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OMG HELP! BOY PROBLEMS
okay so this is SO complicated but please try & help me.
alright so i met this boy named james. we started talking. very flirty we were. after talking for a while everytime i went to a party or a guy friend he'd ask "did you do anything?" or before id go to a party or before a guy would come over he'd beg me not to do anything. like meaning kiss etc. so i was like hm okay. we'd always flirt and he'd always make me smile. then later on he told me he liked me. i was kind of like woahhh. but then more and more talking to him i started really liking him to. like to the point where he was the only thing i thought of. then one day we kind of got in a fight? so then my guy friend mark came over and then james was being like a total ass. like he wanted to fight mark becuase mark liked me. & im totally against fighting. so i was like fighting with james and was like no your not fighting him blah blah then hes like whatever ill talk to you later. so then i thought he didnt like me anymore. so i started being all flirtyish with mark. little did i know james was totally crushed. he didnt tell me so how was i supposed to know. well me and marks thhing ended pretty soon. and of course i still had strong feelings for james. me and james were on talking terms. then one random day this girl named shauna came along. like OUT OF NO WHERE. then he started liking her a lot. started putting her name everywhere. in his profile his myspace his away messages with the little <3 next to her name. i was to the point where i thought i should kill myself. i was CRUUSHHHEDDDDDD. like i think how could he forget about me? so then i just pretended like i didnt care. until one night he asked me "do you still like me?" and i kept going on i cant tell you blah. but then it came out like YES I DO I LOVE YOU. then he was all liking me back. so i was like omg i got him back. so then before i went to bed i was looking at his myspace then checked shaunas. saw a comment from james to her. saying i love you babe more then anything in this world. started balling asap. this was around xmas time. so i told him i hated him on christmas. both our xmas's were ruined. then we became friends again. then i heard he was saying shit about me so i fliped on him. told him its over never forgiving you. he was BEGGING me for about an hour. syaing i love you please your my best friend dont do this ill do anything. left me an IM saying that hed die for me and shit. so im still kinda bitchy to him. and he told my friend that if he could go back in time and change the things he would. so the point here is do you think he loves me? like or does he like that other girl. im so confused. hes sending mix singnles. should i end it for good? should i try again? should i forget him? PLEASE IM BEGGING FOR ADVICE.
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he sounds like a really big dick. sorry. hes probably not a good guy to get into a relationship with. he sends mixed signals and he doesnt seem like he can be loyal to one girl.
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Well, i am kinda confused to,
but think, do you really love him after he crushed you? and can you live without him, and how would it affect your life?
Then talk to him, and ask him to be serious, on talking terms, and no fighting, what the deal is with that other girl, and who he REALLY loves the most. you or her.
Then you can decide what you should do.
Good luck, I hope everything works out!
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Don't you think he has caused you enough heartache? I mean, you loved him and he crushed you more than once...if you start liking him again and you can't let go, I'm warning you right now, he will break your heart again. From what you've said, he seems like a very unsure guy who needs to get his shit together, and if he would die for you-do anyting for you- then why would he keep breaking your heart?
Ask yourself these 2 questions:
1. If I still like James, do I want to be in a drama filled relationship?
2. Can I live without James?
If your answer to 1 is yes, than that's just crazy, because wo wants to feed off of drama and heatrbreak 24/7? But if your answer to that is no, than I would just forget about him. Maybe stay friends--but that would be as far as it goes.-- like don't go out of your way for him or anything. yuh know?
If your answer was no for 2 than maybe you should start being friends with him again, like don't forget him entirely or whatever. [you must be completley honest with yourself with these questions] However, if your answer to that was yes...than forget about him, end it for good and get with a guy who will make you happy, not sad, and love you. Not the guy who constantly hurts and crushes you.
But it's up to you, the choice is yours in the end. And your heart can only take so much pain..
Good luck :]
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