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well i was just wondering what do you do when you really have no one to turn to? when you grandmother don't care, your father is never their, you mom dosen't seem to understand and you sister just critizes you and you don't really have anyone to turn to? i just need some advice please help.. (link)
You always have to find yourself. You have to be your own hero sometimes. Because no matter what YOU can always guarantee that YOU will be there for yourself. When you don't have anyone to turn to, search inside yourself.
Good luck!


okay...this may seem strange but it feels like all my friends are turning on me...I had my 13th birthday party on sunday and invited 20 of my clostest firends to my house and well sunday came and only 12 showed up...these ppl i know have to be my rly clostest firends but here are the reasons for why most of them couldnt come

Me: hey maria are you coming to my party on sunday
Maria: no sorry i cant because im grounded
Me: oh so you arent going to Karissas the day befroe?
Maria: oh well i can go to that one and that one only


If you think that ones bad listen to these...

Chelsey: gotta do my homework! i have WAY to much homework

Lindsay: Sorry Sam my mom wont let me cause i didnt do all my homework yet

Karissa: my mom wont let me cause i didnt do my homework yet

Rachel F: i cant because i have too much homework

SPECIAL NOTE: all the ppl above cept maria slept over karissas house after her party and the best thing is WE DIDNT HAVE ANY HOMEWORK!!!


please help me ill rate 5's unless the advice is mean
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Drop these pennies and get yourself some dimes! These chicks aren't your friends. Eff them. Tell them if they can't be honest with you and would rather chill with someone else and that you don't need them! Ditch these losers and get some new, improved friends.
HAPPY B-LATED B-DAY!


What is a good birthday present to give to my boyfriend?? im all out all ideas (link)
Well heres some oh so fabulous ideas:
*Clothes
*A mix CD w/songs that make you think about him
*Anything that deals w/his hobbies*say he likes tennis, buy him a new racket or a million tennis balls that say I LOVE U on them, lol)
*A really sweet card & money
*Well here's what my cousins bf did for Valentine's Day that you could do 4 your b/f's birthday! He called her and told her to go outside, and when she opened the door there was roses & a card. Then he called her again & told her to walk around the house & there he was!!


I'm thinking of getting a belly button piercing. I got a few questions... Does it hurt? Do they numb anything or no? How long does it take? How big is the needle? Would it bleed? (link)
It hurts just a tad bit. But not enough to make you cry or anything. In piercing parlors, yes they numb it. You get it done illegally by a friend or something, most likely they won't. It takes like 5 seconds. The needles kinda long, and it's as big as whatever size gage belly button you're going to use. It will bleed just a little. It takes a few months to heal. Use salt water to clean it. It will help it heal too. Hope I helped!


Hey everyone im starting to get into country.. and i really like anything by keith urban.. im not sure what other country songs to download, i dont want any really hardcore haha country stuff but simmilar to keith urban so if you guys could give me some songs thatd be great! (link)
"There Goes My Life" by Kenny Chesney
"I go Back" by Kenny Chesney
"Live Like you were dyin" by Tim Mcgraw(REALLY REALLY good song)
"Indian Outlaw" by Tim Mcgraw
"Long Slow Kisses" by Jeff Baites
"Concrete Angel" by Martina McBride
Those are some really awesome country songs! Hope I helped!


long story short:
I went to a party met a really cool guy there and now we're pretty deep
it's been like a year now and he asked me if we could *blush* you know what.
I'm sooooooooooo not ready beCAWZ we are both erm, young totally not the time until we've got our lives together.
So anyway I heard a rumor about how he's been creeping around with other chicks going into hotels then the next thing i know my girl calls me up spitting bs because she saw him with this girl in his backseat ((sooooo not cool))
I asked him and he said no.
here is my question:
My girl never lies to me we're blood ((blood sisters but not like that))
but she could be jealous but so many people have said it and said it was like a different girl every night. I really dont want things to end but they just might
WHAT DO I DO?!!-signed.
WULA! (link)
Well for one, do not have sex with the dude! I'd believe my girl anyday. And plus numerous people have said it? I can see why one person would make that up, but lots of people? Nuh uh, ditch this playa! Lol. Hope I helped! :)


My boyfriend just told me that he would rather be friends. I was so hurt today. And To Make it Worse he Likes Someone Else!!!! We still talk. But it feels weird. What can I do to pick up our friendship again? Thanks. And smart remarks will be reported! (link)
I'm sorry, I know that sucks more than anything! :( Just try to start over, kind of act like it didn't happen(like you 2 were before you started dating) and your friendship should get back to normal in no time! :) Good Luck!


*this may be kinda long sorry! but thanks for taking the time to read this*
*well me and my ex boyfriend "mike" have been broken up for 9 months now! we talk about once a day or sometimes every other day! we have hung out quite a few times..and this is where the problem starts
*last night he came over and picked me up at my house around 10! he lives like 30 mins away from me so the whole time we were driving he was just kinda flirting with me..like making fun of me and stuff! well we were going to his friends house to get him and then gonna go bowling but his best friend was there and he doesnt like me so we didnt go there..instead we just went to mcdonalds! he kept asking me if i wanted something but i said no! well he got something and while he ate we sat in his truck and just talked..he kept staring at me and i was like what and hes like can i not look at you! and he kept calling me turtle lip which is what he called me when we went out! well then we left and went to his house and i started playing with my hair and
he was like whats wrong? i was like nothing and hes like what are you thinking about and i was like nothing and he was like dont lie to me i know better..well i didnt wanna talk about it! so we get to his house and he undoes his seatbelt..he looks at me and goes do you think it would really work out? i was like i really dunno and he was like honestly and i was like i dunno maybe! well i told him i was cold so he moved the thingy in the middle up and came and cuddled with me! well he was rubbing my feet for a while and he knows i love that! then he layed his head on my chest and was listening to my heart beat! well then he looked at me and was like can i bite your lip and i was like why and he was like i want to so i was like sure..so he did..then he layed his head on my chest again and just stared at me and was like can i kiss you so i was like i guess so we kissed! and that happened quite a few times! he kept trying to hold my hands and hold me in his arms! well i got up for a sec so he laid in my spot! well i was like fine ill go in the back and he was like no lay on me so i did! the seat belt thing was in my way so i went to the back..so he came back there with me and of course we cuddled and ended up messing around! weve hung out several times before this and weve never touched eachother like that or cuddled/kissed or anything! well then it was 1:30 and his dad was like you need to take her home! ya it seems awesome i know..but heres where it doesnt make sense! today he was on AIM and imed him (he was away though) and i was like you know things are gonna be hard now cause i cant get over him at all..and he signed off so i was like what the heck! so i got on myspace and he was on so i was like whatever cause sometimes it just leaves it on! then again later i got on it and he was on it again but he wasnt on AIM so i felt like he was avoiding me! so i called him and was like why are you ignoring me and he was like im not im watching a movie ill ttyl so i was like whatever! and he hasnt been on AIM all day..sometimes hes not but its kinda weird! i dunno if its just me or if hes ignoring me! i guess my question is what should i do? let go or keep trying? keep in mind he is my 1st love but i have been trying for 9 months.. how do you think he feels? do you think he really likes me and is scared to tell me or fall me or what? ughhh someone please help me! thanks so much (link)
Well well well. I think he does like you, from what you've said. Maybe he really was watching a movie and he just left the internet on, but didn't get on AIM. And it's been 9 months since you 2 have broken up and you still hang out regularly, which is a good thing. You probably shouldn't have broken up in the first place! lol! Well I hope i helped!


What does it mean to be outspoken? Like examples and definition.. (link)
Outspoken...think of it as Spoken Out. Outspoken means people listen to you, you make sure your voice is heard and it is. You're not scared to raise your voice and/or give your opinions. Hope I helped! :)


I just signed up for an xanga and i wanted to know if anyone knows any websites with codes. I mean codes for like different texts, pictures, music, playlists, and other things in a xanga!! Please Help! ILL RATE 5'S IF YOU TRY!
thank youu
:) (link)
There's not exactly different websites for that. Search for blogrings or xangas with those(music, pictures, ect) as the keywords and you'll most likely find what you're looking for! :)


Hey, i kind of like my best friends boyfriend,...but the thing is,...i hooked them up,...it's all to strange for me and i dont know what to do. he's nice, funny and cute and everything....i got myself into something big, i know and her mom is like real sick and she's gonna die soon which makes the drama so less appealing (link)
It is very, very common for girls to hook up the guys they like with there best friends. I don't know why, but we just do it. Well, it really can't be undone. And she's your best friend. Is he worth losing a friendship for? If he is please tell me b/c I wanna meet him!!!!! Trust me on this one, just leave it alone. Boyfriends come and go, but friends are forever. And it's all the more tramatic that her mom is dying. That sucks. She really needs you right now, and her boyfriend. Well hope I helped!


One of my cats has started peeing in my room. Anytime time else he uses the litter box. He only does it in my room. Does anyone have any idea as to why he started to do this or how I can get him to stop? I have 2 other cats and he is our newest one, but we have had him since March. He just started this. Thanks for your help! (link)
Well some reasons he may being doing this are because he's either not getting enough attention or his litter's dirty. To prevent him from doing so, keep your door closed. Hope I helped!


here it goes,..well, a whole alot of my friend have boyfriends or girlfriends, and i'm the last one in the bunch. but every guy i seem to like goes after someone else and it just seems like loves no for me,..i hate waiting and whenever someone asks me out and i say yes they break up with me that same day. it's like i'm an old toy nobody wants... (link)
Awww, sweetie I know exactly how you feel. Exactly. The thing is, once you get in a really good relationship with someone you really care about it, and it messes up, you feel twice as bad. You really do. But, don't give up hope. Once you lose hope, you lose everything. There must be someone out there for everyone. I wish you all the best and good luck!


oo wow this just happend this second . I have been home all day bored out of my mind. My bestfriend and I were planning on going to the movies. But I told her this guy I like is going she knows this guy and she doesnt like him. So now she is saying oo I dont want to go to the movies, so i told her wanna go bowling ice skatting skating etc and she said no she wants to go home and i go why and she goes cause if he is going to be there i dont want to be there. She is being very selfish what do i do? Do i let her go home invite another friend or do I talk to her about and if i do what do i tell her she is very snobby bratty and bitchy. so i have no idea what to tell.
Help Please.
xoxo - Adey (link)
I'd ditch her. She doesn't sound like very much of a friend. You said it yourself-"she is very snobby bratty and bitchy" So I would just chill with the dude by myself. I wouldn't want someone like that there anyways. Good luck!


Hey im agnostic, a pretty strong agnostic i guess... which might seem weird cuz when i was younger i was the most religous person in my family! None of us ever went to church but i really wanted to and stuff, and then as we got older everyone except my dad whose athiest got big on religon, except me, who just stopped believeing. I dont know why i just started to really think about it, and ask myself questions about it, and i just couldnt believe it anymore. Then later on i became wiccan for awhile, but i went through depression and stopped believing again. I think mostly religon is something that people really need to hold onto and believe in, and so they create it. I totally understand that religons tend to be good, and they have good values and things like that, but i dont think they're true. im not likely to change my mind [and yea i HAVE been to church], but i figured id give anyone a chance to explain to me how they know their religon is true... please don quote the bible unless ur gonna tell me how you know the bibles true too. And dont say you just KNOW, because people always tell me that they just KNOW that their god is the real one and not someone elses, and then that person comes up and tells me the same thing.
Dont be stupid. I rate high! Thanks... (link)
As a matter of fact, I'm kind of with you on that one. But, the thing that really gets me is that everything predicted in the Bible(war, natural disasters, secret codes, etc.) has come true. So it always makes me think twice. Hope I helped you a little bit! :)


I know this is a dumb question but how do you stunt your growth? I don't want to get taller so how can I stop it, My mom is 5'5 and my dad is 5'7, so how can i stop it. (link)
You can't stunt your growth. You are who you are. Learn to accept yourself. Love yourself. I know lots of people that actually wish they were 5'7.


There's this guy, who I'll call David. David has liked me since 6th grade (We're high school Freshman now), and a close friend of his and mine told me he's asking me out within the week, and she persuaded me to say yes. Thsi guy is everything a girl would want in a boyfriend-smart, funny, chivalrous, kind-but I'm just not attracted to him. So should I go through with it? Or dump him early into the relationship? Or just flat-out reject him. Help!!!! (link)
Tell him the truth. It would suck for you to play along and it would suck tenfold for him if you guys dated and he found out that you never really liked him. Just be honest with him. And don't let other people effect your decision.


I'm an aspiring artist who is in the market for a solid-body electric guitar. I need suggestions on guitar manufacturers and companies. And opinions on the following: Fender, Gibson, Squire, Washburn, Epiphone, Ibenez, and Dean. Any advice from people who own/have owned any of these guitars is appreciated. 5's for all even if you're being a jerk. (link)
Well, being that I am a guitar player myself. I would go with either Fender or Ibanez. Both have a solid, rich sound that most other guitars just can't even compare to. Well, I hope that you are successful in your guitar endeavors.
-Spartacus


i am getting a cat soon...i dont know if it is a boy or a girl yet but, my problem is that i cant think of a good boy name or a good girl name. if you have any suggestions...please tell me! thanx! :) (link)
Names for a Cat:
*Felix
*Frederick
*Blackie(if it's a black cat)
*Ghost(if it's white)
*Boo
*Sugar
*Shadow
*Sweety
*Lil Tiger!
*Big Tigger!
*Kitty-boy
*Kitty-Girl
*Baby
*Lil Baby
*Tazmanian(Taz)
*Tommy
*Frisky
*Lil Bit


okay there is this guy, matt, and he's a- well- a bit of a slut. we are good mates and last year he got with my friend. not sex or anything but fooled around. i was totally cool with that coz he's a nce guy and everything. but a month or so later i realised i had feelings for him. i told my friend and she was like OMG go for it!!! he had a party, so after a few drinks to soften the blow, i told him i liked him. he was like. OMG i've liked you for ages. i was so happy!!! he kissed me and we were making out when my friend banged on the door asking for me. i ran out and my other friend had passed out. i looked after her and made sure she was okay. when i came out of the room i saw matt kissing his ex. after pouring my heart out to another guy friend i got over it and we kept being friends. we still are. he was like so into my sister so i introduced them but warned my sister about him. they hooked up (not sex) but she wanted nothing else. he was cut up about it but got over it. i havn't spoken to him much lately coz i been busy. but i ran into him at the mall yesterday. we chatted for a while and today he sent me a message saying hey gorgeous, i'm thinking of you. and i dunno whats happening. n e 1 that can help it would be appreciated!!! sorry it's so long. i rate! (link)
This guy seems like a big player to me!! Stop hooking up with him, unless you don't have any feelings for him at all. And stop letting yourself be influenced by alcohol!
-Hope I helped!-
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