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My name is Juliathings change. sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worst. that's how life is. i'm almost 16 and i make mistakes just like any other person. i'm far from perfect. i love to act, sing, dance and do anything involved with the arts. i really want to learn to play the guitar and i plan to learn. i play tennis but it's only to pass the time. i write poetry and lately i've been reading alot. i'm really goofy and i like to make people smile and i love to laugh. i don't trust that easily and i love even lighter. i don't believe that anyone is better than anyone. i've been going through a tough time lately and i've been confused about alot. i have my best friends and besides them i don't care what other people think. i have an amazing boyfriend and i love him. we can get through anything. i don't hate. sometimes love. and always smile. don't judge me before you get to know me. i'm loud and will make you laugh.
I also love to give and get advice. I believe that people should come together and help you to get by. But always remmeber, advice is help. You are the only one that can make a final desision. I would love to help you with anything as long as you respect me and I'll return the same respect.
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Basically, I have trust issues. Because of past relationships where I got cheated on, because of betrayal of friends most close to me. Situations which have happened more than once have led me to believe that most people are full of sh*t.
Now i'm with one guy, who I love a lot.
But I find it hard to trust him.... actually, it's not only him, it's my friends also. I feel like they're all lying to me about small things. I never let them know though, or bring it up.
It's just in my head, I think, "yeah, ok, you're full of sh*t"... and it starts to bother me. a lot.
But just like everything else. I keep it inside.
I feel like if I bring it up, everyone is going to tell me that im blowing it out of proportion, or that i'm being a jealous girlfriend. And I don't want them to see me that way, because all it does is cause unnecessary conflict because of my paronoia.
Any advice on how to get over this?
Or just advice on the whole situation.
Trust issues are something most people encounter as you get older. I recently had them and thought that everyone was lying to me and that everyone was out to get me. The only sure fire way to rid yourself of these is to open up a little more. Let people know how you feel and don't hold it in. If you find that someone may be lying to you, talk it over with them. You need to let people know how your feeling, or these trust issues aren't going to go away. They're only going to get worse.
Don't worry about what you think they'll say. You don't know that they won't listen to you. That's part of the reason you have these issues with trust. You're assuming that no one will listen to you so you just ignore the fact of ever talking it out. You can't do that. You need to be free with your feelings and tell people what's on your mind.
As for your boyfriend, I find it very hard to really love someone or have a really strong relationship without trust. Trust plays a big part in a realationship and without it, the bond can fall. Make sure to tell your boyfriend about these issues and assure him that you're gonig to try to open up a little more. Taking that big first step makes the whole process easier.
I hope I could help!
Keep me posted!
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My friend I’ve known my whole life I guess we were like best friends. We always told each other it but never did anything out of school except email aim and talk. Then we liked each other a little a lot. Everyone tried to get us together as in dating or alone together. Then there were a lot of mishaps at parties. Many good time so many bad times. Old games like truth or dare and zap. Our relationship fell apart. Im friends with a lot of guys and most are older than him. I am always with them. I don’t like any of them but him and another guy. I’ve never dated because I always fell for my friends and I never wanted to loose them. Four guys like me that I know of right now but I cant do it I’d miss him to much. They know I won’t date because of all that’s happened. My friend says he’s afraid on what id think, my friend told me. Doesn’t seem to like the guys I talk to anymore. We always talked, now almost never except at school a little. We always had silly little arguments on kinds of donuts and stuff always talking. He always gave me high fives or would do anything to hold my hand even for a second and then every time we saw each other he’d give me a high five or we arm wrestle or play games like red hands but he never wanted to hurt me. We used to really care for each other now we do a little but it’s falling apart. He talks to my friends more than me now. But I just don’t know what to do anymore. Im even to nervous to talk to him I’ve never been nervous for any guy. I don’t know what to do??? 13 about 14 femalee
It's really hard for me to give you a solid answer only because I don't know why you're falling apart. But I'll still try!
Ok well, you need to talk to him. Tell him how you feel and how you really still like him and that you miss him alot. If this guy is affecting how you see other guys then you know that your feelings for him as strong.
I have alot of guy friends and I know how you feel about falling for them. I fell for my best friend once too. And it's hard. And when he liked me, I had no idea. But we're still friends mainly because we talked about it.
If you want to be more than friends with him you really outtah speak your mind. Keeping feelings inside doesn't make anything better.
And if you're scared of trying, always remember. Failing is worse than never trying. Don't be afrais of the unknown.
I hope I could help!
Let me know how it works out!!!
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my boyfriend and i have been dating for about 3 years and just now it went downhill like i had a bunch of family issues and have been depressed alot for no reason and i think hes gotten sick of it and ive been a total bitch and all i ever say i sorry i dunno what to do and we never talk anymore and we both agree we've both changed and we want it back the way we had it before when we were both happy with eachother. How can we do that ?
Being honest wtih eachother never hurt. Three years is a long time with someone and I'm sure you don't want to ruin what you have. I suggest a little brake so you guys can both figure out the problems you have and sort them out. A break doesn't mean you've broken oup, and it DEFINATLY DOES NOT mean that you can go hook up with a million other guys. It jsut means that you have time to thnik about you two and get back on track. Realationships usualy need a brake sometime and doesn't prove that you're not strong. When you come back together after one you feel stronger and happier.
If you defiantly don't want to take a brake, you can always jsut talk to him about how he feels and try to satisfy his needs.
I hope I could help
Keep me posted!
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15/f
okay, so this is probably going to sound really bad but i need help. i dont really know why but i love "getting around"- not sleeping around or anything though. but like every guy that im into ill make out with them and i always let them finger me. but girls are starting to hate me and saying im a whore but guys really like me. and i know most of them just like me cause ill let them play around with me but i really dont mind- i really like it actually. but after most weekends i look back on what all i did and i let like at least 1 guy finger me a weekend- a lot of times more. is that really bad or am i just having fun? and feel free to be honest. thanks!
The one question you need to ask yourself is, "Am I happy with who I am?" If you feel comfortable letting all these different guys inside you then there's nothing wrong with it. (That you think) But maybe you should think about it a little. I mean, you don't want to expliot yourself as a slut and don't want guys being nice just so they can have a little fun. If you're asking this question you probably have a little guilt and you feel it's wrong. In my opinion, I think you should take a break from all this "fun" and just spend sometime with gal pals. You're still young to be doing this all the time and in high scholl it's hard enough when rumours go around.
I hope I could help
Kepp me posted
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Okay, me and this guy, you could practically call him my boyfriend, we're not sexual or anything, we just care alot for eachother, and we both know about how the other feels, he goes to a different school. and we had a big argument, and everytime we fight i always go back to him, im afraid im gonna lose him to someone at his school, and this time i told him i was never gonna talk to him again, i want to know how i can have him come back to me??
I also have a boyfriend from another school and I usually am afraid that he will leave me for another girl. But I know that he loves me and would never do that to me. Honestly, all you can do is tell him how you feel. That you're scared about other girls and that you really do care about him and want him in your life. Be honest with him. It's the best thing that you could ever do. Don't worry about the other girls. If it hasn't beem a problem yet, why make it one now? Live in the moment and always know that people do care about you. Don't live up for the let down.
I hope I could help!
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I am 14 and never have had a boyfriend nor kissed a guy . Is this bad?
ABSOLUTLY NOT!
This is totally normal. I mean, I didn't have my first real boyfriend until this year actually. Also, mny first kiss wasn't until the summer going into 9th grade. There isn't a certain age where you should get your first boyfriend or kiss. It's when your ready. But since you've waited, don't blow it on something silly. Save your first kiss for someone you really really like. I have a friend who's in 10th grade and she's sooo pretty! Ang GUESS WHAT??!?! She hasn't had her first kiss either. Just because you havn't had it doesn't mean you're not pretty and it also doesn't mean that no one wants to kiss you. I promise you it will happen. Just be patient and don't worry about it! It'll all be fine!
Hope I could help!
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for homecoming girls give the guys crasauges and guys give the girls mums right? and i know what mums are but what are crasages? r they just the same thing as mums except theyre shorter and theyre worn on the arms of the guys? and are the crasages supposed to be kinda girly and pretty?? i need answers soon please!! and if you can even give me a link to pictures of crasages!!! please help!! thanks!!
How we do it around we live is...
Girls give guys boutonnieres. They're little roses that get pinned onto the boys brest pocket on their jacket.
Boutonniere:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boutonniere
Guys give girls either a corsage, which is a little flower arangment wristband that goes on your wrist or a bouquet of flowers. Either one is fine for the evening.
Corsage:
http://ftdfloristsonline.com/bennettsgreenhousesinc/category/corsages-boutonnieres/display
Bouquet:
http://www.hawaiianweddings.net/bouque28.jpg
hope I could help!
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Okay well there is this boy that I am in love with.Also he liked me last year and we where really getting along and we where like best friends and I was loveing it.So when this new girl comes he starts likeing her and is being mean to me and acting really strange.But than summer came and I was getting over him untill the first day of school I fell for him again And I have no clue why its scareing me I really want to get over him and I want this girl gone.So please help me.
Coming in second always hurts. But if you tell him how you feel and that you think that girl took your place yo can scoot up to first. Guys love it when they're being chased. It makes them feel wanted. Give it a little bit of time. If he still doesn't notice you, go for it. Tell him that you can't get over him and that you really want him in your life. Telling the truth will always make you feel better but will also make him feel better about the situation. If you feel uncomforatable talking to him then you can just try to be friends for awhile and then tell him how you feel. Waiting to state never hurt anyone.
hope this helps!
Let me know how it worked out!
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theres a boy, we like each other.
idk we peck inbetween classes, but his best friend i find so attractive. i've made out with him before, and want to again, so bad.
this is bad, and wrong considering me and the boy could possibly date.
I find that I have a similar problem. The only solution is to be honest with both people. When you're honest with others, you can be honest with yourself. Don;t jump into a realationship with this boy if there's someone else that you could already like. I mean, you don't want to start a realationship with doubts. If that happenes, feelings could be hurt on both sides.
Sit down and talk to the guy you like. Tell him how you feel. Also let his friend know what's going on too!
I hope this helps!
Keep me posted!
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16/f
This past summer me and my best friend hung out with a group of guys. We spent like the whole summer with them. We all started out as friends. Then one day my best friend told me that one of the guys liked me more as friends.
So we had a little thing. We held hands and kissed and things like that. I guess you could say we were dating.Everything was going good and we had a lot of fun when we hung out.He would always text me and stuff. And at first i loved it. But he wanted me to hang out with him almost EVERYDAY. And i wanted time for my other friends too. So i kinda ignored his texts and didnt say anything to him for a while.(yeah i know that wasnt the right thing to do)After that we just didnt even talk anymore.
Well anyways now that school has started and i see him every single day, i think im might still have a thing for him. And i drive myself crazy thinking about how it would have been if we still were together.I want to be friends with him again. The only thing is, he doesnt even look at me. And i know that he is mad but,i have NO CLUE what to do!!!!! PLEASE PLEASE help me!!!!!!!!
Thanks to anyone that answers, i really appericate it! (:
Like you said, ignoring him totally probably wasn't the best thing to do. But I understand why you did that. If you really want to be friends with him again, be the mature one and go up to him in the hallways. IMing and texting isn't going to get him to listen to you. You need to be strong and jsut go up to him and tell him that you're sorry that you stopped talking and that you really want to pick up where you left off. Tell him you wanted to be with your friends too and that you didn't think that he'd understand that. Just make sure you tell him how you feel, and since you're trying to win him back, be nice about it. I really do think will understand as long as you're true and sincere.
I really hope this works out.
Keep me posted!
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Sorry if its long...
14/f 9th grade
ok so ever since like 5th grade i was SOO excited to go to higschool and well now that im in it, its like NOTHING like i expected it to be and well i hate it. I guess you could say i'm kind of like a floater...i dont really fit into a crowd really and well it sucks, and i'm almost failing all my classes because all the homework and classwork is so overwhelming and i'm not used to it. But will it get better? Because i dont want to be floating around highschool all four years. And how was your first year of highschool?
I know how you feel. I'm in my second year and the beginning of my first year I was a mess. It really does get better thought.
But you really do need to do your homework no matter how overwhelming it is. You don't want to start the year on a really bad note and dig yourself into a hole that you can't dig out.
As for being a "floater", high school is a time to make new friends. Don't be scared to go up to people and ask them about themselves. Having a few steady friends will definatly get you through the year.
hope everything works out. Keep me posted! Contact info is on the column!
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15/f
Okay. So here's the very long deal. I will try to summarize this. It could really have an impact on my life.
I've known this guy online for a year. I dunno if you read my question ...but I asked about a guy I was obsessed with online.
Anyway. I knew him for a year and I met him online. I never really liked him, but having no friends, I just talked to him and became very personal with him. He had another gf online, and now they're meeting up. I really don't care for him anymore. He doesn't mean anything to me. Of course, that feeling of "fondness" still exists, but not enough to propel me to want to meet this guy or anything. Honestly, he creeps me out. He's dirty, disgusting, ugly (shallow, I know.) and he's just so ew..He has a horrible personality. I'm through with him
Today, I deleted everywhere that I had him. Like myspace, MSN, aim etc. I was SICK of him and his stupid lies/ trying to make me jealous. Plus, I'm only a 15 year old girl! I now have more friends, school is more important to me, and I'll try to get over him..
Please...PLEASE somebody give me a pep talk...to keep me away from him. I can't tell you how many times I've UNdeleted him and continued to talk to him, being so attached. Please...words of encouragement to keep me away from a possible online predator who I know NOTHING about? :(
I'm not going to repremand you or anything. I'm just here to help you.
You should never talk to someone online that you don't know. They could be faking it and like...all their information could be unreal and not true. Talking to people online is really really dangerous.
But here's the real deal. You need to get him off your mind. You can't keep talking to him becuase it's gonig to drive you crazy. Ignoring someone you care/cared about is really really hard and needs alot of support and help from friends. You just need to tell yourself that you CAN do it and that you DONT NEED him to make you a better person.
Jelously is the devil. haha. No really, wanting something that you can't have sucks. Bad. but i'm sure that if you ignore him (which won't be easy) you'll move on. Then you can find someone who you actually know exists. hehe! =0]
But in the mean time, stay strong. you'll get through. AND BE CAREFUL WHO YOU MEET ONLINE!
I hope everything works out. Keep me posted. Contact info can be found on my Column!!!
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Okay, this was the same question as before, but more imfo.
I like this Boy. We're on different teams. I have 2 connection classes with him. Which are going to change in a week. I dont know if we'll have connections together after that. But, we're both shy. He doesnt seem like the kind of guy that would have a lot of friends that are girls.
So, Im shy. I can talk to boys that I dont like that are just my friends, but not to ones that I do like. I always say Im going to go and talk to him, but I never do. He seems like if i did, then he'd just smile and look away or something.
How can i overcome my shyness? How can I start a conversation with him? and become his friend?
talking to guys can always be tough. even if your not shy. But really, I think he'll appreatiate the effort and start opening up to you.
Getting rid of your shyness isn't easy. It's all about gaining up the courage to get rid of your fears. I promise you that if you do it, you'll feel alot better that you have conquered your fear. It's going to be hard. But I think ou can do it.
A convorsation tip: When about to talk to him, first find out somethings that he likes and then convorsation will flow. You'll never run our of something to talk about!
I hope everything works out. Let me know! My contact info's on my column!!
Singed,
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Okay, I'm a female and 15 years of age. I have a boyfriend and we've been going out for almost a month. Okay, at the last school dance he was pretty well hitting that he wanted to make out. He was kissing me a lot! Okay... I've never made out with anyone before.. and neither has he (good thing too) i was completely shocked. Not nervous.. just completely weird because i had no idea what i was doing! I'm afraid to say anything because i dont wanna feel like an idiot!I really like him and all.. i just dont know how to respond and I dont want to give him the wrong idea.. like i dont like him or something. So what do I do? Seeing as he always has his arms around me.. n trying to kiss me whenever he gets a change. I love that he's showing how much he cares and stuff.. just it's a bit new for me.. and HIM!!! So...help please!? Thanks a bunch,
sincerely,
Confused but Happy Girl.
I remember being in your EXACT situation. Guy's minds don't mature as fast as ours do. They do care about you but really like mobing forward. This isn't a bad thing, it's just a life thing.
You really really need to sit down and talk to him about how he feels and where this is going. It's totally normal for you two to be making out, and for you to be a little bit shy about it.
You shouldn't worry about being perfect at it. It's your first time! It's honestly probably gonig to be awkward at first, but HEY! That's ok! Don't look into it as much. If you don't feel comfortable talking with him, just go with the flow. Living in the moment can always make you feel better. If it happens, it'll happen. And I promise you, you'll feel better.
Just relax and enjoy the time you have with him. Realationships can be so much fun!
Hope everything works out! Keep me posted! Contact info is on my Column!
Singned,
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Okay, I'm 15 and female. I have an amazing boyfriend. I care about him so much. Here is the thing, most of my friends are hitting on him. Just to make things clear, some are better friends with him then me. Anyways, at first it was funny because he's never had a girlfriend before. But they are still hitting on him. I've tried telling him.. but i get all shakey because i love my friends so much and i dont wanna start anything. I know that most people say "well your real friends only want you happy" n that's so true because im close friends are getting mad but i dunno. I feel lost n confused. I've tried talking to my boyfriend about it but he just tells me not to worry about it.. but i cant help it. Should i really tell my friends that i want them to stop.. even though i know that they will say "god! we are kidding around. take a joke" (sigh) a little help? thanks,
Lost and Confused girl.
Well here's the thing. you seem to be beating yourself up about this.
1. If your friends really cared about you they'd say "awh I'm sorry girl. I had no idea I was doing it. I will stop. I don't wanna mess anything up."
2. Have you talked to your boyfriend about it? If you see that he's flirting back then that's where the problem is. Obviously your boyfriend really cares about you and he doesn't want to lose you
Talking to both your boyfriend and your friends will be tough. If your friends get mad and defensive, then that's where they know that they're doing it and now feel bad.
Yes, It's going to be hard, but if you want things to only move forward with your boyfriend, you really need to talk to him. I think your friends, and your boyfriend will respect that you're speaking up. But remmeber to casually bring it up. Don't be mean or sound like you wanna beat someone out. Just relax and do it!
I really hope this helps. Let me know how it works! I'm always available on my contact info!
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so heres the deal...im 14and a half/f and hav a good amount of friends and i jus realized that out of all of them that i talk to most, im the ONLY one who hasnt made-out with a guy yet!and its kinda deppressing!!!i meen i think im a very pretty girl, somewhat prettier then most of them and im still a make-out virgin!!!i know people say good things come to those who wait but how long do i have to f-n wait!!!!i think im the second oldest out of my frinds and i hav only kissed one guy and it was only once and it wasnt "all that"!i dont know if it has anything to do with the fact that i dont kiss guys unless ive known them for a while and feel completly comfortable with sharing my lips with them!and then again i am kinda shy too!-well when it comes to guys and kissing-!it jus makes me feel so unexperienced and sad to know that ive never made-out with anybody! i just want to sooooo bad!its fustrating the crap out of me----but should it be???
Everyone goes throught things at different times. That doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you just because you have a better grasp on life then most people. When I was your age I had the same problem. I was the only one out of my friends that wasn't kissing alot. It made me feel silly and alone. But I realized that it wasn't because I wasn't pretty and it wasn't because guys didn't like me. It was all about how I acted around guys. Being yourself will always get you a good guy. But don't fall into the "Well, everyone's doing it..", thing. You need to take things at your own time. Don't fall into peer pressure. You really shouldn't worry girly because, "Someday, your prince will come." and you'll be glad that you saved those lips!
hope everything works out. Keep me posted! Check out my Column
singned,
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I'm 15/f sophmore, let me start off by saying I'm straight. I Love guys! I think they are the hottest thing on the planet! However... there is this one older girl on my volleyball team who's a junior and well, all of the sudden I'm looking at her longer, can't get her out of my head the whole nine yards. Here's my question: WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON?! I don't like girls. It's just her and it's screwing with my head. Someone help...
p.s. please don't say "seek help immediatley or something like that...please."
Thanks,
Thoroughly confused
Well here's the thing. I'm also around your age and it's normal for that stuff to happen. However, it's not normal to not question your sexuality once. Whether people want to admit it our not, everyone goes through a time where they really are unsure about themselves. Did you ever think that maybe you could be bi-curious? This doesn't mean that you're a lesbian or that you like girls, it jsut means your curious about what it could be like. I mean it could be a phase, or your body could be telling you something. If I were you, I really wouldn't worry about it. It's probably just confusion tha comes along with being a teenager. You'll get through it. Don't let it get to you. Let me know how it works out. I'm free on email and AIM. Also check out my column!
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Does anyone have any idea of what movie this might be?
It has Jim Carry in it, He lives in a town but in reality people are controlling his life for an experiment, he catches on to it eventually, like on part in the movie he was mad at his wife, so she said "Help" and police came? something like that. In the ending, he rides a boat to the "end" of the ocean, which is really the end of that fake world and walks into the real one. Its really interesting, i haven't seen it since i was probably 8, i'm 14 now. Any one have any idea of what its called, or where i could find the name of it? Thanks :]
AH! The Truman Show! I remember that! Good stuff!
Hi, im 14 years old and this is my first year of high school. Tommorow I am going on a movie date with a guy I really really like. The problem is im really nervous. I've never been on a date before and I know he's more... experienced then me in some aspects. I want to make this date work and not act really dumb. Any ideas to make the date go easier and tips so I can stop being so nervous? Thanks for reading this
ahh! dates! These seem to be my favroite subject. i wouldn't be too nervous if I were you. Just be calm and collective. Guys really like to see that your confident but always remmeber to be yorself. If he sees that you're a little nervous, he'll probally think that it's cute. Don't get yourself too worked up about it. If the night goes well, first dates usually end in first kisses =0]. But also, if it doesn't go how you wanted, don't sweat it. You've got a lot of time to master dating. Go out and buy yourself a cute oufit and look cute. Don't try too hard and put to much makeup on. Guys notice that and it's a big turn off. Just have fun and relax. Let me know how it workds out! Check out my column
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My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 2 years for what seemed like a love that would last forever. We broke up this summer. Ever since he hasn't shown any signs of liking me anymore, and as wierd as it sounds I've asked his if he still has any feelings for me and he says idk. I am still in love with him as i have figured out I always will be, part of my heart will always belong to him. I think about him ALL THE TIME! My friends all say well get back together and that he still loves me too. I'm not saying I want him to admit an unknown love to me or anything, I think I just want to know he didnt forget about what we had, or me... I guess I'm not sure of what i want. We still talk all the time just like we always have, but I don't know what to do. I love him... and I want him to be happy and if that means without me, so be it. Please help! I need him but cant have him!
The worst thing that you can do is keep it inside. You're going to be hurting youself with the pain of not having him. Getting over someone isn't easy. I know how you feel. But you said that he doesn't show sings of liking you again. Do you actually know this? And I mean guys don't always ell their friends what they feel. Guys don't like to let onto their friends that they may be whipped or that they actualy may be in love. It's harder for them. 2 years is a long time and I'm sure it's hard to let go after all this time. But who says that you have to? Talk to him. If he doesn't feel the same way and tells you so it'll help provide a sence of closure and help you to move one if needed. I wish you the best of luck. Let me know how it works out. Check out my column too!
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cheapxphotography