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Should I just end this now before I get hurt?
This guy I've been talking to recently is absolutely amazing! We have this great connection and it feels so right when I'm with him. We love spending time together and have so much fun when we're with each other. He got out of a 2 year long relationship about 2 months ago, which is not long at all, and I feel he is not over his ex at all and just trying to jump into this very fast. I'm all for starting something up with him and seeing where it goes, but I don't just want to be the rebound girl. I'm not trying to push anything on him or make him commit to me in any way, I just want to see where this can go because we have such an amazing connection but I want to be sure I'm not being made a fool of. Unfortunately, I live 2 hours away from him which makes it very difficult for us to spend time together. He tells me how much he likes me and misses me and wants to see me all the time but he expects me to come up there to see him and when I ask him to come down here he says things like "I honestly wish I could", or "I want to soooo bad". So what's stopping him? Why won't he come see me if he really misses me as much as he says he does? I really like this guy and don't want to mess this up but I feel like his ex is still in the picture. I feel like they talk and see each other a lot more than I think, but he would never tells me that. My gut usually never lets me down. I want to find out how much communication or contact he has with her, but I don't know how to ask him in a casual way. Please help me out people!
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Hi! I am in a sort of the same situation. It can be so stressful, i know!
For me, the best thing to do is JUST BE YOURSELF. He liked you for yourself and if he realizes that he REALLY REALLY want this to go further, he will realize it and make a move.
If he doesnt - well- that will make you tough! maybe its just not the right time yet. Maybe he has stuff to settle first- you dont want a messed up relationship with all the strings attached on ex's etc... So just give it time... enjoy your other friends other activities and whats the rush,
on a rather different thought- let him miss you too!
Do not bother yourself with irrelevant information about ex's.. its useless, believe me, you will NEVER know whats goin on in other peoples minds or hearts anyway. .. it will stress you out and waste so much of your time..and yes, believe your gut feel but also give him the benefit of the doubt..
Dont worry too much- the perfect guy at the perfect time is out there for you. Keep on praying and im sure you will not be in any trouble!
I sure hope this makes sense to you!
enjoy the weekend! :)
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Alrighty. Well, you got a tough one there. I think you should wait a little longer for ANYTHING to happen. Firstly, because I'm sure you want to be taken seriously. I feel that with what you've said, if you go out or try to be a little more than friends, you might end up being that on and off again girl for him. I think you should open up a little, and ask him about her. Do you know why they broke up? This could be something important that might help you figure out what to do. If he broke up because she cheated, I'm pretty sure he wants nothing to do with her. But if they broke up because of distance, there still might be feelings between them. Now, what I suggest is you put yourself in his shoes once you have enough information to do so. By doing this, you'll understand him a little better. As for the connection, you might have all the connection and smiles and laughs in the world, but without trust no relationship works. If you feel this way about him, just talk to him. Be straight up and open instead of beating around the bush. Good luck, remember! You are beautiful, you are important and you are worth so much more than you think! Much love {:
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