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this guy, everyone said he liked me and we would be cute together. I think it was messing with my head because i started to form feelings for him. i quickly brushed them away because i didn't really think i was attracted to him that much. it's been a few months and now my best friend and roommate likes him and he likes her. i feel crushed. but no one knew that i actually had feelings for him in the end. how can i cope with this?! (link)
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sorry!!! i am in the same situation and i feel so terrible!!!!!!!!
i THINK its we want to want something...
when we have it we dont like it
when we dont... were looking for it and regret...
im sad tooo.....
just gotta move on and remember your feelings in the first place... why you were not THAT attracted to him... that would ground you...
try to look for other amazing guys out there...
keep on investing in yourself, find a hobby, a new sport, read... just focus on yourself and before you know it a guy will appreciate you..
sorry!!! good luck to us!
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19/f
he is 22.
I've liked him since last august. i see him maybe every other month. but in the summer it's more like every few weeks. everytime i'm with him he gives me so much attention, hugs me first, walks me out, etc. he loves Jesus and i love that about him. he likes my statuses and pictures all the time.
but we don't text for fun or anything, maybe a little if he has a question. what does this mean?! does he even like me? why does this happen?! (link)
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you will never know unless you ask him!!
1) i think he does because he is nice to you
2) maybe he is a nice person and is nice to everyone - is he extra special to you? do you feel it?
3) what do YOU want to happen anyway?
4) maybe he likes you in a different level.. you have to make sure the feelings are the same levels all the time- thats how relationships work whether its friends, co workers, lovers, they all feel the same level and the respect is there..
go ahead ask..!! like... how are YOU ? do you have a girlfriend? stuff... check to feel first ..
good lucK!
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I've been with my boyfriend for 7 months...One month of which was when he broke up with me in late March and we got back together in late April.
When I first met him, he said something along the lines of "Girls are LUCKY if they ever meet my friends and family." I didn't give much thought to it, because I thought, well, maybe he's just saying that.
When we broke up in March, he dumped me saying I had too many demands and he couldn't provide the love that I needed. When we got back together in late April, it turned out that he said he did a lot of thinking and couldn't let me go because he "saw me in his future." Still in love with him, I got back together with him.
Well, one day, I was cleaning his room (which I HAVE NEVER done for another man in my life ever before--I wanted to show him how special he is) and I noticed two hairpins on his end table that were not mine. I also noticed that the condoms he said "he ran out and bought because he was afraid of getting me pregnant while I started the birth control pills" were suddenly gone from the windowsill where they were a week ago.....I hate to say it, but 2 months into our relationship, we weren't using condoms, and we still aren't. (I got tested last week and am clear...but now I'm rethinking the non condom thing...stupid..I know).
So, my suspicions started. The next week, alone in his room (He lets me stay alone and sleep in in his apartment when we go out sun night, or a week night while he works--I have a weird not-too-typical schedule). So, I snooped. Yes. I did:( And, in a suitcase he uses as extra storage for his clothes, I found the clinic condoms that had been taken from the windowsill along with a box of Trojans (a ten count box) with only 4 condoms left. There was also an empty Trojan wrapper in with the rest of the condoms. Along with that, were my earrings and panties I had left a week before. Keep in mind, we have not used a condom since March, and before we got back together in April he moved from one apartment to a new one. Next, yes, snooped again:(, I checked his wallet (He didn't bring it to work with him--just cash in his pocket). In his wallet was a condom and a card to an escort in the area he lives.
The following week when he got up to use the bathroom, I looked back in the wallet, and I noticed an additional condom put into the wallet (one was missing from the pocket in the suitcase) and the escort card was gone. I confronted him about all the condoms, and the wrapper, but I never mentioned the escort card--I still don't know why I didn't.
His explanations were: "Those were old clinic condoms I put back in there that we were gonna use." Then he said the box was old and he just found it recently. When I pressed him about the condom wrapper, he said it was old. I said "Then why is the lube wet in it?" He finally said, in April, before we got back together, that he slept with a one night stand from a bar, and that must be the wrapper from the one night stand. He said silicone lube can stay wet if enclosed in a dark suitcase. True. I called the condom company, and they confirmed it can happen if its in a dark place:( yes, I know, already, sounds like I don't trust him. When I asked about the wallet, he said that he carries condoms in his wallet because his brother who suffers from schizophrenia (paranoid type) checks his wallet to see if he has condoms every time he visits him to make sure that he is protected during sex because if he doesn't he'll tell the mother and the mother will get angry because he already got a girl pregnant. (I also know about his son and his sons mom--he visits every Friday, sometimes fri and sat). I said, "well doesn't your brother know we do it at your place, and you're with me?" He said, "He doesn't believe things he cannot see."
Okay, so that's that part of it. Now, he won't introduce me to his family because he says that it has to be over a year until I meet them. he says he won't introduce me to his friends because, well, before we got back together in April, he said I needed "tweaking" I told him to accept me like I am or not, and then he stopped saying that when we got back together. Then he said his friends are busy all the time, and now he says I can't meet them, because his friends are "stupid." Okay, so we go on dates, but since we've been arguing about these issues, he rarely initiates calling me/texting me--unless I ask repeatedly. He says its because, everytime I have seen him in the past two months, we have had a disagreement.
When I have confronted him, he says he does this with every girlfriend he has been with--it takes a while to meet ppl he knows.
I feel confused. The not calling, texting, and the random circumstantial evidence in his room--is it cheating? Or is it just typical guy forgetfulness sloppiness and distance from fighting too much?
And not introducing....does he really do this with everyone, or is it just with me? because I'm embarrassing, or a dirty little secret on the side? Please help! My last long term relationship was highly physically abusive (he knows this) and I just want a loving fulfilled one. Although, I still have extreme anxiety--I'm not perfect at all, either. (link)
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hi.. seriously.. isnt this all stressful for you?
i know its bothering you but think of the stress when youre together in the future...!
i think you should let go of anyone who is not giving you peace of mind...
youre snooping around is actually bad- like you dont want anyone doing that to you- and this relationship is making you do bad things... so i think youre the smarter person and let go- its SO NOT WORTH IT! there are so many guys out there... sweeter nicer ones that you desrve all the love and someone who will take care of you and make youfeel special because you ARE special and you dont deserve all this! il be praying for you.. you WILL get thru this- hard but TOUGHEN UP!!! let him know that You wont take his crap! and he cand have you anymore!
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This guy I've been talking to recently is absolutely amazing! We have this great connection and it feels so right when I'm with him. We love spending time together and have so much fun when we're with each other. He got out of a 2 year long relationship about 2 months ago, which is not long at all, and I feel he is not over his ex at all and just trying to jump into this very fast. I'm all for starting something up with him and seeing where it goes, but I don't just want to be the rebound girl. I'm not trying to push anything on him or make him commit to me in any way, I just want to see where this can go because we have such an amazing connection but I want to be sure I'm not being made a fool of. Unfortunately, I live 2 hours away from him which makes it very difficult for us to spend time together. He tells me how much he likes me and misses me and wants to see me all the time but he expects me to come up there to see him and when I ask him to come down here he says things like "I honestly wish I could", or "I want to soooo bad". So what's stopping him? Why won't he come see me if he really misses me as much as he says he does? I really like this guy and don't want to mess this up but I feel like his ex is still in the picture. I feel like they talk and see each other a lot more than I think, but he would never tells me that. My gut usually never lets me down. I want to find out how much communication or contact he has with her, but I don't know how to ask him in a casual way. Please help me out people! (link)
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Hi! I am in a sort of the same situation. It can be so stressful, i know!
For me, the best thing to do is JUST BE YOURSELF. He liked you for yourself and if he realizes that he REALLY REALLY want this to go further, he will realize it and make a move.
If he doesnt - well- that will make you tough! maybe its just not the right time yet. Maybe he has stuff to settle first- you dont want a messed up relationship with all the strings attached on ex's etc... So just give it time... enjoy your other friends other activities and whats the rush,
on a rather different thought- let him miss you too!
Do not bother yourself with irrelevant information about ex's.. its useless, believe me, you will NEVER know whats goin on in other peoples minds or hearts anyway. .. it will stress you out and waste so much of your time..and yes, believe your gut feel but also give him the benefit of the doubt..
Dont worry too much- the perfect guy at the perfect time is out there for you. Keep on praying and im sure you will not be in any trouble!
I sure hope this makes sense to you!
enjoy the weekend! :)
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This boy and I have been friends for quite a while now. We started to text as friends but then it grew on to a flirting level, I started to really like him but when I told him he went really awkward and wouldn't pay attention anymore, he would not reply to my messages. I was being a little obsessive and would not leave him alone, then he turned around and said I do not like you get it in to your mind, we argued and then I appologised and I asked to be friends and he agreed but he is still being awkward through texts when I even try to make conversation. I must admit I have fell in love with him, it feels like he has torn me apart, I don't know what to do. I thought may be friends then it would build back up because he seemed interested before. Can anyone help me on what to do or say? May be text him and say something to make him realise or.. I don't know I am confused and hurt, what should I do? Someone please help I really appreciate it (link)
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Hello my dear,
you really should follow the advice of Jess... she has the best answer...
I just wanna remind you to TRY TO FORGET HIM he doesnt deserve you!!! the perfect guy for you is just out there and its NOT him!!! ok??
youre much more smarter than him so DO NOT TEXT HIM ANYMORE!!! he is stupid to treat you that way...
KARMA WILL GET BACK TO HIM I PROMISE!!!
pray, it will make you stronger and yup, get into a new hobby... do something you have always wanted but never did... meet new people...
you WILL get over this.. youre strong!!!
DONT GIVE IN TO HIM
(i kinda know how you feel and i got over it and so i really know what yorue going thru.... you will be ok ) I PROMISE!!!!!!!!!!!
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HI Annabanna.
I just turned 22 years old very devoted Muslim. I am married with a wonderful husband. He works in IT and I am a stay at home mom who is on the internet much too often. I was raised in Jordan. We went to a very good school and Quran school. I learned to memorize most of the Quran at a young age. This is the first time I am opening up about this and REALLY need your advice/
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> My parents sent me to this Quran boarding school for girls for 3 months out of the year every year since I was very little (I was the only one accepted out of my family. my brothers and sisters leaned from the Mosque). I learned a lot. You see I lost my father when I was young (12 years) and the man who headed and taught the school and his wife where very helpful in helping me heal in ways no one ever did!! I loved my father, he was the greatest man I ever knew. I have 2 brothers and 1 sister all younger than me.
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> But Abu, the school mater, that trained me—he and I were very close, even sexually in that school. It sounds strange but we kept it secret. He was a very kind man who really knew how to teach well –whatever. His wife was the one who gave me birth control pills to save my family and myself the shame. She said she did it for other girls to. I am very grateful to her for being a mentor and confidant. We kept our sexual relationship till until my family moved to the UK. But this is a shameful thing in my past I don’t talk to people about it but now I have to because it is killing me inside. If my parents found out I would be dead DEAD. I learned ALOT about my body and sex and i am grateful to have learned these things from Abu. it was an amazing sexual experiuence over all. When I got married I lied to my husband like many of the girls I know to say I was a virgin. Otherwise I would never get married. The strange thing is that it has not bothered me or haunted me like I hear on Oprah and others who had these experiences. I do not have ill feelings toward this man and his wife. They are people I still respect because of how ethical and kind they have treated my family through out the years. They paid for all my education and my brothers and sisters as well. They provided meals for us when my mother did not have enough, etc. When we see them as a family we just pretend this stuff never happened. I never bring it up and he or his wife never do. . I asked around if anyone else had my experience and no one would talk about it. It is a very shameful thing for a Muslim Arab girl to talk about these things!! But my aunt, who is about my age, opened up to me and told me she had similar experiences with this man. She is also married now with three children and wants to leave the past in the past. She begged me not to tell anyone about him and to just leave things as they are since we both went through it and we turned out “OK”.
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> Her daughter, Cameron, my niece she is now in Jordan with my family and they are sending her to the same school to learn the Quran. Abu is still teaching there. My sister said it is best to not talk about it and let her experiernece life and sex and everything else like we did. My friends tell me to expose this man. It would be devastating to our family to bring this news out about what he did with me and the other girls because of the shame factor. I would never bring that kind of shame on him, my family or my religion. I respect him. Am I weird and crazy?? But I don’t know what to do because now Cameron is there and my family did not think twice about sending her to that school because it has such a good reputation. My American friends tell me to make my sister take Cameron out of that school as soon as yestersay. I feel so mistrable because of what they tell me I am wicked. But my experience was good over all at that school. But they make me feel horrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am depressed about this. I really want Cameron to learn from this very good school and Abu, but I don’t know what to do!! Please help me from going crazy…I don’t know what to do..i need help to think about this. I feel so judged by people. :(
PLEASE respond to jjordan2011@mail.com
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Dearest jjordan,
Hows your day going?
I am so proud of you for talking about this and letting your feelings, true feelings, out. It is a great big step and youre on your way to healing!
1) I am not a Muslim so I really dont know if I can advise you specifically about your customs and traditions. HOWEVER, I am a girl, a person like you and from the way I "feel" your letter, you are very bothered and I can understand why.
2) You have learned from your past BUT the best you can do is NOT LET THIS happen again to anyone ever again! You have to let Cameron out of the evil system (It may be the best school- but its Abu thats destroying its reputation as a good school).
3) Men should NEVER Take advantage of the position that they are in to do things to you! He is supposed to be a good example and to teach you but not do things to you that would scar you and make you guilty for the rest of your life! He is an evil person and you should let the proper authorities deal with him. DO NOT BE AFRAID. when you are doing the right thing, you will be blessed because the truth, the good triumphs over evil all the time! Your aunt has been in the same situation, so many girls too, i bet! and they are all silent, it takes a strong person like you to put this out in the open and so he will not take advantage of other innocent girls in the future! He should rot in prison and taught a lesson by skinning him alive!
I dont understand he has a wife? I just cant understand how this is going on.
I will pray for you- for strength and the courage to step up and stop the vicious cycle.
I am sure you have learned so many beautiful things and good things in the Quran like honesty? and being true to yourself... I dont know how a man can do this to girls! please YOU HAVE TO REPORT THIS!!! do not worry about what the reputation will be- YOUR REPUTATION WILL BE YOU ARE SICK AND TIRED OF THE EVIL AND WILL NOT LET IT BE! this is your chance to do good in this world. GO FOR IT!
Or maybe an anonymous letter? You can talk to someone in your church (do u have that) who can advise you how to give this man what he deserves.
Sorry for not replying in your e mail (my mail is acting up) just dont hesitate to write to me here... Good Luck!!!
Annabanana
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Hi, I'm a 16 year old guy and fairly recently became friends with a girl. We've become pretty good friends over the past few months and we both like each other. However, both her friends and my friends have been pressuring is to date. This has created a really awkward situation for both of us. We have and have planned to hang out just the two us. But like I said, it's really awkward. Any advice on what I should do?how can I bring this up to talk to her about it? I do want to date but I don't want to risk our friendship. I could really use some help here. Thanks (link)
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Well, the "date" word has been so misused etc.. so why not just hang out and do something fun during the daytime? or with your other friends? some activity that you ll both enjoy? nothing too awkward like candle light dinners etc. .. even if its just sports related, cycling together, or helping (volunteering) at a church or environment thing, something easy first then you get to know each other more and it wont be too awkward...
good luck! am sure it will turn out fine, you 2 can talk about your interests or even something you both havent done but havent found the time to do.. youll be alright!
if it works out then fine, if not, you have good memories together to share!
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Guys, I need your honest answer as to why you try so hard to be forward and let a girl know you're interested..only to go completely quit and distant one day??? I don't get it. I know this one guy who made it pretty blunt that he was into me, he was always talking and making the first text message move. And now it's like he just hasn't made any attempt to try and talk. I've texted him a few random times within the past week, and he doesn't reply. What can I do to make him go back to how he was acting? Thanks so much!! (link)
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What a loser!! I also dont know how insensitive they can be and to think we considered them as friends... they dont know what the meaning of friendship is...
These kinds of guys are just "fishing" for the right girl... its like they are talking to everyone and waiting who they want to talk to then, they use girls to fill up the spaces in their life until they decide to get to know one specific girl more than the other...
DOnt text him ever again, just let him know you DESERVE respect and replies and the way he is treating you is not right, dont reply dont text anymore, try to be busy and move on...
I dont think you can force him to go back to how he was acting though...
(i wish but it just doesnt work that way, you dont want anyone making or telling you what to do either!)
Seriously, Im also in your situation and I cant wait to read others advice for you bec i need it badly as well...
These kind of guys arent worth it and youre better off without them.
You will be alright before you know it and there are other decent respectable guys out there who deserve you!
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i became really good friends with a guy and we would text all the time. we were really close, but a few weeks ago, things started getting weird. he wouldn't talk to me, and he stopped texting me. i tried texting him once and it felt awkward. i keep waiting, thinking that he is going to try to talk again, but i'm afraid that isn't going to happen. i don't want to keep bugging him. i think i have to let him go...i just need some comfort (link)
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I am so in your situation right now... I am just telling myself, he has some other friends now. He is not worth it because he obviously was just enjoying your texting when he needs it. Forget him, youre right, he is not a true friend who you can count on when the time comes. At least you did try to contact him and "the ball is in his hands" now, he can come up with a thousand excuses but you know they are just lies if he ever replies ... You reached ut, thats enough. Just think that at least you found out what kind of a person he really is.
Its Not that bad, there will be lots of other guys and genuine friends out there... Just be your usual good self and good thinbgs will come back to you. THese kind of people will end up with NO friends with the way they treat the people who care about them, you will be better off in the long run without him.
I think you just miss him and the time you check your phone and there is nothing, you always check.... so i suggest, get into a hobby, clean up your room, help someone in a project, bake cookies or something to keep your mind off him and youll be alright before you know it!
Good luck! message me if youre missing again and want to text someone or if youre bored!
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I don't know what's wrong with me, but I ALWAYS seem to go after the guys who are either in a relationship, or in this case married. There's this married guy, only two years older than me, so it's not like he's old or anything, who has been giving me some pretty strong signals. We flirt all the time. And it's reached the point where I'm actually wanting to hook up with him due to all the sexual attraction. What do I do? I know it's wrong because he's married...but he's not making it easy on me to just forget about it. So what are some things that we can do to go beyond flirting but not full on cheating? (link)
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Have you ever heard of the golden rule?
Do NOT do unto others what you dont want others to do unto you...
pretty simple, do you want a nice, happy, peaceful life? then dont bug and get into a mess in others lives.. its so not fair and its not right. You wouldnt want this to happen to your life, so try to find someone who is available and im sure there is someone there. You know what is right to do, stop this with the married guy. Its really not right. Be strong, dont cause any more trouble. Dont be like eve did to adam... dont be a bad example for others.
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why can't a guy text a girl without being a total creep? Every guy that texts me either want to have phone sex with me or talks about sex in general and asks me personal questions about my sex life. I'm a virgin. I plan on waiting atleast until I find the right person. I don't want to have phone sex with some random. I know the guys that are texting me, like they go to my school but I never talk to them in person. Why can't a guy just be friends with a girl? I'm 17 btw if that matter. I know that's all guys think about at that age but seriously how can they expect to get any if they're that creepy? I want a guy best friend, why is that so hard to find?!?! (link)
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My dear, how are these kind of guys able to get your phone number? please be very careful because, youre right, they ARE creeps! and you never know what evil they have in their minds, especially if they dont get what they want. So first, try to NOT give your number , just give a different number jumble the numbers IF someone you dont know or like asks for it.. (better yet give the number of the police station!) second,Im glad youre a virgin, stay that way bec i am too and i am reserving it when i get married. You should be friends with the person you give your phone number to... you might want to check your image in school, try to dress a bit conservatively, hang out with the good girls, because maybe the guys are getting mixed signals from you (sorry, i dont know you, just thinking of why they are doing this aside from they are really creeps)...I am sure you will be able to find your guy best friend who is not sleazy or creepy or just want you for their own pleasure..there still are good guys out there, they are just in a different crowd... You are in the right track, just hang on, be good and good things will happen to you! wishing you all the best!
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is it wrong to be friends with my ex when i have a boyfriend right now? we only dated a few months and broke up BECAUSE we were better off as friends. im sure it makes my boyfriend slightly uncomfortable, but my ex is a pretty good friend. we dont hang out, mostly just text. not hiding anything. opinions? (link)
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Just think of the golden rule, IF you were your boyfriend, would you feel uncomfortable, threatened, or weird if the girl youre with is still friends with her ex?
It is so true, jealusies, dramas etc can still surface...
usually, (since there is karma) we think of respecting the people around us, close to us, by doing what we dont want to be done to ourselves...
this might help...
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about two months agoo, i started talking to this guy we would txt 24/7. he would always txt me first like always! he would call me cute and beautiful and a bunch of cute things. i felt like he liked me cuz he would ask for kisses and stuff . at school he looked happy to see me and he always hugged me alot. but then i had a feeling that he was trying to flirt with someone else so i kind of lost interest in him so i won\'t get hurt yu know? & i couldnt do it so i txted him and he was txting weird he didnt put smileys or anything and it was just the awkward type of convos. i dont know why but that made me feel like he didnt want to talk to me. but then at school he still hugs me the same and everything and its been a amonth kinda that he hasnt txted me at all! but i dont wanna txt him cuz i dont wanna bug whyyy is it that he doesnt txt me anymore or he doesnt txt the same when i txt him? plezzz help! (link)
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aw, its hard when we miss the attention, I really am not sure but I guess he is texting someone else now?
You can FEEL, the gut feel you have is protecting you and you should listen to it.. If you were the one with a friend texting you but you didnt feel like it, would you reply or still be all nice and friendly?
am sorry but maybe he just lost interest like what you said u did too..
IF HE TREASURED YOUR FRIENDSHIP, HE WOULD CONTINUE NURTURING IT BY KEEPING IN TOUCH AND knowing how things are with you. So thats it. true friends care.
Do u think he is worth it? you might just get hurt in the end if he is hot and cold and so unpredictable or flirting with other girls,...
i suggest keep busy, find other friends out there and just be the good person that you are! have a great day!
If he texts you fine, dont start the texting!!
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I'm 21/female 5 feet tall. Normally when I buy pants I buy a size three and just hem the pants.. I have trouble finding petite sizes in stores.. and I'm thinking about buying some online.. however the petite sizes jump from a 4 to a 6.. and I'm a three in average pants.
Does anyone know if I'd be a four in petite if I'm normally a three in average size??
please help! Its been so hard for me to find new pants! (link)
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Hi! i suggest just buy online if you have the exact thing you just wanna buy again.. like if youre sure..
ALWAYS TRY JEANS ON in the store, walk and bend and ask friends!!
Youd be always using these jeans and there will be photos so you want a realy nice fit..
better safe than sorry!
good luck!
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im 15 i`m in my in my final year of school 4 years ago i started cutting myself wen my mum got attacked and confined to a wheel chair a year ago i found out my dad wasnt my dad it was actually a bipolar drug addict who beat my mum and forgot i had been born...just under a year ago i tried to kill my self my friends and family think im better but in fact i want to die more than ever i know i should tell them but i just cant they will send me back in to counciling and the process will repeat its self every time i cut they gt deeper and i know i wont be strong enough to control my self when things get to much i dont know what to do anymore i just need help. what should i do? (link)
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My dear,
Im Anna and i am sorry for all you had to go through...It is not right to kill yourself. You will go to hell and that is ETERNAL PUNISHMENT~~ really bad place to be!
Jesus made you because he loves you so much and he gave you suffering so you can offer it to him and be good so you can go to heaven with Him when you really die naturally. do not be selfish- try to see the whole world, others have it FAR WORSE than you have- seriously... and why dont you help other people and you will feel better.... try answering some of the columns here.. other kids need your help too! and they would be happy if you can think of them also!
THERE IS A REASON FOR EVERYTHING we may not know it yet but there is.
Say this prayer with me:
LORD, WHEN I LOOSE HOPE BECAUSE MY PLANS HAVE COME TO NOTHING, HELP ME TO REMEMBER THAT YOUR LOVE IS ALWAYS GREATER THAN MY DISAPPOINTMENTS AND YOUR PLANS FOR MY LIFE ARE ALWAYS BETTER THAN MY DREAMS. aMEN.
You will be alright, distract yourself, keep busy doing something for others and il be praying for you too...
go talk to a priest in confession, you dont have to be catholic or anything, just try to open up to a priest about your situation and i really wish you well!
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My bf is coming over tomarrow and just a while ago he asked me if we could have sex i was gonna hang up but then i startled and said yes! He got happy and said he loves me and wont try to hurt me then he said he was coming over tomarrow! should i trust him ? Should i have sex with him? Im a 13 yr old girl and my bf is 16...and plz no hurtful words i just need advice! :3 thnxs (link)
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listen to the 2 advices!! please!! Sex is NOT LOVE!!! its just another bodily function to MAKE KIDS!!!!
ask him if thats what he wanted- to make and raise kids with you!
THe fact that you are asking is a good sign that you are unsure and when you are not sure you are better off NOT DOING ANYTHING BECAUSE YOURE STILL VERY YOUNG!!!!!
do not give him the satisfaction!!
my advice, go somewhere there are LOTS OF PEOPLE< tell him, you DO NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX because you wnt it to be special when youre married and ready to raise kids, see his reaction and decide if he is worth keeping as a friend! DO NOT BE ALONE WITH HIM IN A ROOM EVER!!!! EVER!!!!! PROMISE????
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Hello,
I was just wondering what age did you have sex and why?
Also if you're a virgin would you wait until marriage if so why? (link)
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ok my answer would be different.
Im 33 still a virgin.
Reasons:
(1) i wanted to know if the guy wanted me for pleasure or for who i really am...if hes willing to wait till wedding night..
(2)I am afraid to have a baby all the stress of not being prepared.
(3) I wanted my children to know that I am a responsible person so i can put that pressure on them when the time comes!
(4)I wanted to wear white on my wedding day.
(5) I didnt want my soul to go to hell by abusing the function of sex as making babies to serve my physical satisfaction.
(6) I find the whole act too invasive, too personal...
(7)I didnt want to get any yucky diseases
(8)There are so much more things to do out there!!
i hope that helped somehow!! :)
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So I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year and a half, and lately he's been poking other girls over Facebook. He knows that this upsets me, but he continues to do it anyways saying "it's no big deal, it's just poking". I see poking as a way of him flirting and giving other girls attention, am I crazy? Or is it wrong for him to be poking other girls? Especially when he knows it upsets me (link)
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You deserve someone who would respect your opinion. Im sure if a guy told you what he didnt want you to do, you will respect him and not do it right? so he should respect you too. You are right, it is flirting! he should focus all his attention to YOU and not anyone else, make YOU feel special and others just regular friends... im sure he would hate it if you poked and gave other boys attention! right? So tell him, you are not pleased and would not accept this crap. He is right, its "just poking" in fb but if you give in to this attitude NOW what else can he be doing next time? "just texting" "just dating" "just sleeping with...?" see? ground rules NOW or NOTHING! good luck!! you deserve better!!!
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Im 16/male and i want a friend like that
I mean like we can hang out and just chill together without any attachments and still do sexual stuff
Im tired of relationships that wont last so i decided maybe i should try this
I hope theres a girl out there willing to try it with me. (link)
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the abovementioned advices? they are all right. listen to them.
You should find a good friend. A GOOD friend to share other activities with.
the "friends with benefits" thing is just so selfish, youre just thinking of your own satisfaction, HOW WOULD YOU THINK GIRLS WOULD LIKE THAT?
its so gross, yorue just using them then?
would YOU want to be like that? just USED and dumped? youre not a sex doll, you got feelings!!! youre human!! someone is meant for you out there, take it easy and it will be alright!!!
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There is this guy I like and I thought he seemed interested in me to but as I'm now realizing he talks to many other girls too. He calls and texts me a lot but I'm not the only one. Maybe I'm over reacting but I don't like that. I don't want to waste my time if he's just going after everyone. What would you do? (link)
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OMG! I thought you were me!!
I feel so the same RIGHT this very moment.. am sad too....
well, we do deserve exclusivity and all the attention of a wonderful guy, if he wants to "play the field" then let him, our prince charming will come soon before we even know it, meanwhile we have to be busy and happy with other activities to get over this jerk....
Just think of him as a friend with no future... you dont know when you will need him or what but do NOT EXPECT anything good will happen with you two because IM WARNING YOU if you do become boyfriend-girlfriend, he WILL TILL be entertaining other girls because he is used to this!! and who will be devastated ? YOU! and we dont want that! so take it easy, let him be and keep busy... it will be ok, we will be fine!!! :) you can tell me how it goes..dont hesitate to write back!
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