Hey!
I live in Canada and I'm teen. I've been through a lot of stuff with my friends over the last few years and I always try to give my insight into their problems (sometimes even when they don't really want it lol).
I've realized that over time I have accumulated a lot of questions about moving on, so if you have a question about that, lay it on me!!
I don't think that ratings matter, and that you should choose someone to trust your question with, that will answer it with care, but show you what the world really is and wont sugar coat it.
I hope you guys find my advice helps, hope to talk soon!! :D
Angie
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Im18/f and my cousin is 17/f.My cousin and i have been best friends like foreverr and in the past few years shes been kinda mean to mee. not really treating me like a good friend. but ive always forgiven her. And shes always the one who gets the guys and alwayss flirts with them and i have never had a bf beforee. Shes more outgoing and im kinda shyy. but this passed december she gave this guy my phone number for his friend and me and his friend started talking and we started to like each otherr. and i was so happy becasue i actually thought that i would get a bf and then on christmas when she was over my house she asked me for his phone number and i gave it to her. and she texted him and they started talkng and the three of us hung out at her house one dayy. and i kind of noticed that maybe they like each otherr. then he asked me why i told his friend why i liked him just as a friedn and i said that i want to be just friends for noww cause i felt like i didnt know him that well yett. so then he started talking to my cousin and he told me that he liked herr and then i found out that she liked him and now they are going outt. and one time she talked about me to my other cousin who im reallly close with and she said some mean stufff. and now the guyy is such an asshole all of a sudden.i mean i dont like him anymore or anything but it just pisses me off that they both got what they wanted. and i didnt do anything to either of themm. and me and my cousin havent talked or anything in like a month.
what should i doo? please hellppp. (link)
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Hey!
This has happened to me before. Friends can be jerks sometimes. but the funny thing is, they sometimes don't even seem to know that they are doing it.
First of all lets talk about the guy, because thats easier. He's an idiot. he didnt realise that you are a totally awesome girl that he could be with. Guys tend not to be patient, and they go for the girl that is quicker, rather than the girl that is sweet and sensitive. It sucks, but it isnt always going to be liek that. Someday soon, you will meet a great guy, and he's going to be willing to take things slowly. So do me a favour, dont worry about this jerk, because you giving him a second thought(good or bad) is just like giving those guys more power. They do it to girls all the time, and it really should stop, but its not going to stop by you paying any attention to it.
Now for your friend/cousin. Okay, well there are two ways to deal with this. One, you can give up on the friendship and never talk to her again, or two, you can be a good person and step up to try and fix it.
For the first one, well it's pretty self explanitory. She treats you badly, whats the point of having a person like that in your life?
For the second one, though you hate the way she treats you, she is you cousin/friend and you love her, she just hurt you really badly. You need closure. you need to tell her what happened, tell her why you are upset, tell her that she can't do that to you. But you also need to forgive her. you need to be the big person. tell her she screwed up, but you want to try and make amends. she may not treat that well, but then revert back to the first option. if she doenst care enough about your friendship to try and change, well then she isnt worth worrying about. maybe she is just being immature, and if thats the case, then she will grow up and realise that she was an idiot. It will happen eventually, but you can never predict when it will be.
If everything works out and she makes an attempt to change, but quickly reverts back, gently tell her what she is doing, and if that doesnt work, then again, see choice one. you have to remember how awesome you are. She is lucky to have you, and if she can't see that, then its not worth it. it just isnt worth it. I know you want to try and fix things, and hopefully this time it can be fixed, but sometimes it just isnt meant to be. it'll be really sad it that is the case, but just remember what a great person you are you don't need her to make you that great person, and you definitely don't need her bringing you down.
I've been through this before and I know its tough, but you'll get through this, don't worry okay? Good luck. And I hope I helped! Love ya,
angie91
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sorry angie i havent been on here for a while alots been going on. for starters me and my boyfriend are doing very good since the last time i talked to you about what was happening. we worked everything out and were good. he left to the navy on 02/11 hes in boot camp right now in illinois. and hes not allow to talk on the phone or anything. the last time we spoke was on the 02/13 for like 30 secs. because thats all the time they gave him, and now i wont here from him until 2 weeks from now. i really sad because we had everything good and i really MISS him ALOT!!! = [ i didnt know it would be this hard but it is, and the plans that we talked about previously before he left he still wants to go ahead with them when he gets back. what i wanna do is move to pensacola to take up a police academy and college and become a cop and my best friend since 6th grade lives up there and when we were in middle school her dad and my mom were really good friends and she use to live with me and her dad said if i come up there i can stay there rent free. but the only problem is my mom is trying to stop me from going. i told her everythings set, my mom just doesnt want to let me go and i hate that she keeps holding on to me telling me im not going i can stay with here and take up the academy but i dnt i wanna move i want to start my life the way i want to. with my boyfriend whos also going to be in pensacola as part of his boot camp and hes going to pick to be stationed in jacksonville. i really want to get out of my house. and i really think im going to do!!! (link)
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Hey!
First of all, I'm really sorry, I know that you asked me this a long time ago, but I've just been soo busy lately.
Okay, so I have a few small pieces of advice for you. The first thing is, I need to picture something. You sound like an optimist, which is really great, its soo much better to be an optimist than a pesimist. However, once in a while, you need to look at the situation from a different point of view. Think about your life in a worst case senario type of view for a minute. Think of what will happen if you move to Pensacola (Or jacksonville? Sorry I'm canadian, I have no idea where we're talking, it's probably like really well known, lol my guess would probably be really off of where it really is :P). What if you can't get into the police academy? what happens if you and your boyfriend break up (Eek.)? What happens if you can't get a job as a police officer in jacksonville (?)? What if you for some reason can't stay at the friend's parent's house? What happens if you need to start paying rent and you don't have enough money? what if your boyfriend isnt able to be stationed in jacksonville? These are just a few of many of the things that could potentially happen. And your mother is probably thinking of all of these things. You have to understand, she cares about you, and it may seem that she just wants to keep you in her watch, to ruin your life, but she wants you to stay because she thinks thats whats best for you. What you need to do, is think of all of the answers to those questions and many more. then give the answers to your mom. Tell her to be patient and respectful. Tell her that you arent trying to do this to go against her, that this is your dream. then explain it all to her and see what she says. she may not take it well, but you have your life thought out, (Once you plan for all of the possibilities that is) so its really up to you.
Making a choice like this is a really big decision, so you can't treat it lightly. Over think everything!!!
As far as you and your boyfriend. I dont know if you can email or write him, but what I would do, is I would write an email to him everyday (Even if you can't send it). My best friend went away for a while and I really missed her, so every day I wrote an email to her. They were massive and long and just talked about my day and what was going on in my life. The stuff I would tell her if she was with me. i still managed to send them to her, but I doubt that she read them all, there were a lot. It was just a way to keep her closer to me while she was gone. So basically even if you can't talk to him everyday, you can still pretend that you are talking to him. It sounds kind of lame, but trust me, it works.
I hope that answers your question, keep me posted okay? I promise I'll get back to you faster next time. Good luck, love ya lots!
Angie91
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my breasts have gotten a large amount of like
stretch marks on them
and i haven't even gained weight or anything
and i've been growing pretty steadily
why do i have this?
i hate it so muchhh! (link)
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Hey!
The size of breasts increase and decrease constantly over growing years. You don't necessarily have had to have gained weight for them to grow, thats just how they work.
Mine have stretch marks on them, aparently, over time they start to fade and even disappear, but everyone has them so don't sweat it.
You can try the creams, I have, but they are like those wrinkle creams, and 90% of them are scams. Plus, it hurts to rub them in if your breasts are sore or whatever.
I'm pretty sure that you can get them surgically removed with Lazer surgery. But I wouldnt do that until you were like 30 and they are done changing. But like I said, they may go away by then.
So there isnt really much I can say for you to do. It sucks, everyone hates it, but thats one of the downsides of life :(
Hope I helpped,
Love ya
angie91
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well this just started happening to me.well when i mess up something i get really upset and i don't know why. and it is very stupid like.if i mess up my nails or cause i have these beads in my room so when i go to put my clothes away the hangers get stuck so i just start ripping them down.please help i don't want to tell any of my family. (link)
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Hey!
Its probably a hormonal thing. I have days where I just freak out for no reason. No matter what age you are (but especially in the teens) you have a lot of mood issues. If you feel like crying for no reason, then just let it all out. watch a sad movie and let the emotions flow. or if you are angry about the hangers and the beads just let it all out. Turn up the loud music and scream into your pillow.
Try and find something thatcan help you get that anger out, such as a sport, or class. If it helps you to get active, you will burn some of your energy and it will help you to get the anger out. I would suggest like karate or something. But on the other hand, an art class would get the emotions flowing. try a crative writting class, or try writing in a diary. Add that to what the other girl said about destressing, take some me time everyday, and you should start to feel better, but if you dont, well then you are just being hormonal, we all do it. We all need to just have those days. Keep me posted though, if it gets any worse or changes at all okay?
I hope I helped,
love ya!!
angie91
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What ar some things my sister (10) do to make this one boy like her. He is her first crush and she really wants him to like her! So what can she do to make him like her a little more? She is a natral tomboy so that might make him like her a little more! Thanks to whoever answers this. (link)
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Hey!
Well they're ten, so they probably wont be out dating or anything. I remember when we were like twelve my best friend asked out the guy she liked and he said no because he didnt want to start dating that young. I would tell her to try and work up to confidence to hang out with him. Talk about things that he likes, liek sports or trading cards, or whatever ten year old guys like (she would know better than you and I would). Tell her to pass him notes in class or eat lunch with him or whatever. Tell her to ask to be included in whatever he does at recess or whatever and try and join in on stuff he does with his friends. If she makes friends with his friends then she is more likely to get included in things that involve him. Tell her to try and just act natural, it'll be hard, but at least it'll be good practice for all the guys in her future. Remind her not to act too fast, shes only ten, but she is definitely ready to start the whole crushing process. Good luck to your sister, and hope I helped, Love ya,
Angie91
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16/f sophomore.
hello :D
okay, well here's my problem. i don't have one PARTICULAR group of friends and my friends are all split in different groups. i, myself, am mixed in all of them. so as you can tell, it's very confusing. and well, most of my friends don't get along with eachother and they talk bad about one another. most of them aren't even friends. but i'm their mutual friend, so their problems with eachother pass through me. and i have to side with people. like for group projects and stuff. and i don't know WHO to side with sometimes. what kind of judgement should one use in this case.....like for instance. friend a, friend b and me were going to the library to do some research. they both hate eachother and talk behind eachother's back to ME and they expect me to choose who i want to go with tomorrow.
i can't do that. i like them both.
ahh, help please? (link)
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Hey!
I am in the EXACT same position.I hate that my friends all think that they can bad mouth one another in front of me. I hate that they dont see the position that they are putting me in.
I remember for my sweet sixteenth last year I had to invited three distinct groups of friends and I was worried that it would be a disaster, I almost thought about having two separate parties, but my best friend talked some sense into me. They have to learn how to treat other people and if they are asses at my party, then they arent real friends. So I sat most of my friends down one on one to talk to them. I told them how I felt, that it was embarrassing for me when they would do things to my other friends, that it hurt my feelings when they were like that. They often said that they didnt even know they were doing it (I think thats crap.. but you never know). My party ran fairly smoothly and there were only a few small incidents. I gave my friends a stern look and told them that they had to be nice or they had to get out. they all love me though so that was all it took. tell your friends that if they want to be your friend they have to realise that they have to share you and that involves being nice.
as far as tomorrow, tell them that you cant choose between your friends and if they are making you choose then they arent really very good friends. it may come as a smack in the face to them, and they may be alittle pissed for a bit but they treat you unfairly. its been almost a year since my sweet sixteenth and I still have issues, I have accepted that they will never be best friends, but they try to respect me and get along. So I do my part to spread my time with them out equal, and dont force my friends on one another. you can spend on day with A and another with B, dont try to force them both to be together, but tell them that if they have a problem with the other maybe they should tell the other person not you, because dissing people doesnt fly around you. Then stick to your word and dont let it happen. if A disses b to your face, get up and leave. its durastic, but it will work. eventually. I've been there, and liek I said, there is stil some progress to be made, but slowly it will get better, let me know if you need anymore advice! I hope I helped,
Love ya,
angie91
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Ok so I have a problem with my stomach growling...very loudly.
I eat breakfast everyday...a piece of toast and a glass or milk or juice at like 6am. And by 10am. or so I feel like I am starving. My stomach growls so loudly the whole class can hear it and it is really embarassing. I'm not really allowed to snack on food during school, I mean I could if I have to, but I don't see other people doing it. I don't know what to do. And I am also going on a diet. Any ideas/help?
14/gurl/USA (link)
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hey!
Mine growels a lot, so usually what I do is carry a container of crackers or something around in my purse. when ever it starts to growel I just grab one. teachers usually don't mind, but I remember when I was in junior high they did and then I would just chew gum. Chewing gum does work to an extent, because your stomach thinks that its eating something when it isnt. try and eat larger breakfast, and liek I said, snacking is really best, but if you cant then hopefully gum will help.
As far as the diet, you're prolly thinking um snacking is bad when you're on a diet, but it is a good idea to snack, eating six or seven times a day is optimal to two or three as long as you eat something healthy, carrot sticks, celery, whole wheat non salted crackers, cheerios (plain) a pickle, something like that. the more often that you eat the less that your stomach thinks that it is fasting, when it thinks it is fasting then it starts to store fat, that is why eating mroe often can actualy make u lose weight, just watch what you eat and how much you eat of it. I did that and lost weight pretty easily. let me know if you need more diet ideas etc. I can give you a hand there. As far as the stomach thing there isnt all that much you can do, just try and keep it happy, so it doesnt growel. also, on the conterary to popular belief, sometimes your stomach isnt growelling because its hungry, but because its digesting, so dont go and automatically feed it when it does that. see how full you feel first.
Good luck witht he diet, I hope I helped, love ya
angie91
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16/f
ive had a crush on this guy for almost a year now, and we just recently starting going out. i am very happy with this, i mean we are like perfect for eachother ((atlest i think)) and its been two days by the way. after he asked me out him and i were on the phone for another two hours. i asked him "so are we serious now?" and he was like "yes, i really want to start a relationship with you, i mean i really like you. i have somse things i need to srot out in my life, and ive never had a girlfriend in school before so i dont know how this is going to work, but for now, lets not tell anyone." so ive only told a few people that i can trust who wont tell, and they haven't. this guy and i are hanging out this weekend and we are only to relaly have a relationship outside of school even though we go to the same school. does this mean that he doesn't want to be my boyfriend? or does he just want ot be friends with benefits? (link)
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Hey!
Well I think that you should ask him why he wants to keep it a secret. use your judgement, if it seems like a pretty vaild reason then wait out for a bit, but if it seems like he is just using you then tell him to come back when he wants a public relationship. If he doesnt want people to know about you, either he is embarrassed by you, he has someone else on the side that he doesnt want to find out about you, and both of those are kind of crappy. on the other side, he might not want to get caught up in the whole teenage dating thing, and just wants to chill. You should talk to him though and find out what he things. If you want more help let me know, hope I helped, good luck,
love ya!
Angie91
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im 15/f and i like this 17/m.
we both go to the same school. he is a senior and i am a sophmore. yeah i know it seems pointless, and your probably saying to yourself that im dumb because he will graduate with in a few months. I really really like him though and he really really likes me. He has asked me to be his "girlfriend" ..so ill put it, and i said no because i feel i will just be heartbroken in the end because he is graduating. The thing is though I really want to go out with him and be his girlfriend but I have horrible realtionship issues, and I feel i will become attached and it will all just go down hill from there. I really need some advice please help me if you can. Thank you so much. (link)
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Hey!
Well first of all, you arent stupid for liking him. and second of all, theres nothing writen in stone that every highschool graduate dumps his younger girlfriend. Maybe it is a long shot, but you cant go into something thinking it will end. And third of all, you will regret it if you dont go for it. I mean, maybe you think that it will end and you're get heart broken, but even if you last right up until september, thats seven months of fun times with him that you wont have if you dont put yourself out there, and think about it this way, if you start dating some sophomore, theres nothing saying that he wont dump you in three weeks because theres some new chick in his life. Its up to you to decide, but remember nothing ventured, nothing gained. This could potentially be the man of your dreams and you're letting fear get in the way, maybe you will get hurt, but everyone has to get hurt once in a while, otherwise no one would ever date anyone.
I think you're jumping the gun with the relationship issues, I think you should try it, if you have issues, let me know and I'll give you more advice, but take it one step at a time, and if you wanna go out with this guy, GO FOR IT!!
Good luck, and I hope you make the right decision for you. Hope I helped, love ya,
Angie91!
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lifes been sucking lately
dont like my friends
not over my ex
its been a month since the breakupp
hate where i live
ive tried expressing myself inn many ways
songs
poems
quotes
talking to "friends" even though they dont try to help and talked shyt about me the day after we broke up about how me talking about it and being depressed was so annoying.
my grades havent been good
i feel like i suck at everything
yes, sadly enough i tried writing a list of my good qualities and talents and no, it did not help whatsoever.
i dont know how else i can handle myself.
ive been trying to convince myself that ive moved on from my ex but i know its a way to cover upp that empty spot that always made me feel good.
how else can i deal with this
im a wreck inside.
thankss;
Xxhopeless (link)
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Hey!
I'm going to take a shot at answering this question, hopefully if I give you my best answer it will help alittle bit
In the society we live in, we tend to find our selves comparing our lives to those of others. You said that you arent over your ex and its been a month since the break up. You must have the preconceived notion that you should be over him and on to someone new by now, when in reality, seeing as you are obviously a sensitive caring person, its only been a month. We all move on at our own rate, even if he has moved on, doesnt mean you should be already. I'd say that it would be normal for you to still have feelings for him three or four months from now maybe even longer.
Usually my first suggestion as far as confidence would be to write the list of your qualities, but I see that didnt work, thats okay though, different things work for different people. Instead, I would write a list of your goals. Make one for the ones that you doubt you will ever reach (become the president of the united states) and another for the achievable ones (bring up my grades!!) Then work to achieve them. Achieving goals will help you to find self worth, and even if its a simple goal like, go to bed before eleven tonight, when you acheive it you still feel alittle bit happier. Little things make a difference. I know you're thinking um... thats pretty much the same as my other list and that didnt work, well if you arent willing to try my ideas, why ask for advice?
As far as expressing yourself, maybe you havnt found the right form yet. I would suggest joining an art class (preferably a performing arts one, because drama, acting, musical theatre, etc. encourage putting yourself out there, and expressing yourself using confidence. I use to have REALLY low self esteem, I joined musical theatre, I am not perfect, but I feel SO much better today. it may not seem like it would help you, but I'm 95% sure it will at least a bit. Anyone I've ever met in my drama classes has great self esteem and confidence) and learning a long with a lot of other people. (I'm not going to say make new friends, but you never know who you might stumble across in a class).
Another twist on the qualities thing, instead of listing off twenty different qualities at once, in the morning when you get ready, look in the mirror for ten seconds and just smile. It might be hard at first, but just think of a really happy time. Seeing yourself smiling might make you think more positively.
As far as your friends go, try and make yourself into the perfect best friend. dont diss them, take whatever they throw at you, and try and to be as great of a friend to them as possible even if they dont return the feelings. You learn from what you experience.
Xxhopeless, you need to be a good friend to yourself too. (you're probably thinking wtf is wrong with this chick shes soooo corney). When ever you feel yourself saying "oh my god I suck at everything!" or "I have no good qualities" be the good friend to yourself and defend yourself. "um, what are you talking about, I am great at being myself" or "Um, I have the ability to ask for help when I need it,". Even those little things are confidence builders. And like I said, the little things help.
You need someone to share your feelings with whether it be yourself in the future (A journal) or someone who you totally don't even know (someone on the internet) or someone you do know who listens (fill in the blank). The longer you keep this all inside the longer it will eat you up inside and the longer you will feel this way.
Remember, you arent alone in this, no matter how alone you feel, and there are always twists on the things I already described, something has to work eventually. I havnt given up on you, so dont give up on yourself. I'm glad you made it this far in my long ass piece of advice, but that was the easy part, now its time to take action and do something about it. Good luck, and I hope I helped, let me know if you need anything or you need to talk or w.e.
Love ya,
Angie91
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Do you know the show Greek on abc family? is it coming back?!
THANKYOU. (link)
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Hey!
I just wanted to answer this because wikipedia has a tendancy to have made up information, anyways, I went to the ABC family site, and Wikipedia is right new episodes will be showing on monday march 24th :D!!
heres the ABC link so you can see for yourself :) :
http://abcfamily.go.com/abcfamily/path/section_Shows+Greek/page_Detail
also, you can go to IMBD (internet movie database) and find out more about the upcoming episodes if you want to know more:
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0976014/episodes
Hope that answers your question! love ya,
angie91
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Please don't mind with how long this is. I really need help. I can't even sleep anymore. It's really bothering me, and I can't get help from anywhere else. So I thought this would be the right sight.
At the beginning of the school year, I went out with this guy for 2 weeks. It didn't work out being "together together", so we're just really close friends. He still has feelings for me though after 6 months. Anyways, after him, I went out with this other guy. He didn't treat me right at all. But yet, we went out for two months and I am still IN LOVE with him. I don't know why but it's unbareable. Well he broke up with me for my best friend. But then he realized how wrong he was, and wanted to get back together. I was going to but then he threw something at me and I had a huge red mark and he just laughed and didn't say sorry. So, I am just completely ignoring this guy, I know he's not worth my time. So my best friend now that still likes me..We have been hanging out soo much lately, and he is seriously like the perfect package. He's tall, great body, best personality in the world, and just everything. He's been there for me through everything, even though I went out with another guy. He was just always there. I really want to like this guy. So badly. But I don't? I still am in love with my ex-boyfriend. And I don't want to like him at all. It's so hard for me. Why am I liking the wrong guy? Why am I not liking this guy that I know is perfect for me. Just what should I do, my ex still likes me, and still wants to get back together so maybe that's whats drawing me back to him? I don't know, but just please give me any advice you can. (link)
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Hey!
Ex's can be like bad habits. They're hard to break. you know that he treats you like crap, but you still love him. You need to tell yourself that it is time to move on. I think that if I were you, I would go out with your friend and see if the attraction comes with time, if it doesnt, then tell him that you just love him as a friend.
Going out with someone other than your exs will help to free you from the hold they have on you and you can learn what its like to have someone who treats you right.
To answer your question about why you like the wrong guys, there is something programmed into you that says who you are attracted to, and for you, its saying that you like the bad guys who treat you liek crap, you need to break that cycle and see what its like to date other guys, however, you cant choose who you like, so dont try and push yourself into likeing him.
Dont stress about not being able to get over the ex, it takes time for these things, ignoring him is a good start, but let me know if you need some "get over him" tips. I've got a lot, but in most cases, it just takes time.
Try and relax okay? Worrying about who to like so much is pointless, its okay to be single for a bit to, try and let whatever happens happen. in the end you're just gonna look back on all of this and say, hey I survived it.
I'll probably be hard for a bit, but you'll get through this okay? let me know if you need anything else alright? good luck and I hope you figure this all out. Hope I helped,
love ya,
angie91
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two years of drama but i'm going to try to make it short.
16/f
two years ago i liked my best friend. i liked him so bad and the butterflies were so strong i felt like i was going to throw up if i thought about him too much. the day i decided to tell him litterally 20minutes earlier one of my friends told him that she liked him. they were going out for about two months before he started flirting with me. he told me that he didnt get much action with his girlfriend. our flirting turned into a cyber friends with benefits relationship but he would sometimes smack my butt while he had a girlfriend. they went out for 8months and a week after they broke up we hooked up. we didn't kiss but we basically just felt each other up. i went on vacation, came back and he had a new girlfriend. again i was crushed but he only went out with her for about 2weeks. so they broke up and again a week later he's back in my life and i ended up giving him a hand job. his first ex-girlfriend found out and everyone got mad because apparently the guy and this first girl were planning to get back together but i swear i had no idea otherwise i wouldn't have done it! me and the guy lost touch and weren't really friends anymore. so at the end of the summer(2007) they got back together. school started and the guy apologized to me for all the crap that happened and now we're in a cyber friends with benefits relationship....AGAIN. i feel bad about it because now me and his girlfriend are friends again but its so hard to stop. i've tried three times to stop this but i can't. he's only slapped my ass once and i smacked him for it and told him not to touch me. now i like him again but i would never go out with him because he cheats, i know he does. and besides having the cyber thing with me i always see him flirting with girls. i have to end the cycle but the physical attraction always brings us back together. what do i do about this? (link)
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Hey!
I think that you have a bit of an addiction type thing to this guy. Your mind is telling you to get out of it, because you know you'll just get hurt and that you're hurting other people by doing it, but you cant stop.
I know it is hard, but I would quit cold turkey. Block him (or w.e.) dont answer emails, calls or anything. Ignore him if he talks to you off line and focus on a guy who doesnt cheat (etc).
I know that its hard to break the cycle, and thats mostly because you probably feel good about yourself when you're with him, but you just have to tell yourself that hes lying to you and there is someone out there who will actually care about you enough to stay loyal to you, and you will find him, but you cant find him with out giving up on this guy.
Its gonna be tough, but every time you want to sign on and talk to him find something else thats better to do (ie talk to one of your friends or watch a movie). You can kick this, you just need some support, and if you need someone to talk to you can always ask me.
I really wish you good luck, and I hope I helped. I know you're strong enough to make this guys stop running your life. You're a girl, we're tough! Love ya!!
Angie91
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ok, so i have these 2 friends (lets call them Daina and Crystal) whenever i like this guy, of course i tell Daina...at first shes like eww or awwe (the regular reaction) but then a while later i hear from Crystal that Daina "all of a sudden likes him to" ....is Daina TRYING to make me mad or something?!?! and then i have to keep it s secret that i know because im actually not supposed to know...should i stop telling Daina who i like??
PS and sometimes it happens to me but involving other friends... (link)
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Hey!
Sometimes when one of my friends will mention a guy that I used to think was disguating, I start to wonder what they see in him, and once I see it, I think hey that kind of makes sense. sometimes two people with common interests like the same guys, and that seems to be happening in this case. If you really have the intention of going after a guy, then maybe you shouldnt tell her, but if you just liek a guy, then whats the harm in both of you liking him?
I would talk to daina though. Find out if its just a coincidence or whats going on. If you dont ask you cant make assumptions.
If it happens to you with other friends, well then its probably either a coincidence, or you like guys who everyone seems to like. You and your friends probably just have similar taste in guys, and thats not always a bad time. A bunch of my friends and I used to have this major crush on this guy once, it was fun gossiping about him, it was an understanding taht none of us would actually ever go after him, but it was still fun.
Try and not let this go to your heart, I'm sure Daina doesnt mean to do this, u cant always control who you like, but if she is, then talking to her will hopefully help.
You know, one thing my friend did once when she had this issue, was that she would tell her friend that she liked a random guy and she waited to see if she heard from someone that her friend liked him. its always a way to test it, though asking her would be optimal.
I hope that helps you solve your problems, good luck!
Love ya,
Angie91
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what does it mean for a guy to be whipped?? like in john tucker must die it said that.... what does it mean? (link)
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Hey!
It means that his girlfriend can control him. Basically that she can make him do anything she wants. Liek Shes trained him or something. Thats where the phrase comes from actually, when people use to whip people or animals to train them. Its kind of brutal, but of course its used more as a joke. Hope that helps!
love ya,
angie91
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hey,
so this guy and i we are close and like each other loads but i recentley heard that he slept with 2 other girls and i ignored it for a few days. But this morning we were talking and then something made me mad and i just flipped and told him about it. He was soo upset because i was like 'am i just another girl to you?' and then i left his house. He texted back saying 'he could not believe the rumours that were not true and how i could believe that i was just another girl'...he then texted back defending himself against the accusations. i left him a message apologising and then a text, but he won't pick up, i rang him once and my best friend rang him once. What should i do if he doesn't ring back??
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Hey!
Well the biggest issue here is that if you cant trust him enough to not believe the rumours you here then that has to say something. I know rumours can be convincing, but sometimes you read more into them than you would think, and in this case you tried to ignore the rumour, but something made you bring it up when you were angry. That means that something deep inside you is shouting "hey! don't trust him!" And even if you are sitting there thinking, hey I trust him, well maybe you think you do, but still, there has to be a reason you said that, and not just because you were angry. if there wasnt a part of you that believed it, you would have been able to let it go, but you telling him in anger, was your mind's way of getting the answer when it was dying to know.
The other part of this message that I am seeing that is a red flag [but this time a good one:)] is that he said: "how could you believe that you were just another girl". That means he cares about you! If you tried calling him and he didnt respond, give it a day or two, let him cool down and get a grip on the situation, and if he hasnt called then try him again.
If that doesnt work, then you can either, wait and see how it goes, or you can try and do something to show him that you feel bad. write him a note or an email or something. Try and do something to show him taht you care about him.
I hope that helps a bit, this is a tough situation, but I know you can get through it. Just be patient and let him come to terms with it all too okay? Good luck! I know you'll figure it all out,
love ya,
angie91
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I really like this guy rob. He is smart, funny, nice, sweet, cute, and he likes me too, i think. Whenever i see him he always comes up to me and talks to me, and is always trying to sit near me.
Then this guy Kenny moved here. He is one of those guys whos obnoxious and thinks everyone likes him. He spread a rumor that we hooked up and that we were friends with benefits.
Since that rumor started rob hasnt come up to me, or sat with me. I always sit with him and go oh my god i HATE kenny. I would never hook up with him, hes so ugly. I dont want to be fwb with him, and im not. But rob just gives me a dirty look. He hasnt hooked up with anyone, or even kissed anyone, and i never hooked up wiith anyone, but i have kissed a lot of guys.
What do i do? I am not the bold type who will go up and just kiss a guy. But idk what to do anymore! He just wont listen to me, and i am always flirting with him, but he just gets this sad look on his face, and i feel like i really hurt him. I really like him and want to hook up with huim but idk how i could, hes not talking to me!
Any advice helps! THanks! (link)
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Hey!
well, I think Kenny likes you. He's reverting back to the second grade style of flirting, where you piss a girl off and hope she notice you. And when you think about it, its working, he thinks he ruined your chances with Rob, but he didnt. Be careful how you respond to the situation. If kenny really does like you, then he could potentially get really hurt. I've been in this situation before and I feel really bad now, because my "kenny" was a really nice guy at heart, but I really hurt his feelings. So like I said, my moto is if you dont have something nice to say dont say anything at all. this will reduce the risk of his feelings getting hurt, or someone else being offended by what you say (what the other advicenator said) If you ignore him, then he will hopefully leave you alone. and if not, then try and talk to him about it. he may not admit that he likes you, but maybe he will stop if he sees whats happening to you.
I think you should try and pretend that rob not responding to your flirting doesnt bother you. Sometimes guys go through patches where they are just really hard to read, and if you just continue flirting and being nice, then hopefully he'll fix what ever is upsetting him and see taht you like him. On the other hand, you could always talk to him about it. see what he is thinking. maybe he doesnt even know you like him or something. guys can be really dumb sometimes lol.
If after a while nothing happens, I would suggest that you give up and move on, if you hurt him so much that he cant even talk to you about it, when you didnt do anything, then imagine what he'd be like if you actually did something wrong. thats just my opinion though. I hope that you get this all figured out, let me know if you need anything! Hope I helped,
love ya,
angie91
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I really like this guy but idk if he likes me can you please give me some advice?!?!?!?
Sincerely,
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Hey!
Well this is quite an interesting subject. guys can be hard to read. What I would sugest is to watch his body language. He welcomes you with a smile and says hello, then chances are that he likes you. If you dont have that kind of relationship yet, then make an effort to smile and say hi to him, and see how he responds. if it seems like he's showing off infront of you, thats another sign, but be careful, if there are other girls around then its possible that hes showing off for them. Like I said its tricky.
I would suggest that you start flirting with him. And try and build up to conversations. If he liked you he'll talk back. And finally, you can always ask him. I mean its alittle scary, but the only way yo for sure know is to ask him how he feels.
I hope you find out if he likes you! And good luck. I also hope I helped, let me know if you need anything else, and thanks for choosing me with your question!
Love ya!
Angie91
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When i was little, [before school, and maybe around kindergarten and first], i used to be like Best friends with this guy named "Bob" okay. Well me and "Bob" lost communication after that, grew up, and now realize that we were like best friends. "Bob" is really nice, he is a sweetheart (link)
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Hey!
Well, I've been through this before, thats for sure. Basically from about fifth grade until the end of highschool life revolves around the gossip mill. What you need to remember is, if you're going to tell anyone anything, even if they are your best friend, keep in mind that the person it is about will find out. I know it was a mistake, but its one you can learn from. If you tell anyone, its not a secret anymore.
As far as this situation, tell suzie not to talk to him. The less people you involve in the this, the better the situation will turn out. I would pretend that it isnt happening, and deal with each issue as it comes up. Ie; the entire class is talking about it, shrug it off, and act casual about it, you can be mature about liking someone, and they can learn from that. another example, he finds out; well you ignore it until he aproaches you. If he tells you that he likes you back, then you go with it, if he says that he just wants to be your friend, tell him you can deal with it.
There are two ways to approach situations like this, the way that you did, the one where every actions goes through friends, and theres the one where you stand up and talk to him yourself. You will find that over time you will switch the the second option gradually. You'll notice that having your friends do the dirty work usually complicates things (like in this situation).
Just remember that you will get through this, and think positively, and figure out what mistakes you made and try and fix them for the next time you like a guy. Good luck, and I hope you found my advice useful, let me know if you need anything else.
Love ya,
Angie91
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ok angie its been 5 days and me n my boyfriend havent talked i dont wanna call him because then hell be a a-hole because it took me so long to call nad talk to him about it. but then if i dont call he might not call and im tired of always being the one to fix everything wat do i do????????????? do i wait or do i call or just let it go????? (link)
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Hey!
Okay, well there are two things you can do. You can play games and not call each other, waiting for him to finally take initiative and fix this, or you can try and reconcile the relationship on your own. I'm not sure who's job, (per say) it would be to step up and call the other one, but sometimes you just have to be the big person and do it. If you love him, you're willing to work for it right? If not.. well theres not much I can say then..
Give him a call, tell him you're sorry that you didnt call him sooner, but you were sort of trying to figure things out, and sort of waiting for him to call you.
If your boyfriend is being an a-hole, well then maybe this relationship is getting to the point where he feels comfortable enough with you to be an ass, and thats not a good thing. Tell him that the way he treats you is important to you. And if you dont think that that will change anything, then wait a few more days and try and come to terms with all of this. who knows, maybe you just need to take a break for a little while. Maybe if he realizes that you mean a whole hell of a lot to him, he'll come crawling back (and maybe vice versa). really, this is totally up to you, I cant really decide for you what action to take. My best advice is; this problem isnt going away any time soon, you need to get everything out there and talk to him, the question is when. Its totally up to you. Remember how you react to the situation is key, and you should have the best thoughts in your head when you go into it, because if you feel super upset going into it, you will be able to forecast how the conversation will go. Act positively, and hopefulyl he'll feed off of it. And, try and get into the conversation face to face. Call him up, tell him you guys need to talk and then go meet for coffee or something. Good luck babe, I hope I helped!
Lots of Love,
Angie91
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