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ex boyfriend/guy bestfriend
Please don't mind with how long this is. I really need help. I can't even sleep anymore. It's really bothering me, and I can't get help from anywhere else. So I thought this would be the right sight.
At the beginning of the school year, I went out with this guy for 2 weeks. It didn't work out being "together together", so we're just really close friends. He still has feelings for me though after 6 months. Anyways, after him, I went out with this other guy. He didn't treat me right at all. But yet, we went out for two months and I am still IN LOVE with him. I don't know why but it's unbareable. Well he broke up with me for my best friend. But then he realized how wrong he was, and wanted to get back together. I was going to but then he threw something at me and I had a huge red mark and he just laughed and didn't say sorry. So, I am just completely ignoring this guy, I know he's not worth my time. So my best friend now that still likes me..We have been hanging out soo much lately, and he is seriously like the perfect package. He's tall, great body, best personality in the world, and just everything. He's been there for me through everything, even though I went out with another guy. He was just always there. I really want to like this guy. So badly. But I don't? I still am in love with my ex-boyfriend. And I don't want to like him at all. It's so hard for me. Why am I liking the wrong guy? Why am I not liking this guy that I know is perfect for me. Just what should I do, my ex still likes me, and still wants to get back together so maybe that's whats drawing me back to him? I don't know, but just please give me any advice you can.
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Hey!
Ex's can be like bad habits. They're hard to break. you know that he treats you like crap, but you still love him. You need to tell yourself that it is time to move on. I think that if I were you, I would go out with your friend and see if the attraction comes with time, if it doesnt, then tell him that you just love him as a friend.
Going out with someone other than your exs will help to free you from the hold they have on you and you can learn what its like to have someone who treats you right.
To answer your question about why you like the wrong guys, there is something programmed into you that says who you are attracted to, and for you, its saying that you like the bad guys who treat you liek crap, you need to break that cycle and see what its like to date other guys, however, you cant choose who you like, so dont try and push yourself into likeing him.
Dont stress about not being able to get over the ex, it takes time for these things, ignoring him is a good start, but let me know if you need some "get over him" tips. I've got a lot, but in most cases, it just takes time.
Try and relax okay? Worrying about who to like so much is pointless, its okay to be single for a bit to, try and let whatever happens happen. in the end you're just gonna look back on all of this and say, hey I survived it.
I'll probably be hard for a bit, but you'll get through this okay? let me know if you need anything else alright? good luck and I hope you figure this all out. Hope I helped,
love ya,
angie91
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Either you want to turn the bad boy good [what girl doesn't? haha] or you just like the attention from your ex [both boys actually]
And you said it yourself: I know he's not worth my time.
you are exactly right. he's not. and do you really want to be in an abusive relationship? NO. that is like the worst relationship to be in.
But the perfect guy is not just gonna wait around for you forever, yuh know? So why make the mistake with getting back together with your ex? You will probably lose the perfect guy in the process.
Go with the good guy who is already good. what more could you possibly want? I would loveeee to be in your shoes [but not with the bad boy]
Good luck and I know you'll make the right decision :]
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