Q: I am a 22 yr. old female who lives on her own in the US. I rent and live with my boyfriend of three and a half years. The guy I’ve been with has put me through hell in the last three years we have been together but I stuck by his side fearing that I would be alone. He has abandoned me several times even on our anniversary and I know deep down I deserve better. I go to school PT and I work FT. To give you a vague idea of what life has been like for me, I do everything- tend to his needs, clean up after him because he won’t clean up at all, buy all the food, he treats me poorly- has no consideration for my feelings at all, doesn’t acknowledge anything that I do, is jealous that I’ve got a better job than him, refuses to work FT, won’t help out at all around the house without complaining about it, he has no interest completing his college education, and now he’s asking his job to cut back his hours so he can play card games all day. I’ve asked him nicely to pursue counseling, offered to pursue counseling with him as a couple, and he is being stubborn about it. He thinks he doesn’t need it at all. He has been talking lately about quitting his job because he doesn’t want to be work for retail all his life, and recently, dropped the only class he was taking at college. He has Asperger’s so he sees the world a bit differently than you and I, but I’ll be damned, he’s very manipulative and super quick to create conflict if things do not go his way.

That said, I’m in a pickle and I’m growing very unhappy with him. My heart genuinely loves and cares about him and his overall well being but am I in love with him? I don’t think so. We don’t connect like we used to, I am not attracted to him anymore (been over a year since we’ve done anything sexual), and I do a lot of things on my own. I feel like he’s my child literally. Because his name is on the lease, I am reluctant to say how I really feel because I am worried it would create a mess of problems that I do not need at this time. I have been saving up for a down-payment on a house of my own and I’m very close to being able to get one. My goal is to drop him when the lease is up if things do not get better.

As silly as it is going to sound, I think I have found someone who I really enjoy talking to. I met him through eBay of all the places but we immediately clicked. We like almost all of the same things and we can talk non-stop for six hours. We have so much to relate to it isn’t even funny. He is attractive, a bit older, and he happens to live in Arkansas, which is very far away from New York, but I guess it could be worse. We are discussing meeting sometime this year presumably if all goes well. He seems like my other half and I get very giddy when I hear from him (sometimes anyway). Although I don’t know him as well as I would like to, I do have a strong gravitation towards this person and I’m not fully sure why exactly. Maybe it is because we are so alike. He is a college graduate and has been a dept manager at a retail store for five years. He was studying graphic design and has even done a few book covers for local authors. I find it impressive that he has done so much at his age. If you believe in Astrology, his sign is Gemini (air) and I am Leo (fire), it says we are highly compatible. He is highly skilled in many areas including photography and art. I could go on and on about how wonderful this guy is but I’ll stop it right there.

Anyways, I told him my disposition with my boyfriend a few months back and recently told him how I started feeling about him. I was scared to bring the topic up mainly because I wasn’t sure if he felt the same way but I also did not want there to be a relationship between him & I- at least not until I have successfully ended the relationship I am currently in and after he and I have met in person first. The more I have talked to him, the more I feel like I am falling for this person, but I will say this feeling comes and goes and fades away when he isn’t talking to me as much. I think I take it personal or something, assuming it’ll never happen and that he is not interested anymore. It sucks having a pessimistic mind. There have been spouts where this person just disappears for days and I grow concerned, I don’t understand why it happens and when I try to reach out, I don’t get any response back. He tells me there is something there for me but has forgotten the feeling of love. If you are genuinely interested in someone, you don’t do that to the person who has feelings for you.

Maybe my thinking is off or I’m taking way too much to heart so soon when I hardly even know this person. It has been a while since he has been in a relationship and while he has forgotten the feeling, what do you think this feeling could be? Did he just say that because he did not know what to say? Anyways, I can understand being busy but at least tell the person you are interested in or who is interested in you what is going on in your life so they know you are OK. If I stop talking to him, he does try to initiate conversations which confuse me. It seems the more attention I give him the more he runs away but the less I give, the more he comes back for more. He will on occasion send me text messages in the morning or call randomly to chat. And no matter how much that guy is on my mind or not, I do dream of meeting him when I am asleep even if he hasn’t been on my mind at all. I sometimes smile myself to sleep when I’ve talked to him and had a great conversation. But in these dreams, I am subconsciously trying to hide it away from my current relationship. I guess the conscious is playing a part. I’ve had maybe 2 or 3 dreams where I’ve come close to telling the person I am with now about this guy. I don’t believe in cheating and that is why I am stuck, I can’t move on until the relationship I am with is done entirely, but it seems I’ve felt alone for so long my heart is ready to love again. I’m worried of the situation altogether backfiring. I don’t know what to do. Do I have genuine feelings for this guy? Is this just a crush? Will it subside? Am I a complete nut-case? Am I putting things in my head that should not be there? Should I just stop talking to this person or view him more as a friend? What would you do in my shoes?

Q: I was wondering if anyone or someone they know has any suggestions for books that help with CMA exams.

I bought 2 anatomy books already and then I have one that I got that has 2 sample tests included but after I bought it, numerous people have given reviews that some answers in the book are incorrect. But then before I take the test, I figure that I can then use that book and test myself to know exactly what's right and what's wrong. So I'll use that later. The book only covers exams and explanations. But I need something else.



I just got into the program at school and I won't be done until next May so I figured I could go ahead and study now instead of later which is why I got some things now.


Suggestions?

Thanks.

Q: I am a girl,age 23. my father has died in 2009, my mom is alive but she never take care of me. i live with my elder sister,she has 3 kids. she always quarreled with me. if i don't do any household work, she got angry with me. i have boyfriend,who never let me cry,he love me so much.i didn't meet with him for last 3month because my sister never allowed me to meet with him. i stay my room whole day lonely.nobody of my family call me or ask me anything. my study is also hampering day by day. for my condition my boy friend also feeling very bad for me and his study also destroying day by day.i cant tolerate this anymore.it is seem to me that my death is the nice solution for all.my family will get rid of me and my boyfriend will get a better life.i have no way to live.what should i do beyond this?

Q: this is odd but i need someone who knows a little something about when it comes to hiring plumbers.

I rent a two bed, two bath place and we continually have plumbing issues. we have the standard low flush/low consumption toilets which clog ALL THE TIME, even to the point to where even a standard plunger cannot unclog it. Well ive had a leaking tub faucet for the past month and called my management company to fix the leaking THAT, but also asked to have the plumber check out one of my toilets as well (just a quick look to make sure theres nothing legitimately wrong with that toilet ) my question is, it is normal or fair for the property management to charge ME for the plumber to come out to fix the faucet?

last time i called to have management send a plumber to unclog my toilet, (cause my son flushed the toilet paper spinner down it) i got charge 400 bucks! just for that! and he did the same thing i just asked this guy to do. i soooo dont wanna get charged 400 bucks because i also asked him to check out my toilet while he was here fixing the leaky faucet. = / i cant afford that.

can they do that?? i know that theres certain things that THEY have to cover, but idk if they can try to pin the toilet thing on me, there was nothing wrong with the toilet, he said he would let them know that. The toilet just has a small throat and clogs easier then the better toilets.

Q: Someone is blackmailing on kik. I sent him nude photo of mine, he want me to send again if I will not he said that he will post it online website wherein all country can see it. I dont know what to do. He said that he will spread it and all my friends can see it. Im afraid Im fron Hungary. Need help

Q: Is it possible to get a rental car with 100$ in NYC?

Q: hi! my grandma had bone problems and i don't know how to spell what she had but you probably know what i mean right? in school they were talking about the same thing in health class and she said that if we ate calcium rich foods we would not get that disiease. great but how much milk and cheese can you eat?! are there any other foods that have calcium but maybe don't make you so fat?

Q: I have diff. Color eyebrows than my hair. I have dirty blonde hair and brown eyebrows. It makes my face look weird and my nose long which by the way is almost as big as my forehead!!!!!!!!!! Idek makeup looks weird on me and I just want to feel pretty for once. Ideas??!?!?!?

Q: I'm a lesbian, and i'm always getting used by my straight friend. She is always dirty texting me, and touching herself when she's talking to me, but she says that only i turn her on and she wouldn't date me because she doesn't want to be a lesbian. She has a boyfriend, yet she comes to me when it comes to pleasure. I love her as a best friend, maybe more, but only if she accepted. But, it seems like lately, all we've been doing is "making love" and she doesn't even love me.
Is she gay? Why is she using me like this? When she asks me to turn her on, etc, she tell me to "Make love" to her. Does that mean she loves me? because she normally says sex, unless she's talking about me. We've never actually done it, but we talk and touch ourselves.

Q: So, I am about to have a baby and someone mentioned that there are a bunch of places that will send you baby stuff in your mailbox if you just ask for it? How do you do this? Is there a list of companies that do this, or do you just have to write everyone and hope they send you something? LOL!

Q: Do you have any suggestion for a birthday gift that ALL men like? I don't know him that well, but I want to give him something he will really remember. :)

Q: I have a FAFSA loan thing that I have to do for school. Do you know how long I have until the deadline for it to be turned in?

Q: I am at the point where I need to go for SSI. I can barely walk anymore and I am still holding down a job that is killing me. :( I am afraid of lawyers, I think we have all been made to feel afraid in one way or another, but now I really need one to file my SSI claim, and I don't know how to find one that is going to treat me fairly! Is there even such a critter? If you have been through this, could you give me an idea of what I am in for or tell me what pitfalls I should expect to encounter through this legal process? I can't thank you enough!

Q: My girlfriend has been lying to me about smoking since we starting going out. I caught her about 6 months into it and a couple of times after that and she has tried but its not working out.
This question is for smokers
Would you be able to quit smoking for your boyfriend or girlfriend?
she says she loves me and wants to marry me but she cant do this even with my help it seems

Q: I'm M/15. lately I feel like I've been going crazy. I want to change. I think girls don't like me because I'm weird. I talk about Aliens, underground military bases, alternate realities and weird types of science. I always say that nothing is impossible. I yell at my stupid internet connection. I've been being racist lately (not extreme, just jokes & stuff) I like saying things backwards like "The mirror looks at me" "The test got 100 on me" "Ball Basket plays me" "Outside hot is very" . Aso last 2 weeks I've been slackin' off in classes. I do accents constantly. I avoid people because I think they're daft, or too slow to understand me, but same time I tend to be slow. I'll say random stuff like, " I missed the shot because I'm nice like that" I listen to weird music Metal & underground rap about conspiracy theories & weird stuff involving science & history to create weird stories. People don't understand me, girls don't like me. I can't find any weird crazy ones :(Am I crazy?How can I change? The list goesOn

Q: Recently my girlfriend of 2 years told me that she wanted to take a break. We are in a long distance relationship and I live in Japan and she lives in America. I always thought we were a solid couple and I still love her a lot. I talked to her on the phone today and told her all of my feelings. She said that the reason she wants to take a break is because she only has 1 month left of college studying abroad in America before she comes back to Japan to study, and wants to spend time with friends there before she has to return to school in Japan. I'm really confused because she said she loves me and stuff but that she just feels conflicted because she wants to spend time talking to me and also doing things with her friends and that she doesn't have time for both. On the phone she was crying so much and when I asked her if she wanted to break up with me she said no a few times. Even during that phone call I was really confident and was joking around with her and stuff. She knows that Im serious about the relationship because I moved her and found a job so I could be with her. She has been serious with me too and said that she cant wait to see me in a month and stay at my place. That was one week before she broke up with me. I have told her we could talk maybe only once a week to give her space but we did that for a couple weeks and now she says that since we never talk she feels like she doesn't know me anymore!

I'm working in Japan so I figured I will see her in a month, which makes me so surprised that she would break up with me a month before we will see each other again. Maybe it is true that she just wants to have more time with friends and stuff but I get the feeling she likes another guy. Why else would she just change so suddenly towards me? One week before she broke up with me she sent me messages about how she was so in love with me and that she could never have a better boyfriend. I was always appreciative and let her know how much I loved her and very open to her going out with friends.

I just feel so heart broken. We are both in our early 20's and this is my first big break up. On top of that I am in Japan, starting a new job and dont know anyone. I dont have anyone to talk to here and Im having second thoughts about why the hell Im here lol
I'm still very much in love with her and I have told her all this but I don't think she feels the same anymore. I wanna know if anyone has advice on how or what to do to get her back? Should I give her lots of space for a couple weeks or so? Should I still send her messages occasionally or is it better if I just stop talking to her?

I havent talked to her for one week and it is so excruciatingly painful because I think about her 24/7. I want to appear confident though and not clingy and give her space. She always talked about a future together so I never expected this. She has to come back here in 1 month to start school so i feel like even if she got with someone else in America she is gonna have to do a long distance thing with them for at least a year when she comes back here so it confuses me cause Im here now and can be with her for a year at least when she comes back.

I wanna know how can I get her back? My plan now is to call her cell phone in a few days so that will be one week after we broke up and just to be friendly to her and not talk about our relationship. Im conflicted because I dont want to push her away at all but I feel like talking to her really helps and the longer I wait the harder it might be for her to do so.

Any advice is greatly appreciated.

Q: I was wondering about this word mono.
Ok now this is the conclusion that I am coming to so far based on my studying...
if you want to say "this is mine" you would say
"kore wa watashi no mono desu"

if you want to say "this is my dog" you would say "kore wa watashi no inu desu"

but I have also seen "kore wa watashi no inu wa mono desu" I think that's what I saw. So my question basically is, if "kore wa" is implying "this thing" and "watashi no" is implying "my", then what is the "mono" and do you have to say it? is it like formal or something?

Q: I am a 14 year old girl. I have so many problems in life! Soooo many. Ive been to defax twice and therapy for trauma and my friends and I get into drama and my lifes falling apart. I need help. I lost the person today that i always talk to. And i made the STUPIDEST mistake to tell my moms best friend that i dont like her! I have GOT to start making better choices. God is for sure in my life. I am going to heaven and everything and I pray about it every night. I need someone to talk to. Someone I can see and hear clearly back. A human. But i am definantly not shutting God out. I am so worried and scared all the time and I want to change my life around but I dont know how. I need help.

Q: Im a 13 yr old girl, never had sex but gets really horny, never had a period but recently found a red splotch on my vagina where I used to have a birthmark what is it??? Also I have really heavy discharge will I get my period soon??

Q: 20 female.

I feel like i have gotten a little extra fat in my stomach area ugh :( It all went to my stomach! I don't really work out. I run here and there, do some crunches when I feel like it. I just want my stomach to be more toned for summer. I feel really self conscious right now!!

What are some work outs I can do to tone or maybe lose some fat in my stomach??

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