30 bucks compared to 60 or higher!
Best of luck to you!
~ Amanda ;)
Is there any good brand of masacra that anyone knows about that makes your eyelashes seem longer and doesn't look clumpy and flake under your eyes? Im currently using Maybelline mascara and by the time half the day is down some of it flakes and lands under my eyes and makes me look like I'm dead...which is not good. Can anyone help me?
Personally I love max-factor mascara. I've tried maybelline, covergirl, and every-other in-store brand you can think of!
Hope it works for you as well
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
I have a big problem. I have never thought my nose was big until I entered middle school and kids starting asking me about it. To make matters worse, everytime I go outside it turns RED and I mean RED. Its so gross and I look disgusting. I've tried putting concealor on it to disguise the red ness but it only makes my nose appear bigger, which I dont want. Is there anything I can do to make it less red?
Well I'm assuming that your nose is turning red when you go outside because it's cold wherever you live. But if that's not the cause you should consult a doctor. However, I can assist you with makeup tips to hide it! :)
Try smoothing a little green foundation or concealer over the red area before applying your normal foundation and powder. Although it sounds strange, the green works by cancelling out the redness - leaving your skin looking a normal shade again! :)
Hope this helps ya!
Best of luck
~ Amanda ;)
I was reading through your profile and I noticed that you are a massage therapy and skin care student. I'm a freshman in highschool and I wanted to get into massage therapy because it's something that I enjoy doing and something I could see myself enjoying for a very long time. I was just wondering if you could possibly direct me somewhere that I could get more information about this subject so that I can learn more. I'm very interested in this. I hope you can help! Thanks so much.
I'm glad to hear that you are interested in massage therapy, it's a wonderful field!! :)
**(for some reason it's not showing my entire answer so you will have to click on the link)**
There are a few web-sites that will give you more information and help you locate massage therapy schools in your area.
~ naturalhealers.com
~ massageresource.com
I don't know where you live, but I go to Florida College of Natural Health which is partners with Stiener Education.
There is a new girl in my school. She was recently expelled from her Catholic school because she got an abortion. One of my friends was friends with her for a while since they lived near eachother and now she's coming to my school. I have my opinions about alot of things and abortion I have a very strong opinion about it and I'll argue my point until my face is blue. I'm 1000% against unless you were raped or you are having difficulties with your pregnancy and it could cost you your own life. Just by knowing this, I already do not like her because of that reason and that reason only. My friends all know that if they were to get pregnant and get an abortion, I would probably never speak to them again. I am not a virgin, but I do know that if I was ever to get pregnant, I would never get an abortion reguardless of my situation. I just think it's wrong. But please, do not bash me because of my beliefs just answer me this, could you at the very least understand why I wouldn't want to be friends with her? Is it wrong for me to feel this way?
Before I answer your question I just want to make a comment regarding an answer you've already received!
MrsRadcliffe:
Haven't you ever heard of a condom breaking? Or perhaps of that 1% with birth control?? Don't say that if a girl is "stupid enough to have sex without using protection then she should pay for it!" For your information I am one of those "stupid girls" that you are refering to and people like you make me sick. Didn't your mother ever use the saying don't judge a book by it's cover with you?? I used a condom, it broke and I used birth control as well and it failed. And although I took the responsibility of my child not every woman does and that's their personal choice. Regardless of what you think. I don't like smoking....so should smoking be illegal?? If my friend smokes should I hate her too?? AAAHHH....Ok...I have to stop now because I'm getting too angry and disgusted!!
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Anyway...
I think you pretty much get were I'm trying to go with this. It is wrong for you to judge this girl without knowing anything about her but the fact that she has had an abortion. Nobody's saying you have to be friends with her, but you have no right to hate her. Tell her how you feel about it if you like...but don't bash her for it...just like you don't want anyone bashing you for the way you feel! Get it? I hope so! :)
You have every right to how you feel, but other people shouldn't have to suffer because of it. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs. Who are you to judge them?? I have friends that have had abortions and although I didn't agree with the choice they made they are still my FRIENDS and that's all that matters!! Friends are suppose to be forever. Not until they have abortions!
I'm not trying to make a personal attack on you for your opinion. Please don't take it that way...I just want you to understand it from another point of view and perhaps you'll understand how other people feel.
There are a million other things I could say as examples of pre-judging and so forth, but I think I've said too much already. Hopefully you understand what I'm trying to say and don't take it the wrong way....I was just trying to give you my honest opinion which is what you asked for!! :)
Best of luck to you!
~ Amanda ;)
two year old is left with babysitter cries when mother leaves and continues to cry during the day, wont drink or eat, always quiet and to herself.
I'm also confused as to what your question is. But assuming that you want to know why this is happening and what to do about it.
Well I myself have a 2 1/2 year old. This is very common at this age for them to have what's called separation anxiety. My daughter, however is only like this with people she doesn't like for whatever reason because she is otherwise a very friendly baby. If this ever happens with her I wonder if she isn't feeling well and just wants mommy. Or if perhaps I should be concerned about the person I'm leaving her with. Every child is different. My sisters little boy who is the same age as my daughter goes through this, but it doesn't matter who he is with....all he wants is mommy.
I suggest bringing this up to the childs pediatrician to further discuss. Also I would check out the baby sitter ... perhaps a nanny cam??
Like I said...I don't know exactly what you were wanting to know or much of any other information to give more of a direct answer. But I hope this helps you.
Oh ... and you can also check out child parenting/behavioral web sites for information if you'd like. They will give you a wealth of information. I myself have found some of them to be very helpful.
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
my b/f is such a jerk he only cares about himself. He calls me names and screams at me. He used to push me around. I can never be mad im always the wrong one. He allways says the meanest things. I go through so much at home and he dont care he still calls me names and says he hates me.
Why are you even asking this question???? Did you even read what you wrote??? What the hell do you need our advice for dear?? Dump his sorry @ss and do it good!! I've been there before and NOBODY deserves to be treated like that!! Oh and if for some reason you are sleeping with this lovely piece of man ... please stop ... I don't even have to explain why! Or at least I hope not!
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
how dose it feel to have sex i never had it but i want to try it?
Uh huh ... well ...
First of all this isn't a "try it before you buy it" situation. From the way it sounds you aren't ready to have sex. I'm not trying to make a personal attack on you or anything so try not to take it that way. But having sex is a BIG deal .. not something you do for recreation. Well, I shouldn't say that ... some people do, but most of them get paid for it too...haha!!
I could've just said that sex is the best thing you'll ever experience and you should try it sometime. But I could've been wrong in your case anyway. Everyone's sexual experience is different ... there are no two alike. There are a lot of factors that come with "great sex." I'll tell you from experience that it's something that's very hard to find!! HA!!
It doesn't matter what anyone says ... it's going to feel different for you and your going to be wondering what the hell we were all talking about. lol Your on your own with this one dear.
If you do decide to give it a good try please be safe in doing so. I know I sound like a broken record but COME ON!! Condoms, birth control...ya know...all of that good stuff!! If you're going to do it at least do it right!!
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
hi well i just broke up with my ex about 2 going on 3 months and he quit school the day after we broke up well his bestfriend and him is saying that i am bisexual and i need to leave his sister alone b/c i dont need her or something like that. well my boyfriend now got told about it and now he dont know who to believe i never wrote a note about saying stuff like that what shhould i do i think he is trying to ruin my life at school he is physco and nuts well get back with thanks
Well.....
I would love to answer your question. But to be able to do that I need some more information. How old are all of you? How is this info being spread around school if he is no longer a student? Does everyone know about the breakup and exactly how it went about? I'm going with you on the fact that you didn't write the note, but do they claim to have proof of this?? If so, why hasn't he shown everyone since it's sooo true??
And about your so called boyfriend.....
That's really nice how he could believe everyone else about what's going on with this situation instead of trusting you! That's a bunch of b.s!! He should be there for you no matter what if he really cares about you! I say dump his @ss too!!
Even if you don't answer my questions and my answer doesn't help you I hope it all works out for you!
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
Updated after receiving response on my column:
Nikki,
Since you said that you don't really know why this is getting to you it sounds to me like you just need some peace of mind. There are many different ways you can get that. But if I were you considering this situation I would confront the ex myself. Tell him that you are tired of the b.s. and he just needs to find another way to boost what self-esteem he has left. I'm sure he wouldn't like it if you made a fool out of him in front of everyone, but hey...if he does...why not?! Maybe that's what he needs to shut his mouth ... a taste of his own medicine. Give it to him good girl!! He needs to take it and like it!! :)
Again, best of luck to you!
~ Amanda ;)
I would like a knew screen name,iv'e been trying to think of one but i dont no what to make it.this may sound dumb but can some one help me make a new screen name up?|?
i love soccer/v-ball
i like sports
im taken by ryan (he is short im tall)
im 15
im in love..
i rate high
soccittaryan ~ couldn't resist, lol (get it?!) soccit (soccer, socket) ta - ryan :) haha...I thought it was kinda funny at the time anyway! :)
fromryanto________ < your name goes here!
2tall4yalvr
ryantakemeaway
soccerdaball *add 15 if ya like
lovadasports15
vballfoshizzle
ryanmynizzle
lovatasoccittaryan ... lol...ok, I'm taking too far perhaps?! HAHA
I dunno....sorry....I tried :P But I got a few laughs and hopefully you did as well...haha! :)
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
ok,i have a friend,call her terry.well,this may be confusing,but anyways... My friend terry,a girl,is friends with a boy.We'll call him bob.Bob likes me,and terry is telling me to go out with him.Shes saying how hot he is,but i've never seen him.[[only in a picture,and hes seen me only in a picture]]. Well,im not the pretty girl type,im fine with that, but...danm this dude must be desprate!! His whole pro on aim is all about me...were not even together.Hes 16 and im 13 1/2.I dont know what to do in this situation.Can anyone please help me?
**rate to 5's...sorry this was so long**
Well considering that you've never met him it is kinda odd that he has dedicated his aim profile to you. But it seems to be harmless by the way you talk about it.
You shouldn't down yourself like that though, he obviously must find you very attractive. :) So why not go out on a double-date with him and your friend (maybe you can set her up.) It won't hurt to see how you feel about him after meeting him in person. As long as he isn't a stalker I'm sure it will work out for you...lol :)
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
Was wondering, does anyone happen to know what you can do/use to get rid of stretch marks? LAst summer I lost a lot of weight really fast because of allergies (every time I ate I'd just vomit, waaay too much mucus in my gut for the stomach to deal with plus food) and now I have stretch marks on my sides. They're kind of unsightly, so I just wanted to know what I could possibly do to get rid of them/decrease visibility.
Well sorry to say, but there is nothing you can do to get rid of stretch marks ... except wait for them to start to fade. However, keeping your skin well moisturized can help guard against them. Apply body lotion (like what everyone said about cocoa butter and so forth) after a bath or shower, and give it plenty of time to sink in before dressing. Also, an application of fake tan can be a good disguise for stretch marks that might be on view.
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
hi im 15 and my boyfriends 16. although many adults say that us teens dont know what love is teens know when their in love. i just want peoples opinions (teens and adults) on if teens know what love is and also me and my boyfriend are really in love and its NOT lust. we know it. anyways we decided we were going to have sex (no my boyfriends not like that hes never pushed me into sex ever) but were not having sex for the fun of it we really do love eachother. please give us ur thoughts and please dont be mean thanx!~Kelley
Who am I to say whether or not you are in love?! I don't know you or your boyfriend. You could be head-over-heels. Or perhaps it may feel like love, but really it's just lust. I can't say, nor can anyone else. You are the only person who knows whether or not you are in love!
It works the same way when you are deciding when to have sex. It doesn't matter what anyone tells you, ultimately it's your decision. Even if you are young, we all know that it doesn't matter what anyone tells us we are going to do it when we want to anyway. Please just make sure that you are protecting yourself and the one you care about!
Best of luck!
~ Amanda ;)
ok,when i wake up/when i change my under wear,there is yellow-white stuff in it. is that discharge? and if so how long dose it last/is it a sign of getting my period?
I would recomend ignoring everything that you've read on here and checking it out for yourself. Go to WEBMD.com and you can find a wide array of helpful information concerning your problem. If anything talk to your mom about it and go to a gyno, that would probably be best!!
Best of luck
~ Amanda ;)
Hey, Im 15/f and I have been having some problems with my breasts> (Yeah, I'm sorry...it's sorta ugh). Anyways, recently my breasts have started to hurt. It's not major pain or anything or severe. They've just been feeling like their stretching or something.... Also if it helps, I'm not exactly well- endowed right now....Thank you so much! ~West
Well I'm wondering if you have gotten your period yet. Because about a week to a few days before you get it your breats can tend to get very tender. It's very common so don't think that you are a weirdo because of it or anything.
It is also affected by stress and this is going to sound weird, but premenstrual breast tenderness can also be caused by high salt intake. So if this applies to you, you should look at limiting your salt intake. :)
And one more thing....do you exercise regularly? If you do make sure that you wear a sports bra for the proper support otherwise that can cause breast tenderness as well!
Best of luck to ya, hope this helps! :)
~ Amanda ;)
i have lots of make up,but i dont no what kind of make up to use for me,and what i should focus on.I have brown hair,brown eyes,and fair skin. My eyes are a little big. Can anyone help?
Ok...well it all really depends on what kind of look you are going for...daytime, evening, casual...there are many different methods!
:) I myself looove giving makeup advice and I think I'm pretty good at it. :) So if you'd like let me know exactly what you're going for and I'd be more than happy to help out!
Best of luck
~ Amanda ;)
Ok, well I have REALLY dark circles under my eyes! I don't how to get rid of them , and i get almost 9 hours of sleep! Ive tried falling asleep earlier, but it wouldn't work even if i could actually fall asleep earlier. I hate them and they look so ugly! Any ideas of how i can get rid of these ugly things, or at least cover them up?
Ok...this is going to be long, but hopefully it will help you!! :D
First you need to choose an eye treatment. Face creams and oils are too heavy for the eye area. They can block tear ducts, causing puffiness, so you should choose a specific eye treatment that won't aggravate your skin. There are hundreds of products to choose from. Gel-based ones are great for young or oily skins, and are refreshing to use. However, most women find light creams and balms more suitable.
Use a tiny amount of the eye treatment, as you don't want to overload this area. It's better to apply it regularly in small quantities than apply lots only occasionally. Apply with your ring finger, as this is the weakest one on your hand and won't stretch the delicate skin. This will help keep your skin more supple, and prevent premature wrinkling in this area.
These ideas can also help:
~ Gently tap your skin with your ring finger when you're applying the eye cream to encourage the excess fluid to drain away.
~ Store creams in the refridgerator, as the coldness will also help reduce puffiness.
~ Place strips of grated potato under your eyes to help reduce swelling. Strawberries and cucumber will also help reduce swelling.
~ Fill a small bowl with iced water or ice-cold milk. Soak a cotton pad with the liquid and lie down with the dampened pads over your eyes. Replace the pads as soon as they become warm. Continue for 15 minutes. As well as reducing puffiness, this treatment will brighten the whites of your eyes.
Best of luck to you!
~ Amanda ;)
well, he has no problem opening up. he has told me that he definitely is looking for a long term relationship and that he is not looking for a one night stand. we have been together for about 7 months now but his job is the world to him and his promotion is not going to help. i feel selfish. i just am feeling a little skeptical from last convo when he let me go after telling him something intimate. i really care for him but i think i have a feeling something is going on he isn't opening up to me about.
dafni.
Dafni,
First of all you have absolutely no reason to feel selfish! You are doing nothing but trying to get the best out of your relationship which is what you deserve!
He needs to prove himself to you about how he really feels and what is really going trough his mind right now. Perhaps he needs to take some time and figure out what he really wants. Because to me with his job it doesn't really sound like he has a lot of time to think about other things. Also, it seems like he doesn't realize what he has with you. He doesn't understand that the way he is treating you by not talking to you about certain things and avoiding conversations is only pushing you further away from him. He might not realize what he has until it's gone which is very unfortunate, but in reality happens to a lot of us.
I personally think that you both need to take some time and decide what you want and need. It's still early in your relationship and it's better that you do this now than later down the road when it could potentially be worse.
Best of luck to you dear ... I hope this advice helps you! Let me know what happens! :)
~ Amanda :)